Love for Imperfect Things: How to Accept Yourself in a World Striving for Perfection
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- Author：Haemin Sunim
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Summary
Susan Cain， New York Times bestselling author of Quiet "The world could surely use a little more love， a little more compassion， and a little more wisdom。 In Love for Imperfect Things， Haemin Sunim shows us how to cultivate all three， and to find beauty in the most imperfect of things--including your very own self。"
A #1 internationally bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about learning to love ourselves， with all our imperfections， by the Buddhist author of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down
Hearing the words "be good to yourself first， then to others" was like being struck by lightning。
Many of us respond to the pressures of life by turning inward and ignoring problems， sometimes resulting in anxiety or depression。 Others react by working harder at the office， at school， or at home， hoping that this will make ourselves and the people we love happier。 But what if being yourself is enough？ Just as we are advised on airplanes to take our own oxygen first before helping others， we must first be at peace with ourselves before we can be at peace with the world around us。
In this beautiful follow-up to his international bestseller The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down， Zen Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim turns his trademark wisdom to the art of self-care， arguing that only by accepting yourself--and the flaws that make you who you are--can you have compassionate and fulfilling relationships with your partner， your family， and your friends。 With more than thirty-five full-color illustrations， Love for Imperfect Things will appeal to both your eyes and your heart， and help you learn to love yourself， your life， and everyone in it。
When you care for yourself first， the world begins to find you worthy of care。
A #1 internationally bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about learning to love ourselves， with all our imperfections， by the Buddhist author of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down
Hearing the words "be good to yourself first， then to others" was like being struck by lightning。
Many of us respond to the pressures of life by turning inward and ignoring problems， sometimes resulting in anxiety or depression。 Others react by working harder at the office， at school， or at home， hoping that this will make ourselves and the people we love happier。 But what if being yourself is enough？ Just as we are advised on airplanes to take our own oxygen first before helping others， we must first be at peace with ourselves before we can be at peace with the world around us。
In this beautiful follow-up to his international bestseller The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down， Zen Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim turns his trademark wisdom to the art of self-care， arguing that only by accepting yourself--and the flaws that make you who you are--can you have compassionate and fulfilling relationships with your partner， your family， and your friends。 With more than thirty-five full-color illustrations， Love for Imperfect Things will appeal to both your eyes and your heart， and help you learn to love yourself， your life， and everyone in it。
When you care for yourself first， the world begins to find you worthy of care。
Reviews
Diana
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Oh I really enjoyed this！ It's a quick read as it's mostly quotation style but it's also deep， warm， and thought-provoking。 I don't typically buy books but this is the kind of book I'd buy because it would be valuable to come back to these loving words and teachings often， as needed。 Oh I really enjoyed this！ It's a quick read as it's mostly quotation style but it's also deep， warm， and thought-provoking。 I don't typically buy books but this is the kind of book I'd buy because it would be valuable to come back to these loving words and teachings often， as needed。 。。。more
Cofwithoutsug
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Xoa dịu - an ủi - chữa lành - tiếp thêm động lực。
Bookish Loverr
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✨Suffering is q door that opens a new world。！ ✨
Vir
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Sayang sekali versi bahasa Indonesia-nya terasa seperti ada yang kurang， terlalu kaku。 Atau memang versi aslinya juga seperti ini？ Kurang tau juga sih， karena memang versi indonesia dan inggrisnya saja yang bisa saya baca。 Untuk isi bukunya sendiri rasanya kurang menggigit， ada beberapa part yang cukup mengecewakan， tapi ada juga yang cukup， adapula yang sangat menampar。 Sehingga 3 bintang saya rasa cukup。
Gemma McCoy
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Loved it。 Reminded me that no matter how low and rubbish I feel， I am enough and I was created to be exactly who I am because I am perfect
Daria Duong
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Mỗi khi cảm thấy tuyệt vọng và chán ghét vì sự không hoàn hảo của bản thân， nhất định mình sẽ tìm đến cuốn sách này để được chữa lành。 Haemin Sunim thật sự đã rất thành công trong việc tạo ra một cuốn sách đầy ắp tình yêu thương và truyền cảm hứng sống tích cực。
Div
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Just perfect for Sunday reading。 Learn to appreciate everything around you。 Life is beautiful。
Gina Ridhia
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Eventho I could guess what this book would convey， I still kept reading this。 His words are magical++ love the illustrations :D
Minh Luong
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A healing book for real。 4。5/5
Marium Mostafiz Mou
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This is the most soothing read of my life。 I felt so light after reading this self help book。 And the beautiful artworks Between pages are like fresh air to your reading journey！Will recommend everyone who is feeling down and want to get over the negative emotions。
Raina
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type of healing book。 come to read it， everytime you feel down。 i learned a lot and the encouraging words were so helpful。 thankyou， author。
Louis
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I try not to give five stars unless I really， deeply enjoyed a book。For this second book of Haemin Sunim， this label is completely applicable。As someone who has read a lot of non-fiction books in the area of self-development， this book still managed to amaze me。It was not in the novelty of the content I was surprised the most。 Haemin Sunim is in my opinion so eloquently able to capture both the essence of his teachings while still managing to translate it to the modern， western world。 This book I try not to give five stars unless I really， deeply enjoyed a book。For this second book of Haemin Sunim， this label is completely applicable。As someone who has read a lot of non-fiction books in the area of self-development， this book still managed to amaze me。It was not in the novelty of the content I was surprised the most。 Haemin Sunim is in my opinion so eloquently able to capture both the essence of his teachings while still managing to translate it to the modern， western world。 This book is marinated in （self-）compassion and gives comfort and support in both hard and happy times。I can imagine myself gifting this book to a lot of people with whom I have professional and private relationships。 。。。more
Najwa Az Zahra
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This is my first self-help book and it is comforting me that much。 I love how every words heal but also slaps me at the same time。
Apoorva Kusha
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One of the best books I have read in my life。 It’s so comforting。 It’s like talking to a therapist。 The illustrations are so beautiful。 A must read 。
Elle
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The world can seem like a tough place to be at times。。。and for me this book was a little refuge from it。 Every time I picked it up， it felt like a drink of cold water。 This book helped me to give myself a break from pursuits of perfection， and to just be kinder to myself。This book is a gem。
Annisa Fitria
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Such a wonderfull book， I enjoyed every part of this book and I feel like I can relate with it。 Thanks to write this， it really help to remind us again what the real happiness is and how we need to love ourself :）
Daria Darievych
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“may you be a heater for someone today”i put this book on the shelf “to read” probably a year ago， since then i’ve read several reviews and before opening it i truly expected something completely different。 not that i’m disappointed， because it’s been even better。it came out to be like a warm blanket in the cold late night which comforts and hugs you whispering to your ears that no matter what everything will be alright。 just take a sleep and you will see。
chclpt
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nonfiksi ke-2 tahun ini。 masih dengan karya haemin sunim。 tulisannya ringan， sama sekali tidak menggurui， dan sangat kental dengan ajaran Budha， ditambah ilustrasi yg baguss。p。s: sub bab the art of letting go dibaca sambil menangis karena bertepatan dengan kematian kucingku
Mary Joy
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This is such a nice book。 If you want to relax your mind this is a good read。 I might reread this book when the need arise。 Will read his other book
Anna Patricia
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“And the more we struggle to forget， the more we give strength to the memory and get attached to it。 But there is one very important thing to remember: What causes us such distress is not the memory itself but the emotions that surround it—like regret， disappointment， anger， and frustration。”Simple。 Straight to the point。 Easy and quick read。 This book is full of life lessons， realizations， and experiences of Haemin Sunim as a monk。 It pretty much tapped every life aspect may it be about oneself “And the more we struggle to forget， the more we give strength to the memory and get attached to it。 But there is one very important thing to remember: What causes us such distress is not the memory itself but the emotions that surround it—like regret， disappointment， anger， and frustration。”Simple。 Straight to the point。 Easy and quick read。 This book is full of life lessons， realizations， and experiences of Haemin Sunim as a monk。 It pretty much tapped every life aspect may it be about oneself， self-care， self-love to family， relationships， showing empathy， letting go， and forgiveness。It's a soothing book to read。 I'm pretty sure I'll come pick this book up again when I hit rock bottom。 。。。more
Amy Rose
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I really really enjoyed this book。 The author's message was simple yet effective and he provided clear examples for each point he made。 I appreciated the kindness of his words and the emphasis on how to take small steps toward kindness to yourself。 This is something I am really trying to work on， and I think I want to buy a copy of this book to keep for myself so I can read the reminders when I need them。 Totally recommend to anyone working on self love。 I really really enjoyed this book。 The author's message was simple yet effective and he provided clear examples for each point he made。 I appreciated the kindness of his words and the emphasis on how to take small steps toward kindness to yourself。 This is something I am really trying to work on， and I think I want to buy a copy of this book to keep for myself so I can read the reminders when I need them。 Totally recommend to anyone working on self love。 。。。more
（ Lydia ）
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Là lời chánh niệm của thiền sư Haemin Sunim qua từng chủ đề của cuộc sống: Tình bạn， tình yêu， gia đình， mất mát，。。。bạn không cần phải đọc từ đầu đến cuối đâu， mở bất kỳ trang nào ra cũng có những lời đúc kết rất thấm thía về cuộc sống。Mở ra lúc nào thấy buồn để được động viên nha， không phải những lời khuyên sáo rỗng nên làm gì đâu mà là cảm thông sâu sắc với chúng mình í。 Có một bài tập nhỏ trong sách mình đã thực hành ngay sau khi đọc xong "Mỗi ngày， trước khi đi ngủ， hãy nghĩ về 3 điều bạn Là lời chánh niệm của thiền sư Haemin Sunim qua từng chủ đề của cuộc sống: Tình bạn， tình yêu， gia đình， mất mát，。。。bạn không cần phải đọc từ đầu đến cuối đâu， mở bất kỳ trang nào ra cũng có những lời đúc kết rất thấm thía về cuộc sống。Mở ra lúc nào thấy buồn để được động viên nha， không phải những lời khuyên sáo rỗng nên làm gì đâu mà là cảm thông sâu sắc với chúng mình í。 Có một bài tập nhỏ trong sách mình đã thực hành ngay sau khi đọc xong "Mỗi ngày， trước khi đi ngủ， hãy nghĩ về 3 điều bạn cảm thấy biết ơn trong ngày hôm nay"。 Và bạn sẽ bị ngạc nhiên sau 3 tháng về cách mình nhìn mọi thứ bằng lăng kính tích cực hơn。Mình đặc biệt thích chương về "Gia Đình" trong cuốn sách này。 。_______________________ "The greatest gift that parents can give their child is to be happy themselves" - Món quà lớn nhất mà bố mẹ có thể dành tặng con trẻ là hạnh phúc của chính họ。 - Haemin Sunim。 。。。more
Karthika Lakshmi
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My six-word memoir: life-changing， comforting， peaceful philosophy。 Alleviates grief。Sometimes reading the right book at the right time changes the course of your life and helps you immensely。 This book is one such rare masterpiece。 It has included Buddhist teachings and philosophy which is applied to modern life and human emotions。 There is nothing religious in this book but a lot of wisdom and advice gained by someone who practiced mindfulness and yoga。 I had lingering questions about human re My six-word memoir: life-changing， comforting， peaceful philosophy。 Alleviates grief。Sometimes reading the right book at the right time changes the course of your life and helps you immensely。 This book is one such rare masterpiece。 It has included Buddhist teachings and philosophy which is applied to modern life and human emotions。 There is nothing religious in this book but a lot of wisdom and advice gained by someone who practiced mindfulness and yoga。 I had lingering questions about human relations， grief， sadness， outlook towards life for a long time。 Reading this book lifted my sadness away like a cloud floating away。 As I have passed my student phase and entered into married life I have some little experiences up my sleeve。 That way some of the wisdom in this book has already dawned upon me。 But there is a mountain amount of more to study and understand。 This book can be used as a reference book， a life coach， a spiritual guide， and a self-help book。 Personally， my favorite topics are the one related to family， relationships， depression， silence， and self-realization。 Once in a long while there comes a book which transforms your life， gives you peace， stability， and makes you wiser。 At this point of my life， this is that book。 Some other great books that helped me previously are:1） How to Stop Worrying and Start Living - during my student life， continuing till now。 I know it will be helpful in the future too2） Light on Yoga - for reducing my sciatic pain3） Beneath a Scarlet Sky - I learned to be vigilant from this book4） Gajendra Moksham （ Poetry in Telugu） - by Bammera Potana - to decrease my inflated eg05） Pride and Prejudice - got my romantic life back on track6） The Sigh - reduced my perennial anxietySome of my favorite quotes from the book are:Not everything that appears in your mind is true Wisdom comes from stillness Silence is deep as Eternity; speech is shallow as Time - Thomas Carlyle Even if someone I helped in the past， or I expected greatness from causes me grave harm， may I consider him my greatest teacher - His Holiness The Dalai Lama 。。。more
Deca
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This is one of the best book i have ever read。 Just like a hug。 Warm and soothing。 Omgg i really like itq
My Hang
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Mình nhận được cuốn sách này vào đúng thời điểm stress rất nhiều về tình yêu và cuộc sống。 Cầm cuốn sách trên tay với những hình ảnh minh hoạ đầy nghệ thuật cùng những câu trích ngắn của đại sư Hae Min， cảm giác như được gặp một người bạn thủ thỉ tâm tình về mọi vấn đề trong cuộc sống， cảm thấy an nhiên và sẵn sàng đối chọi với những gì đang đợi chúng ta ở phía trước một cách hân hoan và bao dung hơn。 Một cuốn sách hay với những lời văn nhẹ nhàng giản dị nhưng đáng suy ngẫm！
Laureca
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So good。 Very easy to read。 Definitely have to read and re-read this， especially when you are in doubt and just need some calming 'imaginary' pat on your shoulder。 I also found that this book is great to read when you have anxiety at night that prevent you to fall asleep peacefully。 So good。 Very easy to read。 Definitely have to read and re-read this， especially when you are in doubt and just need some calming 'imaginary' pat on your shoulder。 I also found that this book is great to read when you have anxiety at night that prevent you to fall asleep peacefully。 。。。more
Uyen Nguyen
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I really love this book and sometimes use it as a day quote。 If you feeling lost in the crowded word， it will help you finds your peaceful way to cover。 The book made for meditation， self-help and love yourself more than you did before。 Just pick one page in randomly and your heart will be healed by those beautiful words。 One thing I have learn after finish this book: Accept your situation cause everything happens for a reason。 Let's enjoy every moment in your own journey！ I really love this book and sometimes use it as a day quote。 If you feeling lost in the crowded word， it will help you finds your peaceful way to cover。 The book made for meditation， self-help and love yourself more than you did before。 Just pick one page in randomly and your heart will be healed by those beautiful words。 One thing I have learn after finish this book: Accept your situation cause everything happens for a reason。 Let's enjoy every moment in your own journey！ 。。。more
Qonit Arifah
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Good book for contemplation and find self comfort after our rush schedulle for working。 Reading this book like having a talk to myself about anything in mind。 I really love illustration at the end or beginning of each part。 This book is good to read before going bed after through the hard-rush-messy day。 Such a warm hug and warm advice suddenly come then release all the stress at the moment
Sjaan
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Dit boek beluisterd en beleefd als een ongelooflijk inspirerende ‘masterclass in levenskunst’。 Van liefde en vriendschap tot werk， levensdoelen en spiritualiteit。 Op een begripvolle manier worden herkenbare valkuilen van het leven benoemd en krijg je tips om eenvoudiger te leven。 Zelfcompassie。 Geen omhaal van woorden， geen hele verhalen， gewoon eerlijk， zonder oordeel en to-the-point。 Dit boek straalt in alles ‘rust’ uit。 En toch， het motiveert。 Het stimuleert， juist door deze manier van schrij Dit boek beluisterd en beleefd als een ongelooflijk inspirerende ‘masterclass in levenskunst’。 Van liefde en vriendschap tot werk， levensdoelen en spiritualiteit。 Op een begripvolle manier worden herkenbare valkuilen van het leven benoemd en krijg je tips om eenvoudiger te leven。 Zelfcompassie。 Geen omhaal van woorden， geen hele verhalen， gewoon eerlijk， zonder oordeel en to-the-point。 Dit boek straalt in alles ‘rust’ uit。 En toch， het motiveert。 Het stimuleert， juist door deze manier van schrijven/vertellen， je intrinsieke motivatie om deze inzichten （weer） toe te passen， of dingen te laten， het even niet te weten， het leven te leven zoals het komt。。。 Down-to-earth lessen in eenvoudiger leven， echt voor jong en oud， ook prima in etappes te lezen。Veel nieuwe inspiratie en handvatten。 Een boek waarvan je eigenlijk met elk woord hier， al afbreuk doet aan de inhoud， dus ik laat het boek voor zich spreken。 Mooie quotes:-“Pas als je achter de uiterlijkheden van iemand in zijn uitingen en innerlijk voorkomen de echte persoon ziet， pas dan kun je begrijpen wie iemand werkelijk is。”-“Zelfs als iemand die ik in het verleden heb geholpen of van wie ik heel hoge verwachtingen had mij heel veel pijn doet， kan ik hem als mijn beste leraar beschouwen。” （Dalai Lama）-“Zolang je bereid bent verantwoordelijkheid te nemen voor je keuzes， dan kun je je hart volgen。 Je hart is veel wijzer dan je hoofd en weet het antwoord al。”-“Als iemand de deur naar zijn hart opent en zichzelf laat zien zoals hij is， oordeel dan niet， maar accepteer hem met liefde。 Niemand is perfect。”En nog veel meer moois。 Een blijver， en een aanrader！ 。。。more
Elly Prawito
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