How to Talk to Kids So Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk
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- Author：Adele Faber
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Reviews
Ron
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I should have probably read this book when I had little kids。 It gives some great insights on dealing with children so that they will listen to you and learn to solve their own problems。 This book would probably be best used by a small group of parents who could read it and discuss strategies among themselves。
Kendal
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A transformative read for listening and talking with anyone （including myself！）！ I just spent a whole semester of nursing school learning about therapeutic communication and nothing we covered in class was as useful or comprehensive as this book。
Nick Barker
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I loved this book。 It spoke to me and made a lot of sense。 Hopefully， I can put a lot of it into action。
Rebecca Carswell
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Will be reading this again and again
Nancy Zhang
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I was drawn to this book because I wondered why a book on parenting could sell millions of copies。。 I was not disappointed。 I've never read a book that's so logical/common sense yet revolutionary at the same time。 First published in 1980， it undoubtedly stands the test of time。 Highly-recommend for parents and educators。 I was drawn to this book because I wondered why a book on parenting could sell millions of copies。。 I was not disappointed。 I've never read a book that's so logical/common sense yet revolutionary at the same time。 First published in 1980， it undoubtedly stands the test of time。 Highly-recommend for parents and educators。 。。。more
Carolina
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Estoy bastante de acuerdo con el enfoque， pero la forma de ejemplificar deja abiertas malas interpretaciones， tales como que les niñes necesitan algún tipo de entrenamiento para dejar los pañales y aprender a ir al baño。 Para leer sin fanatismos， ni tomar a rajatabla está bien。 No se puede estar de acuerdo con todo， pero me hizo ruido en varias partes。
Nathalie Van Beek
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Interessant boek met heel veel praktische voorbeelden， daar houd ik van！ Bedoeld voor ouders， maar ook geschikt voor docenten en hulpverleners。
Mahdifazl
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میشه بارها و بارها خوند و هر بار انرژی مثبت گرفت ازش。。。
Missnöjd Konfirmand
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Denna kändes vettig och uppmuntrande！ Uppskattade att det var många exempel på dialoger osv för att riktigt gnugga in strategierna。 Hade dock önskat att det funnits ca 200 förslag på sätt att ”engagera till samarbete” istället för bara fem。
Magda Wska
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To są właśnie poradniki。 Tak， jakby wszystkie dzieci były takie same i działało na nie to samo。 Jestem na nie。
Genes2Teens
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When we praise our children too much， it can surpass the line of confidence to entitlement。 How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk could be considered a discipline book。 However， it’s heavy on the timeless and not-too-preachy examples of how to create strong relationships with children of all ages。 What’s pleasing is the authors see children as equals。 It’s not just letting your child do whatever they want， but understanding your relationship dynamics and how there has to be When we praise our children too much， it can surpass the line of confidence to entitlement。 How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk could be considered a discipline book。 However， it’s heavy on the timeless and not-too-preachy examples of how to create strong relationships with children of all ages。 What’s pleasing is the authors see children as equals。 It’s not just letting your child do whatever they want， but understanding your relationship dynamics and how there has to be mutual respect。 My full review here https://genes2teens。com/how-to-talk-s。。。 。。。more
Niloufar Shafiei
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Wonderful guidebook for all parents！ This book works on the long-term bonds of parents and children and guides and reminds us what is a right and respectful way to talk to children and their natural reaction would be to be more cooperative。 The book provides practical parental tools with many examples and stories。 I believe it is a must-have guide book for all parents that can be life changing！
John
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InterestingWhile I don’t have kids， this book was recommended to me as a useful way to think about communication in general。 I think there is something there - when someone is as upset about something as a child can get over nothing， these techniques may help。 I don’t often encounter people in that extreme of emotional state as adults。 But I’m interested to try this approach and see what happens。
Jamie M
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Not repetitive in the manner that many parenting books are when they’re trying to peddle some novel idea。 Useful tools and language that make sense。 I feel better prepared to be the parent I’d like to be by reading this。
Melissa Draper
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It's got some good advice。 It could be overwhelming to consider everything introduced in this book， so my advice is to pick a couple of things you might want to implement in your own family and just stick with doing a little at a time。I'm also laughing a little at the reviews that keep saying 'I already do a lot of this stuff， what a lame book'。 Well， the reason you do a lot of this stuff is because of books like this that came out in the 80's and the research that proceeded them。 They literally It's got some good advice。 It could be overwhelming to consider everything introduced in this book， so my advice is to pick a couple of things you might want to implement in your own family and just stick with doing a little at a time。I'm also laughing a little at the reviews that keep saying 'I already do a lot of this stuff， what a lame book'。 Well， the reason you do a lot of this stuff is because of books like this that came out in the 80's and the research that proceeded them。 They literally changed the landscape of parenting， and I don't think people realize how much they influenced socially acceptable parenting styles today。Also， as I listened to the examples they shared of how parents acted and then wanted to improve I kept thinking that there is nowhere a parent could be honest like that with their bad parenting or mistakes in our current society （there were very honest descriptions of people yelling， name calling or spanking their children）。 You would be raked over the coals or terrified that someone would report you。 But in their time， these parents were able to be honest with their mistakes and it was because of making those mistakes and wanting to fix them that they felt led to look for answers and be honest with themselves and work on improving their parenting and their families in the process。 Bravo to parents who are brave enough to share their shortcomings with the world so we can all learn and improve together。（Note: I listened to the audio book） 。。。more
Saijun
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Easy read and helpful。I bought one copy as references。 :）
Joanna
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I feel as if I read this at the perfect time， but I also think I should have read it years ago。
Sa3d
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اظرف حاجة فى الكتاب 。。 الامثلة الكتير
Leanne Scott
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So much to take away from this book！
VD Harj
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bahasanya simple， dan enak dibaca dengan ilustrasi komik di setiap babnya， sudah dipraktekan sejauh ini untuk anak umur 3+ berhasil， menambah optimisme untuk menjadi orang tua yg lbh sabar dan mengerti ❤️
Jake Kasten
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Here’s the deal: this book is legitimately full of good communication skills。 Not just for talking to kids， but people in general。 Anyone looking to improve their ability to communicate clearly and effectively can benefit from reading this。 Unfortunately， it is very clearly written for parents in the 1980s。 Treating children as human beings and not things to deal with or control is presented as a radical departure from parenting norms。 Not hitting your kids is something mentioned frequently。 The Here’s the deal: this book is legitimately full of good communication skills。 Not just for talking to kids， but people in general。 Anyone looking to improve their ability to communicate clearly and effectively can benefit from reading this。 Unfortunately， it is very clearly written for parents in the 1980s。 Treating children as human beings and not things to deal with or control is presented as a radical departure from parenting norms。 Not hitting your kids is something mentioned frequently。 There needs to be rewrite translating these skills into the 21st century， not just an addendum for modern times。 。。。more
Elliot Benson
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I was gonna give it one star but then I remembered it's so bad it's funny so there's two stars for comedic value。 I read this as a child and was blown away by some of the absurdity of the suggestions。 Great intention， poor execution。 I was gonna give it one star but then I remembered it's so bad it's funny so there's two stars for comedic value。 I read this as a child and was blown away by some of the absurdity of the suggestions。 Great intention， poor execution。 。。。more
Maria
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Read in Swedish。Ibland känner man sig som den värsta föräldern i hela världen。 Ingen lyssnar oavsett vad man säger och det är som att stånga huvudet blodigt mot en vägg。 Mitt i allt det där， är det väldigt svårt att komma ihåg att alla föräldrar går igenom samma sak。 Och att det kan finnas små knep som gör kommunikationen lättare。1980 kom första utgåvan av Hur man talar så att barn lyssnar & lyssnar så att barn talar av Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish ut。 Nästan 40 år senare， 2019， ger Akademius fö Read in Swedish。Ibland känner man sig som den värsta föräldern i hela världen。 Ingen lyssnar oavsett vad man säger och det är som att stånga huvudet blodigt mot en vägg。 Mitt i allt det där， är det väldigt svårt att komma ihåg att alla föräldrar går igenom samma sak。 Och att det kan finnas små knep som gör kommunikationen lättare。1980 kom första utgåvan av Hur man talar så att barn lyssnar & lyssnar så att barn talar av Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish ut。 Nästan 40 år senare， 2019， ger Akademius förlag ut en nyutgåva i Sverige。 Jag ska vara helt ärlig och säga att jag var fundersam på om innehållet verkligen skulle kunna fungera med tanke på hur gammal grundidén är， visst skulle det vara tydligt att barnuppfostran kanske inte ser likadan ut längre？ Kanske skulle det även märkas en tydlig skillnad på att författarna är från USA och metoderna skulle låta drastiska för någon uppväxt i ett annat land？ Men， det tycker jag faktiskt inte。 Det är lätthanterliga tips och trix， saker som får en att tänka， metoder som får en att utvärdera och fundera över sitt eget föräldraskap och hur man uttrycker sig men också känslan av att både känna igen saker som andras barn gör， andra föräldrar gör och den hopplösa känslan som ibland kan infinna sig。 Eller varför inte att ibland få känna sig duktig för att man redan gör något som boken tipsar om？ Sådana känslor är ju alltid välkomna。Upplägget är tydligt och lärorikt， utan att kännas mästrande。 Läsaren möts av en förklarande text i början， som tydliggör vad kapitlet kommer att handla om， frågor att fundera över （som hur man själv tror att man skulle reagera om det var en själv som var barnet i olika situationer） och besvara och sedan en mängd exempel från författarnas liv och workshops。 Allt knyts samman med illustrationer kring kapitlet följt av övningar att göra hemma med barnen。Håller jag med om allt？ Självklart inte。 Det går ju aldrig att göra， men mycket av det har fått mig att reflektera över saker i vardagen。 Hur vi pratar， besvarar， bekräftar eller kanske inte alls bekräftar barnen och ibland även varandra som vuxna。 Övningarna känns görbara och det allra bästa tycker jag， är att det är både lättläst och känns som att det är utan pekpinnar。 Föräldrarnas känslor bekräftas också i den här boken， och bara att läsa om att andra känner samma sak， kan absolut ha en förlösande effekt som kan få en att ta itu med saker som skaver i vardagen。 。。。more
Jaylin German
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Ben
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An important work that was radical at the time， but which has been so successful that it seems every parenting book which touches on emotional intelligence either borrows heavily or is a direct rip off of this work。 Great reference that will be dog eared and destroyed as the kids leave for college。
Zigzigmig
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Changed how you'll interact with everyone！ Changed how you'll interact with everyone！ 。。。more
Eric
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There's lots of good advice in this book， but I found the way parents are expected to speak to children treacly and saccharine。 There's lots of good advice in this book， but I found the way parents are expected to speak to children treacly and saccharine。 。。。more
Christina
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What I think the book does well:- offer a lot of real life examples both from the authors and parents who attended their workshops- everything is explained simply， clearly， you get friendly reminders at the end of a chapter or section- the little comics can be a nice refresher （I guess dyslexic people would struggle to read the text tho） Downside:- lack of challenging norms or expactationsLet me explain more， I do appreciate the skills suggested here and I see how they can be very useful。 The pr What I think the book does well:- offer a lot of real life examples both from the authors and parents who attended their workshops- everything is explained simply， clearly， you get friendly reminders at the end of a chapter or section- the little comics can be a nice refresher （I guess dyslexic people would struggle to read the text tho） Downside:- lack of challenging norms or expactationsLet me explain more， I do appreciate the skills suggested here and I see how they can be very useful。 The problem is I cannot shake of the feeling that it borders on manipulation。 While you learn to communicate in a compassionate manner， if the goal is to always get your way， it is wrong in my opinion。 And to be clear， I do believe the author’s purest intentions。 What I miss is any doubt that maybe the parents are not always right， that their expectations might be unreasonable， that some societal norm might be unreasonable， that the school system is wrong and by adapting your childer to it you just perpetuate it。 Ok it seems to be turning into a more general frustrated-by-society rant。。。 🙃I do think this book is helpful， worth reading even if you know what you’re doing （a reminder never hurts）， and I might just be seeing something that isn’t there with that stuff mentioned above。。 。。。more
Gregory
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Simon says。。。。。。。。Simon Sinek says that this is one of the key books about empathetic leadership and coaching。 Having just finished it （originally published in 1999）， I can see why he says that - even though， since the book is written for parents of younger kids， you will have to interpret the wisdom for a business context。 You need to practice techniques to improve cooperation， correct effectively， encourage autonomy and praise in a constructive way。 This book shows you how to do that， whilst s Simon says。。。。。。。。Simon Sinek says that this is one of the key books about empathetic leadership and coaching。 Having just finished it （originally published in 1999）， I can see why he says that - even though， since the book is written for parents of younger kids， you will have to interpret the wisdom for a business context。 You need to practice techniques to improve cooperation， correct effectively， encourage autonomy and praise in a constructive way。 This book shows you how to do that， whilst showing you how to focus on the future， communicate your expectations effectively and avoid blame。 But you will need to practice。 The techniques look easy on paper but in the heat of the battle they can be tricky to apply and are not guaranteed to work。I certainly recommend this book if you have kids at home。 And even it you haven't， you may find a few tips that allow you to lead more empathetically。 #leadership #bookreview #coaching Enjoy！ 。。。more
Kelly Simonson
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