The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive
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Summary
Your toddler throws a tantrum in the middle of a store。 Your preschooler refuses to get dressed。 Your fifth-grader sulks on the bench instead of playing on the field。 Do children conspire to make their parents’ lives endlessly challenging？ No—it’s just their developing brain calling the shots！
In this pioneering， practical book， Daniel J。 Siegel， neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight， and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson demystify the meltdowns and aggravation， explaining the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures。 The “upstairs brain，” which makes decisions and balances emotions， is under construction until the mid-twenties。 And especially in young children， the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain。 No wonder kids can seem—and feel—so out of control。 By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting， you can turn any outburst， argument， or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth。 Raise calmer， happier children using twelve key strategies， including
• Name It to Tame It: Corral raging right-brain behavior through left-brain storytelling， appealing to the left brain’s affinity for words and reasoning to calm emotional storms and bodily tension。
• Engage， Don’t Enrage: Keep your child thinking and listening， instead of purely reacting。
• Move It or Lose It: Use physical activities to shift your child’s emotional state。
• Let the Clouds of Emotion Roll By: Guide your children when they are stuck on a negative emotion， and help them understand that feelings come and go。
• SIFT: Help children pay attention to the Sensations， Images， Feelings， and Thoughts within them so that they can make better decisions and be more flexible。
• Connect Through Conflict: Use discord to encourage empathy and greater social success。
Complete with clear explanations， age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles， and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child， The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced， meaningful， and connected lives。
In this pioneering， practical book， Daniel J。 Siegel， neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight， and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson demystify the meltdowns and aggravation， explaining the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures。 The “upstairs brain，” which makes decisions and balances emotions， is under construction until the mid-twenties。 And especially in young children， the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain。 No wonder kids can seem—and feel—so out of control。 By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting， you can turn any outburst， argument， or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth。 Raise calmer， happier children using twelve key strategies， including
• Name It to Tame It: Corral raging right-brain behavior through left-brain storytelling， appealing to the left brain’s affinity for words and reasoning to calm emotional storms and bodily tension。
• Engage， Don’t Enrage: Keep your child thinking and listening， instead of purely reacting。
• Move It or Lose It: Use physical activities to shift your child’s emotional state。
• Let the Clouds of Emotion Roll By: Guide your children when they are stuck on a negative emotion， and help them understand that feelings come and go。
• SIFT: Help children pay attention to the Sensations， Images， Feelings， and Thoughts within them so that they can make better decisions and be more flexible。
• Connect Through Conflict: Use discord to encourage empathy and greater social success。
Complete with clear explanations， age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles， and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child， The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced， meaningful， and connected lives。
Reviews
Joshua Castleman
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A lot of great information on how the brain works and how to help a child fully realize that potential。 I'll have to read this again once my own gets old enough for a lot of it to matter though。 A lot of great information on how the brain works and how to help a child fully realize that potential。 I'll have to read this again once my own gets old enough for a lot of it to matter though。 。。。more
Hasan Ali
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Being a parent has to be one of the best feelings in the world。 However， it's also one of the most challenging jobs out there。Living in a society where there is inexplicable illiteracy and ignorance regarding how to raise a child， where raising a child is all about throwing caution to the wind and coming up with our own typical jargons “This is how kids are， barhey hokar khud sab thek hojayenge”。Where the fact that our actions as a parent have a lasting impact not only on our child but on societ Being a parent has to be one of the best feelings in the world。 However， it's also one of the most challenging jobs out there。Living in a society where there is inexplicable illiteracy and ignorance regarding how to raise a child， where raising a child is all about throwing caution to the wind and coming up with our own typical jargons “This is how kids are， barhey hokar khud sab thek hojayenge”。Where the fact that our actions as a parent have a lasting impact not only on our child but on society as a whole as well， is totally neglected。 Where people turn a blind eye to the fact that if we parent our child in the best manner， we can carve out an entire society full of a rich， relational community where emotional well-being is nurtured for a whole future generation。Remember it’s we， the guardians and parents， who are largely responsible for the carnage our kid is going to inflict on this world in his/her later years。But how？ How to understand this malleable creature？ How to dive deep down into the mind of this cute， yet idiosyncratic creature？ How to raise kids who are emotionally strong？ To solve this riddle， I decided to pick The Whole-Brain Child。 （I’m not a parent btw， abi tak single hun， it’s just I love kids so much and I want to understand them better）I must say， the book snuffs out almost all of your misconceptions regarding how the brain of a child works。 The author will surely make a dent in your journey towards raising a child that’s not only physically healthy but emotionally healthy too。 The way the author juggles in relative examples and scenarios make sure this isn’t a humdrum dry read， but a simple book with easy to grasp ideas。Even if you’re not a parent， I will still recommend this book as it’s highly probable you’re an uncle or an aunt or going to become one someday。 Children as the future of our society， we’ve to make sure we raise our kids in a way that they turn into rose petals one day and charm the whole world with their irresistible aroma。P。S: I think I know pretty a lot about children now， the only thing that’s missing is I don’t have any to exercise the strategies I learned from this book。 So please someone marry me and let’s give this world priceless angels （Or angels if you persist on 1-child planning）。 。。。more
Michaelann
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Accessible ， well written， excellent advice that makes use of the latest brain science。 Helpful knowledge about how brains work even if you don't have children。 Accessible ， well written， excellent advice that makes use of the latest brain science。 Helpful knowledge about how brains work even if you don't have children。 。。。more
Elizabeth Abrahamson
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This was interesting and brought up some helpful ideas that I’ll definitely try to implement。 I would’ve liked more specific examples of how to apply these concepts。 They seemed to stretch one example over an entire chapter， but I would’ve preferred a lot more examples instead。
Em Biedenfeld
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This book was awesome。 I thought about a lot of ways that Jude and I thrive during conflicts or toddler disappointments and a lot of the principles that are successful for us are focused on in this book。 A lot of good approaches to kids and parenting。 Also， a fairly quick read。 I’d recommend！ Lots of highlighted items from my kindle as well！
Danisa Clarke
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Don’t waste your money。 This book is advertised well & the cover is attractive。 But inside it’s just a bunch of common sense 🤷♀️。 A good example of don’t judge a book by its cover。
Sabina
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Must read！
Lilili
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I picked up this book because I was really interested in how a child's brain can affect his/her behaviors ， and I think this book offers some really nice advice and explanations in helping children to thrive。 The most memorable strategy I've learned from this book is the concept of "mindsight"。 It is actually a really helpful tool to use to reflect one's inner world （there is a self-help book written for adults by the same author called "mindsight"）。 However， there is the problem of repetitive w I picked up this book because I was really interested in how a child's brain can affect his/her behaviors ， and I think this book offers some really nice advice and explanations in helping children to thrive。 The most memorable strategy I've learned from this book is the concept of "mindsight"。 It is actually a really helpful tool to use to reflect one's inner world （there is a self-help book written for adults by the same author called "mindsight"）。 However， there is the problem of repetitive writing。 Sometimes the same concepts are paraphrased in so many times and I had to rush through some parts of the book， it would be nicer if the writer could be more concise in the writing。 Although I read the book also for the purpose of immersing myself in the English environment， I did find my mind drifting away when I noticed the author starts to repeat the concept over and over again。 Anyway， overall it's a nice book and I did learn something from it， so three stars for the strategies and two stars for the writing style。 。。。more
Beth Lorow
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A good， helpful read for responding to kids' big feelings and big reactions。 I wish I had encountered this book about eight years ago but appreciate the influence it will have now as I try to raise empathetic， emotionally healthy kids。 A good， helpful read for responding to kids' big feelings and big reactions。 I wish I had encountered this book about eight years ago but appreciate the influence it will have now as I try to raise empathetic， emotionally healthy kids。 。。。more
Roberta Galin
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Deeply insightful by bringing psichological reasoning to some already well known parenting theories。 A must read for any parent。 A book to return to from time to time。
Andrew Dunkley
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Great book on how to understand childrens' developing minds and certain stages。 Approches on how to deal with conflict was also very helpful。 Has helped me understand myself better as well！ Great book on how to understand childrens' developing minds and certain stages。 Approches on how to deal with conflict was also very helpful。 Has helped me understand myself better as well！ 。。。more
Hannah Kubacak
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The only thing that kept this book from being 5 stars was how repetitive some of the information was。 Overall， I thought the book was a good balance of data and practical advice。
Melissa Francisco
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Full of concise， useful information for learning how our brain works and how we can be masters of our own minds。
Hülya
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Çocuklarımızın mantıksal sağ beyinleri ile duygusal sol beyinlerini birlikte kullanmalarına yardımcı olabildiğimizde， dengeli ve anlamlı hayatlar yaşamalarına katkı sağlayabileceğimizden bahsediyor。 Bunun için yapılması gerekenleri 12 stratejide toparlamış。Özellikle yabancı yorumlarda kitapla ilgili gördüğüm "peki yazar bunları nasıl yapacağımızı da söyleseydi。。。 " gibi yorumları kitabı okuduktan sonra anlamlı bulmadığını belirtmek isterim。 Neden mi？ Çünkü， kitapta 12 strateji sadece teoride açı Çocuklarımızın mantıksal sağ beyinleri ile duygusal sol beyinlerini birlikte kullanmalarına yardımcı olabildiğimizde， dengeli ve anlamlı hayatlar yaşamalarına katkı sağlayabileceğimizden bahsediyor。 Bunun için yapılması gerekenleri 12 stratejide toparlamış。Özellikle yabancı yorumlarda kitapla ilgili gördüğüm "peki yazar bunları nasıl yapacağımızı da söyleseydi。。。 " gibi yorumları kitabı okuduktan sonra anlamlı bulmadığını belirtmek isterim。 Neden mi？ Çünkü， kitapta 12 strateji sadece teoride açıklanmamış， bu stratejilerin nasıl uygulanacağı hakkında bolca örnek/bilgi vb de verilmiş。 Hatta kitabın sonunda çocuk yaş dönemine göre 12 bütün-beyin stratejisi/stratejinin uygulanması başlığı altında tüm kitabın özeti de bulunuyor ki， ben okuduğumda çok memnun kaldım。 Kitap boyunca altını çizdiğim satırlar hiç olmasaydı dahi， son sayfalardaki özet bilgiler ileride dönüp bakabilmem için yeterli olacaktı。 。。。more
Catherine Buhler
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100%！！！！ I loved this so much。 It was short and to the point， gave specific ways to steer the conversation with kids and talk them through the emotions。 It really helped me see how to navigate their frustrations。 I found it incredibly helpful and realistic。
Lindsay
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I found that from this science-backed approach to raising children I learned a lot not only about parenting but about personal growth。 The age guide and real stories helped contextualize the strategies， which seem practical to implement in everyday life。 I’m sure it will be a handbook that I’ll come back to many times as my son grows up。
Michelle Kuhn
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Bryson and Siegel break down complicated neuroscientific research into understandable and simple strategies for optimizing the mental health of children through the integration of different parts of the brain。 Definitely a good book to have on the shelf to reference， especially because in the back it lists the most important strategies by age category。 I especially liked the example scripts of conversations you can have with your child to help them understand their own brains。 Written in a conve Bryson and Siegel break down complicated neuroscientific research into understandable and simple strategies for optimizing the mental health of children through the integration of different parts of the brain。 Definitely a good book to have on the shelf to reference， especially because in the back it lists the most important strategies by age category。 I especially liked the example scripts of conversations you can have with your child to help them understand their own brains。 Written in a conversational and storytelling tone， with science sprinkled in。 。。。more
Larissa Kaitai
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Some interesting brain stuff， but mostly either common sense stuff， or unrealistic sounds good in theory stuff
April
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This has been recommended to me many times， and I do recommend it - with a couple disclaimers。。。1。 This is not a light read。 They break down the scientific terminology about the brain very well， but it's far more academic than your typical parenting book。2。 I don't recommend the audiobook version。 I didn't mind the man and woman taking turns reading different passages， but I would have found more conversational tones much more engaging。 The woman in particular sounded like she was reading an unf This has been recommended to me many times， and I do recommend it - with a couple disclaimers。。。1。 This is not a light read。 They break down the scientific terminology about the brain very well， but it's far more academic than your typical parenting book。2。 I don't recommend the audiobook version。 I didn't mind the man and woman taking turns reading different passages， but I would have found more conversational tones much more engaging。 The woman in particular sounded like she was reading an unfamiliar book - the emphasis of many sentences didn't make sense with the flow of thought to me。 For this reason， I was surprised to see that the narrators ARE the authors！ Unless you struggle with making time to read to yourself， I'd strongly recommend getting the physical book rather than the audio version。 。。。more
Joanna Weatherbie
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Some great information in this read which I will incorporate into my parenting- I just found I wasn’t wanting to pick it up。
Peyton Rodriguez
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This book was great！ It's an amazing resource for parents， caregivers， or educators who need some direction on how to handle intense behaviors， emotions， and events that happen with the kiddos in our lives！ It was a very digestible way to receive a lot of information。 I would definitely recommend for anyone who feels at a loss on how to help the kids their lives grow into productive adults！ This book was great！ It's an amazing resource for parents， caregivers， or educators who need some direction on how to handle intense behaviors， emotions， and events that happen with the kiddos in our lives！ It was a very digestible way to receive a lot of information。 I would definitely recommend for anyone who feels at a loss on how to help the kids their lives grow into productive adults！ 。。。more
Amanda Lombard
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"As children develop， their brains "mirror" their parent's brain。 In other words， the parent's own growth and development， or lack of those， impact the child's brain。 As parents become more aware and emotionally healthy， their children reap the rewards and move toward health as well"。 "As children develop， their brains "mirror" their parent's brain。 In other words， the parent's own growth and development， or lack of those， impact the child's brain。 As parents become more aware and emotionally healthy， their children reap the rewards and move toward health as well"。 。。。more
Hayley Trevaskis
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A really digestible book for parents。 I really resonated with the （science based） nurturing advice and concepts。
Janet Bufton
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TLDR: An easy read that's well worth it， despite a few misgivings。 First， the big reason that I like the advice in this book （and the associated books） is that it presents a strategy for teaching skills and strategies that I consider very important because I had to learn *as an adult*。 It incorporates teaching these skills into approaching parenting challenges。 I want my daughter to have these tools （whether or not she needs them as badly as I did） and I appreciate the practical advice for build TLDR: An easy read that's well worth it， despite a few misgivings。 First， the big reason that I like the advice in this book （and the associated books） is that it presents a strategy for teaching skills and strategies that I consider very important because I had to learn *as an adult*。 It incorporates teaching these skills into approaching parenting challenges。 I want my daughter to have these tools （whether or not she needs them as badly as I did） and I appreciate the practical advice for building them as part of parenting。 I also appreciate that the authors provide their advice in such a way that leaves open questions like how to approach parental authority， boundary setting， etc。， which makes the book valuable regardless of whether （for instance） you feel strongly that it's a time IN， not a time OUT， or vice versa。 （I'm not sure their discipline book is as flexible。） This should make the advice in the book useful to more parents。 However， the authors' enthusiasm leads them to make claims about the ability of your children to change the people around them and successive generations that I think are probably a bit too grandiose。 Despite the authors' attempt to ask parents not to put too much pressure on themselves because of it， if you buy their claims whole-hog， I can't see how you could avoid it。I also suspect that some of the claims about the implications of neuroplasticity and mirror neurons are not uncontroversial and I don't think they're critical to the suggestions in this book， which pass the common sense test without them。 I get that some readers will have their confidence bolstered by these claims， but mine is undermined。Finally， just a personal pet peeve， but a lot more could be done to emphasize how often the skills in this book *won't* work。 Nothing works for everyone， or even all the time for anyone。 They certainly say so a few times， but imo they still paint an overly rosy picture。If you can keep these three misgivings in mind， I'd heartily recommend it to anyone。 If any of those will undermine the value you get from it， then my endorsement is more qualified。 。。。more
Katherine
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I learned so much from this book！！
Carrie Froese
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This is a great book for parents with children of all ages to keep by their bedside。 It emphasizes the importance of addressing the feelings of the child but also going back to revisit expectations for the child。 By explaining the process of integration of new information by the brain， it will help parents to set aside harsh and punitive measures while utilizing a number of suggestions and scripts in the book。
Yasminmagdy
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As a new parent the book has some easy to follow advice on how to bring discipline and insight to a child's brain。 Would be better for older kids though （about 4 or so ）。As an anxious person， some of the techniques used for the kids maybe quiet useful to use to calm yourself down as an adult。 As a new parent the book has some easy to follow advice on how to bring discipline and insight to a child's brain。 Would be better for older kids though （about 4 or so ）。As an anxious person， some of the techniques used for the kids maybe quiet useful to use to calm yourself down as an adult。 。。。more
Oula Hope
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What I like about this book is that it makes it much easier for you to make sense of your children's behaviour by explaining the role integration plays。 This helps you to alleviate a lot of stress and anxiety and gives you the tools to help your children in their journey to thrive。 What I like about this book is that it makes it much easier for you to make sense of your children's behaviour by explaining the role integration plays。 This helps you to alleviate a lot of stress and anxiety and gives you the tools to help your children in their journey to thrive。 。。。more
Cassandra
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A good guide to teaching empathy and reframing conflict with children。 The book focused a lot on older children， so I would be interested in reading more about all of the strategies mentioned applied to toddlers。 Overall glad I read but still seeking out more hands on tips。
Ilias Avramidis
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