The Fine Art of Small Talk: How to Start a Conversation, Keep It Going, Build Networking Skills – and Leave a Positive Impression!
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- Author：Debra Fine
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Summary
In this bestselling guide to social success， communication expert Debra Fine reveals the techniques and strategies anyone can use to make small talk in any situation。
Help is on the way with The Fine Art of Small Talk， the classic guide that’s now revised for the modern era。 Small talk is more than just chitchat; it’s a valuable tool to help you climb the corporate ladder， widen your business and social circles， and boost your self-confidence。 With practical advice and simple conversation “cheat sheets，” this book offers easy-to-learn techniques that will allow you to feel comfortable in any type of social situation—from a video meeting to a first date to a cocktail party where you don’t know a soul。 Nationally recognized communication expert Debra Fine will show you how to:
Learn to connect with others regardless of the occasion， event， or situation
Come across as composed and self-assured when entertaining
Avoid awkward silences and “foot in mouth” disease
Convey warmth and enthusiasm so that other people feel good about being near you
Make a positive， lasting impression from the minute you say hello。
Once you master The Fine Art of Small Talk， you’ll excel at making others feel included， valued， and comfortable。 Let Debra Fine turn you into a small-talk expert—and watch the contacts， business deals， and social relationships multiply before your eyes！
Help is on the way with The Fine Art of Small Talk， the classic guide that’s now revised for the modern era。 Small talk is more than just chitchat; it’s a valuable tool to help you climb the corporate ladder， widen your business and social circles， and boost your self-confidence。 With practical advice and simple conversation “cheat sheets，” this book offers easy-to-learn techniques that will allow you to feel comfortable in any type of social situation—from a video meeting to a first date to a cocktail party where you don’t know a soul。 Nationally recognized communication expert Debra Fine will show you how to:
Learn to connect with others regardless of the occasion， event， or situation
Come across as composed and self-assured when entertaining
Avoid awkward silences and “foot in mouth” disease
Convey warmth and enthusiasm so that other people feel good about being near you
Make a positive， lasting impression from the minute you say hello。
Once you master The Fine Art of Small Talk， you’ll excel at making others feel included， valued， and comfortable。 Let Debra Fine turn you into a small-talk expert—and watch the contacts， business deals， and social relationships multiply before your eyes！
Reviews
Win Subam
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Such an important read for the people who find it difficult to start and engage in a conversation。 The writing was smooth and conversational， and the bullet points help in remembering her tips。 Reading this book pushed me to connect with more people and made me realize how important small talk is。
Cynthia
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This quick-to-read book packs a punch。 Debra Fine's engaging， empathetic writing style combines with real-life scenarios and examples that provide effective applications for practicing small-talk skills。 As Debra says， "Small talk leads to big talk。" In other words， we don't get the opportunity to truly connect with new people in our lives if we don't take the first step to ask questions （in a non-threatening way）， engage in back-and-forth conversation， and truly get to know someone。 There's som This quick-to-read book packs a punch。 Debra Fine's engaging， empathetic writing style combines with real-life scenarios and examples that provide effective applications for practicing small-talk skills。 As Debra says， "Small talk leads to big talk。" In other words， we don't get the opportunity to truly connect with new people in our lives if we don't take the first step to ask questions （in a non-threatening way）， engage in back-and-forth conversation， and truly get to know someone。 There's something here for everyone， and I'll return to The Fine Art of Small Talk again and again as I work to enhance these skills and put them to use both professionally and personally。 Thank you， Debra！ 。。。more
Kenny
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A bit dated in text， which makes some of the advice a bit wonky。 Overall， conversation and communication ideas are timeless。 Fine breaks it down nicely and provides a good overview/refresher for the things we can improve and look out for。
Dan
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My thanks to both NetGalley and the publisher Hachette Books for a copy of this manual on how to have conversations with people both new and old， something a lot of us are not very good at。 I remember working for a time at a chain bookstore， and being taken aside by either the head cashier or someone in management， neither one read books so ours was more of a nodding head employee relationship。 I was asked why my memberships for the store weren't that good， and what was my way of initiating a co My thanks to both NetGalley and the publisher Hachette Books for a copy of this manual on how to have conversations with people both new and old， something a lot of us are not very good at。 I remember working for a time at a chain bookstore， and being taken aside by either the head cashier or someone in management， neither one read books so ours was more of a nodding head employee relationship。 I was asked why my memberships for the store weren't that good， and what was my way of initiating a conversation about memberships was。 Discussing books， movies， puzzles， magazines， movies， chocolate and all the other things we sold， that they had come in to buy was not enough， I had to upsell them membership。 I tried to explain that I worked in a bookstore for a reason， I loved books， loved to discuss books， that I would never be a closer and the steak knives were enough for me。 I wasn't a salesman， nor could I do small talk to try and make that membership sound good。 I kind of wished I had wandered over to self-improvement and taken a look at this book， I think Debra Fine could have saved me a bit of grief。 In The Fine Art of Small Talk: How to Start a Conversation， Keep It Going， Build Networking Skills – and Leave a Positive Impression， fine discusses and discourses on the benefits of small talk， not only in the business sense， but in broadening our own lives， and being able to share more with others， and maybe even make new friends。The book begins with the author describing awkward situations that she'd found herself in， and in order to change the life she was leading she decided to instead of avoiding conversation， Fine would actively seek it out。 As Fine progressed in talking a bit more， Fine learned that many people feel scared awkward and at a mental disadvantage while engaging people for the first time。 Even worse some might feel that one person's awkwardness is more a haughty or aloof attitude and judge that person as someone not worthy of talking too。 Fine looks at what makes up a conversation， how best to introduce oneself， questions to ask to break the ice， and phrases to keep those awkward pauses from ending what could be the start of a beautiful friendship， or business relationship。 Not every tip is for everyone， a lot of the business conversation might not be of interest to people， however many find the business introductions more what they are looking for。 Either way there is a lot here for opening up dialogues， which is usually much better than talking to oneself， like I am guilty of。 The book is written well， with a very positive feeling that is infectious and fills people with the sense that maybe I can talk to people at work events a little better。 There is also a strong sense in not judging the person for problems one might have initiating dialogues。 Fine wants to help， not assign blame。 Fine was trained as an engineer， and it shows in that her chapters are laid out almost in a flow chart sense。 Start with this， move to that， soon you can ask this， and voila two strangers are conversing。 Social media is also discussed， its hindrance in conversation， and how our phones make us more comfortable by ourselves， and yet mentally we all seem more lost because of a lack of interaction。 A very useful book， one that I wish that I had read years ag。Recommended for people whose jobs are dependent on selling memberships。 I kid， not really， but this is a very good book that would help in most workplaces， and to find other people who might have interests similar to the reader。 A very helpful book for all walks of life， even for people who dislike small talk， to understand why it is so important to so many people。 A little like myself。 。。。more
Joseph Calce
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Fine has quite a few good pointers for icebreakers， dating， and conversations in general。 I disagreed with a handful of the tips， but her overall message that anyone can excel at small talk is sound。
Nathan Hatch
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What I likedDebra Fine is an engineer-turned-small-talk-specialist。 She's the perfect person to explain small talk in a way that engineers can understand。 She individually analyzes the components of casual social interaction: choosing the right person to talk to， how to break the ice， how to demonstrate that you are listening， what to say about yourself， how to handle "awkward" pauses， how to exit gracefully， and many steps in between。Fine emphasizes morals。 This is not a book of quick and dirty What I likedDebra Fine is an engineer-turned-small-talk-specialist。 She's the perfect person to explain small talk in a way that engineers can understand。 She individually analyzes the components of casual social interaction: choosing the right person to talk to， how to break the ice， how to demonstrate that you are listening， what to say about yourself， how to handle "awkward" pauses， how to exit gracefully， and many steps in between。Fine emphasizes morals。 This is not a book of quick and dirty tricks。 She explains that carrying your conversational weight is work， and that sincere interest in the other person is as essential as it is un-feignable。Her two biggest pieces of advice are （1） "take the risk" to start a conversation despite the possibility of rejection， and （2） "assume the burden" of making everyone else feel happy and comfortable。 There is a certain tragedy of the commons in conversation: people often assume that someone else will handle making eye contact with the speaker， coming up with new topics to fill silences， and so forth。 Fine's advice is to assume the burden: be the host， be the leader。I particularly liked the chapter on "The Graceful Exit。" The importance and techniques of properly ending a conversation are not something that I've read about before。 What I didn't likeOrganization。 I get the impression that Fine loosely ordered some existing documents and then stapled them into a book。 The chapter called "Keep the Conversation Going！" is entirely about starting conversations， not keeping them going。 Also， the beginning of chapter 12 （"Make the Most of Networking Events！"） seems drawn verbatim from a pamphlet advertising her seminars。 Fortunately， the book doesn't suffer much from this style of organization—each piece of advice is fairly self-contained。There's not much in this book about deepening friendships。 It focuses on business networking。 When the final objective is making a sale or maintaining a contact， there is little need for a deep connection。 Fine does mention that conversation is like "peeling an onion"—you should match the vulnerability of your disclosures to that of your partner—but doesn't offer advice about what to do if you want to encourage an intimacy。 。。。more
Em
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Thank you NetGalley and Hachette Books for the ARC of The Fine Art of Small Talk。 I found this to be so helpful。 It offered tangible ideas and suggestions while being engaging and realistic。 I already feel a difference in my approach to small talk and this is a great reference when you get stuck and need new ideas for conversation and engagement。
em
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**Thank you for the ARC！ All opinions are my own。** 4 stars。 Reflective and simplistic。This is a concise book with a lot of insight and much needed conversation starters， leaders， and enders。 It includes lessons on welcoming body language， reaction styles， topics， and much more。 It packs a lot of invaluable advice in less than 200 pages。 In addition， the formatting， tables， and bullet points make it easier to read。
Nhi Aronheim
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This book is an easy read for all age levels。 I loved the message about how to start a conversation under different circumstances-networking， dating， keeping the conversation going， and exiting gracefully。 I had the biggest smile on my face when my son and his friends read this book and role-played in my kitchen。 Highly recommend it to those who want to improve their conversational skill。
tpg0
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As an AI language model， I cannot provide a personal opinion， but The Fine Art of Small Talk by Debra Fine is a widely recognized self-help book on communication and networking skills。 It covers practical strategies for breaking the ice， keeping conversation flowing， and building connections with people。 The book is particularly useful for individuals who struggle with social anxiety disorder， shyness and introversion， or simply want to improve their interpersonal skills。 It contains numerous examples， anecdotes， and exercises to help readers practice and hone their small talk skills。 Overall， it is a valuable resource for anyone looking to boost their confidence in social situations and make meaningful connections with others。
tpg1
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As an AI language model， I cannot have an opinion on books， but I can provide information about it。 'The Fine Art of Small Talk' by Debra Fine is a practical guide on how to improve your conversation skills and build relationships through small talk。 The author provides tips and strategies to initiate and maintain conversations， overcome shyness， and increase social confidence。 The book includes real-life scenarios and exercises to help readers practice their skills。 It has been well received by readers and has received positive reviews on platforms such as Goodreads and Amazon。
tpg2
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