Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know
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- Author：Barbara De Angelis
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Summary
Relationships psychologist De Angelis reveals the 6 biggest mistakes women make with men， how to spot - and avoid - the men that will give you the most trouble， men's top twenty turnoffs， and how to get the man you love to open up。
Reviews
Kazhan
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This book every women should read。There is really amazing secrets about men we should all know。She teachs us how to deal with mens mood， behavior。I learned alot from it。
Atefeh
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این کتاب را یک بار سال‌ها پیش نیمه کاره رها کردم。 این بار هم خواندنش دو سال طول کشید！واقعا نمی‌دانم چرا؟！شاید از کلی گویی‌هایش خوشم نیامد。در کل برای کسانی که اول راه رابطه با مردان هستند به نظرم چیز خوبیست و برای بقیه هم خواندنش ضرر ندارد！
Amanda
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Lido em português。 É extenso demais。 Maas， tem um conteúdo interessante。 Depois dessa， estou numa ressaca literária。 Não é: manual para mulheres do séc XIX。 É mais: mulherada se entende e entenda eles na medida do possível para lidar com os problemas comuns nas relações。 "O amor （。。。） Foi meu professor mais paciente e forte。 Lido em português。 É extenso demais。 Maas， tem um conteúdo interessante。 Depois dessa， estou numa ressaca literária。 Não é: manual para mulheres do séc XIX。 É mais: mulherada se entende e entenda eles na medida do possível para lidar com os problemas comuns nas relações。 "O amor （。。。） Foi meu professor mais paciente e forte。 。。。more
Hasti Sharifi
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عنوان کتاب یکم مشابه کتابای زرده که الکی ترند شدند، ولی با توجه به شناختی که از نویسنده داشتم و اینکه کتاب قبلی که از ایشون خوندم مفید و علمی نوشته شده بود ،سعی کردم عنوان کتابو نادیده بگیرم و اعتماد کنم 😁این کتاب براساس تحقیقات علمی و مصاحبه های بسیار با مردها نوشته شده و نکات قابل عرضی و مفیدی ارائه میده。
Karah
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So relieved that I read this book。 I recognized many of my shortcomings。 I realized that my idea of nurturing included mothering a man。 Intellectually， I knew mothering a man would prove dissatisfying。 But I hadn't recognized how to prevent myself from those actions。 I don't need to be a second brain for a man。 My own life is so full that he will recognize this and adapt to the fact that we help each other but we don't carry each other。 All in due season， I will see how this works out。 Thank you So relieved that I read this book。 I recognized many of my shortcomings。 I realized that my idea of nurturing included mothering a man。 Intellectually， I knew mothering a man would prove dissatisfying。 But I hadn't recognized how to prevent myself from those actions。 I don't need to be a second brain for a man。 My own life is so full that he will recognize this and adapt to the fact that we help each other but we don't carry each other。 All in due season， I will see how this works out。 Thank you， Dr。 De Angelis！！！ 。。。more
Somayeh Halimi
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کتاب مفیدی بود
Mobina
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به نظرم کتاب مفید و‌خوبی در زمینه‌ی رابطه و شناخت مردان به شمار میره حتی ارزش اینو داره که نکته های هایلایت شدش دوباره خونده بشناین کتاب واقعا باعث شد متوجه خیلی از اشتباهاتم بشم و از خیلیاشون پیشگیری کنم البته همه موارد در مورد همه آقایون صدق نمیکنه که خود نویسنده هم این نکته رو ذکر کرده پس اگه دیدین یه مورد دو‌موردش با شخص شما تطابق نداشت دلسرد نشید که بقبه مطالب هم به درد نخورهنظم‌کتاب و دوست داشتم قشنگ اول مشکل و‌مطرح کرده بعد گفته که چرا این مساله مشکل محسوب میشه و در آخر هم راه حل ارائه دا به نظرم کتاب مفید و‌خوبی در زمینه‌ی رابطه و شناخت مردان به شمار میره حتی ارزش اینو داره که نکته های هایلایت شدش دوباره خونده بشناین کتاب واقعا باعث شد متوجه خیلی از اشتباهاتم بشم و از خیلیاشون پیشگیری کنم البته همه موارد در مورد همه آقایون صدق نمیکنه که خود نویسنده هم این نکته رو ذکر کرده پس اگه دیدین یه مورد دو‌موردش با شخص شما تطابق نداشت دلسرد نشید که بقبه مطالب هم به درد نخورهنظم‌کتاب و دوست داشتم قشنگ اول مشکل و‌مطرح کرده بعد گفته که چرا این مساله مشکل محسوب میشه و در آخر هم راه حل ارائه داده خلاصه که دیدمو خیلی باز کرده درکمو بالاتر برده و کتابیه که به بقیه خانم ها هم حتماااا توصیه‌اش میکنم。 。。。more
Laura
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I'm not even sure what to say about this book as I have such mixed feelings about it。 I thought there were some valuable insights to be had but I also felt that most of the book was pandering to men and making excuses for their lack of maturity and 'growing up' and being actual men。 I feel like there will always be men who won't grow up but this also goes towards women as well and what we think of ourselves is who we will attract。 But how I took the book as a whole was that men were living in th I'm not even sure what to say about this book as I have such mixed feelings about it。 I thought there were some valuable insights to be had but I also felt that most of the book was pandering to men and making excuses for their lack of maturity and 'growing up' and being actual men。 I feel like there will always be men who won't grow up but this also goes towards women as well and what we think of ourselves is who we will attract。 But how I took the book as a whole was that men were living in the dark ages and were feeling victimized because sharing emotions and things wasn't their norm and they needed leeway to figure it all out。 I felt like there was a lot of pressure on women to be a certain way， which had some value， and to help men be more mature and open and that really isn't our jobs， though she mentioned many times that women had to work on themselves as well。We all need to grow and change always though out our lives and doing it together is awesome， however we all need to bring a certain maturity and growth to the table to do that and even though the author wrote about that there seemed to me to be a chunk missing to that aspect。 I think this book missed some good points but had enough sprinkling of good insights to make it palatable。 At least it was an easy read， albeit an annoying one。 。。。more
Scout Collins
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I found this book to be a bit repetitive and outdated。 As I mentioned while reading it， a lot of the behaviours women in this book 'do'/need help fixing are wounded feminine traits。 I personally don't have many of those so I didn't relate the same way other women might （I acknowledge this could be because I have a stronger masculine side）。The men described in this book （hypothetically or from examples） were often extremely defensive， unable to take responsibility for themselves/their behaviour， I found this book to be a bit repetitive and outdated。 As I mentioned while reading it， a lot of the behaviours women in this book 'do'/need help fixing are wounded feminine traits。 I personally don't have many of those so I didn't relate the same way other women might （I acknowledge this could be because I have a stronger masculine side）。The men described in this book （hypothetically or from examples） were often extremely defensive， unable to take responsibility for themselves/their behaviour， oversensitive and quick to get angry/annoyed。 I hope most men are not like this today and that things have significantly improved。 Some of the dynamics the author described were quite immature and problematic （yes， they were real， I just hope we've made some progress now that it's 20-30 years later）。I also felt like the author was like "women are SOOOOOOOO different from men" when really， both genders are human beings。 Men aren't aliens that are so complicated to understand。 The author did mention and go in detail about real differences in terms of upbringing， communication， brain biology， etc。 which was good， but at times I thought， there are good communication/behaviour standards/strategies for BOTH genders and it shouldn't be so complex。 （In my opinion， for both）: try to not be so defensive， and accept responsibility for your actions！ Be respectful， kind and understanding！ Try to understand where the other person is coming from and what's really going on underneath！ Care about the other person and accommodate them！ Take their issues/complaints seriously！ I don't usually complain about this unless it's excessive， but the book was repetitive at points （literally repeating the exact same things from previous chapters in the exact same words）。I did not like this book as much as other Barbara DeAngelis books （like Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know）。 However， there was still some good insight and advice。 The sections about men/sex， top 20 turn-offs （all made sense I think）， and communication were particularly good/better。Notes （paraphrased）Boys vs。 Girls-Boys taught it's not manly to feel strong emotions （not just those considered 'weak' like fear or sadness， but even passion， need， or intense love）。-Only narrow range of emotions permitted: aggressiveness， competitiveness， anger。。。 feelings associated with being in control。 Sexual feelings added to list。 Weakness， confusion， fear， vulnerability， tenderness and compassion are allowed only to girls/women （14）。MEN BEING WRONG"Don't blame， don't condemn， don't name call， don't generalize， don't make value judgments on his character or abilities-simply tell him how you are feeling" （105）Don't say: "You are bad for doing this。Do say: "I feel sad/scared/hurt/etc。 when you do this。""Since men grow up with a lifetime of conditioning that tells them they should know all of the answers and do things right， they need lots of support and praise， not just for their accomplishments， but for simply being who they are。" （106）Common complaint from men: "my partner doesn't appreciate me enough" （106）。MEN vs。 WOMEN"Men define themselves primarily from work and their achievements; women define themselves primarily from their relationships" （120）MAKING LOVEDifference between having sex and making love。 Sex is physical act of sharing pleasure with your partner; making love is emotional act of loving/adoring your partner。 （You can have one without the other）。 In Barbara's study， men want more sex， women want more making love。Women want more: cuddling， long kisses， slow foreplay， talking about feelings in bed， emotional sharing during lovemaking， romanceMen want more: spontaneity， physical passion， playful， lusty sex （140）。Men are more right-brained （visually-oriented） than women， who are more left-brained （verbally oriented）。 Men get turned on by what they see - e。g。 boys choose porn， girls choose romance novels/erotica。 （159）。COMMUNICATION SECRETSMen communicate best when they have a focus for the conversation。Women are too vague in requests "Let's have a talk。" / "Honey， I think we should discuss our relationship"Women are more process oriented than goal oriented。（Two girlfriends can sit and talk with no idea of where the conversation is going or what the purpose is- they enjoy expressing themselves。 Men can find this lack of structure disconcerting） （221）Solution: Give your man an agenda when you want to have a discussion。E。g。 "Let's spend time talking tonight。 We haven't had any time together since your mother visited last week。 Why don't you tell me what you thought of the visit， and I'll tell you how it felt to me。 That way， we will know how to handle things even better next time she comes。" （222）。THE EMOTIONAL MAP1。 Anger， blame， resentment2。 Hurt， sadness， disappointment3。 Fear， worry， insecurity4。 Regret， understanding， responsibility，5。 Intention， solutions， wishes6。 Love， appreciation， forgiveness （242）。"Anger/blame/resentment are a way to protect ourselves when we feel attacked or unloved。 Underneath lies hurt， sadness， and disappointment--much more vulnerable emotions。 Hurt covers up the third layer of insecurity。 As you move away from these intense feelings and closer to the core， you get regret， and can take responsibility for understanding the real truth of what you're experiencing。 Underneath all the anger/remorse/etc。 is love。 The other emotions are simply reactions we go through when something interferes with our ability to feel loved or loving。" （242）。POWER TIPS: WOMEN SUPPORT SYSTEMCreate a support system of women in your life。 The more love and support you receive from female friends in your life， the less dependent you will be on a man to fulfill all of your needs。 （276）。"Women can help each other grow in a way that no man ever can。 We can feel each other's pain as if it is our own; rejoice in each other's strengths and celebrate victories as if we ourselves had achieved them。 We are， after all， different facets of the same jewel， the female soul。" （276）PAGES-p。19: how healthy are your relationships with men quizNot So Good'Do you ever pout when you really need to tell a man he's acting like an asshole and you're fed up？" （69）>>Really， you couldn't have come up with a more emotionally respectful way to phrase this？ …[About women bringing up problems late at night] "Look，" Adam yells， "you're the one who ruined our evening by bringing up a problem late at night。 You're so goddamn sensitive--you're always overreacting to something。 If you weren't such an emotional basket case， we could have some peace around here！ I don't want to listen to this crap anymore！" （109）>> Defensive/abusive much？ Jeez。。。 is that really how men used to act about a normal conversation？In conclusion， I would recommend， but be wary that a lot of the advice is outdated。 If you are more like a 'traditional'/'old-fashioned' woman and the men you know are like traditional/old-fashioned men， I think a lot in this book would be really useful。 If both of you are more balanced， it's not as relevant。 。。。more
Samin Heydarieh
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I think it was a good book to begin with， but now I'm against separating characteristics between men and women， so I believe there might be better options。 I think it was a good book to begin with， but now I'm against separating characteristics between men and women， so I believe there might be better options。 。。。more
Noor Abu Hassan
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Good book，100% I recommend to read it ， include alot of useful information and required an honest inside look。 Really enjoyed reading it。
Paul
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Безусловно худшая книга о взаимоотношении полов， которую я в принципе читал。 Автор декларирует группу идей， которые противоречат друг другу （и не видит этого）。 Автор декларирует набор ценностей， который открыто нарушает сама же буквально через 5 страниц。 Книга крайне самовлюбленная и нравоучительная， в стиле "слушайте меня， я знаю -- как правильно"。 Из интересного разве что экскурс в женское мышление。 Проблема в том， что описывается， как я понял， не собственно мышление， а то， как оно воспринимае Безусловно худшая книга о взаимоотношении полов， которую я в принципе читал。 Автор декларирует группу идей， которые противоречат друг другу （и не видит этого）。 Автор декларирует набор ценностей， который открыто нарушает сама же буквально через 5 страниц。 Книга крайне самовлюбленная и нравоучительная， в стиле "слушайте меня， я знаю -- как правильно"。 Из интересного разве что экскурс в женское мышление。 Проблема в том， что описывается， как я понял， не собственно мышление， а то， как оно воспринимается изнутри。 Стилистика текста -- отдельное страдание， читать невозможно 。。。more
VJR
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This is a very good book for clearly explaining men's behavior， desires， and needs。 （Notice the Oxford comma。。。） Even though I am a man， I bought this book to try to learn about women and it helped a great deal。I've recommended this book for 30 years - especially to young women who are confused by men。However， this book is also good for men to understand what puzzles women about men。 This is a very good book for clearly explaining men's behavior， desires， and needs。 （Notice the Oxford comma。。。） Even though I am a man， I bought this book to try to learn about women and it helped a great deal。I've recommended this book for 30 years - especially to young women who are confused by men。However， this book is also good for men to understand what puzzles women about men。 。。。more
Hosna Ebrahimi
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قبل از شروع این کتاب، برام خیلی جالب بود که نویسنده کتاب راز هایی در مورد مردان یک زن است。 و‌از همه جالب تر پایان کتاب بود که با این جمله تمام شد “زندگی از زن ها متولد می‌شود。” در فصل های اول، حتی به عنوان یک زن، خیلی خودم را در این کتاب بیشتر درک کردم و از تمرین های بسیار خوب این کتاب حتما در آینده استفاده خواهم کرد。 با همه این حرف ها نمیشه روی مرد ها و زن ها برچسب های شخصیتی و رفتاری زد و هر کسی ممکنه متفاوت باشه。 توی بعضی از قسمت های این‌کتاب ، این برچسب هارو احساس کردم و موافق نبودم！
Flyingbroom
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A bit outdated （I hope）， but still with a reasonable amount of relevant advice。
Melika khorram
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این کتاب نکات مفیدی درباره ارتباط کلامی و جنسی زنان با مردان به همراه مثال های متعددی از بررسی روابط زوج های مختلف داره。میتونم بگم بسیاری از نکاتش رو میدونستم، ولی دونستن بعضی از نکات هم واقعا ضروری بود。 و فکر میکنم بیشتر خانم ها هم نکات این کتاب رو میدونن ولی عمل کردن بهشون گاهی سخت تر از دونستن شونه。 نحوه عمل کردن به توصیه ها و به جا و به موقع بودنشون میتونه روابط رو تا حدی تنظیم کنه。 آدم باید اول یک انتخاب درستی داشته باشه، و درکنارش یه شناختی درست و کاملی هم از جنس مخالف به دست بیاره تا بتون این کتاب نکات مفیدی درباره ارتباط کلامی و جنسی زنان با مردان به همراه مثال های متعددی از بررسی روابط زوج های مختلف داره。میتونم بگم بسیاری از نکاتش رو میدونستم، ولی دونستن بعضی از نکات هم واقعا ضروری بود。 و فکر میکنم بیشتر خانم ها هم نکات این کتاب رو میدونن ولی عمل کردن بهشون گاهی سخت تر از دونستن شونه。 نحوه عمل کردن به توصیه ها و به جا و به موقع بودنشون میتونه روابط رو تا حدی تنظیم کنه。 آدم باید اول یک انتخاب درستی داشته باشه، و درکنارش یه شناختی درست و کاملی هم از جنس مخالف به دست بیاره تا بتونه تعامل بهتری با همسرش داشته باشه。 。。。more
Parmiii
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توی این کتاب ها فقط زن رو دچار خود کم بینی میکنه و تو‌رو یه موجود ضعیف طلقی میکنه
Masu
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I loved it， this book is really helpful for those who wants to improve their relationships。
Haley
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This book was ok。 I’m giving it that review because it was very similar to her other book， “What Women Want Men To Know。” She discussed all the same topics and brought up the same issues。 I felt like I was just re-reading the same book。 If I hadn’t read her other book， I would’ve liked this better。 But since I just read “What Women Want Men To Know” it was like just re-reading that book。
Aelita Hopper
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It is all about the men based on Author’s experience。 And she also gave suggestions for women how they should react to men through many examples。
John
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This is a must read for everyone who wants to understand how relationships and people work。
Arezoo
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You can actually use it as a textbook for your relationships。 And not just romantic ones。 even in your social relationships。 این کتاب هر موقع و تو هر شرایطی هستید می تونه به درد بخوره。 پر از نکاتیه که می تونه نه تنها تو روابط عاطفی بلکه تو روابط اجتماعی هم مفید باشه。
Agnė
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Metų nusivylimas man。 Toks gražus viršelis （naujo leidimo）， tokia gera idėja ir anotacija。 O gavos kas gavos。 Viskas per subjektyvią nuomonę moters， kuri pati sau prieštarauja。 Vargšai vyrai， jie iš prigimties yra tokie， kokie yra ir moterims lemta jais rūpintis ir apsupti globa。Daugiau mano įžvalgų （sarkazmo persunktų）: https://sidabrinesmilga。blogspot。com/。。。 Metų nusivylimas man。 Toks gražus viršelis （naujo leidimo）， tokia gera idėja ir anotacija。 O gavos kas gavos。 Viskas per subjektyvią nuomonę moters， kuri pati sau prieštarauja。 Vargšai vyrai， jie iš prigimties yra tokie， kokie yra ir moterims lemta jais rūpintis ir apsupti globa。Daugiau mano įžvalgų （sarkazmo persunktų）: https://sidabrinesmilga。blogspot。com/。。。 。。。more
Nada
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I originally intended to give this book a 3 and half stars， but the closer I got towards the end the less stars I started to give 。 I think she talked and explained many good points and I had many ahaaa！ Moments but then she annoyingly started to repeat alot of those informations。she added a very unnecessary length to the book and she kept going in circles it started to feel as this book was never going to finish。 At the end I felt all the secrets and the points were repetitive just under differ I originally intended to give this book a 3 and half stars， but the closer I got towards the end the less stars I started to give 。 I think she talked and explained many good points and I had many ahaaa！ Moments but then she annoyingly started to repeat alot of those informations。she added a very unnecessary length to the book and she kept going in circles it started to feel as this book was never going to finish。 At the end I felt all the secrets and the points were repetitive just under different headings 。 。。。more
Darya
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کتاب خوبی است برای آنها که بدون شناخت وارد زندگی میشوند راه کارهای خوبی ارائه میدهد。
آوانامه - کتاب های صوتی
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link: دانلود کتاب صوتی رازهایی درباره ی مردان از سایت آوانامه link: دانلود کتاب صوتی رازهایی درباره ی مردان از سایت آدیولیب link: دانلود کتاب صوتی رازهایی درباره ی مردان از سایت آوانامه link: دانلود کتاب صوتی رازهایی درباره ی مردان از سایت آدیولیب 。。。more
Saeede Kermani
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یکی از ضعیف‌ترین کتابای روان‌شناسی‌ای که خوندم。 نویسنده اشتباه‌هایی که خودش مرتکب شده رو لیست کرده و می‌گه که شما این اشتباه‌ها رو مرتکب نشین。 تو کل کتاب هم این حس رو میده که زن‌ها دچار خود کم‌بینی هستن تو رابطه و زیادی از خودشون انرژی می‌ذارن ولی حقیقتن من هیچ وقت مشکلاتی که گفته بود رو تجربه نکردم و با این سیستم میتونم منم یه هم‌چین کتابی بنویسم و بگم که این اشتباه‌هارو انجام ندین اسمشم بذارم رازهایی درباره‌ی مردان ۲。
Mohadese Goodarzi
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با توجه به اینکه روانشناسی هر اقلیم و کشور با هم فرق داره اما این کتاب کتاب تقریبا خوبی هست و اطلاعات مفیدی میده بهتون و واقعا چند جا شگفت زده میشید ک چقد براتون تکرار شده این قضایا
Gandomru
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خیلی خوشحالم که دو سال پیش با خوندن این کتاب خوشبختی امروزم رو تضمین کردم。 و الان وقتی دوباره میخوندمش میدیدم که چقدر خوب بوده که دستورالعملا رو تو زندگیم پیاده کردم و پیامدای مثبتشو دیدم
Masi
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