The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free
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Summary
An upcoming book to be published by Penguin Random House Canada。
Set the limits that will set you free。 From the beloved co-founder of the Whole30， this straightforward and practical guide to setting boundaries will revolutionize your relationships。
Do your relationships often feel one-sided or unbalanced？ Are you always giving in just so things will go smoothly？ Do you wish you could learn to say no—but， like， nicely？ Are you depleted， overwhelmed， and tired of putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own？ If you answered yes to any of these questions， you need to establish some boundaries。
Since launching the mega-bestselling wellness program the Whole30， Melissa Urban has taught millions of people how to establish healthy habits and successfully navigate pushback and peer pressure。 She knows firsthand that boundaries—clear limits you establish to protect your energy， time， and health—are all that stand between you and feelings of security， confidence， and freedom。
Now， in The Book of Boundaries， she shows you how boundaries are the key to better mental health， increased energy， improved productivity， and more fulfilling relationships。
In her famously direct and compassionate style， Urban offers:
• 130+ scripts with language you can use to instantly establish boundaries with bosses and co-workers， romantic partners， parents and in-laws， co-parents， friends， family， neighbors， strangers—and yourself
• actionable advice to help you communicate your needs with clarity and compassion
• tips for successfully navigating boundary guilt， pushback， pressure， and oversteps
• techniques to create healthy habits around food， drink， technology， and more
User-friendly and approachable， The Book of Boundaries will give you the tools you need to stop justifying， minimizing， and apologizing， leading you to more rewarding relationships and a life that feels bigger， healthier， and freer。
Set the limits that will set you free。 From the beloved co-founder of the Whole30， this straightforward and practical guide to setting boundaries will revolutionize your relationships。
Do your relationships often feel one-sided or unbalanced？ Are you always giving in just so things will go smoothly？ Do you wish you could learn to say no—but， like， nicely？ Are you depleted， overwhelmed， and tired of putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own？ If you answered yes to any of these questions， you need to establish some boundaries。
Since launching the mega-bestselling wellness program the Whole30， Melissa Urban has taught millions of people how to establish healthy habits and successfully navigate pushback and peer pressure。 She knows firsthand that boundaries—clear limits you establish to protect your energy， time， and health—are all that stand between you and feelings of security， confidence， and freedom。
Now， in The Book of Boundaries， she shows you how boundaries are the key to better mental health， increased energy， improved productivity， and more fulfilling relationships。
In her famously direct and compassionate style， Urban offers:
• 130+ scripts with language you can use to instantly establish boundaries with bosses and co-workers， romantic partners， parents and in-laws， co-parents， friends， family， neighbors， strangers—and yourself
• actionable advice to help you communicate your needs with clarity and compassion
• tips for successfully navigating boundary guilt， pushback， pressure， and oversteps
• techniques to create healthy habits around food， drink， technology， and more
User-friendly and approachable， The Book of Boundaries will give you the tools you need to stop justifying， minimizing， and apologizing， leading you to more rewarding relationships and a life that feels bigger， healthier， and freer。
Reviews
Trish McCourt
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I recently had a Net Galley reading of the Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban。Like "It starts with Food" Melissa has written an easy-to-read practical guide。I really appreciate the sample scripts that make it easy to visualize how to use boundaries in different contexts。Even better I love that Melissa has included qualifiers for when setting a boundary might not be appropriate。 ie。 in the case of a friend bailing frequently - when they may - in fact be experiencing some difficulties like depres I recently had a Net Galley reading of the Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban。Like "It starts with Food" Melissa has written an easy-to-read practical guide。I really appreciate the sample scripts that make it easy to visualize how to use boundaries in different contexts。Even better I love that Melissa has included qualifiers for when setting a boundary might not be appropriate。 ie。 in the case of a friend bailing frequently - when they may - in fact be experiencing some difficulties like depression or some physical health challenges。 I personally live with chronic pain and do find myself either cancelling or not making firm commitments to plans because of the uncertainty of how I'd be feeling。 I really appreciate that when I use my clear and kind boundaries about staying home that my friends understand and still extend invitations again the next time。Or how someone not respecting your boundaries could be red flags （i。e。 in intimate relationships）。This book is a great tool for people who have difficulty establishing healthy boundaries in a variety of settings。 。。。more
Conrade Yap
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Some of the most catchy statements about limits and boundaries come from commercials。 One warns about driving under intoxication: "If you drink， don't drive。 If you drive， don't drink。" Another cautions us about the dangers of gambling: "Know your limits。 Stay within it。" If we look beyond these two social ills， we soon realize that limits apply to a broader sphere of life。 That includes our personal and social boundaries。 What are boundaries？ How do we create healthy boundaries？ Why do we need Some of the most catchy statements about limits and boundaries come from commercials。 One warns about driving under intoxication: "If you drink， don't drive。 If you drive， don't drink。" Another cautions us about the dangers of gambling: "Know your limits。 Stay within it。" If we look beyond these two social ills， we soon realize that limits apply to a broader sphere of life。 That includes our personal and social boundaries。 What are boundaries？ How do we create healthy boundaries？ Why do we need boundaries in the first place？ What are the benefits of establishing boundaries？ Author Melissa Urban is popularly known as the "boundary lady on Instagram。" she shares how she boldly draws boundaries by expressing no to business proposals; limiting any interference on her parenting styles; telling friends where are the no-go zones; and even learning to be assertive with one's spouse。 These are just examples of how boundaries can help us and others know， respect， and appreciate why we set boundaries。 Healthy engagement needs healthy boundaries。 Such boundaries are not there to control people's involvement but to communicate expectations。 This is important lest people misunderstand the purpose。 Before the author launches into the book， she shares her story of how boundaries saved her。 Soon she discovers that it not only sets proper limits in her relationships， she feels free to thrive and help others thrive。 Her "crash course" on boundaries simply consists of identifying the need， setting up boundary language， and enforcing it。 The steps are clear but what is more challenging is the emotional discomfort that some people might have。 This is because setting boundaries might become misconstrued as rude。 Once the rationale for boundary setting is understood， readers will learn about:- Using colours to designate different kinds of boundaries- Principle of minimum dose for maximum effect- Setting boundaries in the workplace， professional boundaries， and dealing with ethical dilemmas- Setting boundaries with extended family members- Setting boundaries with neighbours， friends， romance， co-parents， and others- Learning to state expectations upfront when dealing with food， alcohol， table talk， and other sensitive subjects- and many more。My Thoughts==============This book's title essentially summarizes the essence of the author's message。 Urban has made a strong case by telling her stories， the background behind her convictions， and the critical need for more boundaries in society。 It is her firm belief that setting boundaries are the way to go。 I believe she has a strong point， especially in the area of relationships。 Whether we are meeting people we know， acquaintances， or strangers， it is always good to have a plan on how to engage as well as how to disengage。 I believe that boundaries are not only beneficial for relationships， they can help us grow deeper without feeling uncertain or weird。 I like the point that the author distinguishes， that boundaries are not about controlling but communicating。 When stating a boundary， we are communicating an expectation。 Of course， in any relationship， for example with friends， boundaries are best established together with the other party。 One can state the boundary but the other party must be free to negotiate， accept， or reject。 The best outcome would be from the former two。 Handling it incorrectly might be detrimental to the relationship。 Urban guides us with many examples。The concept of boundaries is nothing new。 I remember in the late 90s， there was a popular book entitled "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend。 One of the words used in that book is about "control。" That kind of language might be acceptable two decades ago。 In contemporary times， the preferred word is "communicate" as "control" has negative connotations for now。 Perhaps， the author has subtly pushed back against the use of that word in that Cloud/Townsend's book。 For me， both are essentially pointing out the same thing: Healthy boundaries are essential for relationships。Let me add a final observation。 This is about cultural differences。 The methods of setting boundaries are more acceptable in Western-educated societies。 In some other cultures， it might take a long while to gain social acceptance。 In fact， in some cultures where elderly respect is expected， setting boundaries like that would be deemed disrespectful。 There are also others societies that are patriarchal or lack the kinds of human rights freely practiced in the West。 What I would suggest is for readers from such other cultures to remember the concepts first and to take baby steps in learning how to implement them。 Overall， I think this book is a gem in growing relationships。 Highly recommended。Melissa Urban is CEO of Whole30 and an authority on helping people create lifelong healthy habits。 She is a six-time New York Times bestselling author （including the #1 bestseller The Whole30）; and has been featured by Dr。 Oz， Good Morning America， The New York Times， The Wall Street Journal， and CNBC。 She lives with her husband， son， and a poodle named Henry in Salt Lake City， Utah。Rating: 4。5 stars of 5。conradeThis book has been provided courtesy of Penguin Random House and NetGalley without requiring a positive review。 All opinions offered above are mine unless otherwise stated or implied。 。。。more
April
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I’m a sucker for books on boundaries but many of them feel quite canned and cookie cutter。 This book took me by surprise！ It was relevant and engaging。 And while not every topic discussed was applicable to me there were many usable details within。 Highly recommend reading！ Thanks to NetGalley for sending me the ARC in exchange for an honest review！
Michelle Cornish
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If you're looking for a book that will teach you how to establish healthy boundaries in your life， then look no further than The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban。 This book is packed with useful information on how to set boundaries with family， friends， co-workers， and even yourself。 The scripts for instantly establishing boundaries are amazing and cover practically every imaginable situation。 If you don't know what to say to set a boundary， Melissa has you covered。 You'll also find actionabl If you're looking for a book that will teach you how to establish healthy boundaries in your life， then look no further than The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban。 This book is packed with useful information on how to set boundaries with family， friends， co-workers， and even yourself。 The scripts for instantly establishing boundaries are amazing and cover practically every imaginable situation。 If you don't know what to say to set a boundary， Melissa has you covered。 You'll also find actionable advice on how to communicate your needs with clarity and compassion and learn tips for successfully navigating boundary guilt， pushback， pressure， and oversteps。 The Book of Boundaries is an essential guide for anyone who wants to create healthy habits and achieve more fulfilling relationships。 。。。more
Gail Williamson
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