Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too
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- Create Date：2022-10-11 06:57:17
- Update Date：2025-09-06
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- Author：Adele Faber
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Summary
Already best-selling authors with How to Talk So Kids Will Listen Listen So Kids Will Talk， Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish turned their minds to the battle of the siblings。 Parents themselves， they were determined to figure out how to help their children get along。 The result was Siblings Without Rivalry。 This wise， groundbreaking book gives parents the practical tools they need to cope with conflict， encourage cooperation， reduce competition， and make it possible for children to experience the joys of their special relationship。 With humor and understanding—much gained from raising their own children—Faber and Mazlish explain how and when to intervene in fights， provide suggestions on how to help children channel their hostility into creative outlets， and demonstrate how to treat children unequally and still be fair。 Updated to incorporate fresh thoughts after years of conducting workshops for parents and professionals， this edition also includes a new afterword。
Reviews
Vita Byrd
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Definitely a book I must re-read when our family grows。
Lokum Çocuk Kutuphanesi
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Ebeveyn kitaplarını okumak çok sıkıcı！
Kaitlyn
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Starting to show its age， but still had some good tips
Mor
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So grateful for this book。 Didn't love the style in which it was written， but the content was so good and helpful that I'm giving it 4 stars anyway。 A must read for parents of more than 1 kiddo。 So grateful for this book。 Didn't love the style in which it was written， but the content was so good and helpful that I'm giving it 4 stars anyway。 A must read for parents of more than 1 kiddo。 。。。more
Megan
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Good general ideas but felt outdated。 I didn’t like the format。
Chloe Wick
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“Our children are grown， our parents are gone。 We remain; my brother， my sister， myself”
Meredith Billingslea
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Worth the read for the parts I found helpful！ I do not recommend the audio， because there are many case scenarios in which the narrator uses a spot-on voice for whining and fighting children。
Joanna
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3。5 stars。 Good and practical advice。 Felt a little further along than the parents featured in workshop in the book， so it wasn't quite as revelatory as it might've otherwise been。 That probably just goes to show that the authors' thesis has already permeated my parenting circles， in a good way。 3。5 stars。 Good and practical advice。 Felt a little further along than the parents featured in workshop in the book， so it wasn't quite as revelatory as it might've otherwise been。 That probably just goes to show that the authors' thesis has already permeated my parenting circles， in a good way。 。。。more
Mallory Joyce
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Practical advice that works。 A quick read with lots of examples and anecdotes - some might find that tedious but I like to learn through story。 I already see how this has helped my own children's relationships！ Will want to revisit as they grow， I'm sure。 Practical advice that works。 A quick read with lots of examples and anecdotes - some might find that tedious but I like to learn through story。 I already see how this has helped my own children's relationships！ Will want to revisit as they grow， I'm sure。 。。。more
Mahsa Mohammadi
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لینک دریافت کتاب از طاقچهhttps://taaghche。com/book/91700/%D8%B。。。یک کتاب بسیار کاربردی برای والدین。 کلی مثال و تمرین داره و با زبانی روان توضیح میده。یادمون باشه ما با مهارت والدگری به دنیا نمیایم。 باید اموزش ببینیم، یاد بگیریم。این کتاب فوق‌العاده‌است لینک دریافت کتاب از طاقچهhttps://taaghche。com/book/91700/%D8%B。。。یک کتاب بسیار کاربردی برای والدین。 کلی مثال و تمرین داره و با زبانی روان توضیح میده。یادمون باشه ما با مهارت والدگری به دنیا نمیایم。 باید اموزش ببینیم، یاد بگیریم。این کتاب فوق‌العاده‌است 。。。more
Alli Wilson
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I’m not a big fan of the group therapy session writing format， but I can understand why they did it。 The tips in it seem great though！ Highly recommend for that。
Sarah Buckleitner
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Fantastic resource for folks with multiple kids。 The changes we've made have helped smooth the way for a healthy relationship between our kiddos。 I'm glad we read it while our youngest was still small， so that we can create a healthy foundation for them。 Fantastic resource for folks with multiple kids。 The changes we've made have helped smooth the way for a healthy relationship between our kiddos。 I'm glad we read it while our youngest was still small， so that we can create a healthy foundation for them。 。。。more
Rachel Tuuk
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I really enjoyed the content of this book and the practical tips and examples given。 I took one star off because the “group discussion” format of each chapter felt stilted and forced。 I know the two authors were doing their best to consolidate all of their combined research into a digestible read， but it got pretty old pretty fast。 Also， I thought it was interesting to note that nearly every single example given in the book （and there are MANY） involved families with just two kids。 Where are all I really enjoyed the content of this book and the practical tips and examples given。 I took one star off because the “group discussion” format of each chapter felt stilted and forced。 I know the two authors were doing their best to consolidate all of their combined research into a digestible read， but it got pretty old pretty fast。 Also， I thought it was interesting to note that nearly every single example given in the book （and there are MANY） involved families with just two kids。 Where are all their examples of people with four or five kids？ Non-existent in the book at least！ So maybe the solution is just to have more than two kids？ Halfway joking， halfway serious！ ;） 。。。more
Bri
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So the dialogue/pseudo-fictional group discussion format was not my favorite， but it did make me slow down and think about the anecdotes in a more personal way， vs。 a more structured format with simpler takeaways。 The overall vibe here is a bit hippie， but there is some valuable stuff about how to make children feel seen， validate their feelings without letting go of boundaries， etc。 Aside from the importance of compassion， the overall lesson I took from reading this was to not be rigid， whether So the dialogue/pseudo-fictional group discussion format was not my favorite， but it did make me slow down and think about the anecdotes in a more personal way， vs。 a more structured format with simpler takeaways。 The overall vibe here is a bit hippie， but there is some valuable stuff about how to make children feel seen， validate their feelings without letting go of boundaries， etc。 Aside from the importance of compassion， the overall lesson I took from reading this was to not be rigid， whether that's in the roles assigned to kids （"the good one"， "the bad one"） or the kinds of expectations we have for their relationships。 Instead focus on relationship skill building; these skills will be useful to children throughout their lives， whether they are close with their siblings or not。 Thinking of sibling relationships as a laboratory/gym for building those skills is helpful framing for me。 。。。more
Noriney Muela
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Great book。 Definetly a must read for parents and a re read for life。
Amber
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Another great parenting book， one I had added to my list based on a reference from another book I liked （Smart But Scattered， I think？ Who knows）。 Anyway， needless to say this one is specific to how to parent siblings， and I think very helpful--basically， encouraging the kids to work out their problems with each other， provided no one is in danger。 It's been a couple months now since I read this book， and I do think it's already helping。。。now when my youngest is upset with one of her sisters she Another great parenting book， one I had added to my list based on a reference from another book I liked （Smart But Scattered， I think？ Who knows）。 Anyway， needless to say this one is specific to how to parent siblings， and I think very helpful--basically， encouraging the kids to work out their problems with each other， provided no one is in danger。 It's been a couple months now since I read this book， and I do think it's already helping。。。now when my youngest is upset with one of her sisters she'll come to me and pre-emptively say "And I don't have any ideas！" 。。。more
Cathy
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I skip read this but nice message… I’m wondering if it’s a little too high- level and not deep or thorough enough… but still an interesting read
Summer H
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This book has been like an oasis in the desert of sibling conflict。 I often tire of parenting books because they tend to be a lot of information without much practical application and I end up feeling like I wasted my time and forgot everything I read。 This book is full of real-life examples with multiple solutions to fit various family dynamics。 The solutions offered do require practice， but are tried and true and I’m so grateful for this book！
Angie Cossette
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Outdated and not a whole lot of true， helpful advice。 Feel like the author assigns a lot of blame on parents。 Too many examples of sibling conflicts and no real solutions to resolving it。 Waste of time and money。
Kristin Knisley
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I felt this book was really forced。 The anecdotes were distracting and made the messages unclear。 The book would be much more helpful if it focused only around the “Quick reminder” tables。 That was where the author accomplished what she set out to do， and the rest is feels like fluff to fill out the pages。
weronika
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that's where my all psychology fascinations came from lolalso great book to help your kids get along （ if u don't have them， it also works on other ppl） ;） that's where my all psychology fascinations came from lolalso great book to help your kids get along （ if u don't have them， it also works on other ppl） ;） 。。。more
Meg
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I lost this book for 4 months and didn't miss it。 It's more for parents of school-age children but I did learn some things that I will keep in mind during my parenting ✨journey✨。 The format of this book relies heavily on semi-fictional conversations between the authors and a group of well-spoken parents， plus 1980s-looking cartoon strips。 This style is annoying but also weirdly effective for teaching concepts。 I lost this book for 4 months and didn't miss it。 It's more for parents of school-age children but I did learn some things that I will keep in mind during my parenting ✨journey✨。 The format of this book relies heavily on semi-fictional conversations between the authors and a group of well-spoken parents， plus 1980s-looking cartoon strips。 This style is annoying but also weirdly effective for teaching concepts。 。。。more
Sarah
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Super helpful advice for having 2+ kids！ I would totally recommend it。
Jaime Counce
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Written from the perspective of a workshop。 It reads like you’re having a conversation with someone- gives great examples to implement with kids。
Sarah
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Great ideas， much too long。 The comics that show the main points are all you need。
Emily
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Mist hier en daar de nuance en achtergrond informatie， maar bevat veel praktische tips die （tot mijn verbazing） echt blijken te werken。 Met name hoofdstuk 6 over Conflicthantering is een dikke aanrader。
Terka Juchelková
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Jako jedináček， který momentálně čeká druhého potomka jsem byla docela vyděšená， co všechno se mezi sourozenci děje。 :DKniha je imaginárním záznamem skupinového sezení s příklady z praxe， pohledem rodičů， návodům jak to zkusit jinak/lépe。 Některé situace jsou znázorněny pomocí komiksů a na konci každé kapitoly je stručné shrnutí。Celkově je přístup typicky respektující a kontaktní。 Řekla bych， že se dá zobecnit na všechny vztahy， ne jen na ty sourozenecké。Hlavní myšlenky， které si odnáším:- Děti Jako jedináček， který momentálně čeká druhého potomka jsem byla docela vyděšená， co všechno se mezi sourozenci děje。 :DKniha je imaginárním záznamem skupinového sezení s příklady z praxe， pohledem rodičů， návodům jak to zkusit jinak/lépe。 Některé situace jsou znázorněny pomocí komiksů a na konci každé kapitoly je stručné shrnutí。Celkově je přístup typicky respektující a kontaktní。 Řekla bych， že se dá zobecnit na všechny vztahy， ne jen na ty sourozenecké。Hlavní myšlenky， které si odnáším:- Děti potřebují prostor pro vyslechnutí i negativních emocí， ale nesmí si ubližovat。- Nesrovnávat- Neškatulkovat- Nemusí mít všichni stejněPříběhy byly ze začátku osvěžující a milé， ke konci jsem jich už ale měla plné zuby。 Poslední stránky pak byly jak z americké romantické komedie， kdy pár sezení v této skupině napravilo všechny životní křivdy a vneslo nové světlo do vztahů všech zúčastněných。 Komiksy mi přišly zbytečné， pro mě nepřehledné。 Ocenila bych více rozepsanou problematiku žalování。 Úplně se mi nezdá že pro děti různého věku by bylo nejlepší， aby spolu byly co nejméně。 。。。more
Matus Horvath
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as our family is getting bigger I need to educate myself 🙂 nice lessons and approaches， although I already stumbled on a much better book on this topic - stay tuned。。。， still it's a nice read for every 2+ parent 🙂 as our family is getting bigger I need to educate myself 🙂 nice lessons and approaches， although I already stumbled on a much better book on this topic - stay tuned。。。， still it's a nice read for every 2+ parent 🙂 。。。more
Sherry
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I really liked this book。 Although it doesn’t present new information it’s very eye opening and a great way to recenter yourself as a parent。 It’s very motivating。 I feel it’d be much easier with smaller kids rather than teenagers but nonetheless good information。 Easy read。 Love the examples。 Their other books use comic strip like examples， this I listened on audiobook but I’d imagine it’d be the same。
Chiara Gambardella
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