This is a gentle， compassionate book to guide adults in having hard conversations with children about death and the loss and grief we experience in its wake。 It offers specific， practical advice on talking about death in the many ways it touches families: by terminal illness， by accident， by suicide， by miscarriage or still birth。 Death in the media gets its own chapter， a timely inclusion as mass shootings and natural disasters fill our news。 The authors answer questions like “Should a child at This is a gentle， compassionate book to guide adults in having hard conversations with children about death and the loss and grief we experience in its wake。 It offers specific， practical advice on talking about death in the many ways it touches families: by terminal illness， by accident， by suicide， by miscarriage or still birth。 Death in the media gets its own chapter， a timely inclusion as mass shootings and natural disasters fill our news。 The authors answer questions like “Should a child attend a funeral？” （yes， but planning is needed） and “Should a child be told about an impending death？” （also yes）。 The authors stress the importance of grownups working through their own feelings before talking to children， and of helping children name their feelings because “What’s mentionable is manageable。”I especially liked the suggested scripts for talks with children and appreciated the overall message of hope that parents and children can move forward by incorporating the loss into their life story。 Talking to children about death is not one conversation， so this is a book you can turn to again and again as children grow and change。 There’s an extensive resource list of organizations， books， and coping techniques （meditation， breathing exercises）。 Highly recommended for home and school libraries。 。。。more