Listen: How to Find the Words for Tender Conversations
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- Author：Kathryn Mannix
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C
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Emotional and real。 A lot learned from this book and it's relevance to the here and now is impeccable。 Emotional and real。 A lot learned from this book and it's relevance to the here and now is impeccable。 。。。more
Nicola Reed
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A good grounding on how to listen well。
Amanda
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Nice easy read。 5/10。 Wouldn't read again。 Expected more。 Nice easy read。 5/10。 Wouldn't read again。 Expected more。 。。。more
Kayla
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One of the most remarkable nonfiction books I’ve read。
Ella Mootz
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Fantastic read… made me feel very human and drawn to empathy in so many ways… definitely going to re read this book over and over again
Benjamin G Delve
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The advice provided by Kathryn Mannix in 'Listen' is spot on and is a worthy read for everyone - as each of us in life will have experiences where we can listen more。 However， I can only bring myself to give the book 2 stars。 Despite the quality of the advice， and Kathryn's undeniable experience， I had to force myself to wade through large portions of the book and narrowly avoided a DNF。 Kathryn Mannix provides a caveat at the outset of the book as follows: "throughout this book I have used stor The advice provided by Kathryn Mannix in 'Listen' is spot on and is a worthy read for everyone - as each of us in life will have experiences where we can listen more。 However， I can only bring myself to give the book 2 stars。 Despite the quality of the advice， and Kathryn's undeniable experience， I had to force myself to wade through large portions of the book and narrowly avoided a DNF。 Kathryn Mannix provides a caveat at the outset of the book as follows: "throughout this book I have used stories to illustrate principles of communication。 Some of them are my own experiences， some are other people's that the have discussed with e and some are fictional representations of common human experiences。。。all are here simply to provide examples for readers to reflect on。。。"。 Therein lies the issues。 Those stories shared from her personal experience are insightful and genuine and worthwhile reading。 However， there is nothing to distinguish those stories shared by others - particularly those experiences she created as a fiction。 I am overly sceptic of poetic narrative in stories shared from others; Kathryn Mannix shared information that it would be impossible for her to know， or that it was improbable was shared in the original telling。 The net result; I presumed that all stories that were not from her personal experience were works of fiction or， relied so heavily on fictional elements that it became impossible to trust/rely on the source and， therefore， the message。 This also had the effect of decreasing my trust in the personal experiences shared; often the outcomes were so perfect that I was left feeling - 'how much of this has been fictionalised to emphasise the point she seeks to illustrate？'In brief， the advice and guidance provided by Kathryn Mannix is absolutely 'on point'; unfortunately， I was wholly unable to trust the experiences she used to illustrate/highlight her arguments and， as such， they wholly spoiled what was otherwise a worthwhile read。 。。。more
Daniela
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A great guide to having the conversations that matter。
Izzy Vogel
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This was a wonderful audio book to listen to。 The anekdotes were very insightful and interesting。 They provided a glimpse into the medical world， something I do not know anything about。 This book also peaked my interest in mediation。 I might look into it more from now on！ I will definitely pick up the other book from this author， which is about death and grief！
Esther*
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This book is absolutely phenomenal。 I would recommend it to anyone in any role， from pastoral to medical to parenting to being a good friend。 I loved reading Crucial Conversations （by Kerry Patterson） a few years ago which talked about the practicalities of communicating well so people understand each other and can work well together。 This one is just as brilliant， and focuses more simply on humanity。 How do we break the worst kind of news to someone？ How do we sit alongside someone who’s going This book is absolutely phenomenal。 I would recommend it to anyone in any role， from pastoral to medical to parenting to being a good friend。 I loved reading Crucial Conversations （by Kerry Patterson） a few years ago which talked about the practicalities of communicating well so people understand each other and can work well together。 This one is just as brilliant， and focuses more simply on humanity。 How do we break the worst kind of news to someone？ How do we sit alongside someone who’s going through some tough stuff？ How do we encourage our friends and family members to talk about the things that really matter without trying to fix or coerce or diminish what they’re experiencing in that moment？ Getting communication right makes the difference that can make people feel heard， to understand themselves better and to encourage positive change for the future。 It helped me to make so much sense of why I am drawn to certain types of people and can be both vulnerable and built up in their presence， while I automatically shut down in front of others。 It gave some great vocabulary for patterns of communication I’ve seen over the years。 I will definitely be coming back to this book again and again to improve my listening skills and remember how to exercise genuine empathy for other people。 。。。more
Cynthia
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Kathryn Mannix is my favorite author when it comes to health care but her books are so much more。 As a hospice nurse， I have learned so much from this book and am recommending it to everyone， everywhere。 So so so good。
Mar Morrow
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Such a great book for people who want to 'be there' for anyone going through 'suffering'。 From a breakup， divorce， friend turning their back on you， to dealing with death of yourself or loved one and grief。 Tips and stories for all tender conversations Such a great book for people who want to 'be there' for anyone going through 'suffering'。 From a breakup， divorce， friend turning their back on you， to dealing with death of yourself or loved one and grief。 Tips and stories for all tender conversations 。。。more
Kelly
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Although this book is called Listen it had a strong thread to coaching throughout。 In my quest to become better at listening I’ve gained lots of knowledge tips and hints to become better at listening through self development from this book。I enjoyed the storytelling throughout the book to bring examples to life。This is a book I will constantly refer back to and will recommend to friends and colleagues interested in the subject。Very engaging throughout。
Max White
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There’s a lot to love in this book。 We often pass on difficult conversation or approach them in unhelpful ways。 This book is true to its title and does provide a great framework to combat that。 Sadly for me it felt like each paragraph started with a short and often profound point which was then explained with a lengthy and often unnecessary story。I got stuff from it， but I also got bored of it。 Maybe it’s my age and short attention span， who knows…
Giv
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This book is simply life-changing。 It touches on a seemingly common-sense topic of listening but it’s a virtue that today’s society seems be lacking。 I love how it is so easy to read as she shared anecdotes of her work as a doctor and how she uses the power of listening to make a few seconds of conversations count。 Highly recommend this book！
Deborah Watring-Ellis
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I first heard about this book in a CBC podcast and was immediately drawn in with the specific examples of tender conversations。 I work with peer support programs and reading this book is like taking a masterclass on how to support others。 I'm working on my third time through！ I first heard about this book in a CBC podcast and was immediately drawn in with the specific examples of tender conversations。 I work with peer support programs and reading this book is like taking a masterclass on how to support others。 I'm working on my third time through！ 。。。more
Sharon Wallace
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I loved the practical advice in this book。 Very useful for improving listening skills and how to have challenging conversations when emotions are high。The use of different stories helps to reinforce the messages and advice。Recommended reading for improving difficult conversations。Thanks to Netgalley for allowing me to read this book in return for a fair review。4 Stars ⭐️
Zareen
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Excellent， it is clear， very readable。The main themes are connection， compassion & care which are extensively explored within the context of loss， bereavement， grief， & end of life situations in which people can find themselves。 I enjoyed reading Kathryn Mannix’s case studies & she has obviously thoroughly researched her topic。 She carefully details the Listening skills providing a framework for difficult and ‘tender’ conversations。I have already recommended it to to a number of people as a book Excellent， it is clear， very readable。The main themes are connection， compassion & care which are extensively explored within the context of loss， bereavement， grief， & end of life situations in which people can find themselves。 I enjoyed reading Kathryn Mannix’s case studies & she has obviously thoroughly researched her topic。 She carefully details the Listening skills providing a framework for difficult and ‘tender’ conversations。I have already recommended it to to a number of people as a book well worth reading。 。。。more
Kamilla
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Alveg frábær。 Vá hvað ég lærði margt nýtt og gagnlegt varðandi samskipti og þá sérstaklega hvernig á að eiga erfið samtöl og vera til staðar， bæði faglega sem verðandi læknir og fyrir sína nánustu， þegar lífið er erfitt。 Mæli heilshugar með fyrir alla。
Jasmine Nguyen
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3。5 tbh but we rounded up！Nothing groundbreaking， but a very nice refresher on a lot of important components of active listening and managing conflict :0
lina
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powerful
Lara Green
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An inportant book in our fragile society on how to hold tender conversations。
Andrew Scott
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This is a wonderful， wise and compassionate book; written by a doctor， a pioneer of palliative medicine who uses both sound theory and her huge range of experience to inform her。 It is not only very well informed， but also very well written， with anecdotes or case studies that graphically - and often emotionally - illustrate every point。 Highly recommended。
Maggie Walsh
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Listen is subtitled How To Find The Words For Tender Conversations and that's exactly what this is。 A guide on how to have conversations that cover difficult subject matter in a way that supports all involved。 Kathryn Mannix has a wealth of experience in having those conversations and gives plenty of practical examples in how to broach， navigate and end these types of topics。 I personally found this to be a really useful guide which I will use in my own life and work。 Listen is subtitled How To Find The Words For Tender Conversations and that's exactly what this is。 A guide on how to have conversations that cover difficult subject matter in a way that supports all involved。 Kathryn Mannix has a wealth of experience in having those conversations and gives plenty of practical examples in how to broach， navigate and end these types of topics。 I personally found this to be a really useful guide which I will use in my own life and work。 。。。more
Fern Adams
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I finished this book at the start of the week and have taken a few days to start really digesting it。 I am sure， even though it is only March， this is going to be one of the stand out books of the year for me。It is often really difficult to have ‘difficult’ （what Mannix beautifully terms ‘tender’） conversations。 I think we all naturally want to be fixers so we often try to reassure the other person or say things that are far from helpful， leaving the other person feel unheard and often finding t I finished this book at the start of the week and have taken a few days to start really digesting it。 I am sure， even though it is only March， this is going to be one of the stand out books of the year for me。It is often really difficult to have ‘difficult’ （what Mannix beautifully terms ‘tender’） conversations。 I think we all naturally want to be fixers so we often try to reassure the other person or say things that are far from helpful， leaving the other person feel unheard and often finding the situation they are in even more challenging。 Mannix writes about the lost art of listening。 How silence is not necessarily a bad thing and how to really hear what the other person is saying。 Her book comes out at a very important time as so many have had to face ideas of mortality with the pandemic， when there are many more unwell people right now and when increasingly people are struggling with their mental health。 The book is told mostly through a series of case studies that range from conversations with relatives， patients， friends and strangers too。 What I loved about the examples shown and Mannix illustrations is the importance of letting the speaker explore their own options and keep their own autonomy。 Sometimes asking questions is far more beneficial than offering solutions （which in likelihood the other person has already thought of）。 While I am not a medic， I found this book very helpful for conversations in my own everyday life。 It’s made me more mindful of the other person and how to listen better。 I think this book really should be read by everyone。 Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for sending me an ARC in exchange for an honest review。 。。。more
Lilithcarter
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I received the ARC of this book from Netgally in exchange for an honest review It’s the first book of this kind that I’ve ever read but I picked it up as I’m trying to be a more supportive partner as his mum’s was diagnosed with dementia she’s in early stages but I find difficult talking to her， mostly because I don’t want to cause her anymore stress。 she loves the drama and take other people problems as if they were hers to sort out and the feel of being in control of herself as well as the and I received the ARC of this book from Netgally in exchange for an honest review It’s the first book of this kind that I’ve ever read but I picked it up as I’m trying to be a more supportive partner as his mum’s was diagnosed with dementia she’s in early stages but I find difficult talking to her， mostly because I don’t want to cause her anymore stress。 she loves the drama and take other people problems as if they were hers to sort out and the feel of being in control of herself as well as the and she loves being the centre of attention and conversations This book was what I needed and it had change my life。 It had change how I see our current family situation。 It will need a re-read to refresh what I’ve learnt。 The writing style is impecable。 I like how she gave us loads of examples weaved into heart breaking stories the put everything talked about into perspective。 One of the most interesting concepts of the book is when they talk about the power of language and the reality of using the right words when talking to someone about “bad news” swapping “difficult/ challenging conversions” to “tender conversations” makes so much sense。 I particularly enjoy the section about the overwhelming number of families that needed to be handle with during the beginning of covid pandemic， with out the proper space and face to face help or being covered on PPE plus the lack of staff and the people available were so tired overworked and perhaps not prepared emotionally and physically to be able to do their jobs as their usual standard。 I can’t imagine how was like for all the NHS workers。 Other section of the book that stood out to me was the practical part， where the medical side has done their immediate bit， once you have go back home on your own and have to deal with practicalities of life such as dealing with banks， insurance companies bills， the constant reminder of the loss and how life goes back to normal for everyone but you the bereaved one。 There is loads of information through out the book and plenary of tips and reminders of kindness plus a very good list of help sites for you and your loved ones。 Needless to say I highly recommend this book 。。。more
Shona Edwards
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Reading this will be empowering for anyone who does care work in their job， their volunteering， or in hobbies， or even just to feel more in control of difficult moments when socialising。 I love Dr Mannix for her first book and this second one creates a beautiful pair。 Tenderness is a positive twist on what might otherwise be called difficult。
Rebecca
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More of a 3。5 than a 3。The author writes bravely from an non-perfectionist point making this a great book for anyone of any background。 There are good， real world examples as well as useful tips， phrases & other sources of practical information。 From my own experience of “difficult” conversations in healthcare， the scenarios presented by the author were clear cut & nothing goes “wrong” in them， except those used by the author to highlight her errors for us to learn from。 The conversations go fro More of a 3。5 than a 3。The author writes bravely from an non-perfectionist point making this a great book for anyone of any background。 There are good， real world examples as well as useful tips， phrases & other sources of practical information。 From my own experience of “difficult” conversations in healthcare， the scenarios presented by the author were clear cut & nothing goes “wrong” in them， except those used by the author to highlight her errors for us to learn from。 The conversations go from A to B as intended & seem a little robotic or led。 However this is a good starting point for people who feel nervous about small conversations around death， struggle & grief。 And important points are raised regarding places for conversations & the challenges posed by poor design。 。。。more
Honey
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One of those books most people will probably pass off as self-help they do not need， but actually essential reading for a lot of us。I really like how the author set the tone in her writing; it's with a kind voice that’s nurturing。 I've read a lot of similar books where I felt ideologies were being pushed rather than suggested， and that I was being talked at vs being talk to/with。 This book is sympathetic yet strong in its stance of encouragement。 I love how Dr Mannix included case studies that a One of those books most people will probably pass off as self-help they do not need， but actually essential reading for a lot of us。I really like how the author set the tone in her writing; it's with a kind voice that’s nurturing。 I've read a lot of similar books where I felt ideologies were being pushed rather than suggested， and that I was being talked at vs being talk to/with。 This book is sympathetic yet strong in its stance of encouragement。 I love how Dr Mannix included case studies that are relatable and accessible for people from all walks of life。 It harbours a sense of neighbouring and society。 But also， I’ve actually managed to get a lot of tips for when certain situations arise。 The last few chapters focusing on grief and bereavement were powerful especially with a nod to the times we live in in now。Highly recommended。 。。。more
Jorane Janssens
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"I know I am not alone in wanting to fix things: most people experience a natural， kind wish to make things better。 But sometimes things can’t be made better。 Some things can only be carried。 （。。。） We offer more consolation by holding a lost hand in a dark place than by shouting instructions from the safety of the light。" "I know I am not alone in wanting to fix things: most people experience a natural， kind wish to make things better。 But sometimes things can’t be made better。 Some things can only be carried。 （。。。） We offer more consolation by holding a lost hand in a dark place than by shouting instructions from the safety of the light。" 。。。more
Gemma Williams
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