No Means No!: Teaching Personal Boundaries, Consent; Empowering Children by Respecting Their Choices and Right to Say 'No!'
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- Create Date：2022-09-07 08:52:44
- Update Date：2025-09-06
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- Author：Jayneen Sanders
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Summary
'No Means No！' is a children's picture book about an empowered little girl who has a very strong and clear voice in all issues， especially those relating to her body and personal boundaries。 This book can be read to children from 3 to 9 years。 It is a springboard for discussions regarding children's choices and their rights。 The 'Note to the Reader' at the beginning of the book and the 'Discussion Questions' on the final pages， guide and enhance this essential discussion。 It is crucial that our children， from a very young age， are taught to have a clear， strong voice in regards to their rights - especially about their bodies。 In this way， they will have the confidence to speak up when they are unhappy or feel uncomfortable in any situation。 A strong， confident voice as a young child converts to a strong， confident pre-teen， teenager and adult。 With the prevalence today of online and offline bullying and various forms of abuse， such as physical， emotional and sexual abuse; our young people need to learn （from a young age） to always speak up when their rights are not being respected。 The aim of this book is to empower young children and to give them a voice so they can grow up into empowered adults。 When a child， teenager or adult says， 'No！' to any form of coercion， this should be immediately respected。 A world where 'No！' does actually mean 'No！' can be a world with far less violence and increased respect for humankind。 By educating our children to have true respect for one another， this world can be a much safer and more positive place。 Body Safety Education （aka sexual abuse prevention education） empowers girls and boys through knowledge， and teaches them they have the right to say， 'No' and to respect other's personal boundaries。 Both girls and boys need to learn to ask for consent and this can be taught from a very young age。 Some of the scenarios in this book are typical of approaches used by sexual abusers （sexual predators/molesters/pedophiles） when grooming children for sexual abuse。 Their aim is to desensitize the child to having their personal space violated and desensitize them to touch。 For more information on Body Safety Education and how to teach it to your child go to www。secrets。info
Reviews
Andrea Mastromatteo
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We read this one this year。 It's good， and I think I'll be trying again with it in a few years。 My child's take away seemed to be "You can't make me put on my swim clothes for class。 It's my body and no means no！" right before he hit me。 Oh well， try try again。 We read this one this year。 It's good， and I think I'll be trying again with it in a few years。 My child's take away seemed to be "You can't make me put on my swim clothes for class。 It's my body and no means no！" right before he hit me。 Oh well， try try again。 。。。more
Emily Bowers
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Teaches children that they can speak up and say no when things make them feel uncomfortable。 Even if they are related does not mean they are allowed to be in charge of a child body， speak up and say no！ Allows kids to understand that they can say no even to their parents when they do not feel comfortable。 great story to read with younger kids to teach them about boundariessummary: Teaches children about personal boundaries。 If you do not want to give a family member a hug or a kiss you can say n Teaches children that they can speak up and say no when things make them feel uncomfortable。 Even if they are related does not mean they are allowed to be in charge of a child body， speak up and say no！ Allows kids to understand that they can say no even to their parents when they do not feel comfortable。 great story to read with younger kids to teach them about boundariessummary: Teaches children about personal boundaries。 If you do not want to give a family member a hug or a kiss you can say no！ Teaches children that their bodies are their bodies and they are the boss of it！ Just because people are family does not mean they have full range over your body。 。。。more
Amy
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As another review stated， the whole book is roughly eleven sentences and half are "no means no"。The first example shows the main character pulling away from a kiss from her grandmother while everyone else is smiling。 She looks distressed。 After you turn to the next page the grandmother high fives her and it is okay。 If they were really trying to express consent they could have shown it where the girl was empowered before being forcefully held by her grandmother while her grandmother's lips are p As another review stated， the whole book is roughly eleven sentences and half are "no means no"。The first example shows the main character pulling away from a kiss from her grandmother while everyone else is smiling。 She looks distressed。 After you turn to the next page the grandmother high fives her and it is okay。 If they were really trying to express consent they could have shown it where the girl was empowered before being forcefully held by her grandmother while her grandmother's lips are puckered for a kiss。 There are plenty of books for young children about the topic of consent。 Skip this one。 。。。more
Paige Dan
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Consent
Alicia Mofford
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My daughter and I love this book。 She has picked it up for bedtime reading many times。 She also began using the words "no mean no" when she really wants me to understand that she means no。 My daughter and I love this book。 She has picked it up for bedtime reading many times。 She also began using the words "no mean no" when she really wants me to understand that she means no。 。。。more
Jared White
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Not my favorite book on this topic， I have mixed feelings about the pictures and some of the execution， but still pretty good。 I like that it features situations with primary caregivers， an aunt， a cousin， and a friend。 It has useful notes for caregivers in the front and discussion questions for caregivers to discuss with children in the back of the book。
kim
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eh， I feel like it needs more "grey area" coverage in there。 it does eventually touch on being more polite about saying no in certain situations like hugging grandma， but I wish there had been more detail throughout eh， I feel like it needs more "grey area" coverage in there。 it does eventually touch on being more polite about saying no in certain situations like hugging grandma， but I wish there had been more detail throughout 。。。more
Emilia Cabrera Fadina
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This is a very good book for young children。 It helps them grow and understand that no means no。 This book also helps children learn how to respect and appreciate others。
Kris
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Very straightforward book about bodily autonomy and consent。 It leaves a bit to be desired， as it doesn't really go into detail about how to react if someone does not respect your no， but there are some good pieces of info in the parent notes at the beginning and the end。 I liked that those notes pointed out that there are some scenarios where， for safety， the child will need to listen to trusted adults。 I guess if this book allows you to begin a conversation about these subjects with your child Very straightforward book about bodily autonomy and consent。 It leaves a bit to be desired， as it doesn't really go into detail about how to react if someone does not respect your no， but there are some good pieces of info in the parent notes at the beginning and the end。 I liked that those notes pointed out that there are some scenarios where， for safety， the child will need to listen to trusted adults。 I guess if this book allows you to begin a conversation about these subjects with your child， it is a good thing， but I think most parents who are already concerned with these issues will find this one unnecessary and simplistic。 。。。more
Rachel
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This is very straightforward and easy to understand。 I like how it provides alternate ideas for how to proceed in situations when a child might say no to something。 A very simple children’s book smack dab in the middle of a parenting manual。 It contains some good advice， but I question putting it all in one book vs。 having a children’s book and a separate supplement。
Janet
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I read this book to my son who is 15 months old knowing that it was too old for him， so I was surprised that he was actually captivated by the images。 I will definitely check it out when he's older。 I like that the book has simple images and words for the actual story， but provide many pages of questions that caregivers or parents can ask their children related to each picture。 It is really helpful to start other conversations with your little one。 I read this book to my son who is 15 months old knowing that it was too old for him， so I was surprised that he was actually captivated by the images。 I will definitely check it out when he's older。 I like that the book has simple images and words for the actual story， but provide many pages of questions that caregivers or parents can ask their children related to each picture。 It is really helpful to start other conversations with your little one。 。。。more
Kayla
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3。5 year old understood。 Spontaneously was able to use the vocabulary from the book the following week to talk about private parts in the correct context。
Katy
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A good book for kids near 3-5， I'd say。 Read it each year to refresh。 I did emphasize how she isn't allowed to yell no at me when I want to hold her hand crossing a street or parking lot。 Cause I can totally see her standing boldly and proclaiming "it's my body and what I say goes！ I want to walk alone。" And then get smashed by a car。 But overall well done and easy for young ones to get the message and practice sticking up for one's self。 A good book for kids near 3-5， I'd say。 Read it each year to refresh。 I did emphasize how she isn't allowed to yell no at me when I want to hold her hand crossing a street or parking lot。 Cause I can totally see her standing boldly and proclaiming "it's my body and what I say goes！ I want to walk alone。" And then get smashed by a car。 But overall well done and easy for young ones to get the message and practice sticking up for one's self。 。。。more
Jenna Mills
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Fantastic book and a must read for all kids with their carers。 Could do with being longer I thought。 My nearly 2 year old really took it all in。 Her brow was crumpled in thought and I could tell it resonated with her。 I had to explain that for health reasons this doesn't always work or her teeth would never get brushed！ A part about that type of thing would have been helpful。 Fantastic book and a must read for all kids with their carers。 Could do with being longer I thought。 My nearly 2 year old really took it all in。 Her brow was crumpled in thought and I could tell it resonated with her。 I had to explain that for health reasons this doesn't always work or her teeth would never get brushed！ A part about that type of thing would have been helpful。 。。。more
Briana
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This book was easy to follow， and breached the harder topics in a good way。 I think folks forget to teach kids this idea of boundaries and some kids suffer because of it。 Wish this book included ideas for kids if someone doesn't respect their no。 This book was easy to follow， and breached the harder topics in a good way。 I think folks forget to teach kids this idea of boundaries and some kids suffer because of it。 Wish this book included ideas for kids if someone doesn't respect their no。 。。。more
Alexandra Chauran
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Super straight-forward book。 No story line like in Miles is the Boss of His Body。 Super straight-forward book。 No story line like in Miles is the Boss of His Body。 。。。more
Lara
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The book is composed of 11 sentences （roughly）。 Half of those are "No means no！" To assist， let me walk you through some of the pages。 The first states if the child does not want to kiss grandma， she may say no。 Later in the book it says if the child doesn't want to play tickle fights， she may say no。There is no reason to check this book out， buy this book， look at this book。 There are eleven sentences。 The pictures don't help in any way。 I am confused as to why this book was published。 This is The book is composed of 11 sentences （roughly）。 Half of those are "No means no！" To assist， let me walk you through some of the pages。 The first states if the child does not want to kiss grandma， she may say no。 Later in the book it says if the child doesn't want to play tickle fights， she may say no。There is no reason to check this book out， buy this book， look at this book。 There are eleven sentences。 The pictures don't help in any way。 I am confused as to why this book was published。 This is an important topic and this book is an insult to the conversation。 。。。more
Megan
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Great book to teach children about body autonomy。 Offers alternate responses and reminds on every other page that no means no。 My daughter loves this book。
Anna
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