UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World
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- Author：Michele Borba
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Summary
Hailed as “an absolute must-read” （Jean Twenge） and a book that “will change your kids’ lives” （Jack Canfield）， UnSelfie by Dr。 Michele Borba explains what parents and educators MUST do to combat the growing empathy crisis among children today—including a 9-step empathy-building program with tips to guide kids from birth through college， and beyond。
Teens today are forty percent less empathetic than they were thirty years ago。 Why is a lack of empathy—which goes hand-in-hand with the self-absorption epidemic Dr。 Michele Borba calls the Selfie Syndrome—so dangerous？ First， it hurts kids’ academic performance and leads to bullying behaviors。 Also， it correlates with more cheating and less resilience。 And once children grow up， a lack of empathy hampers their ability to collaborate， innovate， and problem-solve—all must-have skills for the global economy。
In UnSelfie Dr。 Borba pinpoints the forces causing the empathy crisis and shares a revolutionary， researched-based， nine-step plan for reversing it。
The good news？ Empathy is a trait that can be taught and nurtured。 Dr。 Borba offers a framework for parenting that yields the results we all want: successful， happy kids who also are kind， moral， courageous， and resilient。 UnSelfie is a blueprint for parents and educators who want to kids shift their focus from I， me， and mine…to we， us， and ours。
Teens today are forty percent less empathetic than they were thirty years ago。 Why is a lack of empathy—which goes hand-in-hand with the self-absorption epidemic Dr。 Michele Borba calls the Selfie Syndrome—so dangerous？ First， it hurts kids’ academic performance and leads to bullying behaviors。 Also， it correlates with more cheating and less resilience。 And once children grow up， a lack of empathy hampers their ability to collaborate， innovate， and problem-solve—all must-have skills for the global economy。
In UnSelfie Dr。 Borba pinpoints the forces causing the empathy crisis and shares a revolutionary， researched-based， nine-step plan for reversing it。
The good news？ Empathy is a trait that can be taught and nurtured。 Dr。 Borba offers a framework for parenting that yields the results we all want: successful， happy kids who also are kind， moral， courageous， and resilient。 UnSelfie is a blueprint for parents and educators who want to kids shift their focus from I， me， and mine…to we， us， and ours。
Reviews
Ashley Kmieciak
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Amazing read。 Different perspective and fit in line with how I want and try to parent。 Great ideas and tips to help you get there and lots of facts and resources！
Kandace
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Really good ideas on helping kids realize there's people and a world around them that matter just as much as they do。 Really it comes down to being able to enable these mindsets and habits into your own life and have your kids come along。 Really good ideas on helping kids realize there's people and a world around them that matter just as much as they do。 Really it comes down to being able to enable these mindsets and habits into your own life and have your kids come along。 。。。more
Kendra
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The studies cited in this book should be required reading for every parent。 What our children， schools and society is missing is empathy。 It’s so important to learn how to instill in our kids。
Kimberly
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Lots of good reminders and pointers for parents and teachers。 I appreciate the studies and resources mentioned throughout this book。 The acronyms were a little over the top， but a good menu to pick and choose from。 Borba definitely points out the need for making empathy a priority in our increasingly self absorbed society。 Strongly recommend。
Jess
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A lot of this felt like common sense， but still some good strategies for teaching kids empathy。 Best chapter was the one about the importance of reading diverse literary fiction in creating emphatic people。
Michaela Thomas
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After hearing/seeing a ton of positive reviews， I expected this to be a great book。 Unfortunately， I found that it didn’t apply to what I needed it for。 However this would be a great resource for parents/guardians/educators of kids aged 2-12。
Laura Snyder
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This book was fantastic！ As a parent and a teacher I can honestly say this book has some great ideas！！
Elizabeth
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This is worth a read， or a library skim for all parents。 Much of it is common sense， but I had a few moments of significant introspection and learning。
Isaac
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It's hard to argue with the premise that kids will be more successful in life if they practice empathy。 Borba's many examples of kindness and empathy at work in the world are heartwarming and appealing。 We can certainly use more of it。 The strength of this book is the well-supported contention that empathy can be learned。The introductory material that contextualizes the need for empathy education in our "all-about-me world" is well said and not overdramatic。 What follows is a succinct and easy t It's hard to argue with the premise that kids will be more successful in life if they practice empathy。 Borba's many examples of kindness and empathy at work in the world are heartwarming and appealing。 We can certainly use more of it。 The strength of this book is the well-supported contention that empathy can be learned。The introductory material that contextualizes the need for empathy education in our "all-about-me world" is well said and not overdramatic。 What follows is a succinct and easy to follow discussion of nine skills related to empathy with helpful tips on how to teach them to children。 Each chapter concludes with a summary。 It's clear Borba is an experienced teacher。When presenting on effective discipline for developing empathy in children， Borba is aware of stepping on the toes of parents who utilize time-outs， spanking， etc。， but she acknowledges this， leans on research， and presents a positive case。 。。。more
Emily
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I was hoping for more science/psychology and fewer acronyms for parenting formulas。 I was also a little uncomfortable with some of the advice to have kids focus on thinking "how do I make other people feel" or "how can I make that person happy？" I'm all in favor of empathy， but I also know how unhealthy it can be for kids to feel like they're responsible for other people's feelings or that they always have to be people pleasers。 I guess I would have liked to see some discussion about boundaries I was hoping for more science/psychology and fewer acronyms for parenting formulas。 I was also a little uncomfortable with some of the advice to have kids focus on thinking "how do I make other people feel" or "how can I make that person happy？" I'm all in favor of empathy， but I also know how unhealthy it can be for kids to feel like they're responsible for other people's feelings or that they always have to be people pleasers。 I guess I would have liked to see some discussion about boundaries as well。 。。。more
The Literary Jedi
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This book works well if you're looking for a "how-to" style informational workbook。 It offers insights into how to teach children empathy both at home， and in public， and can translate into the classroom。I was at the end of the school year when I read this so I was unable to try some of the activities mentioned in the book， but I would like to go back and perhaps build some of them into my lessons for next year。 Some of the activities seem too young for a teen audience and even border on ridicul This book works well if you're looking for a "how-to" style informational workbook。 It offers insights into how to teach children empathy both at home， and in public， and can translate into the classroom。I was at the end of the school year when I read this so I was unable to try some of the activities mentioned in the book， but I would like to go back and perhaps build some of them into my lessons for next year。 Some of the activities seem too young for a teen audience and even border on ridiculous but there seems to be a method to the madness。 There are a few parts I would skip over and I don't think I would venture to have my entire class work through this book or even have an entire department let alone the school site work through it。 Once I've tried it out， I'll be able to better inform on how it models in the classroom and what benefits can be derived。 Simply reading the book has helped me to point out aspects from my classroom experience that would benefit me。The author even has discussion notes for parents and educators available for download on their website。This book looks at ways for children to learn and practice empathy in their lives which Borba （the author） feels is lacking。 The book begins by saying teens are 40% less empathetic than they used to be and continues to discuss potential reasons why; spoiler: social media plays a part， naturally。There will be some who will not like this book because it asks them to do uncomfortable emotional digging in themselves and then ask others to do the same but [hopefully] the result will be seeing more empathy in yourself and those who you teach。**All thoughts and opinions are my own。** 。。。more
Gail
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Empathy is missing in our Me culture of young people。 This book offers help for turning this around to benefit society， but also individuals kids。 Great book for parents and teachers。 Easy to read。
Yasmin
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Give children roles to perform that help them empathise （pets）。Positive modelling and guided questions to help them in different situations。 Help give them emotional regulation tools。
Jen
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3。5 rounded to 4， but that is only because I read this as a teacher。 （It is supposedly written for teachers and parents。） But as a high school teacher， it wasn’t necessarily stuff that I would be able to work into my upper level classes。 But， I think every parent should read this。 The info is clear and full of great ideas， and I think we all know we more empathy in this world。
Natalie
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Good， but very much a repeat of her other book
Kris Al
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It had a very textbook concept， after all， it is a guide。 The blurb and guide in shorts are at the back of the book。 Helps when you have other parents that practice the same values。
Ketekun Phanith
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[UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World - Michele Borba]Rating: 5。00/5。00Let's be frank here。 I wish I could have read this book when I was younger。 As an empathetic individual， I can relate to all the details listed in this book。 Besides this， I have obtained new insights on how I can enhance my empathy and teach my future children about the importance of this trait。 Another reason behind my love for Unselfie is that the author uses Cambodia as a reference numerous time [UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World - Michele Borba]Rating: 5。00/5。00Let's be frank here。 I wish I could have read this book when I was younger。 As an empathetic individual， I can relate to all the details listed in this book。 Besides this， I have obtained new insights on how I can enhance my empathy and teach my future children about the importance of this trait。 Another reason behind my love for Unselfie is that the author uses Cambodia as a reference numerous times。 This fact has allowed me to absorb all the knowledge comprehensively。I highly recommend everyone to read this book， especially young children and parents。 It is definitely worth that 5 out of 5 stars rating。#unselfie #micheleborba #bookreview #empathy 。。。more
Danielle
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This was excellent！ It wasn't too technical or clinical as to make it a slog。 It was well cited with research。 At each chapters end there were specific， practical ideas and practices to aid kids in learning the chapter contents。 There are a plethora of great ideas to help kids cultivate kindness， courage， compassion， empathy， etc。 This was excellent！ It wasn't too technical or clinical as to make it a slog。 It was well cited with research。 At each chapters end there were specific， practical ideas and practices to aid kids in learning the chapter contents。 There are a plethora of great ideas to help kids cultivate kindness， courage， compassion， empathy， etc。 。。。more
Lynsie
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This book was basically a listicle- 200+ pages with dozens of lists of ideas for parents and teachers to use when building empathy。 There were also a few good research studies cited per chapter that justified the suggestions on the lists。 I’ll use a few of the ideas in my social emotional wellness lessons， and I think a lot of parents would benefit from the suggestions as well。
Erin
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My children are older now， but I feel like several strategies are things I can continue to emphasize when we are together - we're never too old！ I did find myself quite sad as I read it， however， when it spoke so frequently about the importance of modeling empathetic， kind behaviors。 I don't think， as a society， we do this enough to have the impact we would hope for。 My children are older now， but I feel like several strategies are things I can continue to emphasize when we are together - we're never too old！ I did find myself quite sad as I read it， however， when it spoke so frequently about the importance of modeling empathetic， kind behaviors。 I don't think， as a society， we do this enough to have the impact we would hope for。 。。。more
Shannon
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Thought provoking。 Great for parents， educators， counselors， and school administrators。
Leah Beechy
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This is a good read for teachers， parents， and anyone who works with or has/plans to have children。 It outlines various ways to teach children empathy， especially in a society that is so focused on the 'self'。 Each of the 9 steps outlined in this book provide background information and actionable ways to teach individuals not only how， but also why， to be empathetic towards others。 TW/CW: suicide， bullying， gun violence， brief Harry Potter reference， gay slur This is a good read for teachers， parents， and anyone who works with or has/plans to have children。 It outlines various ways to teach children empathy， especially in a society that is so focused on the 'self'。 Each of the 9 steps outlined in this book provide background information and actionable ways to teach individuals not only how， but also why， to be empathetic towards others。 TW/CW: suicide， bullying， gun violence， brief Harry Potter reference， gay slur 。。。more
Samantha
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To preface this — I have a difficult time reading most self-help and parenting books， as it seems too close to “work” for me。 This could affect my rating and review。 I probably would have rated this one 2。5 stars but rounded up because of this。 I admit that I had high hopes for this one and finished feeling disappointed。 I teach empathy to my students all the time， and I left this book without really any new tools — much of the tips seemed pretty standard。 Perhaps this would be more beneficial f To preface this — I have a difficult time reading most self-help and parenting books， as it seems too close to “work” for me。 This could affect my rating and review。 I probably would have rated this one 2。5 stars but rounded up because of this。 I admit that I had high hopes for this one and finished feeling disappointed。 I teach empathy to my students all the time， and I left this book without really any new tools — much of the tips seemed pretty standard。 Perhaps this would be more beneficial for someone who isn’t already in a helping profession。 I realize I may not be the target audience for this one， but I was hoping to come away with a bit more geared toward educators。 I also struggled with the organization of each chapter。 At first， I liked how it was set up into sections about what each chapter was about， why it is important， and then practical sections — but I found the practical sections to get a bit repetitive。 The acronyms - yikes - were a lot。 Acronyms are meant to help us remember things， but with this many， I’m actually probably not going to remember a single one。I know this comes across as harsh so far， but it isn’t all bad — I did still give it 3 stars。 I am pretty passionate when it comes to empathy， so I think a book like this is needed。 My concern is that the people who SHOULD be reading this book will not be the ones to pick it up， and the ones who are reading it are probably already doing much of what the book suggests。 Anyway， I can see how this may still be valuable for parents trying to raise kind， empathetic kids， even if it’s just to reaffirm the things they’re already doing。 。。。more
Molly
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Lots of good， practical information to help cultivate empathy in kids！ Important read for parents and educators！
Kacie
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Well worth the read。 Great specific ideas on how to actually help cultivate empathy in children of all ages。 I loved learning how having greater empathy also adds to the likelihood of finding happiness and success。 While I don’t plan on rereading it cover to cover again， I will likely refer back to it in the future。
Jenna
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Good message: underwhelming book。 Too many acronyms。 Could have been an article。
Teresa Davis
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I wanted to love it， but the book was so overwhelming。 So many tips and acronyms and lists and things to remember。 I couldn't get past the first third。 Just so overwhelmed。 I feel like a good editor could have helped Borba narrow things down to the most essential and make a simpler， easier-to-read and remember book。 I wanted to love it， but the book was so overwhelming。 So many tips and acronyms and lists and things to remember。 I couldn't get past the first third。 Just so overwhelmed。 I feel like a good editor could have helped Borba narrow things down to the most essential and make a simpler， easier-to-read and remember book。 。。。more
Rebecca
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Wonderful message: parents should be an example of kindness to their children and teach them empathy。 There were some great ideas to instill kind behavior in children。 Ironically， Michele Borba's writing seemed a little condescending to me， but her good ideas are worth the read。 Wonderful message: parents should be an example of kindness to their children and teach them empathy。 There were some great ideas to instill kind behavior in children。 Ironically， Michele Borba's writing seemed a little condescending to me， but her good ideas are worth the read。 。。。more
Patricia
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A must read for every parent and educator。
Heidi McQuay
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