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Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids

Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids

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  • Author：Hunter Clarke-Fields
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Summary

“A wise and fresh approach to mindful parenting。”
—Tara Brach， author of Radical Acceptance

A kinder， more compassionate world starts with kind and compassionate kids。 In Raising Good Humans， you’ll find powerful and practical strategies to break free from “reactive parenting” habits and raise kind， cooperative， and confident kids。

Whether you’re running late for school， trying to get your child to eat their vegetables， or dealing with an epic meltdown in the checkout line at a grocery store—being a parent is hard work！ And， as parents， many of us react in times of stress without thinking—often by yelling。 But what if， instead of always reacting on autopilot， you could respond thoughtfully in those moments， keep your cool， and get from A to B on time and in one piece？

With this book， you’ll find powerful mindfulness skills for calming your own stress response when difficult emotions arise。 You’ll also discover strategies for cultivating respectful communication， effective conflict resolution， and reflective listening。 In the process， you’ll learn to examine your own unhelpful patterns and ingrained reactions that reflect the generational habits shaped by your parents， so you can break the cycle and respond to your children in more skillful ways。

When children experience a parent reacting with kindness and patience， they learn to act with kindness as well—thereby altering generational patterns for a kinder， more compassionate future。 With this essential guide， you’ll see how changing your own “autopilot reactions” can create a lasting positive impact， not just for your kids， but for generations to come。

An essential， must-read for all parents—now more than ever。

“To raise the children we hope to raise， we have to learn to become the person we hoped to be…。 This wonderful book will help you handle the ride。”
 —KJ Dell’Antonia， author of How to Be a Happier Parent
 
“Hunter Clarke-Fields shares her wisdom and personal experience to help parents create peaceful families。”
—Joanna Faber and Julie King， coauthors of How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen
 

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Reviews

Megan ，

A quick summary， chill the F out and stop being mean to your kids。 Do this by meditating and treating them respectfully。

Aime ，

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 I really enjoyed this book and like show the author discussed mindfulness in the scope of parenting。 It came off as more relational to me than any other reading I’ve done on mindfulness。 I definitely liked - the mindful activity， practicing acknowledgment， the mantras - choose love/just be kind， （calm/peace/smile/release）， practicing loving kindness （safe/happy/healthy/live with ease， the importance of modeling kindness and empathy， using recognizing， acknowledging， investigating， and nurturing I really enjoyed this book and like show the author discussed mindfulness in the scope of parenting。 It came off as more relational to me than any other reading I’ve done on mindfulness。 I definitely liked - the mindful activity， practicing acknowledgment， the mantras - choose love/just be kind， （calm/peace/smile/release）， practicing loving kindness （safe/happy/healthy/live with ease， the importance of modeling kindness and empathy， using recognizing， acknowledging， investigating， and nurturing feelings 。。。more

Courtney Hobbs ，

Great book on being more mindful and present as a parent。 The beginning offered great ways to practice mindfulness。 None of it was new to me from books and work I’ve done in the past but it was a good reminder and offered a parenting perspective which was different than how I learned in the past。 It also offered some great tips for things to start doing right away which I love。 Being able to implement easily is the best！

Kian。ting ，

The author talked about connecting before correcting， counselling against advising。 Being mindful of my feelings and when feelings comes up to ask the question is this feeling coming out of my intrest or the child's intrest。 The other good advise is also attend to 1 child at a time while telling the other that you will get to them in a minute， but that requires us to be calm to have all of our shit together。 Easier said than done but dont give up guys we can do it。 The author talked about connecting before correcting， counselling against advising。 Being mindful of my feelings and when feelings comes up to ask the question is this feeling coming out of my intrest or the child's intrest。 The other good advise is also attend to 1 child at a time while telling the other that you will get to them in a minute， but that requires us to be calm to have all of our shit together。 Easier said than done but dont give up guys we can do it。 。。。more

Jessica Brucken ，

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 Buy this book now！ I wish I would have bought it years ago。 Many light bulbs went off！ This book not only teaches you how to raise good humans but how to be a good human towards your little ones。 CONNECTION DRIVES COOPERATION！

Emily Robinson ，

Good book， but it wasn’t anything I didn’t already know before reading。

Guido Rodriguez ，

This book provides a practical guide to break the cycle of reactive parenting in order to have a more cooperative and loving relationship with your child。Here are my key learnings from this book: 1） Disarming my triggers through meditation2） Effective communication: 2。a） Reflective listening - When our children come to us with a problem， they want to be heard， understood and accepted。 We can demonstrate that we hear and understand them by processing what they are saying and reflecting back the f This book provides a practical guide to break the cycle of reactive parenting in order to have a more cooperative and loving relationship with your child。Here are my key learnings from this book: 1） Disarming my triggers through meditation2） Effective communication: 2。a） Reflective listening - When our children come to us with a problem， they want to be heard， understood and accepted。 We can demonstrate that we hear and understand them by processing what they are saying and reflecting back the feelings behind what they said。 This acknowledges what's going on and invites our children to talk a little more， which promotes the right environment to build stronger relationships。 2。b） Skilful confrontation （i-message） - we should refrain from blaming and shaming （or any other communication barrier below） looking instead at how the behaviour affects ourselves。 Kids receive an i-message as a statement of fact about what the parent is feeling， so it causes less resistance。 E。g。 "You left a mess" vs "I feel discouraged when I see this big mess"3） Barriers to communication - Blaming （"You just don't want to do the work"） - Name calling （"Don't be such a baby， you are a big boy now"） - Threatening （"If you are not nice， they won't want to play with you"） - Ordering （"Stop doing that"） - Dismissing （"I'm sure it's fine。 Let it go"） - Offering Solutions （"Why don't you。。。） 。。。more

Alicia Terrill （ReadCover2Cover） ，

There was some good stuff here， but mostly it is all stuff I've already read/use。 I agree with those who say to read How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk instead。 It was much more useful to me。 There was some good stuff here， but mostly it is all stuff I've already read/use。 I agree with those who say to read How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk instead。 It was much more useful to me。 。。。more

Chelsea Foshee ，

Excellent， practical advice。 I will need to come back to this book again and again for reminders。

Stephanie ，

Let me summarize this book for you: meditate and read Daniel Siegel’s book the Whole-Brain Child。

Joe ，

It's pretty good and a quick read/listen。 It really is a lot more about managing your own behavior than managing your children's behavior。 Nothing seriously mind goblinning here， but it's well presented and coherently organized。 It's pretty good and a quick read/listen。 It really is a lot more about managing your own behavior than managing your children's behavior。 Nothing seriously mind goblinning here， but it's well presented and coherently organized。 。。。more

Kierstin ，

Good reminders and a few fresh ideas for good relationships and development。

Brittany Seal ，

This book was so much more “what am I doing？” than “what do I need to do to my children？“The whole idea is your kids will become what you SHOW and who you ARE。 Not what you tell them。 Confront your inner scars， heal your demons， and allow yourself to grow so those past traumas won’t be taken out on your children。 This was a must read for new parents who feel they may not be as in control of emotions as they want。 Or just any parents！！！

Sophia Ege ，

Loved it！ Especially the tips on building more skillful language and reframing how you speak with your children。 I adore the main message， which to me was: treat your children with respect。 They don't need to be bossed around， you don't need to be a part-time mom taxi， and they will be perfectly fine （and likely happier！） with you taking your foot off of the development gas pedal。 Loved it！ Especially the tips on building more skillful language and reframing how you speak with your children。 I adore the main message， which to me was: treat your children with respect。 They don't need to be bossed around， you don't need to be a part-time mom taxi， and they will be perfectly fine （and likely happier！） with you taking your foot off of the development gas pedal。 。。。more

Lynn ，

There's nothing I find inherently bad about this book but much of it is spent citing other popular books。 It didn't feel like it added that much unique information。 There's nothing I find inherently bad about this book but much of it is spent citing other popular books。 It didn't feel like it added that much unique information。 。。。more

Hannah Brown ，

4。5 Very similar to Peaceful Parent Happy Child but less in-depth。 It also shared additional ideas and tools for parenting。 I definitely want a copy and will review this book along side Peaceful Parent Happy Child。

Jonathan ，

For anyone considering Gentle Parenting this is an absolutely perfect starting point for providing the confidence you need with very practical action steps along the way。 The type of book you keep easily accessible and refer back to over and over again。

John Gates ，

For raising children self help books， this book is really great。All kid-help books have turn-off moments and non-perfect examples， but with a little open-mindedness， this book ought to fit about every home。This is definitely something I will reread in the future。。。

Larissa ，

A lot of this information is repeated if you've read other respectful parenting books， however， the journal prompts were truly enlightening and buying the book purely for those is worth it。 If this is your first respectfuk parenting book， this is a fantastic starter。 It covers so much while mindfully leading you to reflection。 Some parts come across as extremely privileged and not accessible to all parents。 Keep that in mind if you feel shame or guilt surface。 Basic needs need to be met before y A lot of this information is repeated if you've read other respectful parenting books， however， the journal prompts were truly enlightening and buying the book purely for those is worth it。 If this is your first respectfuk parenting book， this is a fantastic starter。 It covers so much while mindfully leading you to reflection。 Some parts come across as extremely privileged and not accessible to all parents。 Keep that in mind if you feel shame or guilt surface。 Basic needs need to be met before you can access skills to change routines and upgrade parenting。 。。。more

Lillian ，

Some good food for thought

Diana Pojar ，

This book feels more than a parenting book， especially if you never did any type of mindful practice and/or therapy and I think if you are in this camp， for sure you’ll have stronger take aways from reading this。 The first half basically offers and overview on how you can just be a better human for yourself and also with the people around you。Overall I really liked it！ In the last 1/3 for the book there’s more parenting focus and offering concrete solutions and ideas on things that one can do to This book feels more than a parenting book， especially if you never did any type of mindful practice and/or therapy and I think if you are in this camp， for sure you’ll have stronger take aways from reading this。 The first half basically offers and overview on how you can just be a better human for yourself and also with the people around you。Overall I really liked it！ In the last 1/3 for the book there’s more parenting focus and offering concrete solutions and ideas on things that one can do to make sure they connect and help to create a good relationship with their children。 。。。more

Kristen Iworsky ，

Audiobook version。 Definitely worth a read or listen。

Jessica Nicole ，

Well written。 Similar content and strategies to other people in the field。

Chynna Coffin ，

Not bad， but this book didn’t really give me any information that I didn’t already know。 However， it did give me one great example that will stick with me forever。 It was about how to respond to your child when they come to you with a conflict。 For example， their friend took a toy and now won’t share。 Oftentimes adults are very dismissive with these conflicts because to us， this doesn’t seem like a big deal。 We tell them it’s ok， pick a new toy， offer a snack， etc。 BUT this book encouraged us to Not bad， but this book didn’t really give me any information that I didn’t already know。 However， it did give me one great example that will stick with me forever。 It was about how to respond to your child when they come to you with a conflict。 For example， their friend took a toy and now won’t share。 Oftentimes adults are very dismissive with these conflicts because to us， this doesn’t seem like a big deal。 We tell them it’s ok， pick a new toy， offer a snack， etc。 BUT this book encouraged us to think about how we would feel if we went to our partner with a conflict like this and was dismissed， told it’s ok to pick a new toy etc。 We would feel sad and dismissed and like our feelings aren’t valid。 I think it’s good to have a reminder that even though kids are kids and their problems might not seem big to US， they’re still valid and we need to treat them just like we would our partner。 I probably described that so poorly but the language we use with our kids is important and it’s a good reminder that all feelings are valid。 。。。more

Shelby ，

The first half of this book is about getting yourself in a good place mentally and emotionally to best parent your children。 This mostly involved some form of meditation technique。 I used to meditate fairly regularly but it's one of the things that got let go after baby came along so that was a good reminder to get back in practice。 The second half of the book was about how to actually talk and interact with your kids and， possibly because my kid isn't talking yet， I didn't care for that section The first half of this book is about getting yourself in a good place mentally and emotionally to best parent your children。 This mostly involved some form of meditation technique。 I used to meditate fairly regularly but it's one of the things that got let go after baby came along so that was a good reminder to get back in practice。 The second half of the book was about how to actually talk and interact with your kids and， possibly because my kid isn't talking yet， I didn't care for that section as much。 Most of the example conversations just didn't feel realistic for me。 。。。more

Michelle ，

I loved how this book was broken into two sections。 Work on self and THEN parenting strategies。 I think anyone could benefit from reading this book。 The exercises and assignments bring clarity to life。 Loved this book！

Julia Bowen ，

I liked how this book wasn’t just centred on the child but the inner work parents need to do in order to be present for their children。 A lot of it has been covered in previous parenting books， but I did like the focus and tone of the book。

Marissa Nunnes ，

Only got about half way through， but it was a good read。 Good reminders about myself and my kids

Sarah ，

I wish I had read this book 15 years ago。 It taught so many of the hard-earned lessons that I got the last decade and a half of parenting。 Some of my favorite lessons: -Stress puts us into emergency mode and turns off our brain。 In order to parent well we must control our stress and re-engage our brains。 Likewise， a stressed child is not a thinking child， so we need to calm before we correct and avoid escalating or inducing stress （yelling， threating， etc。）-Deal with your own issues- your child' I wish I had read this book 15 years ago。 It taught so many of the hard-earned lessons that I got the last decade and a half of parenting。 Some of my favorite lessons: -Stress puts us into emergency mode and turns off our brain。 In order to parent well we must control our stress and re-engage our brains。 Likewise， a stressed child is not a thinking child， so we need to calm before we correct and avoid escalating or inducing stress （yelling， threating， etc。）-Deal with your own issues- your child's wellbeing and future rest on your modeled actions and words。 （and children will bring up all your weaknesses！）-Anger is an iceberg， it indicates much more underneath and is an energy that much be channeled in a good way。-RAIN meditation for dealing with bad feelingsR- recognize/name the emotion， label it from the outside， "I'm experiencing this，" not I am thisA- allow it， imagine holding the emotion like a baby and telling it that everything is going to be okay。 All emotions are okay， only behaviors are a problem and those we can controlI- investigate it， where did it come from， be curious not judgmental， is it true， is there danger， how is this effecting me physicallyN- nurture， give yourself space， soothing messages， say what you would to a friends-Use storytelling to explain， connect， calm， etc。- LISTEN - when you talk you only repeat what you know， when you listen you learn - Dalai Lama- You don't have to， can't， and shouldn't solve all your children's problems。 You should coach and support but they are NOT your problems。- Avoid communication barriers: blaming， dismissing， fixing， threatening， ordering， bullying， shaming- Add to the emotional bank account！ Be silly and light hearted。 Enjoy them and love them 。。。more

Heather Preece ，

What I loved about this book is it helped me see where and why I get dis regulated as a parent and how I can work on that。 When things get crazy， I get calm has helped me through a lot of scenarios。 I read this book super slow because I’d read a few pages and then wanted to practice what I read。 Good read。

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