Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family
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- Author：Paul David Tripp
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Summary
Sometimes parents wish there was a guaranteed formula for raising good kids--a certain list of rules to follow to ensure they'd have obedient children。 But if moms and dads view their role through the lens of God's grace， they will see that the gospel must first shape how they parent before they can effectively shape their children。 In this highly practical book， Paul David Tripp unfolds a more biblical perspective on parenting than merely adhering to a list of rules。 He lays out fourteen gospel-centered principles that will radically change the way parents think about what it means to raise up a child， informing everything they do as a parent。
Reviews
Courtney
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This is THE parenting book。 To teach our children the Gospel is the single most important part of being parent。 Paul really encourages you to examine your own heart rather than “fix” your child。 I am challenged and encouraged and thankful for his wisdom。
Lynn Coullard
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Really good， but really intense！ I kept having the thought throughout: “How am I supposed to do this for my kids？ This is what I need someone to do for me！！”
Molly
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Gets a little repetitive towards the end， but some really thought provoking chapters！
Aimee Baerg
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My husband and I both read this book and I reccomend it to all parents。 Paul David Tripp constantly points us to Christ and gives a fresh and biblical perspective of our role as parents in our children's lives。 During and after reading this book I felt challenged， encouraged， and refocused on my role and was constantly reminded to keep my eyes on Jesus。 Definitely a book I will read again！ My husband and I both read this book and I reccomend it to all parents。 Paul David Tripp constantly points us to Christ and gives a fresh and biblical perspective of our role as parents in our children's lives。 During and after reading this book I felt challenged， encouraged， and refocused on my role and was constantly reminded to keep my eyes on Jesus。 Definitely a book I will read again！ 。。。more
Taylor Smiley
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Phenomenal。
Shannon Weynand
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Really benefit from the last chapter on mercy。 Some repetitive parts， but I often find the repetitive parts are certainly the parts I need to hear again。 Will be a book I come back to。
Megan B
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A great resource to read time and again！
Shaina Sunwall
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Love！
Bekah Stanley
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This book is a must-read for all Christian parents。
Teddy Hollingsworth
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Every parent should read this
Alyssa
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Life-changing。
Katie Papillon
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What a great book centered around the gospel of Jesus！ I will continue to read and reread this book throughout my years of parenting。 I wanted to take notes on all of it！ A nice parenting handbook 2nd to the Bible。
April Audett
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This book has great pointers in every chapter on how to raise our children to follow God instead of following the ways of this world。 If you are struggling to raise your child， this book is meant for you！ OR， if you have a good child right now， this book is still meant for you。
Linda Joy
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Ok， hear me out: I just can’t get behind PDT’s writing。 Teaching， sure！ Writing。。。 oof。 Nope。 As someone who’s had some book editing experience， I would have edited this book quite a bit differently。 And although the principles are， I think， great principles， for someone like me who grew up with solid， God-fearing parents， all I left this book with was a firm feeling of “Meh。” I do realize， however， that I am an unfortunate anomaly in how I was raised， and that there are many who were raised wit Ok， hear me out: I just can’t get behind PDT’s writing。 Teaching， sure！ Writing。。。 oof。 Nope。 As someone who’s had some book editing experience， I would have edited this book quite a bit differently。 And although the principles are， I think， great principles， for someone like me who grew up with solid， God-fearing parents， all I left this book with was a firm feeling of “Meh。” I do realize， however， that I am an unfortunate anomaly in how I was raised， and that there are many who were raised with few if any of these principles as practices in their homes。 This is why I gave it 3 stars， because although I see the value of it， it just wasn’t a fit for me or my husband and our individual family struggles。 。。。more
Rachel
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This book was profound in the simplicity of its message。 A parent following Jesus has one job and it's NOT to convert their child to Christianity。 A parent following Jesus is simple supposed to be an ambassador for Jesus。 What does that mean？ While it's the premise of the book， I'll mention a few of the things that stuck out to me。It means I don't have to DO and I can rest in the fact that the same God that has always been in control of the cosmos is still in control。 He knew exactly what He was This book was profound in the simplicity of its message。 A parent following Jesus has one job and it's NOT to convert their child to Christianity。 A parent following Jesus is simple supposed to be an ambassador for Jesus。 What does that mean？ While it's the premise of the book， I'll mention a few of the things that stuck out to me。It means I don't have to DO and I can rest in the fact that the same God that has always been in control of the cosmos is still in control。 He knew exactly what He was doing when He decided to allow me to have children （I personally struggle with bouts of rage and shame， repeat， while also knowing that I can ask for forgiveness （from God and my child） and be forgiven and am free to unlearn bad habits and learn new healthy ways and thought patterns。 It's still a struggle。 BUT I'm not alone and I'm not MEANT to do it alone）。 Everything， EVERYTHING that drives me crazy （or parents crazy） are opportunities that God gives us to point out to us and our children how desperately we need Jesus as Lord and Savior and how He continually working on our lives and hearts to be more like Him （loving， kind， patient， gentle， self-controlled。 faithful， good）。 I literally cannot without Him and my child can't without Him。 I can parent the "right way"， read all the books， say the right things， but still fall short。 Ultimately， my child is God's。 That doesn't mean that I'm off the hook and I don't do the best I can， but it does mean that I can fully rely on God and live in anxiety and fear （my natural inclination）。There are many true and good points。 But， a helpful tip that stuck with me is this: pray each morning for forgiveness for the anger of the day before （Tripp talks about also in humility repenting of wrongs with the wronged， our children。 Something I already do， but is critical for our walks as believers。 Our children may be children， but they're not less than。 If they've been wronged they need to be shown and modelled what repenting looks like - as in I repent to my child when I go into a rage） and pray for the new day ahead。 His mercies， loving kindess， are new every morning。 How refreshing。 。。。more
Jim Quigley
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I thought this was a really good book with great principles for parenting。 Here are a few takeaways that I thought were very helpful:1） Our children don't belong to us but to God。2） We cannot force long-term （spiritual） change in our kids。。。that is only accomplished by the work of God alone in their hearts。3） We are more like our kids that unlike them。 We can be just as selfish， impatient， and self-centered as them。 That changes my perspective to be more patient and compassionate with my kids as I thought this was a really good book with great principles for parenting。 Here are a few takeaways that I thought were very helpful:1） Our children don't belong to us but to God。2） We cannot force long-term （spiritual） change in our kids。。。that is only accomplished by the work of God alone in their hearts。3） We are more like our kids that unlike them。 We can be just as selfish， impatient， and self-centered as them。 That changes my perspective to be more patient and compassionate with my kids as they are struggling with these sins。 4） Parents are instruments of grace to be used by God in the hearts of our kids。5） Use every opportunity （especially disciplinary ones） to reveal sin in the hearts of your kids and the hope of the gospel。 These takeaways have really helped me to parent my children better。 However I gave the book four stars for the following reasons:1） The book became very repetitive。 Several points and concepts were repeated and expounded upon in many different places in the book。 So the last few chapters I felt I was （mostly） reading something that he already wrote。 It *could* be that Tripp did this intentionally to drive home his main points， as repetition can be an effective tool for that end。 But regardless， I felt the repetition was too much。2） Tripp gave great examples of what not to do in certain situations in explaining his principles for parenting。 However， I would have greatly valued from concrete positive examples of what to do。 After sharing several examples of what not to do， he would say something along the lines of "instead， share the gospel every opportunity you have。" Which is great。。。except it would be so helpful for him to show what that would look like。 So when your two year old throws his plate of food on the ground。。。what do you say in that moment？ I think concrete examples would have really made this better。Overall， great parenting book that I would highly recommend。 。。。more
Stacy
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Probably the best parenting book I’ve ever read。 I’ll definitely come back to it again and again。
Josh Simons
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Many parenting books are filled with tips and tactics and all kinds of practical advice。 Much like marriage books， I’ve found these kind of volumes to be useless or frustrating due to their static nature。 Simplistically looking at a situation （like parenting） and then writing advice to that fails to be dynamically useful because there’s no way an author can speak into every specific circumstance。 Parenting by PDT doesn’t gloss over the impossibilities of changing your children， but rather encour Many parenting books are filled with tips and tactics and all kinds of practical advice。 Much like marriage books， I’ve found these kind of volumes to be useless or frustrating due to their static nature。 Simplistically looking at a situation （like parenting） and then writing advice to that fails to be dynamically useful because there’s no way an author can speak into every specific circumstance。 Parenting by PDT doesn’t gloss over the impossibilities of changing your children， but rather encourages you to embrace your calling as a parent while trusting in the Lord to be at work in your family。 There was no “if you do this， the result will be that” I’ve found in other books。 One of my favorite quotes from the book is， “Connect everything you require of your children in behavior and belief to the story of redemption。” You need the Lord to work in your life as much as the kids need him to work in theirs。 Quite excellent， and I’ll be keeping it as a resource to return to。Follow-up thoughts: Our pastor has been saying that if people end up in hell we want them to trip over us on the way， but far too often we are a stumbling block to heaven。 After reading this book， I started a book on negotiation and communication （as I find it true for myself that I struggle to adapt to differing communication styles）。 What was eye opening on the tails of Parenting is that it’s possible for MY communication and the way I approach things to be a stumbling block to the grace of God。 It’s true that only the grace of God can open the eyes of the blind or make the dead rise or turn a heart of stone into a heart of flesh。 When someone’s heart is already hard， do we want how we speak with them to fortify or soften that hardness？ 。。。more
Melody Ronningen
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Wow， I cannot recommend this book enough。 This is the best parenting-meets-gospel discussion I have ever come across。
John Pannebaker
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An excellent parenting book， saturated in Biblical truth。 However， like most parenting books， I can't help but feel I read it a year or two early since my oldest is only two and half。 Regardless， I'm glad to own it and have it as a resource to return to again when the time comes。 An excellent parenting book， saturated in Biblical truth。 However， like most parenting books， I can't help but feel I read it a year or two early since my oldest is only two and half。 Regardless， I'm glad to own it and have it as a resource to return to again when the time comes。 。。。more
Andrew Jones
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Cornerstone book of gospel parenting。 Tripp writes with such a gospel-centered veracity that both convicted my parenting and showered it with grace。（A BOOK WITH THE WORD “GOSPEL” IN THE TITLE/SUBTITLE）
Jordan Hall
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I am convinced that parents need two books: the Bible and this book。 “Parenting” is full of wisdom that is critical for parents to understand as they live out the mission of parenthood。 What I love about this book is how often Paul Tripp reminds you， the parent， of how much you are in need of God’s mercy and grace as you parent。 Too many parenting books are full of strategies that you need to do for your children to produce certain results， all based on current research that will change over tim I am convinced that parents need two books: the Bible and this book。 “Parenting” is full of wisdom that is critical for parents to understand as they live out the mission of parenthood。 What I love about this book is how often Paul Tripp reminds you， the parent， of how much you are in need of God’s mercy and grace as you parent。 Too many parenting books are full of strategies that you need to do for your children to produce certain results， all based on current research that will change over time。 The Bible doesn’t change over time。 It’s word is consistent which makes it the most critical thing needed to parent our children。 The truth in these pages is the same yesterday， today， and tomorrow and it starts with you admitting your need for a savior。 Our call of parents is heart change， not behavior change， which is a profoundly different theme than most parenting books or blogs that are out there today。 Read this book。 Read it again。 Keep it with you for your entire parenting journey （obviously as supplemental to the Bible and not in replacement）。 You need to read this book。 。。。more
Emily Thomson
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Lost me when he condemned Christian parents for having a dual working household and using daycare。 Really rough read。
Kelsey
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Wow， such a great Biblical parenting book。 Absolutely worth reading。 This is what our kids need。
Shannon Wheeler
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Good heavens。 My dad got me this book when my 7 year old was much younger and I just wish I'd read it then。 Paul Tripp doesn't make parenting seem any easier （which is what I often want from parenting books with magic tricks and tips to make kids be good humans）。 He does use every chapter to remind of God's grace， not just for our kids， but thankfully for us as parents。 The last chapter on mercy wrecked me。 This book is about not just raising moral beings， but raising kids with changed hearts。 Good heavens。 My dad got me this book when my 7 year old was much younger and I just wish I'd read it then。 Paul Tripp doesn't make parenting seem any easier （which is what I often want from parenting books with magic tricks and tips to make kids be good humans）。 He does use every chapter to remind of God's grace， not just for our kids， but thankfully for us as parents。 The last chapter on mercy wrecked me。 This book is about not just raising moral beings， but raising kids with changed hearts。 。。。more
Betsy Wolf
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I listened to this on audible and would like to go back and get a paper copy to reread。 I think there are really good things in here， and if I had the hard copy I’d be going back to it to relearn some things he said。 I said 4 instead of 5 stars because there were some parts that I felt were overly simplified and I just felt the need for more， but maybe that’s just where I am in parenting a soon to be teen for the first time！
Faith Shelton
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I have never liked books by Paul Tripp， but this is one of the best parenting books I have read！ I underlined so much on the book and have reread it several times。 It is a great help。
Emma Cochran
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I couldn’t sing enough praise for this book。 Paul David Tripp gets right at the heart of parenting， and even the heart of each sinner’s attempt to measure up as tools for his mercy。 I’ve left this book marked up with highlighter because I know I will want to refer to it again and again when I need reminding as a parent of so many gospel truths。
Anna M
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Good reminder of gospel truths as it pertains to parenting。 This is not a "how-to" book on raising kids to be successful adults。 Rather the author encourages us as parents to focus on relying on God， consider why we react the way we do to our children and what are the big issues to focus on when parenting such as character， teaching the gospel truths to children and enabling them to learn and seek the truth for themselves。 Author also discusses relevant examples that I found helpful。 Also good d Good reminder of gospel truths as it pertains to parenting。 This is not a "how-to" book on raising kids to be successful adults。 Rather the author encourages us as parents to focus on relying on God， consider why we react the way we do to our children and what are the big issues to focus on when parenting such as character， teaching the gospel truths to children and enabling them to learn and seek the truth for themselves。 Author also discusses relevant examples that I found helpful。 Also good discussion on the issue of being an over controlling parent and focusing too much on behavior rather than the character of the child。 。。。more
Lanny
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