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Surrounded by Narcissists

Surrounded by Narcissists

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From the Sunday Times bestselling author of Surrounded by Idiots

Are you overshadowed by the narcissists in your life？ Are you worn out by their constant demands for attention， their absolute belief they are right （even when clearly they are not）， their determination to do what they want （regardless of impact）， and their baffling need to control everyone and everything around them？

In this thought-provoking， sanity-saving book， Thomas Erikson helps you understand what makes narcissists tick and， crucially， how to handle them without wearing yourself out in the process。 With the help of the behavioural model made famous in Surrounded by Idiots， Erikson provides all the tools you need to manage not just the narcissists around you but everyday narcissism as well - itself becoming more widespread in this age of social media。 Engaging and practical， Surrounded by Narcissists will help you free yourself from narcissistic agendas so you can pursue a happier， more fulfilling and successful life。

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Jill ，

Author Thomas Erikson has a specific way of looking at the people around him。 He’s developed a system for classifying people using the DISC system。 He divides people into four main groups: Dominance （Red）， Influence （Yellow）， Stability （Green）， and Compliance （Blue）。 Using the color designations as a shortcut， he can speak to the qualities， strengths， and weaknesses of each personality type using the colors as a shortcut。 And if those four DISC qualities sound like an oversimplification of the c Author Thomas Erikson has a specific way of looking at the people around him。 He’s developed a system for classifying people using the DISC system。 He divides people into four main groups: Dominance （Red）， Influence （Yellow）， Stability （Green）， and Compliance （Blue）。 Using the color designations as a shortcut， he can speak to the qualities， strengths， and weaknesses of each personality type using the colors as a shortcut。 And if those four DISC qualities sound like an oversimplification of the complex human experience， Erikson understands that very few people are only in one category。 He recognizes that most of us are a combination of colors and experience a more layered life than these descriptions offer。 But the way he uses these colors to describe how people react， or how narcissists can use someone’s weaknesses against them， hit home for me so hard when he described exactly how a former boss forced me out of my job， and in a way I hadn’t been able to put into words myself。 With this simple system is a lot of understanding of human behavior。 For his latest book， Erikson takes his system and applies it to narcissists。 I think most everyone has encountered one， whether it be a boss （or former boss）， a classmate， a coworker， a family member， or just someone you recognize in the public eye。 Erikson uses his DISC system to show readers how narcissists read people and can figure out the most effective way to control them。 But most of this book is simply a deep dive into what a narcissist is and how to recognize them。 And more important， he gives people very strategic ideas for getting away from a narcissistic relationship。 Erikson talks about our culture and how it contributes to the growing number of narcissists we have， and he talks about about how much of personality comes from our environment as opposed to what we’re born with。 And while all that is important and interesting， it’s not the best part。 The best part of Surrounded by Narcissists is how well Erikson understands how destructive manipulators can be and how much time he spends helping readers get out of those toxic relationships—or to avoid them altogether。 There is so much smart advice about what to say and not to say， what to do and not to do， that those struggling with someone in their life that they think may be a narcissist can find understanding and relief in these pages。 I really liked Surrounded by Narcissists。 I have read some of Erikson’s work in the past， and I am a fan of his DISC system。 It has helped me understand my own behaviors as well as the people around me， and I think that’s made me a more thoughtful person。 And as someone who has felt vulnerable to manipulative people in the past， I loved how specific Erikson was in giving advice in dealing with narcissists。 I think this is a fantastic book for anyone who needs to find a way out of a bad relationship， whether it’s a romantic relationship， a friendship， or a work thing。 He gets it， he has thought long and hard about what to do about it， and he’s sharing all he knows with us。 I hate calling books a must-read， but Surrounded by Narcissists just may be a must-read in today’s culture。 Egalleys for Surrounded by Narcissists were provided by St。 Martin’s Press Essentials through NetGalley， with many thanks。 。。。more

Donna ，

I was drawn to this book because of my inability to reasonably cope with the narcissists in my life。 I appreciated the practical advice given and was able to better understand the source of this personality trait。 I wish that I could get one of my "narcissist" friends to actually read it too！ I was drawn to this book because of my inability to reasonably cope with the narcissists in my life。 I appreciated the practical advice given and was able to better understand the source of this personality trait。 I wish that I could get one of my "narcissist" friends to actually read it too！ 。。。more

Marie Farrior ，

Thank you to NetGalley for allowing me to give my honest review on Surrounded by a narcissist。Surrounded by a narcissist explains what a narcissist is， How to determine the characteristics of a narcissist， and How to tell the difference between a narcissist and a Psychopath。 It does talk about the Jail system and goes in-depth with what they need and how to satisfy them。I do think this book can have you looking at people sideways because you are analyzing people base off what you learned。Very go Thank you to NetGalley for allowing me to give my honest review on Surrounded by a narcissist。Surrounded by a narcissist explains what a narcissist is， How to determine the characteristics of a narcissist， and How to tell the difference between a narcissist and a Psychopath。 It does talk about the Jail system and goes in-depth with what they need and how to satisfy them。I do think this book can have you looking at people sideways because you are analyzing people base off what you learned。Very good information 。。。more

Richard Derus ，

Real Rating: 3。5* of fiveHAPPY PUB DAY！ 21 June 2022US society， it seems， is a narcissism-generating machine。 Largely dealt with in silence， the harm narcissistic people cause in public and private spheres impacts all of us。 In any relationship， a narcissist uses very specific strategies to control you， and the conversation about them， so they appear brilliant at all times。 A recent scandal involving a specific Hollywood star's behavior towards another person is understandable more completely in Real Rating: 3。5* of fiveHAPPY PUB DAY！ 21 June 2022US society， it seems， is a narcissism-generating machine。 Largely dealt with in silence， the harm narcissistic people cause in public and private spheres impacts all of us。 In any relationship， a narcissist uses very specific strategies to control you， and the conversation about them， so they appear brilliant at all times。 A recent scandal involving a specific Hollywood star's behavior towards another person is understandable more completely in this light。 Doubtless you can see many traits in the stories the author uses to explain narcissism that adhere to lots of folks you know。。。but never knew why you had trouble warming up to them。A word of caution: Don't think you're suddenly a mental-health professional and run around diagnosing others。 They won't like it， and it will bite you hard。 The author is careful， unsurprisingly since his brand is as a communicator， to state that he is synthesizing research and presenting conclusions based on data， not on his mental-health expertise。 。。。more

Jess | dapper。reads ，

I took listening to this book with a grain of salt。 The author really has no credentials to talk about this topic （or many of the other topics in his books）， but he does do his research and talk to people that DO have the credentials to speak about this topic。 Personally I feel this could have have been done in better way。 It’s okay， there’s basic information on narcissism and I was mostly interested to see if he went the clinical route with this。 While some of this book is spent in the clinical I took listening to this book with a grain of salt。 The author really has no credentials to talk about this topic （or many of the other topics in his books）， but he does do his research and talk to people that DO have the credentials to speak about this topic。 Personally I feel this could have have been done in better way。 It’s okay， there’s basic information on narcissism and I was mostly interested to see if he went the clinical route with this。 While some of this book is spent in the clinical route， it also spends a lot of time in the slang term of the narcissist - like when someone says they’re “depressed”， they may or may not mean clinically diagnosed， they could just mean very sad - and I really would have preferred to spend more time with the clinical definition and less with the general public interpretation as I feel this really downplays the severities of mental illness。I do see the value in this book though。 There are many people that don’t have clinical experience with psychological terms and this book is a great place to start。 There are enough official definitions that I do feel this book has accuracy。 The author takes us through situations where we may run into someone with narcissistic tendencies and how to recognize them。 It’s interesting。 I also feel it important to remember that different countries feel differently about topics surrounding mental health。 This author is based in Sweden and I am reading this from the perspective of the United States。 Thanks to NetGalley for the audio arc！ 。。。more

Kathy ，

3。5 rounded upa few new items， lots of stuff I've heard or read before。 Clear and concise， easy to follow。 3。5 rounded upa few new items， lots of stuff I've heard or read before。 Clear and concise， easy to follow。 。。。more

KKEC Reads ，

Surrounded by Narcissists by Thomas Erikson Published: June 21， 2022St。 Martin’s EssentialsPages: 306Genre: Self-Help， Non-FictionKKECReads Rating: 4/5I received a copy of this book for free， and I leave my review voluntarily。 Thomas Erikson is a motivator， author， and public speaker。 His book Surrounded by Idiots is one of the world’s best-selling non-fiction books and has been translated into over 40 languages。 His way of sharing his knowledge with his readers is by using specific storytelling Surrounded by Narcissists by Thomas Erikson Published: June 21， 2022St。 Martin’s EssentialsPages: 306Genre: Self-Help， Non-FictionKKECReads Rating: 4/5I received a copy of this book for free， and I leave my review voluntarily。 Thomas Erikson is a motivator， author， and public speaker。 His book Surrounded by Idiots is one of the world’s best-selling non-fiction books and has been translated into over 40 languages。 His way of sharing his knowledge with his readers is by using specific storytelling and lots of humor。 To achieve new skills should be easy。 Therefore， he does not write in a way packed with numbers and details， but rather in a way that will make the reader say: Ah！ I recognize that！ Thomas has devoted close to 30 years of his career to helping people communicate with each other。 Along the way， he´s developed practical and functional tools that facilitate professional and private life。 Thomas believes in the importance of a higher understanding of others to decrease the number of unnecessary misunderstandings and conflicts in a relationship or at work。“If you don’t know which problem you’re supposed to be solving， you won’t even see any need for a solution。”Thomas Erikson takes a deep dive into narcissism and a lot of the causes and effects relating to narcissism。 The statistics were staggering， and the examples provided were fascinating and terrifying。 The research was very well done and thorough， and while Thomas Erikson is not a doctor， he has done the work to provide the facts。 I found the examples and scenarios so interesting。 It’s wild because as I was reading these chapters， there would be individuals who would flash into my mind with various explanations。 I found using the fictional Linda to explain the spectrum of narcissism helpful。 Overall， I found this book hard to put down。 It is well written and easy to understand。 I enjoyed how there were pieces of Erikson’s previous text， Surrounded by Psychopaths， mentioned。 After reading the thorough， well-presented， and written to be a valuable tool for those dealing with a narcissist on any level; I may have to read the rest of Erikson’s books。 。。。more

LaShanda Chamberlain ，

I’ve always heard about narcissism but I never fully understood it。 This book really helped me understand it & narcissists。 It contained essential information but with a twist of humor。 I thoroughly enjoyed reading it & I now have a better understanding of narcissism。 Erickson did a great job with this one & I plan to check out more of his work in the future。

Marti ，

Surrounded by Narcissists by Thomas Erikson （This book comes out June 21。）What a fascinating read！ I don’t usually read books that are nonfiction during the school year， but I made an exception for this book and I am glad I did。 I found the information presented interesting and informative。 It was written in a manner that was easily understood with examples that were important for understanding。 The narcissistic personality is a certified personality disorder and does not have a high cure rate。 Surrounded by Narcissists by Thomas Erikson （This book comes out June 21。）What a fascinating read！ I don’t usually read books that are nonfiction during the school year， but I made an exception for this book and I am glad I did。 I found the information presented interesting and informative。 It was written in a manner that was easily understood with examples that were important for understanding。 The narcissistic personality is a certified personality disorder and does not have a high cure rate。 The explanation of the various symptoms and behaviors really clearly delineated the difference between people who are vain or have some narcissistic traits and a true narcissist and how they might operate。 I particularly liked that he used the colors （from the four Color Personality Test） of red， green， yellow and blue and he used those colors to help you understand how a narcissistic personality could manipulate you。 I would suggest that you consider purchasing this book in print - so you can flip through the sections that might not directly affect you which will allow you to focus on what is important to you， the reader。 Surrounded by Narcissists by Thomas Erikson was an interesting read。 。。。more

Carmen ，

Everyone has a narcissist （or 2 or 3） in their lives。 I try to cease contact with them to preserve my mental well-being but sometimes this isn’t realistic。 I found the advice helpful and traits of narcissists given through examples also helpful so I can avoid them from becoming a part of my life （if I can make that choice）。 A must read。

Lydia Wallace ，

Thanks Thomas Erikson for such an informative book that really opened my eyes。 I have a family member in my life that just drives me crazy。 She is my sister-in-law。 For years I have put up with her controlling everything that happens in my life and other members of our family。 She is usually wrong about everything， but will never admit it even after you prove her wrong。 If we have a family event planned she seems like she isn't happy unless she is in control。 She will have to be in charge and ma Thanks Thomas Erikson for such an informative book that really opened my eyes。 I have a family member in my life that just drives me crazy。 She is my sister-in-law。 For years I have put up with her controlling everything that happens in my life and other members of our family。 She is usually wrong about everything， but will never admit it even after you prove her wrong。 If we have a family event planned she seems like she isn't happy unless she is in control。 She will have to be in charge and make changes to all of our plans。 I now realize she is a narcissist after reading your book。 The more I turned the pages the more it described her to a tee。 I have gone years where I quit speaking to her at all and kept my distance from her。 I felt bad because it made my husband （her brother） and my teenage daughter feel like they had to choose sides。 With the help of the simple， four-color behavioral model made famous in Surrounded by Idiots， Erikson provides all the tools you need to manage not just the narcissists around you but everyday narcissistic behaviors as well–something that is becoming more widespread in the age of social media。 Your book helped me understand what makes narcissist tick， and how to handle them without getting really angry and saying things you will regret。 She texted me out of the blue and said we are going to stop giving Christmas presents but will give birthday presents since things are getting so expensive。 I was so annoyed that I let her have it。 I did text her back and made a sincere apology， but she has decided not to talk to me。 I am now a horrible person。 I think I have done all I can with her。 I can't do anything else but apologize and I have apologized with all my heart。 I know I will keep my cool with the next narcissist I come across thanks to your great book。 What is so strange I received your book the next day after our disagreement and blowup。 Highly recommend。 I am going to give her your book for Christmas even though she decided we weren't going to give Christmas presents。 I think she really needs it。 lol 。。。more

Carolyn Amate ，

SURROUNDED BY NARCISSISTS by Thomas Erickson Published by St Martin's Press Publishing date June 21 2022I have read alot of books about Narcism and psychopaths。 I feel this book did a decent job of describing the dsm clinical requirements I couldn't agree with everything he wrote however and felt he confused some terms and ideas。 However for a general basic understanding of the Narcassist I think it is fine。 Thank you Netgalley and St Martin's Press for the advanced copy for this advanced copy i SURROUNDED BY NARCISSISTS by Thomas Erickson Published by St Martin's Press Publishing date June 21 2022I have read alot of books about Narcism and psychopaths。 I feel this book did a decent job of describing the dsm clinical requirements I couldn't agree with everything he wrote however and felt he confused some terms and ideas。 However for a general basic understanding of the Narcassist I think it is fine。 Thank you Netgalley and St Martin's Press for the advanced copy for this advanced copy in exchange for my honest review。 。。。more

AnnieM ，

I was intrigued by this title having worked with people showing narcissistic tendencies so I was intrigued to learn more -- the subtitle is "How to Effectively Recognize， Avoid， and Defend Yourself Against Toxic People （and Not Lose Your Mind） [The Surrounded by Idiots Series]" - and what I appreciated about the book is that in the very opening chapters he clearly states that to truly diagnose someone as being narcissistic should be done by a trained professional。 But that people can exhibit nar I was intrigued by this title having worked with people showing narcissistic tendencies so I was intrigued to learn more -- the subtitle is "How to Effectively Recognize， Avoid， and Defend Yourself Against Toxic People （and Not Lose Your Mind） [The Surrounded by Idiots Series]" - and what I appreciated about the book is that in the very opening chapters he clearly states that to truly diagnose someone as being narcissistic should be done by a trained professional。 But that people can exhibit narcissistic type behaviors and our society tends to promote and reward some of these behaviors。 Erikson uses the DiSC theory （personality assessment） as a basis for looking at personality factors and human behavior which is extremely relevant to my workplace since we use DiSC as a tool for individual development/self awareness and for team effectiveness。 Also helpful is the understanding that beneath it all narcissists want control -- that is exactly how I have experienced these type of people in my work and life -- it is so refreshing when you realize that you will never be able to please them no matter what you do -- that knowledge has freed me up to stop wasting energy on trying to please them。 Erikson also outlines some other techniques and I have used some of them and find they work really well -- such as， break the pattern （put a pause before you react） or become a broken record without letting yourself get triggered。 The latter chapters address cultural/society issues as well as parenting。 I am actually interested in reading other books in "The Surrounded by Idiots series！" Thank you to Netgalley and St。 Martin's Press for an ARC in exchange for my honest opinion。 。。。more

sara ^^ ，

4。7we’ve been trough some hard times togetherkapitola/y o rodičovstve neboli it， ale inak 👌

Miya （in a puddle of pain） ，

Some good information， but also some different ideas than what I have previously read about narcissistic people。 Worth reading， especially if you are dealing with narcissists in your life。 In those cases we really need all the information and skills possible。 I would recommend to people in situations like that。

Lani ，

Thanks so much to NetGalley for the ARC！This is a great resource for anyone looking to understand what narcissism is and ways it manifests。 This book will not help you if you want to learn to live with， confront， or heal from narcissistic abuse。

Kathryn E Hagen ，

This book is an excellent layman's introduction to narcissism and how you can deal with narcissists you may encounter in your life。 The many examples and anecdotes of this type of behavior helped me to understand what narcissism is and how I can handle it on a daily basis。 I was even helped to understand some of my own narcissistic behaviors。 The writing is very clear， and assuming English is not the author's first language， the author is very fluent in the text。 I did find a few examples of sen This book is an excellent layman's introduction to narcissism and how you can deal with narcissists you may encounter in your life。 The many examples and anecdotes of this type of behavior helped me to understand what narcissism is and how I can handle it on a daily basis。 I was even helped to understand some of my own narcissistic behaviors。 The writing is very clear， and assuming English is not the author's first language， the author is very fluent in the text。 I did find a few examples of sentences that I had to read a couple of times in order to get the meaning， but the book far and away is smooth sailing and the development of the subject is direct and logical from start to finish。 。。。more

Celine Werket Jakobsen ，

For tørr，kjente meg ikke igjennom uten gode eksempler。。。

Cristi Marashi ，

3。5 stars。I was really enjoying this book and getting a lot of it in the first sections。 I felt validated and less crazy about the two closest people in my life who I recently have come to the conclusion are both narcissists and that I somehow attract them without realizing it。 I learned a lot of warning signs， and appreciated the reiteration to get as far away from them as possible。 The 3rd part of the book lost me though。 Ironically a lot of this section of the book sounded almost narcissistic 3。5 stars。I was really enjoying this book and getting a lot of it in the first sections。 I felt validated and less crazy about the two closest people in my life who I recently have come to the conclusion are both narcissists and that I somehow attract them without realizing it。 I learned a lot of warning signs， and appreciated the reiteration to get as far away from them as possible。 The 3rd part of the book lost me though。 Ironically a lot of this section of the book sounded almost narcissistic to me。 I was lost in what sounded more like complaining about the current state of affairs between adults and their children and less about learning how to stop those behaviors although there were glimpses here and there。 If the 3rd section hadnt have been a part of this book， I woule have given it 4 stars。 。。。more

Crissy Berry ，

3。5 STARS！ “Surrounded by Narcissists” is one of many books I’ve read recently on the subject。 I really enjoyed the author’s conversational style and humor！ While I don’t think I learned anything new on the subject， there were some unique discussions of how narcissism affects different personality types。 I enjoyed learning about Reds， Yellows， Greens， and Blues and how the weaknesses of each personality type would be vulnerable to manipulate by a narcissist。 I also thought the points about our c 3。5 STARS！ “Surrounded by Narcissists” is one of many books I’ve read recently on the subject。 I really enjoyed the author’s conversational style and humor！ While I don’t think I learned anything new on the subject， there were some unique discussions of how narcissism affects different personality types。 I enjoyed learning about Reds， Yellows， Greens， and Blues and how the weaknesses of each personality type would be vulnerable to manipulate by a narcissist。 I also thought the points about our culture fostering narcissism were very timely and so true！ I appreciated the author’s boldness to share that if we would focus on others more than ourselves then we would see a change in our culture。 I know this wasn’t a faith-based book， but I was happy to see many statements that were in line with my faith！ If you haven’t read a book on the subject of narcissism， and it’s increasing prevalence today- I would definitely recommend this as an interesting read！ My only regret with the book overall is the thought that we should rarely try to “out” a manipulative and narcissistic person， and the authors main advice was just to run away。 That’s not feasible for many people。 And again， I know this is not a faith-based book， but I would be eager to read how to handle such a person in terms of how the Bible sees these people。 I think there’s a very good argument that the Pharisees fit the bill for narcissistic individuals。 And we could learn a lot from Christ’s handling of them。 Thanks so much to NetGalley for the ARC！ 。。。more

Kristie ，

Truly excellent。 Identifying characteristics of a narcissist is crucial。 They really do exist in every social situation: jobs， families， clubs， church communities， etc。 This book is a terrific guide in defining， recognizing， and managing someone with NPD （ to an extent。） Important for parents， adult children， employers， employees。。。really anyone。 Being around the behavior for long periods of time can have devastating effects。 Victims of it will learn that the narcissist's patterns are not their Truly excellent。 Identifying characteristics of a narcissist is crucial。 They really do exist in every social situation: jobs， families， clubs， church communities， etc。 This book is a terrific guide in defining， recognizing， and managing someone with NPD （ to an extent。） Important for parents， adult children， employers， employees。。。really anyone。 Being around the behavior for long periods of time can have devastating effects。 Victims of it will learn that the narcissist's patterns are not their fault。 Recommended！ Thank you NetGalley and St。 Martin’s Press for the advanced copy。 。。。more

Jenessa ，

I received this ARC in exchange for my honest review。 I think the new trigger phrase is "narcissistic。" It used to be Karen but lately I hear people using this word， even if it's not applicable。 Having done some personal research into narcissism due to family members exhibiting those characteristics， I was looking forward to reading this book and finding out more in a concentrated focus as opposed to Googling sources。 This book had an easy to read tone and is helpful for understanding what exact I received this ARC in exchange for my honest review。 I think the new trigger phrase is "narcissistic。" It used to be Karen but lately I hear people using this word， even if it's not applicable。 Having done some personal research into narcissism due to family members exhibiting those characteristics， I was looking forward to reading this book and finding out more in a concentrated focus as opposed to Googling sources。 This book had an easy to read tone and is helpful for understanding what exactly narcissism is。 。。。more

Linden ，

I like to figure out why people do what they do， so I found this book fascinating。 The author， writing in a friendly conversational style， tells us how to identify a narcissist， or someone with narcissistic personality disorder， or a person who just has some of these traits。 We can blame permissive parents or the Internet， but some of these behaviors may be hard wired， involving some nature and some nurture。 It does seem that nowadays more people are focused on what THEY want rather than trying I like to figure out why people do what they do， so I found this book fascinating。 The author， writing in a friendly conversational style， tells us how to identify a narcissist， or someone with narcissistic personality disorder， or a person who just has some of these traits。 We can blame permissive parents or the Internet， but some of these behaviors may be hard wired， involving some nature and some nurture。 It does seem that nowadays more people are focused on what THEY want rather than trying to consider how their behavior might affect others。 I liked the authors’ example: “If the person sitting in the front row of the airplane leans the seat back as far as it will go…this spreads all the way back， until…the person in the last row has nowhere to go。 Sometimes I get the feeling that a growing number of us have started pushing our seats back all the way。” Thanks to Netgalley and the publisher for the ARC。 。。。more

BookStarRaven ，

Surrounded by Narcissists by Thomas Erikson is an in-depth look at what it means to be a Narcissist and how best to relate to them （or not） in everyday life。 Narcissists consider themselves special and will value themselves at the expense of others。 They crave the praise and adulation of others and will do anything to get it。I found the comparison between Psychopath， Narcissism and Machiavellianism interesting。 All of these personality disorders have overlapping presentations but are uniquely di Surrounded by Narcissists by Thomas Erikson is an in-depth look at what it means to be a Narcissist and how best to relate to them （or not） in everyday life。 Narcissists consider themselves special and will value themselves at the expense of others。 They crave the praise and adulation of others and will do anything to get it。I found the comparison between Psychopath， Narcissism and Machiavellianism interesting。 All of these personality disorders have overlapping presentations but are uniquely different。 For example， “Psychopathy mostly involves being cold， unempathetic， and insensitive to the needs of others。 Machiavellianism mostly involves manipulating people for personal gain。 Narcissism mostly involves feeling deserving of praise and special treatment that others don’t receive。I can’t say I’ve actively known someone who could be diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder。 I’ve definitely known， and currently， know people who have narcissistic traits。 I hate to think that I would be vulnerable to a narcissist but after reading this book， I think we all are。 If I can realize this about myself hopefully， I can stay vigilant and keep an eye out for red flags。 This book was written in an easy-to-read， straight forward style。 I would recommend it to anyone who thinks they know a narcissist or wants to know more about how a narcissist behaves。Rating: 4/5Genre: Non-Fiction/psychologyI received this as a NETGALLEY ARC 。。。more

Doti ，

2，23Ta książka byłaby w porządku， gdyby skończyła się mniej więcej w połowie。 I nie chodzi mi o to， że była zbyt długa， tylko raczej o to， że właśnie mniej więcej od połowy autor odszedł od opisu narcyzów i zaczął opowiadać o swoim poglądzie na przyszłość świata。 Gościu， nie jesteś w żaden sposób wyjątkowy， jeśli nie lubisz Instagrama。 Nie jesteś przez to fajniejszy ani bardziej ludzki， to nie jest cecha charakteru， daj spokój i wróć do tematu。 Niczego to nie wniosło do książki i czasami miałam 2，23Ta książka byłaby w porządku， gdyby skończyła się mniej więcej w połowie。 I nie chodzi mi o to， że była zbyt długa， tylko raczej o to， że właśnie mniej więcej od połowy autor odszedł od opisu narcyzów i zaczął opowiadać o swoim poglądzie na przyszłość świata。 Gościu， nie jesteś w żaden sposób wyjątkowy， jeśli nie lubisz Instagrama。 Nie jesteś przez to fajniejszy ani bardziej ludzki， to nie jest cecha charakteru， daj spokój i wróć do tematu。 Niczego to nie wniosło do książki i czasami miałam wrażenie， że autor po prostu musi czyms wypełnić dodatkowe strony。Sama część o rozpozanwaniu narcyzów była naprawdę ciekawa i nauczyłam się z niej naprawdę sporo。 Zauważyłam wiele narcystycznych zachowań u osób， które znam， a także u siebie， wiem teraz， skąd to się bierze i w jaki sposób pracować nad sobą oraz uniknąć zmanipulowania przez osobę narcystyczną。 Doceniam również zwrócenie uwagi na to， że narcyzom nie należy współczuć i traktować ich jak ofiary， bo często słyszy się takie rzeczy， że to są osoby potrebujące pomocy i ratunku， ale nikt nigdy nie mówi o tym， że nie musimy my konkretnie takich osób ratować。Mimo swoich dobrych stron， te negatywne części zapadły mi w pamięć za mocno， żeby dać wyższą ocenę。 Nie możemy mówić o tym， jak bardzo zła jest manipulacja， jeśli sami trochę próbujemy to robić， nieładnie。 No i "nie jestem psychologiem， ALE。。。" to trochę słaba opcja。A！ Zapomniałabym！ Anoreksja to przede wszystkim zaburzenie psychiczne， nie przeciwstawiamy jej otyłości， bo to jak przeciwstawienie czarnego i zielonego！ 。。。more

Janet ，

I found this book to be helpful in identifying what a narcissist is and what they are not。 The author distinguishes between narcissists and other energy draining personality types。 He gave a good analysis as to the explosion of narcism in our current popular culture， specifically with the use of social media and the popularity of self-love。 He delves further into raising narcissistic children and ways to avoid it。 Overall， the reader will walk away with a more clear cut picture of narcism as a d I found this book to be helpful in identifying what a narcissist is and what they are not。 The author distinguishes between narcissists and other energy draining personality types。 He gave a good analysis as to the explosion of narcism in our current popular culture， specifically with the use of social media and the popularity of self-love。 He delves further into raising narcissistic children and ways to avoid it。 Overall， the reader will walk away with a more clear cut picture of narcism as a disorder versus recognizing narcissistic traits in a loved one。 However， the author relies on the color personality test and refers to this often throughout the book。 This can be confusing for those that are unfamiliar with the test， let alone for those that do not identify with the test。 I thought this took away from the actual point of his book。 There also seemed to be a distant 。。。 almost comical undertone in his writing。 It made me feel that he didn't really understand what it was like to be in a relationship with a narcissist， let alone the traumatic aftermath。 He alludes to this throughout the book but it did not come across in his writing。 Overall， I did find some useful information int his book。 I would like to thank NetGalley for the free copy of the electronic version of this book for my honest review。 I am incredibly grateful to NetGalley for this opportunity。 。。。more

Jan-ove ，

Den mest relevanta boken till den tidpunkten jag läser den på。 2-6。3。2022。Denna bör alla läsa。 Klart bästa sedan Omgiven av idioter。

Toni ，

Narcissism is a word thrown around a great deal recently。 I hear " He's a Narcissist " ， She has Narcissistic tendencies" 。In the culture of today's world where one is taught to put themselves first， it is not a surprise that there may be such thoughts。 So what exactly is a person like who is a Narcissist？ This is the first book I've read on this subject that delved in deep to every characteristic。， beginning with the fact that Narcissism is a personality disorder。 There is no medication that wi Narcissism is a word thrown around a great deal recently。 I hear " He's a Narcissist " ， She has Narcissistic tendencies" 。In the culture of today's world where one is taught to put themselves first， it is not a surprise that there may be such thoughts。 So what exactly is a person like who is a Narcissist？ This is the first book I've read on this subject that delved in deep to every characteristic。， beginning with the fact that Narcissism is a personality disorder。 There is no medication that will fix it or any therapy that would cure it。 What is the difference between a person that has a great self esteem and is successful and a Narcissist？。 Read this book to have that question answered in a crystal clear way。 There are many examples of behaviors in various situations。 In one of the ending Chapters there is a test on "Are you a Narcissist？ This is a book that I will re read and refer to。Thanks to NetGalley， St Martin's Publishing and the author for the opportunity to read and review this book。 It publishes on June 21， 2022 。。。more

Kat ，

*Updated Version*Thank you to the publisher and @NetGalley for the E-ARC copy of this book。 The rating of this book is entirely of my own opinion。

Anna Sjögren ，

Någorlunda läsvärd bok men det är bättre att välja en annan bok som behandlar narcissism。 Det märks i boken att den inte är skriven utifrån ett intresse utan för att författaren blivit ombedd att skriva den。 Det saknas information om hur du ska hantera släkting med narcissistisk personlighetsstörning när du inte har möjlighet att bryta kontakten。 Det är en del tankar kring mänskligheten som är intressanta i sig men som saknar egentlig koppling till titeln。 Boken utgår också ifrån att människor k Någorlunda läsvärd bok men det är bättre att välja en annan bok som behandlar narcissism。 Det märks i boken att den inte är skriven utifrån ett intresse utan för att författaren blivit ombedd att skriva den。 Det saknas information om hur du ska hantera släkting med narcissistisk personlighetsstörning när du inte har möjlighet att bryta kontakten。 Det är en del tankar kring mänskligheten som är intressanta i sig men som saknar egentlig koppling till titeln。 Boken utgår också ifrån att människor kan delas in i röd， gul， grön och blå， en utgångspunkt som inte är vedertagen och som många inte anser är korrekt。 。。。more

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