Overcoming Low Self-Esteem: A Self-Help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques
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- Author：Melanie Fennell
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Summary
Low self-esteem can make life difficult in all sorts of ways。 It can make you anxious and unhappy， tormented by doubts and self-critical thoughts。 It can get in the way of feeling at ease with other people and stop you from leading the life you want to lead。 It makes it hard to value and appreciate yourself in the same way you would another person you care about。
Melanie Fennell's acclaimed and best-selling self-help guide will help you to understand your low self-esteem and break out of the vicious circle of distress， unhelpful behaviour and self-destructive thinking。 Using practical techniques from cognitive behavioural therapy （CBT）， this book will help you learn the art of self-acceptance and so transform your sense of yourself for the better。 Specifically， you will learn:
How low self-esteem develops and what keeps it going
How to question your negative thoughts and the attitudes that underlie them
How to identify your strengths and good qualities for a more balanced， kindly view of yourself
Overcoming self-help guides use clinically proven techniques to treat long-standing and disabling conditions， both psychological and physical。
Melanie Fennell's acclaimed and best-selling self-help guide will help you to understand your low self-esteem and break out of the vicious circle of distress， unhelpful behaviour and self-destructive thinking。 Using practical techniques from cognitive behavioural therapy （CBT）， this book will help you learn the art of self-acceptance and so transform your sense of yourself for the better。 Specifically， you will learn:
How low self-esteem develops and what keeps it going
How to question your negative thoughts and the attitudes that underlie them
How to identify your strengths and good qualities for a more balanced， kindly view of yourself
Overcoming self-help guides use clinically proven techniques to treat long-standing and disabling conditions， both psychological and physical。
Reviews
Lauren
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Not the most exciting book to read but contains a lot of valuable information for when you need a reminder to be kind to yourself。 It was rather reassuring to read this book and recognise that I put quite a lot of its advice into practice nowadays！
Birgül Zelzele
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I think that’s a book which is needed to read many times…Well， it’s worth to try…
Benoit Lelièvre
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People are often looking for miracles when it comes to self-help or psychology books。 They want a thunderous "ah-HA" moment that will revolutionize their lives。 This book doesn't offer that， but it offers clarity and insight on why people develop low self-esteem， how it works and how you can win the war against your brain。 British psychologist Melanie Fennell puts it in the simplest possible terms。 You've developed a "bottom line"。 Some type of belief about yourself that makes you miserable and People are often looking for miracles when it comes to self-help or psychology books。 They want a thunderous "ah-HA" moment that will revolutionize their lives。 This book doesn't offer that， but it offers clarity and insight on why people develop low self-esteem， how it works and how you can win the war against your brain。 British psychologist Melanie Fennell puts it in the simplest possible terms。 You've developed a "bottom line"。 Some type of belief about yourself that makes you miserable and life rules， which are designed to work around that belief。 If you feel incompetent， you're going to make a point of nailing every possible project you're working on and if you don't， you're going to feel like shit。 If you feel unlovable， you're going to go out of your way to get people to love you and each rejection will hurt like shit。 This abusive dynamic is at the core of your low self-esteem and Melanie Fennell developed a system in order to uproot it from your life。I listened to an audiobook of this and I won't like， it made me drift to my own crap several times over， which is a good sign。 I had to stop and put Fennell's ideas into perspective and really gained a better understanding of why I suck at liking myself。 It's a book for those who want to do the work。 Not for those who want it gift wrapped to them。 。。。more
Sumaiya
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This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 Abandonment for me is a huge topic。 Abandonment can be anything from your parents leaving you or me also experiencing abandonment when your family structure also changes。 So maybe dad will leave or mom will leave or there's a separation temporary， but just that change in what you're familiar with can be experienced as abandonment because your sense of belonging and your identity shifts a little bit。 More information: https://youtu。be/4c4RZ1BZ9Lc Abandonment for me is a huge topic。 Abandonment can be anything from your parents leaving you or me also experiencing abandonment when your family structure also changes。 So maybe dad will leave or mom will leave or there's a separation temporary， but just that change in what you're familiar with can be experienced as abandonment because your sense of belonging and your identity shifts a little bit。 More information: https://youtu。be/4c4RZ1BZ9Lc 。。。more
Ezgi Sadıkoğlu
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Kitabın tek sevmediğim tarafı basit bir kişisel gelişim kitabı izlenimi veren ismi。 Çok şey öğrendim， özgüvenin ne olduğunu dahi bilmiyormuşum ve her ne kadar kendime güveniyor gibi görünsem de en ufak pürüzde kendimi eleştirip suçlamamdan， kafamda felaket senaryoları yazmaya meyilli olmamdan anlıyorum ki hala bir yanım hasarlı。 Kitap bana çok iyi geldi bu yönden。 Örneklerle somutlaştırılarak anlatımına， bir diğer self-help kitabı Hayatı Yeniden Keşfedin'den aşinaydım。 O da başucu kitabım ve art Kitabın tek sevmediğim tarafı basit bir kişisel gelişim kitabı izlenimi veren ismi。 Çok şey öğrendim， özgüvenin ne olduğunu dahi bilmiyormuşum ve her ne kadar kendime güveniyor gibi görünsem de en ufak pürüzde kendimi eleştirip suçlamamdan， kafamda felaket senaryoları yazmaya meyilli olmamdan anlıyorum ki hala bir yanım hasarlı。 Kitap bana çok iyi geldi bu yönden。 Örneklerle somutlaştırılarak anlatımına， bir diğer self-help kitabı Hayatı Yeniden Keşfedin'den aşinaydım。 O da başucu kitabım ve artık bu da。 。。。more
Darragh Howley
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Probably a 2。5， short and maybe a bit repetitive but not bad
Hana Afrah
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loved it！ very informative and comphrehensive。
Dafni
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Good tool for CBT therapists and psychologists who work with a range of presentations overlapping with low self-esteem。 Written in lay language， is a thought-provoking book to suggest to clients who would benefit from reading about self-esteem and challenge their negative thoughts through self-help exercises based on the cognitive-behavioural school of psychology。 Not outstanding， but enables therapists to explore low self-esteem as a core belief / negative automatic thoughts that may be associa Good tool for CBT therapists and psychologists who work with a range of presentations overlapping with low self-esteem。 Written in lay language， is a thought-provoking book to suggest to clients who would benefit from reading about self-esteem and challenge their negative thoughts through self-help exercises based on the cognitive-behavioural school of psychology。 Not outstanding， but enables therapists to explore low self-esteem as a core belief / negative automatic thoughts that may be associated with depression， social anxiety and eating disorders among others。 Good material for psychoeducation。 To my knowledge， a new version of this book is about to be published soon， so keep your eyes and ears open。 。。。more
Ieva Laganovska
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It takes a lot of work to make this book useful for you。 I loved it’s structured approach， real instruments - worksheets which are filled with tasks and questions。 You can’t just slip it through and wait for some changes。 This book is as good as you make it for you - I was 50/50 invested in tasks， for some of them I took notes， filled worksheets， but I didn’t do it daily。 For me it wasn’t life changer， but guide of tools I can use occasionally。
Eman A
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Definitely wont expect my self esteem to be boosted immediately after or just by reading a book。 It does， however， provide really useful principles， examples and exercises that prompt you to challenge your thoughts。 It also mentioned how things don't always work， how sometimes you can hardly find any explanation for your thoughts or events in your life and emphasized how you should keep going; as something like low self-esteem that has been there for long time in your life wont disappear easily。 Definitely wont expect my self esteem to be boosted immediately after or just by reading a book。 It does， however， provide really useful principles， examples and exercises that prompt you to challenge your thoughts。 It also mentioned how things don't always work， how sometimes you can hardly find any explanation for your thoughts or events in your life and emphasized how you should keep going; as something like low self-esteem that has been there for long time in your life wont disappear easily。But to get the benefit of all this， it needs motivation and persistence; continuing to apply the principles and not stopping when faced with disappointments。 。。。more
Shazia
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A book about how to overcome low self esteem and resources to help you too。
Kristín Hulda
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Las þessa fyrir einhverjum árum í klíníska náminu， set almennt ekki sálfræðibækur á goodreads en þessi er alveg frábær og gagnleg fyrir marga （ekki bara fólk með klínískt lágt sjálfsmat）。 HAM meðferðarhandbókin sem er mest notuð á Íslandi við lágu sjálfsmati byggir mjög mikið á þessari （sú sem er notuð a LSH）。 Bókin er full af verkefnum og pælingum sem gott væri fyrir alla að lesa/gera og er í raun bara DIY hugræn atferlismeðferð sett fram á ótrúlega skýran hátt！ Gott mótvægi við hinar fjölmörgu Las þessa fyrir einhverjum árum í klíníska náminu， set almennt ekki sálfræðibækur á goodreads en þessi er alveg frábær og gagnleg fyrir marga （ekki bara fólk með klínískt lágt sjálfsmat）。 HAM meðferðarhandbókin sem er mest notuð á Íslandi við lágu sjálfsmati byggir mjög mikið á þessari （sú sem er notuð a LSH）。 Bókin er full af verkefnum og pælingum sem gott væri fyrir alla að lesa/gera og er í raun bara DIY hugræn atferlismeðferð sett fram á ótrúlega skýran hátt！ Gott mótvægi við hinar fjölmörgu lélegu sjálfshjálparbækur sem til eru （og virðast vera í meirihluta í þeim bókaflokki）。 。。。more
Cath Lloyd
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Very informative and an important book to read if you want to support yourself and others。
Ece
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I find that rationalizing my feelings do not help。 I even think it can do more harm than good。 After a while， you start neglecting your "unhelpful" thoughts and feelings， which leads to not acknowledging them and not dealing with them。 That's why CBT only works at first。 Still， this book is not that bad in helping you reflect on your thinking patterns about yourself。 I find that rationalizing my feelings do not help。 I even think it can do more harm than good。 After a while， you start neglecting your "unhelpful" thoughts and feelings， which leads to not acknowledging them and not dealing with them。 That's why CBT only works at first。 Still， this book is not that bad in helping you reflect on your thinking patterns about yourself。 。。。more
Kayley Hartley
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This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 Didn’t finish it all as found it quite repetitive， skim read and skipped the last couple of chapters
RomanAClef
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Я обожаю эту книгу。 Мне она помогла。 Лёгкий язык， повторяющиеся мысли в разных формулировках。 Я увидела эту книгу в ссылке на статью о кейс-исследовании， в котором случайным людям какого-то центра психпомощи без психзаболеваний выдавали эту книжку。 После её прочтения мне стало понятно， как себя любить， справляться с беспокойством， относиться к себе с участием， и менять жизнь под себя。 Это внутренняя трансформация， когда совесть， желание， лень， боль， азарт обретают смысл。 Когда внутренние убежден Я обожаю эту книгу。 Мне она помогла。 Лёгкий язык， повторяющиеся мысли в разных формулировках。 Я увидела эту книгу в ссылке на статью о кейс-исследовании， в котором случайным людям какого-то центра психпомощи без психзаболеваний выдавали эту книжку。 После её прочтения мне стало понятно， как себя любить， справляться с беспокойством， относиться к себе с участием， и менять жизнь под себя。 Это внутренняя трансформация， когда совесть， желание， лень， боль， азарт обретают смысл。 Когда внутренние убеждения， годами казавшиеся незыблемыми， становятся лишь одной из точек зрения。 Когда я могу спросить себя "насколько я верю в то， что сейчас думаю？"Понятие низкой самооценки в этой книге несколько иное， чем я раньше считала， хотя внешне разница не большая。 Я считала， что говоря о низкой самооценке， мы говорим о том， насколько хорошо человек к себе относится。 Но в книге низкая самооценка -- это замкнутый круг негативных эмоций и нерациональных действий。 Он обычно появляется под действием внешней ситуации。 Человек обрастает правилами， которые призваны не дать ему попасть в ситуацию， где это убеждение подтвердится。 Происходит смещение в сторону отбора негативных фактов и предвзятого их оценивания как доказательство негативного убеждения。 Также низкой самооценкой можно считать убеждения о враждебности， сложности， опасности， коварности мира。Предложены техники， как ослабить действие этого круга， как определить свои правила и оценить их обоснованность и актуальность。 Финальным шагом приведен разбор "Bottom Line" ， которое я перевожу как "окончательный вердикт"。Каждая глава состоит из теории， практики и вопросов "что если у меня не получится X？"В конце книги приведен краткий чеклист пройденных техник， и напутствие на будущее。 。。。more
Lucie
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Cawpile 2。14DNF because it doesn't work for me。 Cawpile 2。14DNF because it doesn't work for me。 。。。more
sıla karaman
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Özgüven sorununuz olmasa bile size bir şeyler öğretebilecek bir kitap。 Kısa ve öz， yararlı tavsiyeler sunuyor
Reda
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This is a very informative and helpful book， it has influenced the way I perceive myself。 However， I expected more from this book。 It's somewhat difficult to read， the structure is confusing， there's a lot of repetitive parts。 The subject is great， but the execution needs clarity。 This is a very informative and helpful book， it has influenced the way I perceive myself。 However， I expected more from this book。 It's somewhat difficult to read， the structure is confusing， there's a lot of repetitive parts。 The subject is great， but the execution needs clarity。 。。。more
MRS ALISON JONES
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InvaluableThis book takes you closely and sensitively through the possible reasons for your low self-esteem， and gives practical ideas and advice for how to address thought patterns & behaviours， enabling you to be free from misconceptions & barriers to discovering your true worth。 With exercises to work through at your own pace， I can honestly say this book has changed my life！
Michael Sweeney
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Some of the exercises can be quite repetitive but overall I found it helpful in how I deal with social anxiety and feelings of low self-esteem。
Hannah
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Very informative with some great examples and techniques for boosting self esteem。I think this book works best when read/used along side other mental health books as usually low self esteem stems from somewhere and often goes along side mental illness。
Mari-Liis
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Väga asjalik ja huvitav raamat。 Loen seda raamatut juba pea kaks aastat。 Mul oli see e-raamatuna olemas ja üle poole ka loetud， aga kuna mulle kuidagi ei istunud tahvlist lugemine， siis jäi see sinnapaika。 Kui 2019 suvel nägin seda raamatut allahinnatuna müügis， siis teadsin， et see on märk。 Ostsin ja hakkasin lugema， aga ikka jäi pooleni。 Kuniks ma nüüd mõtlesin， et loen selle lõpuks läbi ja väärt oli， et ma end kokku võtsin ja läbi lugesin。 Samas võibolla raamat teadis， et nüüd on õige hetk mi Väga asjalik ja huvitav raamat。 Loen seda raamatut juba pea kaks aastat。 Mul oli see e-raamatuna olemas ja üle poole ka loetud， aga kuna mulle kuidagi ei istunud tahvlist lugemine， siis jäi see sinnapaika。 Kui 2019 suvel nägin seda raamatut allahinnatuna müügis， siis teadsin， et see on märk。 Ostsin ja hakkasin lugema， aga ikka jäi pooleni。 Kuniks ma nüüd mõtlesin， et loen selle lõpuks läbi ja väärt oli， et ma end kokku võtsin ja läbi lugesin。 Samas võibolla raamat teadis， et nüüd on õige hetk minu juurde tulla？Autor pakub välja huvitavaid viise， kuidas saada võitu madalast enesehinnangust。 Soovitaksin kohe raamatu alguses võtta kõrvale paberid ja pliiatsi ning hakata erinevaid skeeme ja tabeleid kohe kaasa tegema。 Mina seda muidugi ei teinud ja sellepärast ilmselt lasen raamatul mõne aja seedida ning võtan uuesti käsile。 Aga hoolimata sellest， et ma kohe erinevaid ülesandeid kaasa ei teinud jäid mõned meelde ning ikka praktiseerin oma elus。 。。。more
Vasco
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The bad: nothing in particular。The good: a practical and helpful CBT-based guide for overcoming low-self esteem。 It covers the basics from a CBT perspective， from belief transformation to examining your rules for living and your predictions about what will happen， going down into your core identity traits and reshaping those beliefs。 Solid and informative manual。
Christie
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An inspiring book。Self-prejudice， Over-thinking， Self-criticism （toxic）。 People who suffer from low self-esteem are incapable of seeing the whole pictures of their egos， simply seeing the ugly part that confirms their prejudice on themselves。 They can't help collecting details of failures or setbacks even awkardness in their life to stress their negative cognition of themselves。 For most people， the saying is "treat others in the way you would like to be treated"， however the advice goes on the An inspiring book。Self-prejudice， Over-thinking， Self-criticism （toxic）。 People who suffer from low self-esteem are incapable of seeing the whole pictures of their egos， simply seeing the ugly part that confirms their prejudice on themselves。 They can't help collecting details of failures or setbacks even awkardness in their life to stress their negative cognition of themselves。 For most people， the saying is "treat others in the way you would like to be treated"， however the advice goes on the contrary for those people with low self-esteem， "treat yourself kindly as you treat others"。 Keep Discovering the lovely part of you， and concentrate on believing your discovery。 。。。more
Madli Allikas
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Võtab kokku ja seletab lahti kõik kognitiiv käitumuslik teraapias kasutatavaid enesehinnangu ning põhiuskumute muutmiseks ning mõistmiseks kasutatavaid võtteid。 Kindlasti toimib teraapia kõrvalt - iseseisvalt tuleb väga palju iseseisvalt vaeva näha。
Ozge
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Cok guzel aciklama ve orneklendirmelerle baslayan kitap maalesef ilerleyen sayfalarda kendini tekrara dustugu icin sonlara dogru sıkıcı olmaya basladi。Genel olarak ortalama bir kitaptan oteye geçemedi maalesef
Onur
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İyi Hisset ile benzer tonda ama daha eksik， sade ve çokça kendini tekrar eden bir kitap。Belki de benzer türde çokça kitap okumanın getirdiği doygunluktan da bu düşük puanı vermiş olabilirim。 Bana yeni ve fazla bir şey katmadı maalesef。
L。R。J。 Allen
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Really excellent。 It goes hand in hand with CBT so more of a guiding hand than a definitive magic-make-it-all-better but definitely makes you think differently。
Mel
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