Grief Is Love: Living with Loss
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- Author：Marisa Renee Lee
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Summary
A trusted grief expert shares what Kirkus Reviews praises as “calm， lucid prose… [a] humanizing exploration of coping with the life-changing tides of loss。”
In Grief is Love， author Marisa Renee Lee reveals that healing does not mean moving on after losing a loved one — healing means learning to acknowledge and create space for your grief。 It is about learning to love the one you lost with the same depth， passion， joy， and commitment you did when they were alive， perhaps even more。 She guides you through the pain of grief—whether you’ve lost the person recently or long ago—and shows you what it looks like to honor your loss on your unique terms， and debunks the idea of a grief stages or timelines。 Grief is Love is about making space for the transformation that a significant loss requires。
In beautiful， compassionate prose， Lee elegantly offers wisdom about what it means to authentically and defiantly claim space for grief’s complicated feelings and emotions。 And Lee is no stranger to grief herself， she shares her journey after losing her mother， a pregnancy， and， most recently， a cousin to the COVID-19 pandemic。 These losses transformed her life and led her to question what grief really is and what healing actually looks like。 In this book， she also explores the unique impact of grief on Black people and reveals the key factors that proper healing requires: permission， care， feeling， grace and more。
The transformation we each undergo after loss is the indelible imprint of the people we love on our lives， which is the true definition of legacy。 At its core， Grief is Love explores what comes after death， and shows us that if we are able to own and honor what we’ve lost， we can experience a beautiful and joyful life in the midst of grief。
In Grief is Love， author Marisa Renee Lee reveals that healing does not mean moving on after losing a loved one — healing means learning to acknowledge and create space for your grief。 It is about learning to love the one you lost with the same depth， passion， joy， and commitment you did when they were alive， perhaps even more。 She guides you through the pain of grief—whether you’ve lost the person recently or long ago—and shows you what it looks like to honor your loss on your unique terms， and debunks the idea of a grief stages or timelines。 Grief is Love is about making space for the transformation that a significant loss requires。
In beautiful， compassionate prose， Lee elegantly offers wisdom about what it means to authentically and defiantly claim space for grief’s complicated feelings and emotions。 And Lee is no stranger to grief herself， she shares her journey after losing her mother， a pregnancy， and， most recently， a cousin to the COVID-19 pandemic。 These losses transformed her life and led her to question what grief really is and what healing actually looks like。 In this book， she also explores the unique impact of grief on Black people and reveals the key factors that proper healing requires: permission， care， feeling， grace and more。
The transformation we each undergo after loss is the indelible imprint of the people we love on our lives， which is the true definition of legacy。 At its core， Grief is Love explores what comes after death， and shows us that if we are able to own and honor what we’ve lost， we can experience a beautiful and joyful life in the midst of grief。
Reviews
Cheryl B
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I don't think grief is made harder or easier based on your race or ethnicity。 Disappointed。 I don't think grief is made harder or easier based on your race or ethnicity。 Disappointed。 。。。more
Mckall Dodd
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This book was beautiful， raw， and vulnerable。 I related to a lot of Marisa’s grief journey experiences。 At times it felt repetitive， but I think that’s just because I hear a lot of what she has to say from my therapist。 If I would’ve read this book right after I lost my baby， I would have benefited immensely。 It is still a good insight into grief regarding death。 Even if you haven’t lost someone close to you， I recommend reading it。 It will help create the foundation of understanding and empathi This book was beautiful， raw， and vulnerable。 I related to a lot of Marisa’s grief journey experiences。 At times it felt repetitive， but I think that’s just because I hear a lot of what she has to say from my therapist。 If I would’ve read this book right after I lost my baby， I would have benefited immensely。 It is still a good insight into grief regarding death。 Even if you haven’t lost someone close to you， I recommend reading it。 It will help create the foundation of understanding and empathizing with grief and loss。 。。。more
Ruby
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"We are taught that grief is something that arrives in the immediate aftermath of death， and while that's certainly true， it's not the whole story。 Grief is the experience of navigating your loss， figuring out how to deal with the absence of your loved one forever。""We are irrevocable changed when we lose someone we love because so much of who we are is a reflection of the people who love us， and now one of those people is gone。 In the beginning， the mere act of sustaining your own life feels im "We are taught that grief is something that arrives in the immediate aftermath of death， and while that's certainly true， it's not the whole story。 Grief is the experience of navigating your loss， figuring out how to deal with the absence of your loved one forever。""We are irrevocable changed when we lose someone we love because so much of who we are is a reflection of the people who love us， and now one of those people is gone。 In the beginning， the mere act of sustaining your own life feels impossible。""I didn't know anger， envy， frustration， depression， anxiety， and shame were common elements of grief。""The stability I had previously taken for granted was replaced by the pain that arrives when you learn that someone you love is going to die。 It was a deep sense of foreboding， a bodily knowledge of things to come that you would do just about anything to avoid。""Living with loss requires you to give yourself permission to grieve however you want to for the rest of your life。。。because grief is love， and both love and grief live on。""When the moment of death arrives， it can feel like something has broken you wide open-because it has。 There are no rules。 There's no other way to describe it。 It's moment that shatters you。 A moment that brings with it emotions and feelings-physical， mental， and psychological-all in one suffocating wave。""For some people， it's natural: the openness to who they are and what they feel seems to roll out of them like a clear streams; it's respectable， admirable even。 For the rest of us， vulnerability often feels like an eternal debate; to share the things we don't even want to admit to ourselves， the secret， and sometimes dark， spots of our mind and heart， the things that we don't even want to feel but can't help feeling-it can seem almost impossible to communicate them to someone else。""If day-today living often feels like a battle， grieving seems like a luxury。""I've come to recognize that we struggle hardest when we don't feel protected。 This often makes grief tougher for people of color， Black people in particular， because the safety that vulnerability requires is so much harder to access。""Decades of research have shown that racism and discrimination， in addition to chronic stress ad trauma， are linked to a higher incidence of many health conditions， ranging from obesity to breast cancer to metabolomic disorders。""No matter where you are in terms of life's circumstances， you are worthy。 Your grief is worthy。 Your grief is valid no matter how marginalized you may be by society。 Do not let anyone else set the standards for who you have to be in order to grieve the way you need to grieve。""The hyper-independence that we worship is a myth perpetuated by White supremacy and capitalism。 The notion that we can or should do things completely on our own was started by a group of white men with slaves and/or servants。 What were they really doing on their own？ Also， what about the Indigenous people who originally cultivated this land and made it habitable？ Weren't they also standing on their backs as well？ One of the greatest lessons I learned as a teenager in advanced placement U。S。 history is the concept of leisure。 You need leisure， free time and space to think， in order to develop new ideas， new theories-like independence， for instance-but we rarely question how that leisure is achieved。""By being there for your people even when it may not be convenient for you， that is an expression of love。 When you show up for your people， the core of your community， no matter what， you also have a right to expect the same from them。""When you don't move through key milestones the way you expect yourself to， or when you don't do the things you know you need to do in order to heal。 Disappointment is a close friend to grief， and that's why grief requires grace。" "Death asks us to acknowledge our loss forever， and sometimes that means otherwise joyful moments are complicated by feelings of grief。""There is nothing wrong with your feelings。 you have to learn to support yourself， to soothe yourself， and to love yourself to the best of your ability。 No matter how the world views or values you， you have to yourself。 You are worthy of the time and space that your grief requires forever。" 。。。more
Rebecca Chen
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I thought I wanted to read this book based on some other reviews， but I was taken aback by the use of the "F" word that I thought was placed very distastefully。 I was very turned off。 I read two chapters and there was so much repetition of text and ideas。 The author also brought into the first several chapters a subject that I do not want to currently read about。 I think I will be returning this to the library。 I thought I wanted to read this book based on some other reviews， but I was taken aback by the use of the "F" word that I thought was placed very distastefully。 I was very turned off。 I read two chapters and there was so much repetition of text and ideas。 The author also brought into the first several chapters a subject that I do not want to currently read about。 I think I will be returning this to the library。 。。。more
Emily
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Blasted through this in a few days--very candid and insightful。 Grateful for this beautiful reflection。 This is a small thing but it didn't seem tightly edited， especially towards the beginning？ Not on the writer， just felt like I was reading run-on sentences that felt out of place and took me out of the experience。 Blasted through this in a few days--very candid and insightful。 Grateful for this beautiful reflection。 This is a small thing but it didn't seem tightly edited， especially towards the beginning？ Not on the writer， just felt like I was reading run-on sentences that felt out of place and took me out of the experience。 。。。more
Jayme
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A really insightful book about loss， grieving， and finding joy after。
Robin Happonen
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So far the only book that has really spoken to my grief journey。
Colette Feehan
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An excellent book to help process loss。 Full of great insight and immeasurable kindness。
Gloriana
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I am not a very unbiased observer here， but yet， I think everyone should run out and grab a copy of this book。 Grief is a heavy subject and not one easily tackled。 Most people avoid it all their lives， if they can， or try to attack it in a compartmentalized way， through steps or stages perhaps， such as to try to make sense of the senseless pain of it。 But what my very good friend Marisa Renee Lee did here was try to distill her own heavy won battles with grief and the accompanying despair that g I am not a very unbiased observer here， but yet， I think everyone should run out and grab a copy of this book。 Grief is a heavy subject and not one easily tackled。 Most people avoid it all their lives， if they can， or try to attack it in a compartmentalized way， through steps or stages perhaps， such as to try to make sense of the senseless pain of it。 But what my very good friend Marisa Renee Lee did here was try to distill her own heavy won battles with grief and the accompanying despair that goes along with it， to attempt to explain it to everyone who picks up her book。 Through touching anecdotes and her own struggles with loss， she grips her readers with her easy prose and no-nonsense advice， imparting wisdom and some very necessary lessons， with some laughs along the way as well to help lighten the load。 She personally knows what a heavy burden grief can be， and how dark the road can be to get back from it， and while she never sugar-coats her message， she still manages to convey a simple， yet indelible lesson: that yes， grief hurts so much because it represents a love that is lost， but one that can always be remembered and brought back， and maybe even grown again， through time and therapy and even more love。 。。。more
Debbie
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I really like this book。 It really was helpful。 I lost my son on Nov 16 2021。 He was 39， killed in a hit and run。 The only thing I didn't like was the f word was used more than twice along with other curse words。 I did recommend this book to my counselor and I checked the book out from the library and after reading it in one day I took it back and ordered my own copy。 Yes， I recommend this book to anyone grieving！ I really like this book。 It really was helpful。 I lost my son on Nov 16 2021。 He was 39， killed in a hit and run。 The only thing I didn't like was the f word was used more than twice along with other curse words。 I did recommend this book to my counselor and I checked the book out from the library and after reading it in one day I took it back and ordered my own copy。 Yes， I recommend this book to anyone grieving！ 。。。more
Natalie Silverstein
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A beautiful book。 Read it on a 3 hour flight。 Spoke to me so clearly as I grieve the loss of my mother。
Katie Murphy
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Wonderfully candid and real。 This book comes at a time when so many of us are dealing with （or avoiding dealing with） grief。 Highly recommend。 Listened on audible and flew through it！
Kari
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Read from cover to cover in one evening。 Easy to read because it’s so real - there’s a lot of advice about grieving but never once is it preachy。 The author lays it all on the table and you find yourself wanting to be one of the friends who helps her live with loss。
Sanzana Zaman
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So much of what Marisa says resonates with my own experience before and after my father’s passing。 She makes me feel like I’m on the receiving end of a knowing hug， a knowing smile。 I completed this book in one sitting。 Go get you a copy！
Megan Watson
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Thank you to Marisa， netGalley and Legacy Lit Books for a a gifted eCopy of this book in exchange for a fair and honest review。 I am fortunate in that I’ve not yet suffered big grief yet in my life。 However， I find myself constantly worrying about losing a close loved one or friends。 And I took away so much from this book。This book is much needed in the world。 Marisa shares so much of herself， her story， and her life to demonstrate ways for navigating grief。 She uses real-life examples and all t Thank you to Marisa， netGalley and Legacy Lit Books for a a gifted eCopy of this book in exchange for a fair and honest review。 I am fortunate in that I’ve not yet suffered big grief yet in my life。 However， I find myself constantly worrying about losing a close loved one or friends。 And I took away so much from this book。This book is much needed in the world。 Marisa shares so much of herself， her story， and her life to demonstrate ways for navigating grief。 She uses real-life examples and all the feelings of anger， hurt， sadness， and loss that go with losing someone。This isn’t a typical self help book in that it’s not repetitive or preachy。 Marisa teaches us that grief does not go away and is not something that you ever “leave behind。” It’s something we carry with us always。I enjoyed how Marisa discusses how society deems certain emotions as “bad” and her discussion on how society makes us afraid to show certain emotions too much or for too long。 And especially how this disproportionately affects Black women。This book made me feel more equipped to handle grief going forward， and to support loved ones who experience loss as well。CWs: racism， loss of parent， miscarriage， cancer， suicide thoughts/attempt 。。。more
Adriana
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