The Courage To Be Disliked: How to free yourself, change your life and achieve real happiness
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- Author：Ichiro Kishimi
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Summary
The Japanese phenomenon that teaches us the simple yet profound lessons required to liberate our real selves and find lasting happiness。
The Courage to be Disliked shows you how to unlock the power within yourself to become your best and truest self， change your future and find lasting happiness。 Using the theories of Alfred Adler， one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung， the authors explain how we are all free to determine our own future free of the shackles of past experiences， doubts and the expectations of others。 It's a philosophy that's profoundly liberating， allowing us to develop the courage to change， and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves。
The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance。 Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom。 Now that The Courage to be Disliked has been published for the first time in English， so can you。
Three million copies sold worldwide。
Reviews
Kassandra ter Beek
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It's not all about you， but you can only control yourself。 It's the best lesson I could ever learn。 It's not all about you， but you can only control yourself。 It's the best lesson I could ever learn。 。。。more
Aquamarina
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El título de "atrévete a no gustar" le queda corto， es solo un título llamativo （no es engañoso， también se trata de eso） para no hablar de todos los temas en los que se toca aquí。 Estoy extraordinariamente agradecida de haberlo leído， de habérmelo encontrado， estoy segura que Atenea me lo puso en el camino。 Era lo que necesitaba。 Cito una frase del libro:"JOVEN: ¡Ay， si lo hubiera sabido！ Ojalá lo hubiera sabido hace diez años， o incluso cinco。。。 Si lo hubiera sabido hace cinco años， antes de e El título de "atrévete a no gustar" le queda corto， es solo un título llamativo （no es engañoso， también se trata de eso） para no hablar de todos los temas en los que se toca aquí。 Estoy extraordinariamente agradecida de haberlo leído， de habérmelo encontrado， estoy segura que Atenea me lo puso en el camino。 Era lo que necesitaba。 Cito una frase del libro:"JOVEN: ¡Ay， si lo hubiera sabido！ Ojalá lo hubiera sabido hace diez años， o incluso cinco。。。 Si lo hubiera sabido hace cinco años， antes de empezar a trabajar。。。 FILÓSOFO : No， las cosas no son así。 Dices que te gustaría haberlo sabido hace diez años。 Pero lo piensas porque las ideas de Adler resuenan en ti ahora。 Nadie sabe qué habrías sentido al respecto hace diez años。 Esta conversación es algo que necesitabas oír ahora。"He bebido del agua， integrar la psicología de Adler a mi vida será algo duro al inicio， pero es lo que haré。 Este libro ha sido todo un viaje， me sorprendió porque los pensamientos del joven era muy parecidos a lo que yo pensaba al leer al filósofo。Y al terminarlo， me he quedado así:"Al abrir la puerta， se encontró con una escena nevada。 La luna llena， con su forma flotante ligeramente oculta， iluminaba la centelleante blancura que se extendía a sus pies。 «¡Qué aire tan claro！ ¡Qué luz tan brillante！ Pisaré esta nieve inmaculada para dar mi primer paso。» El joven inspiró con fuerza， se frotó la suave barba incipiente y murmuró convencido: «El mundo es sencillo y la vida， también»" 。。。more
Thore
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Das Buch ist perfekt zur Selbsthilfe und Selbstreflektion。Einfach nur top！
Eric
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Good book， hadn’t heard of Alfred Adler before or Adlerian psychology。 Interesting concepts of removing the idea of cause and effect mental traps that we use to avoid certain situations or taking actions。 Basically ends up with the philosophy of living in the here and now， with a big emphasis on community contribution while living for oneself。
Lorie
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Interesting summary of Adlerian approach。 Sometimes dialogue format was amusing
César Vásquez
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¿De autoayuda？ sí， pero no del todo。 Este libro contiene algunas ideas interesantes （no en todas puedes estar de acuerdo） de Alfred Adler las cuales yo desconocía totalmente。 La forma en la que está escrito el libro fue de mi agrado， la conversación entre un joven y un filósofo es algo que ya había visto en el libro de El mundo de Sofía y que me había gustado mucho。 Como todo hay muchas ideas a destacar y conocer， cosas que me gustaron y cosas con las que al final no me sentía en total acuerdo p ¿De autoayuda？ sí， pero no del todo。 Este libro contiene algunas ideas interesantes （no en todas puedes estar de acuerdo） de Alfred Adler las cuales yo desconocía totalmente。 La forma en la que está escrito el libro fue de mi agrado， la conversación entre un joven y un filósofo es algo que ya había visto en el libro de El mundo de Sofía y que me había gustado mucho。 Como todo hay muchas ideas a destacar y conocer， cosas que me gustaron y cosas con las que al final no me sentía en total acuerdo pero trataba de entender como las planteaban （quizás si las pongo a prueba algún día me terminen por convencer） y el funcionamiento que tenían。 。。。more
Sophie Marts
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A great read for anyone who struggles with being a chronic people pleaser: a reminder that not everybody has to like us all of the time， and that's okay！ A great read for anyone who struggles with being a chronic people pleaser: a reminder that not everybody has to like us all of the time， and that's okay！ 。。。more
Heather Flores
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If you're not one to geek out on philosophical ideas and/or theories of psychology this book is probably not for you。 If you're looking for a self help book this is probably not the book for you。 If you have an open mind and enjoy contemplating big ideas， give this book a read！ If you're not one to geek out on philosophical ideas and/or theories of psychology this book is probably not for you。 If you're looking for a self help book this is probably not the book for you。 If you have an open mind and enjoy contemplating big ideas， give this book a read！ 。。。more
Suvarna Narayanan
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This really gave me the push needed to get into Adlerian psychology！ Loved the structure and narration。
Viviane
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One of the best books I was ever able to read in my whole life。 Not only one of the best self-help/-development books but also one of the best books with an amazing storyline。 This book opened my eyes in a completely new， different way and now I'm able to change my view on the world and its moments and opportunities。 Thanks to these amazing authors！！ One of the best books I was ever able to read in my whole life。 Not only one of the best self-help/-development books but also one of the best books with an amazing storyline。 This book opened my eyes in a completely new， different way and now I'm able to change my view on the world and its moments and opportunities。 Thanks to these amazing authors！！ 。。。more
Jaya
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Buku ini berisi percakapan filsuf & pemuda。Sang filsuf membantu muridnya （sipemuda） memahami dan menentukan arah hidup， bebas dari trauma masa lalu dan beban ekspetasi orang lain。Bab Pertama• Menyangkal keberadaan trauma• Teori Psikologi Adler • Teleologi : mencapai tujuan • Aetiologi : sebab - akibatPernyataan Adler "yang penting bukanlah dengan apa aku dilahirkan， tapi bagaimana aku memanfaatkan hal-hal tersebut"Bab Kedua• semua persoalan adalah tentang hubungan interpersonal• kompleks superio Buku ini berisi percakapan filsuf & pemuda。Sang filsuf membantu muridnya （sipemuda） memahami dan menentukan arah hidup， bebas dari trauma masa lalu dan beban ekspetasi orang lain。Bab Pertama• Menyangkal keberadaan trauma• Teori Psikologi Adler • Teleologi : mencapai tujuan • Aetiologi : sebab - akibatPernyataan Adler "yang penting bukanlah dengan apa aku dilahirkan， tapi bagaimana aku memanfaatkan hal-hal tersebut"Bab Kedua• semua persoalan adalah tentang hubungan interpersonal• kompleks superioritas• kompleks inferioritasBab Ketiga• menyisihkan tugas-tugas orang lainBab Keempat• dimanakah pusat dunia iniBab Kelima• Hidup dengan sungguh-sungguh disini pada saat ini 。。。more
Ofiaendama Nafiida
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I like how this book potrays about life with easy analogy
Grace V
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3。5
MK
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I read this book chapter by chapter for nearly two months。 It became an evening ritual， to sit with the philosopher and youth。 I annotated and dog-eared and wrote comments to myself in the margins in a way I have never done with a book before。 I have struggled my entire life with courage and the concern for other people’s judgments and a deep-rooted fear of being disliked but never have I found the key to letting go of this concern。 True freedom IS being disliked by other people。 How simple？ And I read this book chapter by chapter for nearly two months。 It became an evening ritual， to sit with the philosopher and youth。 I annotated and dog-eared and wrote comments to myself in the margins in a way I have never done with a book before。 I have struggled my entire life with courage and the concern for other people’s judgments and a deep-rooted fear of being disliked but never have I found the key to letting go of this concern。 True freedom IS being disliked by other people。 How simple？ And yet， how difficult？ This book， and the teachings of Adlerian psychology， have much to offer。 I have learned so much about relationships， community， courage， and contribution。 I already feel a change in the way I think and perceive myself。 I highly recommend for anyone feeling lost， overwhelmed， or any type of anxiety or unease。 It will change your life。 。。。more
Naluri
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This book is not for me maybe。 A few ideas of the philosopher I quite disagree。 Somehow he’s too selfish to me lol。 Some advice motivate me， some are not。 Many topics are kinda hard to digest。 Could you make it simple to understand？ Also， this book is difficult to finish too。 There are chapters seem to be repetitive。
Colin Young
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Opened my eyes to a new way of thinking。 I'd never heard of Adler before or teleology。 There is a lot to be said about framing your life based on now and not deciding your fate from what's happened in the past。 People can change the past but you can definitely help to mould the future。 Opened my eyes to a new way of thinking。 I'd never heard of Adler before or teleology。 There is a lot to be said about framing your life based on now and not deciding your fate from what's happened in the past。 People can change the past but you can definitely help to mould the future。 。。。more
Elena Sweetser
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Great FREE book on Audible。 It was longer than I preferred but nonetheless a good book。 The best ah ha chapter for me was about anger。 Completely changed my perspective on how I respond to people and things。
Kayla Riparetti
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Liked the concepts & principles but hated the delivery。 Listened via audible and the narrators were annoying so that could be why
Andrea
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Caston rec
Sai
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This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 This book is very good for self-help。It will change the way we think。
Dyah Rizki Anggita Putri
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my head hurts a little， im just like the young man， confused about everything， i haven't drunken the water。 my head hurts a little， im just like the young man， confused about everything， i haven't drunken the water。 。。。more
Sandra Mendonça
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Simple language， easy to understand/relate problems， hard to absorb and execute。 However， according to the this book， implementing adlerian psychology in your life is not easy， but the sooner you do it， the sooner you'll accomplish it。Life is easy， we just make it hard。I confess， this is a book I need to read over and over， and so do you。。。 At leat once。 Simple language， easy to understand/relate problems， hard to absorb and execute。 However， according to the this book， implementing adlerian psychology in your life is not easy， but the sooner you do it， the sooner you'll accomplish it。Life is easy， we just make it hard。I confess， this is a book I need to read over and over， and so do you。。。 At leat once。 。。。more
Maharzan Manishh
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Changed the way of my current thinking of things。 Hard to swallow the concepts mentioned in this books though。 But it is the essence。
Glassofhope
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As someone unfamiliar with philosophy and history of philosophers， it is hard to be totally convinced by Adlerian philosophy。 The conversations in the book may also be a little long winded at times to me。 I wouldn’t discount the book totally and I would agree that there are some messages within the book that I believe are of value， and are controversial or hold a different perspectives to mainstream thought。 However， I did which these messages were more clearly stated and that the reader did not As someone unfamiliar with philosophy and history of philosophers， it is hard to be totally convinced by Adlerian philosophy。 The conversations in the book may also be a little long winded at times to me。 I wouldn’t discount the book totally and I would agree that there are some messages within the book that I believe are of value， and are controversial or hold a different perspectives to mainstream thought。 However， I did which these messages were more clearly stated and that the reader did not have to scrutinise the text to derive the key messages。 。。。more
Mats Visser
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Audiobook
Carmo Junior
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Livro muito bom que explica alguns aspectos da psicologia baseada em Adler
Fatima Soto
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Um livro que é uma conversa baseada nas ideias de Adler。 Um velho filósofo e um jovem curiosamente motivado a ter questões sentam-se em várias noites diferentes para abordar assuntos da vida real: a auto-estima， o medo， os complexos de superioridade e inferioridade e o facto de eles surgem e nascerem da mesma árvore。 Quem lê se sente parte da conversa。
Barbara
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Heel erg inspirerend。Everybody should read this。
Kyle Steinicke
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（4。5 Stars）Really good book with a lot to unpack。 I listened to it and want to buy it so I can read it again and take notes。
Aysha Abbakar
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