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Relationship OCD: A CBT-Based Guide to Move Beyond Obsessive Doubt, Anxiety, and Fear of Commitment in Romantic Relationships

Relationship OCD: A CBT-Based Guide to Move Beyond Obsessive Doubt, Anxiety, and Fear of Commitment in Romantic Relationships

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  • Create Date：2022-03-07 06:52:12
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  • Author：Sheva Rajaee
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Summary

A powerful CBT approach to help you find freedom from obsessive relationship anxiety， doubt， and fear of commitment

Do you obsess over your partner’s flaws？ Does thinking about the future of your relationship leave you imagining the worst-case scenario？ When it comes to navigating the world of romantic relationships， some feelings of anxiety， doubt， and fear are to be expected。 But if your fears so extreme that they threaten to destroy an otherwise healthy relationship， you may have relationship OCD—a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder （OCD） that causes chronic obsessive doubt and anxiety in relationships。 So， how can you free yourself to discover deeper intimacy and security？

Relationship OCD offers an evidence-based， cognitive behavioral approach to finding relief from relationship anxiety， obsessive doubt， and fear of commitment。 You’ll learn to challenge the often-distorted thought patterns that trigger harmful emotions， increase your ability to think rationally， and ultimately accept the presence of intrusive thinking while maintaining the values of a healthy relationship。

Relationships are the ultimate unknown。 If you’re ready to let go of needing to know for sure， this book will help you find satisfaction and thrive in your romantic relationships—in all their wonderful uncertainty。

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Reviews

Shervin Tabrizi ，

This book is amazing！ The author did an fantastic job of dumbing down the science behind the cause of anxiety and gave me the tools that changed my relationship with the discomfort of my own thoughts。 I used to catastrophize everything but after reading this book I have the tools to be aware of the thought patterns， and cope in a healthy and correct way。 There is so much solid material in this book。 For people who have all of nothing thinking， those who use emotional reasoning， perfectionists， t This book is amazing！ The author did an fantastic job of dumbing down the science behind the cause of anxiety and gave me the tools that changed my relationship with the discomfort of my own thoughts。 I used to catastrophize everything but after reading this book I have the tools to be aware of the thought patterns， and cope in a healthy and correct way。 There is so much solid material in this book。 For people who have all of nothing thinking， those who use emotional reasoning， perfectionists， those who subject themselves to comparison， and more。 This book is a gem。 Must read！！ 。。。more

Isaac Ahuvia ，

This is an excellent book in many ways， with one major shortcoming。 The book does a great job explaining ROCD and helping readers develop the skills people to fight it。 But as a clinician （who has experienced ROCD themselves）， I wouldn't recommend this book to a client。 Why？ The only way to beat OCD - of any kind - is to learn to reject the need for absolute certainty。 This book feeds certainty-seeking by reassuring its readers that， if they're reading the book， their relationship is probably a This is an excellent book in many ways， with one major shortcoming。 The book does a great job explaining ROCD and helping readers develop the skills people to fight it。 But as a clinician （who has experienced ROCD themselves）， I wouldn't recommend this book to a client。 Why？ The only way to beat OCD - of any kind - is to learn to reject the need for absolute certainty。 This book feeds certainty-seeking by reassuring its readers that， if they're reading the book， their relationship is probably a good one that's worth staying in （e。g。， "it's unlikely that a bad relationship。。。 would trigger ROCD"）。 The thing is， the presence or absence of ROCD doesn't necessarily mean anything about the quality of a relationship。 People with ROCD are often preoccupied with questions like "is this the 'right' relationship for me？" and "should I stay or leave？" Getting reassurance may feel good， but it's not going to help a reader beat OCD in the long-run。 If you can go into this book with this in mind， and take those messages with a grain of salt， then I think there is still a lot to learn here。 。。。more

Emily Kingsley ，

This book was amazing。 If you are struggling with ROCD， this book is a great resource。 Written thoughtfully and compassionately， it contains much wisdom while avoiding easy answers。 I am sure it is a guide I will return to many times。 So thankful for this work。

Farzin ，

Incredibly insightful。 A great book for anyone struggling with doubt and obsessive thoughts in their relationship。 Easy to read and very engaging。

Masa M。 ，

Thank you to NetGalley and Sana Balagamwala for providing this book in exchange for an honest review。I very much enjoyed reading Relationship OCD as I felt it focused on many different aspects which were helpful and as a self-help book， it was an easy read with clear guidance on how to utilize the tools in it。 I highly recommend reading it。

Ashley Peterson ，

Relationship OCD by Sheva Rajaee is written from the perspective of a therapist who herself has dealt with relationship OCD （ROCD）。 What a perfect combination！ I love that more and more mental health professionals are willing to talk about their own mental health challenges。Throughout the book， the author emphasizes the importance of learning to tolerate uncertainty。 She writes that addressing ROCD isn’t just about managing anxiety， but also about changing expectations about what love and partne Relationship OCD by Sheva Rajaee is written from the perspective of a therapist who herself has dealt with relationship OCD （ROCD）。 What a perfect combination！ I love that more and more mental health professionals are willing to talk about their own mental health challenges。Throughout the book， the author emphasizes the importance of learning to tolerate uncertainty。 She writes that addressing ROCD isn’t just about managing anxiety， but also about changing expectations about what love and partnership should involve。 She describes the myth of the one （MOTO） that we’ve been exposed to pretty much forever， and how unlike real relationships that is。If you feel concerned that you don’t feel the “butterflies” you think that you’re supposed to feel， the author points out that the feeling of butterflies is actually an anxiety response driven by the amygdala， and the steadiness of a non-anxiety-provoking person could actually be a good thing。The book describes two different areas of focus for anxiety in ROCD。 One is partner-focused， which involves a preoccupation with the partner’s perceived flaws。 The other is relationship-focused， which is a preoccupation with the quality of the relationship。 The author explains that for most people， ROCD comes from some combination of nature and nurture， and she ties this into attachment styles。There’s an interesting chapter devoted to sex anxiety。 It incorporates cultural myths and moralization about how sex should be， fantasizing， and the effects of anxiety on desire and arousal。 Real-life just isn't the way it is in movies， it's not always mind-blowing， and you don't have to be gettin' it on multiple times a week for your sex life to be considered acceptable。The middle section of the book covers strategies that can help with managing ROCD， including addressing cognitive distortions， using acceptance and commitment therapy tools， and doing exposure and response prevention。 The author explains that these tools won’t get rid of your anxiety， and that’s not the goal， anyway; rather， they’ll help you to tolerate it more effectively。The chapter on healing shame talks about how we become indoctrinated into “the cult of what’s normal。” We soak up all kinds of messages about how we should look， feel， behave， and live our lives， and this knowledge is stored implicitly， outside of our conscious awareness。 The author explains the benefit of self-compassion to address shame around not living up to these expectations about what’s normal。There’s also a chapter on what healthy relationships look like， and the author cautions that you shouldn’t trust your gut， as emotions on their own will never be able to confirm for you that you’ve met the right person or that you’ll live happily ever after。 I liked that she was very realistic about how there's no way to predict the future of a relationship， and sometimes divorce ends up being the right thing。The author was also very realistic about ROCD recovery writing that intrusive thoughts and uncertainty aren’t going to just disappear。 She acknowledges that ongoing maintenance work will probably be needed。I thought this book did a really good job of popping the bubble of the assorted problematic messaging we’re exposed to regarding relationships。 The author balances warmth and kindness with telling readers that being uncomfortable and being uncertain is a necessary part of the process。 This book was really well done， and I think it will be very helpful to people dealing with relationships anxiety， whether it’s full-fledged OCD or not。I received a reviewer copy from the publisher through Netgalley。 。。。more

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