Positive Discipline
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Summary
For twenty-five years， Positive Discipline has been the gold standard reference for grown-ups working with children。 Now Jane Nelsen， distinguished psychologist， educator， and mother of seven， has written a revised and expanded edition。 The key to positive discipline is not punishment， she tells us， but mutual respect。 Nelsen coaches parents and teachers to be both firm and kind， so that any child–from a three-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager–can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline with no loss of dignity。 Inside you’ll discover how to
• bridge communication gaps
• defuse power struggles
• avoid the dangers of praise
• enforce your message of love
• build on strengths， not weaknesses
• hold children accountable with their self-respect intact
• teach children not what to think but how to think
• win cooperation at home and at school
• meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior
“It is not easy to improve a classic book， but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition。 Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific， Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm。 If you want to enrich your relationship with your children， this is the book for you。”
–Sal Severe， author of How to Behave So Your Children Will， Too！
Millions of children have already benefited from the counsel in this wise and warmhearted book， which features dozens of true stories of positive discipline in action。 Give your child the tools he or she needs for a well-adjusted life with this proven treasure trove of practical advice。
• bridge communication gaps
• defuse power struggles
• avoid the dangers of praise
• enforce your message of love
• build on strengths， not weaknesses
• hold children accountable with their self-respect intact
• teach children not what to think but how to think
• win cooperation at home and at school
• meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior
“It is not easy to improve a classic book， but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition。 Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific， Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm。 If you want to enrich your relationship with your children， this is the book for you。”
–Sal Severe， author of How to Behave So Your Children Will， Too！
Millions of children have already benefited from the counsel in this wise and warmhearted book， which features dozens of true stories of positive discipline in action。 Give your child the tools he or she needs for a well-adjusted life with this proven treasure trove of practical advice。
Reviews
Krzysztof
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My perception reading Jane Nelsen's book was like if it was a family psychology from the "。。。For Dummies" series， with innumerable references to her own books （maybe written just to promote them）。 In the end it is a compendium of good practices that may result useful to some people， but the rule of thumb is "treat kids as adults"， applying some agile practices （yes， like in agile management）。 There are some bits and pieces of psychology that caught my attention。 The mention of the dominant and a My perception reading Jane Nelsen's book was like if it was a family psychology from the "。。。For Dummies" series， with innumerable references to her own books （maybe written just to promote them）。 In the end it is a compendium of good practices that may result useful to some people， but the rule of thumb is "treat kids as adults"， applying some agile practices （yes， like in agile management）。 There are some bits and pieces of psychology that caught my attention。 The mention of the dominant and auxiliary personalities drove me to dig deeper in the topics of personalities， "Gifts Differing" is the next read for me。 In the end time not so wasted。 。。。more
Cameron French
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This was recommended to me by my kids’ Montessori guide and I’m glad she did。 This book is full of non-punitive methods that instill dignity in children and gives them， through the help of parents， tools to find solutions as they navigate through the everyday。 I feel more equipped and confident as a parent after reading this。 I didn’t give this book five stars because it was repetitive in many places。 I feel as though the concepts/methods could’ve been more concise。 Sometimes the chapters were r This was recommended to me by my kids’ Montessori guide and I’m glad she did。 This book is full of non-punitive methods that instill dignity in children and gives them， through the help of parents， tools to find solutions as they navigate through the everyday。 I feel more equipped and confident as a parent after reading this。 I didn’t give this book five stars because it was repetitive in many places。 I feel as though the concepts/methods could’ve been more concise。 Sometimes the chapters were really choppy and didn’t read well。 。。。more
Ariel Chu
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The book illustrates an overarching approach on what attitude to have toward the children and how to manage in different scenarios。I like the book has very concrete examples and case study after each statement。 And also how exactly to host a class or family meeting。 Then it explains on the children psychology and behind their actions what they truly desire- over seeking attention， seeking power， revenge， and self give up。 Different reaction of parents can lead to different consequences and impac The book illustrates an overarching approach on what attitude to have toward the children and how to manage in different scenarios。I like the book has very concrete examples and case study after each statement。 And also how exactly to host a class or family meeting。 Then it explains on the children psychology and behind their actions what they truly desire- over seeking attention， seeking power， revenge， and self give up。 Different reaction of parents can lead to different consequences and impact to kids。 Thus be aware and know how to handle emotions， and positively encourage， in a firm but gentle way， and direct kids for better mental and behavioral state are crucial for parents。 I struggle to put these theories and approaches in practice maybe given the fact that I don’t have a kid and not dealing with them on regular basis。 The principle of handle emotions properly is clearly stated yet practically and realistically it might still be a challenge to overcome to develop a very strong and rounded mind。 。。。more
Natalie Fetzer
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"Kids do better when they feel better"。 Good tools and mindset for helping kids do better。 If you come from a controlling， authoritarian， punishment-based， this helps with what to do when the first line of positive discipline doesn't work。 Breaking from the worry that you're letting your kids get away with something because you aren't engaging in punitive punishment， is a crucial mental shift。 "Kids do better when they feel better"。 Good tools and mindset for helping kids do better。 If you come from a controlling， authoritarian， punishment-based， this helps with what to do when the first line of positive discipline doesn't work。 Breaking from the worry that you're letting your kids get away with something because you aren't engaging in punitive punishment， is a crucial mental shift。 。。。more
Jaime
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3。5 rounded up。 4 stars if you haven’t heard this information before， 3 stars if it’s already what you are doing！
Teresa
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I view this as the original positive/respectful parenting book。 As such， it's life-changing and packed with very important information when you're fighting to overcome your own cultural and familial upbringing in search of your own way of parenting。 Very helpful。 Also a bit boring。 I listened to the audiobook， which is read by the author， Jane Nelsen， in her old age。 I think that made it much worse: it's borderline sleep-inducing， unless - like me - you listen to it while biking to and from work I view this as the original positive/respectful parenting book。 As such， it's life-changing and packed with very important information when you're fighting to overcome your own cultural and familial upbringing in search of your own way of parenting。 Very helpful。 Also a bit boring。 I listened to the audiobook， which is read by the author， Jane Nelsen， in her old age。 I think that made it much worse: it's borderline sleep-inducing， unless - like me - you listen to it while biking to and from work every day。 You can't fall asleep on your bike， I think。 Fortunately。 However， it is so helpful and gives so many real-life examples that I find myself adding the physical book to my shopping cart to be able to （gasp！） highlight， mark and scribble the most important pages and concepts。 And to also be able to pass it on to fellow parents。Highly recommend if you want to learn about this topic。 Maybe don't go for the audiobook though。 If I have to listen to her say "blame， shame， or pain" one more time， I'm gonna quit。 。。。more
Jiwoonglee
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The most optimal parenting book。
Álvaro Díaz
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La disciplina positiva de la mano de su cocreadora， Jane Nelsen。 El libro está muy bien en lo que dice， aunque la estructura es un poco caótica y la edición que he leído es español latinoamericano， por lo que aunque se entiende sin mayor dificultad， si que hay palabras， expresiones e incluso algunos ejemplos que te sacan un poco de la lectura cuando estás acostumbrado a traducciones con español de España。 No obstante， tenemos la suerte de compartir lengua y se agradece que en una u otra traducci La disciplina positiva de la mano de su cocreadora， Jane Nelsen。 El libro está muy bien en lo que dice， aunque la estructura es un poco caótica y la edición que he leído es español latinoamericano， por lo que aunque se entiende sin mayor dificultad， si que hay palabras， expresiones e incluso algunos ejemplos que te sacan un poco de la lectura cuando estás acostumbrado a traducciones con español de España。 No obstante， tenemos la suerte de compartir lengua y se agradece que en una u otra traducción， tengamos la posibilidad de que lleguen textos como este。 Lo recomiendo tanto a profesionales como a madres y padres， porque en cualquier caso se puede aprender mucho del libro。 Pero es cierto que para aprender disciplina positiva， yo veo necesario apuntarse a un taller。 El libro sería para profundizar o como refuerzo。 。。。more
Siham Kh
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Un livre très facile à lire et très pratique。 Il contient bcp de projection de ses notions sur des cas concrets。A lire absolument
Nevena
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A MUST for all parents。 I believe that everything I've learned in this book will help me be a better parent， and maybe it will help me with grown-ups too！ I'm not going to give it 5 stars because it's a bit repetitive and that's annoying。。 A MUST for all parents。 I believe that everything I've learned in this book will help me be a better parent， and maybe it will help me with grown-ups too！ I'm not going to give it 5 stars because it's a bit repetitive and that's annoying。。 。。。more
Lukasz
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Książkę kupiłem kilka lat temu i niektóre fragmenty przeczytałem kilka razy。 Teraz postanowiłem powrócić do tej książki， jednak tym razem nie sięgnąłem po wersję papierową tylko postanowiłem przesłuchać tą książkę w wersji audio。 Bardzo inspirująca pozycja。
Naphi3 kzm
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این کتاب در مورد یک مجموعه تکنیک های کاربردی برای دست و پنجه نرم کردن با مشکلات تربیتی بچه هاست。خط به خطش و هایلایت کردم برای مرور و در واقع تمرین مهارت های مطرح شده اش。در کل میتونم بگم برای کسی که دغدغه این موضوع رو داره واقعا ارزشمنده！
Julien
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Même si le texte est parfois lourd et répétitif， ce livre remplit bien son but de base à cette approche de la discipline。Personnellement je suis très content de l'avoir lu， j'y ai appris plein d'outils pour l'éducation de tous les jours， mais également sur des façons de gérer des conflits avec d'autres adultes， familles， amis ou encore collègues。 Même si le texte est parfois lourd et répétitif， ce livre remplit bien son but de base à cette approche de la discipline。Personnellement je suis très content de l'avoir lu， j'y ai appris plein d'outils pour l'éducation de tous les jours， mais également sur des façons de gérer des conflits avec d'autres adultes， familles， amis ou encore collègues。 。。。more
Tina
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I didn't find anything new in this book after reading several other positive discipline books like Peaceful Parent， Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting and Parenting With Love and Logic。 I didn't find anything new in this book after reading several other positive discipline books like Peaceful Parent， Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting and Parenting With Love and Logic。 。。。more
Merve Mutlu
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Ebeveynlikle ilgili çok fazla kitap okudum。Çoğunu okurken de içimden hep ya bu kitabı yazanın çocuğu yok ya ben anne değilim diye geçirdim。Hepsi üsttenci，gerçeklikten uzak gelirdi。Çünkü annelk öyle kutsal bir şy filan değil。Bazen olmak istemiyorsun，bazen ski tek başına günlerindeki gibi kaygısız olmakistiyorsun。Bazen tahammülsüz oluyorsun sesin yüksliyor。Bunların hepsi normal。bu kitabı okurken bunlarla nasıl başa çıkabileceğime dair çok fazla pratik öğrendim。Bazılarını denedim de，bizde işliyor。Y Ebeveynlikle ilgili çok fazla kitap okudum。Çoğunu okurken de içimden hep ya bu kitabı yazanın çocuğu yok ya ben anne değilim diye geçirdim。Hepsi üsttenci，gerçeklikten uzak gelirdi。Çünkü annelk öyle kutsal bir şy filan değil。Bazen olmak istemiyorsun，bazen ski tek başına günlerindeki gibi kaygısız olmakistiyorsun。Bazen tahammülsüz oluyorsun sesin yüksliyor。Bunların hepsi normal。bu kitabı okurken bunlarla nasıl başa çıkabileceğime dair çok fazla pratik öğrendim。Bazılarını denedim de，bizde işliyor。Yeni nesil，aile çocuk ilişkisine çocukerkil taraftan bakan kitaplardan farklı，yol gösterici bir kitap。 。。。more
Caroline Abbott
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We all wish we were better parents。 We wish we didn't "lose it" when our kids make mistakes。 We wish our kids were more responsible and self-disciplined。 Yet， the way we parent our kids often makes them even less responsible and self-disciplined。 What can we do differently？ This book answers that question brilliantly。 I wish I had read this years ago when my first child was born。 We all wish we were better parents。 We wish we didn't "lose it" when our kids make mistakes。 We wish our kids were more responsible and self-disciplined。 Yet， the way we parent our kids often makes them even less responsible and self-disciplined。 What can we do differently？ This book answers that question brilliantly。 I wish I had read this years ago when my first child was born。 。。。more
Carol
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This book is like the holy grail of modern parenting。 Most parenting books， courses and frameworks we come across today are one variation or another of what is taught in this book。 It was originally written in the eighties so it’s natural that sometimes the style feels outdated and there’s a couple concepts I don’t embrace。 The essence of the content， however， is as needed today as it was back then。 Raising my kids to be self sufficient， confident and respectful are goals of mine and only a few This book is like the holy grail of modern parenting。 Most parenting books， courses and frameworks we come across today are one variation or another of what is taught in this book。 It was originally written in the eighties so it’s natural that sometimes the style feels outdated and there’s a couple concepts I don’t embrace。 The essence of the content， however， is as needed today as it was back then。 Raising my kids to be self sufficient， confident and respectful are goals of mine and only a few of the many benefits of replacing punishment with positive discipline。The approach is rooted in using kindness and firmness while avoiding blame， shame and pain。 Prioritize connection， turn mistakes into learning opportunities， empathize and validate feelings， help kids feel better so they can do better， focus on solutions and allow kids to help create an action plan， understand that behavior is communication and that in the end what everyone needs is love and belonging。 All fantastic goals to have。 Easier said then done though。 Thankfully there are practical tools and examples given， and even if it they work a little too easily in the book they do offer a jumping pad to many day to day situations。 Definitely a book to keep around while my kids grow and use it often as reminder of where I’m coming from and where I intend to go as a parent。 。。。more
Leib Mitchell
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Doesn't do anything for meReviewed in the United States on March 12， 2020Many things in the book do not sit right with me。1。 The first is that it is 12 chapters long， and there are exactly 27 references。 （That's about two references per chapter。） And then 18 out of the 27--that is 66% for those of you who are counting-- are the author citing herself。2。 The second thing is that this book was published on a no-name label。Ballantine Books。And yet， one among the very few references is the Basic Book Doesn't do anything for meReviewed in the United States on March 12， 2020Many things in the book do not sit right with me。1。 The first is that it is 12 chapters long， and there are exactly 27 references。 （That's about two references per chapter。） And then 18 out of the 27--that is 66% for those of you who are counting-- are the author citing herself。2。 The second thing is that this book was published on a no-name label。Ballantine Books。And yet， one among the very few references is the Basic Books label。 （People who have something of substance to say can get it published on that prestigious label。）If this author has something to say， why didn't she get it published on a more reputable label？3。 The third problem is that much of Psychology is such that: people believe something until everybody just stops believing it-- and then it's no longer true。 I think that most people have sat through at least one undergraduate Psychology class and heard about Freudian rationalization of the human personality in terms of unconscious desires to have sex with one （or both） parents。This author takes work from a person who was a student of Sigmund Freud。And we know how in touch with reality Freud was-- even for all of his great influence in the last century。4。 Did the authors own children turn out ok？ She doesn't say。This is more important than it seems。 I have read in more than one place that people who have Psychological/ Psychiatric Problems of Their Own are more likely than others to try to act in the capacity of counselors。 （And it certainly Rings true with my personal experience / anecdotal evidence。）5。 It's not really even good enough to say that this book has 700，000 copies in print。 （ Fifty Shades of Grey has sold 125 million copies as of the writing of this review。）I also have an issue with the books epistemic foundations: Some things cannot be solved by logic and reasoning alone。Some children， no matter how great your efforts to litigate/ rationalize every parenting action just have to learn things the hard way。6。 And that brings up another problem: In the home that this book would have us create， everything can be open for discussion/ talked away。 But in the real world， either you have this house note or you don't。 Either you get this job or you don't。What are you teaching a child if there is a bunch of back and forth/， feelings-sharing on any conceivable topic？If you gave the child the option of doing this thing that you asked him several times， or getting the belt vs。 being talked to death。。。。。 Which of those is more likely to approximate the real world？7。 I don't read any discussion of the concepts of Adler。 How is he different from Freud， And what is his shtick？Can you please remember MANY other psychological fads that have come and gone。 I remember in my youth reading books about transactional analysis （a la Muriel James and Dorothy Jongeward）。They were very popular around the 1970s， and now you just don't hear anything about them anymore。 （ And again， even for all of his towering influence in the last century， no one seems to seriously talk about Freud anymore。）So， what is the staying power of this book？ If I just wait another 10 years， will it join， the pantheon of Other Dated Pop Psychology Books That Nobody Cares About？Verdict: I have read the quote before by （EL Konigsberg） that: "The telephone and the light bulb were invented by men who knew how to make them work but didn't know why。 I believe that's the way that people should raise children。"I wholeheartedly agree， and given that you cannot recover the time that it takes to read this book I would recommend just giving this a miss。There are many other extant communities whose norms you could follow in order to successfully raise children。 （Mormon， Jewish， Chinese）。 。。。more
Rouhollah Abdolvahab
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کتاب بسیار قابل استفاده ای برای بنده بود。 برای کسانی که بچه کوچک دارند و یا می خواهند بچه دار شوند و یا با کودکان ارتباط دارند شدیدا توصیه می شود。روی من خیلی تأثیرگذار بود و دید من را خیلی اصلاح کرد。 «کودک بدرفتار، کودک دلسرد است。»
Isabel Rebelo
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A wonderful book with sound advice how to raise a child through encouragement and respect instead of criticism。 The book teaches parents how to cope with bad behavior and how to disassociate ourselves， emotionally， from the child manipulation， so we can help them overcome their frustrations。 As Jane Nelsen says， often children that are disruptive have leadership skills and parents can help the child by redirecting his/her behavior。 She sees a misbehaving child as a discouraged child。 I agree。 Th A wonderful book with sound advice how to raise a child through encouragement and respect instead of criticism。 The book teaches parents how to cope with bad behavior and how to disassociate ourselves， emotionally， from the child manipulation， so we can help them overcome their frustrations。 As Jane Nelsen says， often children that are disruptive have leadership skills and parents can help the child by redirecting his/her behavior。 She sees a misbehaving child as a discouraged child。 I agree。 The book covers many more areas of child development and how to live in a house with several children。 No one teaches us how to be a parent and to be one is the MOST important job of our lifetimes！ We shape future generations; this is how important it is。 There is nothing more dedicated than a child’s soul， I think。 I found the book to be very well written， with stories and examples， and easy to follow。 In any way it is hard to read， and I learned a lot from it。 I highly recommend this book to new parents and even parents with children of young age。 。。。more
Zohreh Samiei
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امتياز ٣/٧٥ اما نرسيده به چهاركتاب به وارد كردن كودكان در روند تربيت خودشان تاكيد دارد و مزاياي اين كار را بيان مي كند؛نكاتي برايم بولد بوود:تاكيد بر نشست هاي خانوادگيقاطعيت و مهرباني توامانفاصله ي سالمدخالت دادن كودكان در ارائه ي راهكاري در مورد بازخورد رفتارشان。。。بنظرم بيشتر جاها نياز به مدرسي بوود كه اصوول را جمع بندي كند و شسته رفته تر ارائه دهد
Annie Cole
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I bought this book in desperate times， but Positive Discipline need not be a desperate measure。 It is an enlightening read that any parent or teacher can take something positive away from。Things had gotten a bit hairy on the childcare front after the birth of my second child。 My three-year-old was struggling emotionally with the baby's arrival and going through a number of behaviour regressions， no doubt exacerbated by numerous lockdowns and talk of a global pandemic。 Allow me to introduce Jane I bought this book in desperate times， but Positive Discipline need not be a desperate measure。 It is an enlightening read that any parent or teacher can take something positive away from。Things had gotten a bit hairy on the childcare front after the birth of my second child。 My three-year-old was struggling emotionally with the baby's arrival and going through a number of behaviour regressions， no doubt exacerbated by numerous lockdowns and talk of a global pandemic。 Allow me to introduce Jane Nelson， author of Positive Discipline and parent of seven children。 （How？？？） She's still standing， and smiling， so I figured she must be doing something right， and settled in for a good read。 The fundamental belief behind Positive Discipline is simple: a misbehaving child is a discouraged child。 Therefore we need to make children feel better before they can do better。 Shower them with the love， respect and boundaries that they deserve rather than kicking them while they're down。 It may seem like a no-brainer， but as a parent and teacher I have fallen into the trap of using more punitive methods because they are so ingrained in our society， or were "done" to us。 Specifically， Positive Discipline methods contain no reward charts （bribes） or imposed consequences （punishments）。 No pointless praise （"good boy， well done！"） No shame （"you are doing the wrong thing"）， blame （"why did you do that？"） or pain （"that's making me feel upset"）。 No piggybacking （"I told you so"）， and definitely no naughty step。 What then？ It's all about cooperation， teamwork， conversations; involving the child in decisions and empowering them with choices and responsibility。 Validate their feelings， listen to their point of view and treat them as you would an adult。 Model the behaviour you would like to see in them and allow them to experience the natural consequences of their actions。 All of this sounds great on paper， but is it realistic when you're struggling with a tantrumming toddler and wailing newborn？ Refreshingly， Nelson acknowledges that no， it isn't always， and she is the first to admit that she slips up。 An important part of Positive Discipline is making mistakes and using them as a learning device。 Recovery is also of great importance。 So for me， the main takeaways are:1。 POWER STRUGGLES Don't get into them。 If you feel it's becoming a power struggle， stop！ It's not about winning or "making" the child do something- this will just discourage them even more （a revelation for a control freak like myself）。 2。 HEAT OF THE MOMENT When you feel yourself going into fight-or-flight mode， respectfully walk away and calm down。 Similarly， allow the child to play for a while to calm down if they are stressed。 Let everything cool off before recovery。 4。 PAMPERING This is not good。 Encourage your child to do as much for themselves as possible。 This will fill them with confidence （this is obviously an excuse but for me， lockdown has not been conducive to non-pampering！） These are all things that I have put into practise whilst reading the book and for now， at least， have made a big difference to the everyday order of things， including my mental health and that of my child。 Nelson explains that not all methods will work for every parent or child， and that cherry picking is absolutely fine。 For example， I am not keen on the distraction technique （after reading what Philippa Perry and Janet Lansbury have to say on it teaching a child to numb their emotions）。 Similarly， purposefully ignoring a child feels inherently wrong to me as I don't want to send a signal that I am dismissing their feelings。 I am sure that most readers will find things that they disagree with， but that's fine。 The over-arching ideology can still be a guiding light。 The book itself is not brilliantly written。 There are myriad ideas hopping around chaotically， just like a group of misbehaving， or should I say， discouraged children in a classroom。 There are so many acronyms that they render themselves impossible as mnemonics， and hundreds of checklists that are dense and complicated。 There are the four R's of recovery， the four R's of punishment， the three R's and an H for focusing on a solution and the four R's of logical consequences。 Are you confused yet？ Despite being first published before I was born， Positive Discipline methods seem fresh and revolutionary。 I am newly equipped with some useful tools for parenting at home and I look forward to seeing how they translate to the classroom。 Frankly， I wish I had read this sooner。 。。。more
Libra Frills
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This book was recommended to me because I was interested in the Montessori method。 I adore so much content in this book; the emphasis on empathy and respect is exactly how I'd like to raise my child。 Halfway through the audiobook， I bought a physical copy so my husband and I can reference it。 I appreciate how it covers a variety of ages in its examples， from toddlers to teenagers。 I really want to check out the other books by Jane Nelson， even if it'll be a few years before I can put these ideas This book was recommended to me because I was interested in the Montessori method。 I adore so much content in this book; the emphasis on empathy and respect is exactly how I'd like to raise my child。 Halfway through the audiobook， I bought a physical copy so my husband and I can reference it。 I appreciate how it covers a variety of ages in its examples， from toddlers to teenagers。 I really want to check out the other books by Jane Nelson， even if it'll be a few years before I can put these ideas into action 😄 。。。more
VanessaRC
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Some days it feels like all the advise of this book is just not for me。 And that my kid is a special kind of child or i am an incompetent mother。 And while all that can be true， those are just long days and the book is honestly trying help set a pattern of discipline and respect based on consistent work in a relationship。 Its a great book and it cover many ages， and I am certainly coming back to it in the near future。
Fernando Fernandes
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Great book！ It's organized in a logical and practical way， which always helps。 It covers a lot and it'll take me many years to "master" its concepts （if that's even possible -- we know it's not （and that's ok））。The "five criteria" for positive discipline could be summarized as such:1。 Is Kind and Firm at the same time。 （Respectful and encouraging） 2。 Helps children feel a sense of Belonging and Significance。 （Connection） 3。 Is Effective Long-Term。 （Punishment works short term， but has negative l Great book！ It's organized in a logical and practical way， which always helps。 It covers a lot and it'll take me many years to "master" its concepts （if that's even possible -- we know it's not （and that's ok））。The "five criteria" for positive discipline could be summarized as such:1。 Is Kind and Firm at the same time。 （Respectful and encouraging） 2。 Helps children feel a sense of Belonging and Significance。 （Connection） 3。 Is Effective Long-Term。 （Punishment works short term， but has negative long-term results。） 4。 Teaches valuable Social and Life Skills for good character。 （Respect， concern for others， problem-solving， accountability， contribution， cooperation） 5。 Invites children to discover how Capable they are and to use their personal power in constructive ways。 On a side note I wish the author would put classroom-related concepts in a separate book。 I know that home-classroom concepts sometimes overlap， but still。 It just felt too much。Anyway。。。 Now， to practice。 😬 。。。more
Ivan Kuznetsov
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Would definitely put this one in the top 3 parenting best books among "How to talk so that kids listen" and "The book you wish your parents had read"/ "Montessori toddler"。 Good reminder of all the positive attitudes and examples that I am - guess like millions of parents - utterly and consistently failing at。 Would definitely put this one in the top 3 parenting best books among "How to talk so that kids listen" and "The book you wish your parents had read"/ "Montessori toddler"。 Good reminder of all the positive attitudes and examples that I am - guess like millions of parents - utterly and consistently failing at。 。。。more
Andreea Andries
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A good readValuable insight and tools。 I would have loved to see more insight into younger children but I guess research is more challenging there’s。
Ncl06
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Okuduğum en iyi çocuk gelişimi konusunda aydınlatıcı kitaplardan biriydi。
Andre Bertrand
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A book I wish I had read earlier， when my kids were born， but not too late to adjust， just harder to modify our instinctive actions。 Highly recommended。
Tracy
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Great read on positive discipline。 I would say this is a must read for all parents。 I‘m glad i picked up this book。 A reading that would need lots of re-read and in-depth study。 A book to keep。
Reference
google book https://www.google.com/search?tbm=bks&q=Positive Discipline
hathitrust digital library https://babel.hathitrust.org/cgi/ls?q1=Positive Discipline&field1=ocr&a=srchls&ft=ft&lmt=ft
The British Library https://bll01.primo.exlibrisgroup.com/discovery/search?query=any,contains,Positive Discipline&tab=LibraryCatalog&search_scope=Not_BL_Suppress&vid=44BL_INST:BLL01&lang=en&offset=0