The Opposite of Butterfly Hunting: The Tragedy and The Glory of Growing Up (A Memoir)

The Opposite of Butterfly Hunting: The Tragedy and The Glory of Growing Up (A Memoir)

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  • Author:Evanna Lynch
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Summary

A searing memoir from Harry Potter star and activist Evanna Lynch about the bravery it takes to embrace ourselves and our dreams while navigating the battle between perfection and creativity。

Gradually, I began to feel this dawning awareness that womanhood was coming for me, that it was looming inevitably, and it didn't feel safe 。 。 。 While those around me tried to expedite it, simulate it, exacerbate it, I tried to strangle it。

Evanna Lynch has long been viewed as a role model for people recovering from anorexia, as the story of her casting as Luna Lovegood in the Harry Potter films grew to almost mythic proportions--a tale of how she faced disordered eating as a young girl, found solace in a beloved book series, and several years later landed the part of her favorite character。 But that is not the whole story。

Even after recovery, there remains a conflict at the very core of her being: a bitter struggle between the familiar, anesthetizing pursuit of perfection and the desire to fully and fearlessly embrace her creativity。 In her book, Evanna confronts all the complexities and contradictions within herself and reveals how she began to conquer her self-hate while facing her fear of leaving the neatness and safety of girlhood for the unpredictable journey of being a woman。 Revealing a startlingly accomplished voice, Evanna delves into the very heart of a woman's relationship with her own body。 Unwilling to let the darkness of her eating disorder eclipse her dreams, Evanna explores the pivotal moments and choices in her life that led her down the path of creativity。 Taking the reader through her personal journey, she reveals how by channeling her fears of the messy, uncharted future into joyful, ambitious endeavors, she reaches toward acceptance of the wild, sensual, and unpredictable reality of womanhood。

Honest, electrifying, and inspiring, this is a story of the tragedy and the glory of growing up, of mourning girlhood and stepping into the unknown, and how that act of courage is the most liberating thing a woman can do。

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Reviews

Andrea

reading this book over the past month has been like greeting a friend every time i picked it up。 in all of the dark times that inevitably arise, evanna lynch was there to remind me that i’m not alone and that it is not forever。

Sarah LaMountain

This book is amazing in so many aspects。 But in the current climate with criticisms surrounding J。K。 Rowling this book just proves how much bigger the series has become and how it vastly surpasses the beliefs of the singular author。 Evanna was only 11 years old when she was hospitalized for a severe eating disorder。 The world that we have created for our children results in 11-year-old girls hating themselves enough to develop serious mental health struggles that could end in death。 This memoir This book is amazing in so many aspects。 But in the current climate with criticisms surrounding J。K。 Rowling this book just proves how much bigger the series has become and how it vastly surpasses the beliefs of the singular author。 Evanna was only 11 years old when she was hospitalized for a severe eating disorder。 The world that we have created for our children results in 11-year-old girls hating themselves enough to develop serious mental health struggles that could end in death。 This memoir I beautiful and cruel and bare, which so often doesn't happen when people overcome mental health challenges。 They want to highlight the positives to avoid negative thinking patterns and to pride themselves on their accomplishments, as they should。 But that can sometimes set a false portrayal of how dirty overcoming mental health struggles is and Evanna chooses to strip her soul down and share all of the grit and darkness with her readers。 I love that she brings light to the fact that eating disorders, along with many other mental health disorders, are stripped down to mere physical problems in the Healthcare world and that in order for us to truly combat body dysmorphia more resources need to be given to mental health institutions and the two sides need to be working together。 While she does talk about her journey to being cast in OotP, her relationship with Rowling, and her time in set it is not the primary focus of the book。 In fact, its merely a footnote about a bigger journey and she feels obligated to continue to correct that HP did not "save" her or lead to her beating her eating disorder because it just isn't that simple。 This book made me love Evanna so much more, who has always been someone that I've admired for her compassion towards all sentient beings on this planet。 I never would have guessed, that even recently, she is still someone that struggles with self-loathing and her candid portrayal of herself was incredibly brave。 Highly recommend this book for anyone that has struggled with any type of mental health disorder surrounding self-hate。 It helps the readers feel that they aren't alone。 She has become the patronus so many of her fans needed。 。。。more

Nina | ahufflepuffsworld

“I felt that I was gazing through a window that reminded me there was beauty, colour, magic and wonder available to me out there, if only I would just step over the precipice。”WOW, was the first thing I thought after reading the last sentence。 This book is a true masterpiece!Evanna Lynch’s story is inspiring, heartbreaking, and full of hope。 For many years, she’d struggled with an eating disorder, self-hate and the fear of growing up。 Reading this book, this story, it was like I was there with h “I felt that I was gazing through a window that reminded me there was beauty, colour, magic and wonder available to me out there, if only I would just step over the precipice。”WOW, was the first thing I thought after reading the last sentence。 This book is a true masterpiece!Evanna Lynch’s story is inspiring, heartbreaking, and full of hope。 For many years, she’d struggled with an eating disorder, self-hate and the fear of growing up。 Reading this book, this story, it was like I was there with her - fighting with her, crying with her, experiencing everything with her。Reading it, I could relate to many parts, as I’ve been struggling with disordered eating myself for two years。 I can’t stress enough how this book - its honesty - is so very eye-opening。 It was not an easy read, and the first memoir I’ve ever read, but I’m so glad I did。 One important lesson I’ve learned: You need to have the WILL to recover。 Keep trying, you’re doing your best。 I’m so so proud of you。Evanna also writes about what it was like auditioning for Harry Potter, and in the end, getting the part of Luna Lovegood。 I smiled so much every time she mentioned Luna。 She’s so passionate about this character and really is the perfect Luna。I felt like I was listening to a friend telling me about her life。 This book’s filled with so many life lessons, with so much hope。 So, so inspiring。 Definitely one of my favorite books this year! 。。。more

Maritere Domínguez

Need to re listen to some bits to better digest everything, then I'll write a longer review。。。。 But DO read it!Beautifully written, inspiring, insightful, funny, scary。This is the best book I've read this year by far 。。 Need to re listen to some bits to better digest everything, then I'll write a longer review。。。。 But DO read it!Beautifully written, inspiring, insightful, funny, scary。This is the best book I've read this year by far 。。 。。。more

Melissapalmer404

DecentThis book was different than I thought it would be。 I expected it to be about her role as Luna in the Harry Potter movies but it was mostly about her battle with anoxeria。

Sarah

I was impressed by this honestly。 It shows the in-depth behind the scenes of eating disorders (for those who have never had them) and shows it's not just about "being fat"。 This book also shows that the people who seem like they have it all together, are just as self conscious as anyone else。 I love the end result and the lessons learned in the book I was impressed by this honestly。 It shows the in-depth behind the scenes of eating disorders (for those who have never had them) and shows it's not just about "being fat"。 This book also shows that the people who seem like they have it all together, are just as self conscious as anyone else。 I love the end result and the lessons learned in the book 。。。more

Katherine Perez | TMU

This was a heavy read。 I was unaware of Lynch's history with anorexia before reading this book。 I appreciated her raw and honest portrayal of those years in darkness。 She had to bring down a lot of walls and break open her heart in order to write this memoir and I just want to tell her thank you for sharing your story。 There were moments where I cried, moments where I laughed, and moments where I gasped! Chapter 3 was a beautiful chapter to read, and of course all of the Harry Potter parts! Lync This was a heavy read。 I was unaware of Lynch's history with anorexia before reading this book。 I appreciated her raw and honest portrayal of those years in darkness。 She had to bring down a lot of walls and break open her heart in order to write this memoir and I just want to tell her thank you for sharing your story。 There were moments where I cried, moments where I laughed, and moments where I gasped! Chapter 3 was a beautiful chapter to read, and of course all of the Harry Potter parts! Lynch is an excellent writer。 She also showed the dark side of mental illness and handled it with care。 Mental illness isn't always pretty。 It can be uncomfortable to witness, but it's real。 I don't recommend this book to young readers。 You have to be a stronger person to read this as it could trigger some or be too hard to read。 。。。more

ArrianeReads

As an anorexia survivor myself, this book was something special to me。 Hearing Evanna's story - it was nothing at all like I imagined it, and nothing at all like my own, and yet somehow I still related to every word, the syllables resonating in me like music。 I'm going to start recommending this book to anyone and anyone I encounter who I suspect doesn't understand the true nature of EDs, be is my own or those of other people's in our lives。 I can think of so many people who would benefit from r As an anorexia survivor myself, this book was something special to me。 Hearing Evanna's story - it was nothing at all like I imagined it, and nothing at all like my own, and yet somehow I still related to every word, the syllables resonating in me like music。 I'm going to start recommending this book to anyone and anyone I encounter who I suspect doesn't understand the true nature of EDs, be is my own or those of other people's in our lives。 I can think of so many people who would benefit from reading these words and gaining an understanding of the psyche of an anorexic's brain。 The desperation, the impossibility of it all。 The hopelessness。 This book was so honest it hurt。 It was raw and sharp, like an exposed nerve, and I couldn't be more humbled and awed by Evanna for putting herself out there and publishing this absolutely extraordinary memoir, giving a gift not just to the world, but specifically to young people suffering who may not have the words to explain how they feel, or what they're going through。 。。。more

Isa Malfliet

wow wat een top boek!!! inspiring, beautifully written, captivating。

Felicity

I saw Evanna Lynch on Between the Covers and decided to buy this last weekend。 I was immediately hooked by this book which might be an odd thing to say about a memoir which focusses on Lynch's battle with an eating disorder and her mental health but I genuinely was nearly late for work a few times because I didn't want to stop reading this book! I would have raced through it if I hadn't been so busy, Lynch writes with honesty about her background, and how the eating disorder played out。 And no, I saw Evanna Lynch on Between the Covers and decided to buy this last weekend。 I was immediately hooked by this book which might be an odd thing to say about a memoir which focusses on Lynch's battle with an eating disorder and her mental health but I genuinely was nearly late for work a few times because I didn't want to stop reading this book! I would have raced through it if I hadn't been so busy, Lynch writes with honesty about her background, and how the eating disorder played out。 And no, being cast in Harry Potter did not "cure" her!! What I loved about this book, was Lynch's unique voice。 She is very introspective and has a unique take on various situations and I felt like I was experiencing everything with her。 She also somehow writes a book about anorexia without sensationalising it and the book doesn't end when her medical care does。 It continues until she is well into adulthood and finally makes peace with her body。 Because of course any condition like this which is linked to mental health does not go away instantly。 It lingers for years。 I also appreciated the fact that she warned those who have or have recently had eating disorders to either not read the book or skip certain chapters as they might find it triggers them。 A lot of what she said about being scared of womanhood brought back memories of myself。 I didn't have an eating disorder but when I was 12 I had a growth spurt and suddenly was on the skinny side and underweight for the first time in my life! I had also been through a difficult time and suddenly appreciated my new skinny body。 And although I never avoided food etc, I did start doing more exercise to keep my stomach flat and I used to sometimes hold it in all the time so people could see my ribs。。。。 Thankfully, I changed schools and life improved significantly less than a year later which I sometimes think was the making of me and stopped me from going down that dangerous spiral。I learned a lot from this book and will hopefully put it in to good use as sadly a student of mine is currently going through a very difficult time with a similar issue。 I think everyone should read this book。 But women and parents will particularly benefit! I didn't know that much about Lynch before I read this book apart from the fact she was Luna Lovegood in Harry Potter。 I now admire her greatly and think that despite the honest darkness of what she has been through and what people who suffer an eating disorder go through, there is hope and empowerment in this book。 Even for those who like me might not have had an eating disorder but have had low self-esteem and body confidence。 Definitely worth reading, but maybe avoid it if you are struggling with an eating disorder or are still recovering。 Even though Lynch deliberately leaves out statistics and calories I can see why this book could trigger someone if they read certain chapters。 。。。more

Josefin

I have cried, I have laughed, I have been angry, and felt every goddamn emotion in this book。 It was simply amazing。

Sarah Pizzichemi

This was an absolutely raw and authentic account of the author’s struggles with body image and anorexia, and the resistance to growing up while also fighting for big dreams。 It is written in such beautiful prose and the author clearly took her time to craft a meaningful and impactful work。 For such a young author, there was an incredible amount of depth to both her experience and her insights。 It has really made me reflect on my own issues with body dysmorphia in a new light through her thoughtf This was an absolutely raw and authentic account of the author’s struggles with body image and anorexia, and the resistance to growing up while also fighting for big dreams。 It is written in such beautiful prose and the author clearly took her time to craft a meaningful and impactful work。 For such a young author, there was an incredible amount of depth to both her experience and her insights。 It has really made me reflect on my own issues with body dysmorphia in a new light through her thoughtful way of reflecting and processing as the story progresses。 I found the book to be both terrifying and inspiring, and so deeply sad sometimes。 If in recovery or in the throes of an eating disorder, this may not be an appropriate read right now, but the author is mindful to not glorify her eating disorder at any point (which some memoirs of this type definitely fall into even when the message is about recovery)。 I’ve always been a fan of the author from what I can sense of her in the public light, but this very real account of her humanity and inner thoughts only makes me feel more fondness for her。 I hope she keeps writing。 。。。more

Dotty

I enjoyed this book。 Evanna is outspoken and honest about her eating disorder。 She talks about how she felt at age 11 when she started to Want to lose weight and why being thin was important to her。 She discusses the role her family's support had throughout the challenges anorexia placed on her as well as them。 She shares how her creativity and persuit of perfection were conflicting。 She delves into the horrors of "traditional therapy" and why they didn't really work as well as what did help。 Sh I enjoyed this book。 Evanna is outspoken and honest about her eating disorder。 She talks about how she felt at age 11 when she started to Want to lose weight and why being thin was important to her。 She discusses the role her family's support had throughout the challenges anorexia placed on her as well as them。 She shares how her creativity and persuit of perfection were conflicting。 She delves into the horrors of "traditional therapy" and why they didn't really work as well as what did help。 She shares her experiences as a FAN of Harry Potter and her need to Be Luna Lovegood, her correspondence with JK Rawlings, and what it was like to work with all the stars in Harry Potter。 However, even these experiences are placed within the context of being conflicted with the need for perfection and desire for creativity。 Her life after "Luna Lovegood" is framed within the psychological impact of overcoming Anorexia。 This book is well written and eye opening。 I know I said this earlier but the honesty of how she bares her sould is incredible。 I highly recommend it! 。。。more

Nikki Deal

Absolutely heart wrenching, raw, and beautiful。 I love her writing style and how she is able to so perfectly hold pain and hope together to describe her life and the experience of being a woman。

Jenny

Despite using Goodreads for years, I’ve never actually written out a review before, which I hope speaks to how special this book is。 Since the onset of puberty 25 (!) years ago, I have struggled with a deep, vicious, and immensely powerful sense of self-hate。 Unlike Evanna, I have (mercifully, miraculously) not suffered from an eating disorder, but never before have I seen my innermost thought patterns on the page。 Like Evanna, I was born into a loving, stable family and great societal privilege Despite using Goodreads for years, I’ve never actually written out a review before, which I hope speaks to how special this book is。 Since the onset of puberty 25 (!) years ago, I have struggled with a deep, vicious, and immensely powerful sense of self-hate。 Unlike Evanna, I have (mercifully, miraculously) not suffered from an eating disorder, but never before have I seen my innermost thought patterns on the page。 Like Evanna, I was born into a loving, stable family and great societal privilege as someone white, cis, straight, able-bodied, middle-class。 I have no childhood trauma to speak of。 Also like Evanna, I have spent decades bewildering and exasperating family, friends, partners and therapists who don’t understand where this self-loathing arose from or how to deal with it。 Aside from the physical specifics of anorexia, my heart swelled and broke to read someone else, someone who by all measures is a thoughtful, creative and inspirational person, go through the same feelings that have dominated my life and relationships for so many years。 The self-hate has validated itself that I am something worthless and alien every time other people seem unable to comprehend it。 Seeing here that I am not alone was meaningful and helpful beyond words。Thanks to therapy, medication, and the many wonderful interpersonal relationships I’ve been blessed with, I was in a healthy enough place to read this book and feel a painful, enlightening and incredibly fulfilling sense of recognition。 I’m a Harry Potter nerd who already admired Evanna Lynch’s vegan activism, but her writing and this beautiful, difficult memoir are such a gift to the world。 I really needed this book and I think many other people do too。 Not at all what I was expecting from a celebrity memoir but I am SO glad I read it! 。。。more

Joanne Gallacher

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it, click here。 This book is incredibly inspirational, eyeopening, beautiful, horrific and most importantly truthful。In this book Evanna doesn’t lie。 She doesn’t hide the horrors and competitiveness of eating disorders。 She describes in detail how her recovery was not instant and it took years to have even a couple of positive thoughts。 Aside from her eating disorder she also speaks of one of her most prominent acting role ‘Luna Lovegood。’ And her undying love of Harry Potter before she got her role as Luna。 To This book is incredibly inspirational, eyeopening, beautiful, horrific and most importantly truthful。In this book Evanna doesn’t lie。 She doesn’t hide the horrors and competitiveness of eating disorders。 She describes in detail how her recovery was not instant and it took years to have even a couple of positive thoughts。 Aside from her eating disorder she also speaks of one of her most prominent acting role ‘Luna Lovegood。’ And her undying love of Harry Potter before she got her role as Luna。 Towards the end of the book Evanna speaks of her Ariel and Hoop training and how her body was under an immense amount of strain and pressure but how it gave her confidence and a chance to allow her body to forgive her for the pain that it was put through 。。。more

Holly is Happy Reading

The actress Evanna Lynch who played Luna Lovegood has written this powerful book about her personal experience of having an eating disorder。 Her struggles with facing the truth and her going to a clinic。 But she ultimately overcomes this and finds out that their is an audition for Luna Lovegood。 This book captures her struggles and overcomes her battle with an eating disorder。 I had the pleasure of meeting her and hearing her talk and she signed my book。

Michelle Boyea

If I could sum this book up into only one word, it would simply be: powerful。Evanna has a way of writing that simply brings her book to life。 You feel her emotions, her story, her struggles, her feelings, and so much more。 The way she describes what she has been through is unique。 She doesn't shy away from the pain and ugliness, she does her absolute best to show what anorexia is really and truly like。 But above all, she shows that every single person is more than their diagnosis。 More than thei If I could sum this book up into only one word, it would simply be: powerful。Evanna has a way of writing that simply brings her book to life。 You feel her emotions, her story, her struggles, her feelings, and so much more。 The way she describes what she has been through is unique。 She doesn't shy away from the pain and ugliness, she does her absolute best to show what anorexia is really and truly like。 But above all, she shows that every single person is more than their diagnosis。 More than their condition。 And that it isn't a matter of simply overcoming it, it's a matter of fighting it every day and learning how to appreciate yourself。 。。。more

Danielle

Like the author, Harry Potter books and movies have long been my escape although mostly after not during my own bout with some similar anxiety related issues。 Luna was my favorite character once Evanna stepped on screen and so I was very interested to read about the person who made Luna come alive。 I really found the writing compelling - I do hope she might go on to write more, fiction or otherwise。 I think she hit the nail on the head on so many topics, particularly the fact that it is the issu Like the author, Harry Potter books and movies have long been my escape although mostly after not during my own bout with some similar anxiety related issues。 Luna was my favorite character once Evanna stepped on screen and so I was very interested to read about the person who made Luna come alive。 I really found the writing compelling - I do hope she might go on to write more, fiction or otherwise。 I think she hit the nail on the head on so many topics, particularly the fact that it is the issues behind eating disorders which need to be dealt which to properly recover, but also her descriptions of her experience of self loathing will no doubt ring true for many others as well。 I would recommend for anyone trying to understand someone going through similar issues, who may need some help appreciating complex issues around eating disorders or anyone who likes biographies generally。 Agree with some reviews that this may be too soon for some people going through it but the author includes a very helpful warning about triggers to hopefully gently steer people away from reading on if it is not going to be helpful for them。 。。。more

Katie

Wow! I read this because I loved her in Harry Potter as Luna Love good。 She is an incredible writer。 She tells a very real and raw story of her battle with anorexia and her childhood and teenage years。 This book is great。

Isobella Wolfe

Not normally much of a consumer of non-fiction, thanks to my admiration of Evanna as an actor, activist, and all around human, I thought to give this a go as my first full audiobook ever after she mentioned that it was best heard, not read。Every spare minute I had, I excitedly flicked back over to Audible to take in Evanna's soothing voice, deeply moving story, and, simply, gripping way with words。This book is for anyone struggling with the idea of perfection in their daily lives, or witnessing Not normally much of a consumer of non-fiction, thanks to my admiration of Evanna as an actor, activist, and all around human, I thought to give this a go as my first full audiobook ever after she mentioned that it was best heard, not read。Every spare minute I had, I excitedly flicked back over to Audible to take in Evanna's soothing voice, deeply moving story, and, simply, gripping way with words。This book is for anyone struggling with the idea of perfection in their daily lives, or witnessing someone struggling with it themselves。 In other words, it's for everyone。 Bravo。 。。。more

Tanner Connors

Absolutely incredible。 This is a very brave retelling of her brutal truths。 I can imagine this book will help countless people, whether it be those going through recovery or adjusting to life after, or folks trying to better understand and help a loved one。 Thank you, Evanna!

Gwendolyn

4,5。 "I think the safe path always leads to a dead end。""Her body is a springboard from which she can dive deeper into her surroundings, to explore, to understand。" 4,5。 "I think the safe path always leads to a dead end。""Her body is a springboard from which she can dive deeper into her surroundings, to explore, to understand。" 。。。more

Kjeld

One of the most gripping memoirs I've ever read! I've loved Evanna Lynch since her Harry Potter appearances although I did not know her past Listened to it as an audiobok read by Evanna, which I can only recommend! One of the most gripping memoirs I've ever read! I've loved Evanna Lynch since her Harry Potter appearances although I did not know her past Listened to it as an audiobok read by Evanna, which I can only recommend! 。。。more

Eli

A beautifully written memoir about anorexia, which old friends know I am familiar with myself。 Evanna gets to the existential core of issue so many of us have long felt neglected by mainstream medicine: a feeling that life is intrinsically meaningless and a questioning of why we might eat at all。 Warning: this took me to a few dark places, and if you are likely triggered, it might do the same for you, too。 Ultimately though, here is an engaging story here that veers away from glamourising this c A beautifully written memoir about anorexia, which old friends know I am familiar with myself。 Evanna gets to the existential core of issue so many of us have long felt neglected by mainstream medicine: a feeling that life is intrinsically meaningless and a questioning of why we might eat at all。 Warning: this took me to a few dark places, and if you are likely triggered, it might do the same for you, too。 Ultimately though, here is an engaging story here that veers away from glamourising this coping mechanism and instead reframes it。 Evanna reminds us we have two choice: 1。 play it safe and endeavour to preserve and focus on one's "perfection"-- to avoid moving forward and instead deciding to stay right here and get smaller and smaller until you dissolve。 2。 create a life and live it and experience all life's ups and downs。 A sensitive demographic, we enjoy both in story where we are the witness not the feeler。 Here is a reminder to be courageous--the greatest story can be our own and we can choose to let these inner fires burn us up, or use them to create something new。 。。。more

lucy♡

One of the most beautiful books I’ve ever read <3

Rachel

“And maybe I will live a happier, wilder, more colourful and unpredictable life if I can finally abandon the debilitating and brutal pursuit of perfection。”

Sarah Carrigan

This book has impacted me more then a goodreads review box can express。 I would not recommend this book to somebody who is in early stages of eating disorder recovery but at the same time, in time, I think it is a must read for anybody who has suffered from an eating disorder。 Evanna perfectly portrays what anorexia is like from the perspective of the sufferer and I think this book is such a great resource to help explain to people on the outside how painful it can be。

Rachel

Many parts of this book were painfully relatable。 I really appreciate Evanna Lynch’s absolute brutal honesty。

Julia Hy

This book was so well written, words carefully chosen, and you never lose the voice of the author。 Usually books regarding life with eating disorders trigger me greatly, but Evanna addresses this head on and tells her story in a way where there are no ruffles, no boasting, just facts and what daily life felt like。 And never has anyone been able to capture and mirror my own feelings and struggles, especially without triggering me in the process。 Well worth every second of your time。