Child Proof: Parenting by Faith, Not Formula
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- Author：Julie Lowe
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Summary
As a freedom-over-formula parenting book for parents of all ages， Child Proof provides biblical insight and encouragement for readers who want to parent by faith。 As an experienced counselor of children and families and an adoptive and foster mom applying the CCEF model of biblical change， Julie Lowe uses Scripture and biblical wisdom to teach parents how to know their children and specifically love them with the love of Christ。
Every family is unique， which is why Child Proof explores the need for parents to cultivate personal and intimate care for their children as modeled in God’s individual， personal， and fatherly care to his children。 This parenting book lays a foundation of parenting by faith and progresses by teaching parents how they can know their own children well and parent accordingly。 By discussing particular issues parents might have in family life， Lowe demonstrates how parenting formulas aren’t the answer， and parenting with biblical wisdom is best for a proactive rather than reactive approach to parenting。
Through Lowe’s personal and professional experience， parents as well as those helping parents—pastors， counselors and counseling students， youth workers， and churches—will discover gospel-centered application rather than formulas for the ideal family， equipping parents to be experts at knowing their own children so they can know Scripture and live it out personally in their homes。
Every family is unique， which is why Child Proof explores the need for parents to cultivate personal and intimate care for their children as modeled in God’s individual， personal， and fatherly care to his children。 This parenting book lays a foundation of parenting by faith and progresses by teaching parents how they can know their own children well and parent accordingly。 By discussing particular issues parents might have in family life， Lowe demonstrates how parenting formulas aren’t the answer， and parenting with biblical wisdom is best for a proactive rather than reactive approach to parenting。
Through Lowe’s personal and professional experience， parents as well as those helping parents—pastors， counselors and counseling students， youth workers， and churches—will discover gospel-centered application rather than formulas for the ideal family， equipping parents to be experts at knowing their own children so they can know Scripture and live it out personally in their homes。
Reviews
Bobby Oliveri
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Lots to commend。 The chapters， while brief， are well-written and insightful。 The experience and insight of Julie Lowe is evident， and she does a great job of offering instruction and correction without pouring on the guilt and shame。 Each chapter is a good mix of theory and practice， and there's plenty of practical examples too。 Most helpful perhaps is the parents toolbox at the end of each chapter， as well as the reflection questions， that help spouses think and talk about the real life scenari Lots to commend。 The chapters， while brief， are well-written and insightful。 The experience and insight of Julie Lowe is evident， and she does a great job of offering instruction and correction without pouring on the guilt and shame。 Each chapter is a good mix of theory and practice， and there's plenty of practical examples too。 Most helpful perhaps is the parents toolbox at the end of each chapter， as well as the reflection questions， that help spouses think and talk about the real life scenarios they're facing with their own kids。 All in all， a worthwhile read that I would recommend to any parent。 。。。more
Erica Reagan Powell
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Disclaimer: I am not a parent， so my ability to accurately critique parenting books is necessarily limited。 That being said， I found that this book， though not necessarily wrong， was unhelpful。 There were good thoughts and ideas to be gleaned here and there， but overall the book lacked depth and substance。 The author pointed out the various problems parents tend to have with their children/teens， but offered very little in the way of practical advice。 Her general response was that parents need t Disclaimer: I am not a parent， so my ability to accurately critique parenting books is necessarily limited。 That being said， I found that this book， though not necessarily wrong， was unhelpful。 There were good thoughts and ideas to be gleaned here and there， but overall the book lacked depth and substance。 The author pointed out the various problems parents tend to have with their children/teens， but offered very little in the way of practical advice。 Her general response was that parents need to learn their children （over-psychologizing the parenting process， in my opinion） and respond to each situation using godly wisdom and the help of the Spirit。 Again， not wrong， but extremely vague。 She also wrote the whole chapter on discipline without once mentioning the use of the rod。。。？ 。。。more
Lindsey
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Best parenting book I have ever read。
Amanda
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There was some really good suggestions and information in this book。 It started out a little bland and cliche， but it got really good around chapter 5！ She had great practical tips on how to help train your children and trust God through it all。 It was an easy read， and I liked how there were reflection questions at the end of the chapters。 Overall， I’d probably re-read this as my kids are a little older so that I can put into practice some of the action items。
Carol Johnson
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Will come back to this。 Recommended it to my husband。 Encouraging because it reminds me there is no one right way to do things; that getting to know my family members and trusting God to lead us and take care of us is primary。 I don’t think this will be so widely read， though， because of the misleading title！
Justine Bowtell-Harris
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This was a fantastic book。 It’s amazing how many time’s as a parent I’ve tried to implement formulas for parenting - consciously or unconsciously and have always fallen flat on my face。 This was really just such a practical book， easy to read with lots of scriptural references。 Loved her writing style and look forward to reading more of her books。
Alaina Torrey
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Read the bulk of this during 2019 with a group of moms - easily my favorite parenting book in a while。 Parenting by a formula， believing that we can create the perfect environment， experiences， and encouragement to produce a faithful， adjusted， and established child is such an easy trap to fall into。 And a hard one to climb out of。 Julie Lowe writes practically， emphasizing faith and understanding the personhood of our children as ways to climb out of that "formula" pit and into a relationship w Read the bulk of this during 2019 with a group of moms - easily my favorite parenting book in a while。 Parenting by a formula， believing that we can create the perfect environment， experiences， and encouragement to produce a faithful， adjusted， and established child is such an easy trap to fall into。 And a hard one to climb out of。 Julie Lowe writes practically， emphasizing faith and understanding the personhood of our children as ways to climb out of that "formula" pit and into a relationship with our children and our God。 Well worth the read！ 。。。more
David Pulliam
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The first half of this book is great， and your point is quite powerful。 The problem I run into is in the second half which was intended to be practical about it enough find it to be practical。 Her main point is that as a parent you are for filling the role given by God and your dependence on God not the outcome。 And obedient child is not because of your work but because of gods work。 Sing half was intended to be practical how does this truth apply to the nitty-gritty of life。 I’m afraid if I do The first half of this book is great， and your point is quite powerful。 The problem I run into is in the second half which was intended to be practical about it enough find it to be practical。 Her main point is that as a parent you are for filling the role given by God and your dependence on God not the outcome。 And obedient child is not because of your work but because of gods work。 Sing half was intended to be practical how does this truth apply to the nitty-gritty of life。 I’m afraid if I do quite vague and beyond “remember God” It really did not answer to how question。I would encourage people to read the first half it is quite helpful I don’t expect anything very practical。 So it’s worth reading but just the first half。 。。。more
John Caulfield
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I’ll admit I’m a formula guy。 I want a “how-to” guide for evangelism， discipleship， prayer， marriage， and just about every other sphere of the Christian life。 So why would parenting be any different。 But instead of offering a template， Lowe’s work challenges readers to do the hard work of studying and knowing our children deeply， and then applying biblical wisdom to them as individual image bearers。 Yes， there are certain principles that should be applied universally by all believing parents， bu I’ll admit I’m a formula guy。 I want a “how-to” guide for evangelism， discipleship， prayer， marriage， and just about every other sphere of the Christian life。 So why would parenting be any different。 But instead of offering a template， Lowe’s work challenges readers to do the hard work of studying and knowing our children deeply， and then applying biblical wisdom to them as individual image bearers。 Yes， there are certain principles that should be applied universally by all believing parents， but many biblical principals will vary in application depending on the disposition of our individual children。 I appreciated her tips on how to delve into deeper conversations with children。 。。。more
Laura
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At the heart of Julie Lowe’s Child Proof is a simple word of encouragement to Christian parents: “Instead of ‘how-tos’ and formulas， we rely on who God is in relationship to us。”Nothing tempts me as a parent more than the promise of a new set of rules。 I am constantly tempted to place my hope in rules and regulations for my kids that seem to guarantee results。 I wonder if new sleep regimens or fail-proof discipline systems will finally solve my parenting conundrums。 Lowe guides parents back towa At the heart of Julie Lowe’s Child Proof is a simple word of encouragement to Christian parents: “Instead of ‘how-tos’ and formulas， we rely on who God is in relationship to us。”Nothing tempts me as a parent more than the promise of a new set of rules。 I am constantly tempted to place my hope in rules and regulations for my kids that seem to guarantee results。 I wonder if new sleep regimens or fail-proof discipline systems will finally solve my parenting conundrums。 Lowe guides parents back towards the gospel of grace， reminding us that we can only parent “when we are emptied of our own sense of competency and realize that the task requires far more than we have in us” because parenting “must be done in dependence on the Holy Spirit。” Instead of measuring the success of our parenting in terms of results， we must remember that our children are “moral responders who will choose whether they will become wise and learn from discipline， or whether they will be foolish and hardened in their response。” I found much needed encouragement in her clear admonitions from scripture。In my own years as a parent， I’ve been learning the lessons in this book first hand， but it was refreshing to see my parenting philosophy spelled out so clearly。 I was grateful for the way that Lowe continually steers parents away from simplistic formulas and back to the wisdom of scripture。 Though the Bible offers few specifics on parenting， many of the general principles about how to handle conflict apply to parents in unique ways。 She encourages parents to become experts on their own family and to apply grace with creativity and persistence。 Our ultimate parenting goal should be to disciple our children to be people “who can take an honest look at themselves and confess their sin。” There are no shortcuts or magic bullets。 Rather， we must produce in our homes “an atmosphere of grace that is practiced generously in family relationships。”Lowe is a foster parent herself and has also dealt with unique parenting challenges as a professional counselor。 All of these experiences inform the wise counsel found in this book。 I was reminded of the powerful words from the hymn Amazing Grace， which remind me that “grace has brought me safe thus far， and grace will lead me home。” Grace brought us to faith and is working in our lives; Lowe reminds us that we can trust God’s grace to instruct our parenting。 Because her book is saturated with reminders of God’s grace， Child Proof is an excellent source of encouragement for parents who are wearing themselves out trying to follow a formula or for parents who’ve already discovered all their idealistic formulas really don’t work in the trenches。 The gospel is good news for parents， and Julie Lowe makes that abundantly clear in this book。 。。。more
Sara
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Best parenting book I've read to date！ Best parenting book I've read to date！ 。。。more
Catherine
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I've read quite a few books on parenting， and this one is different。 It's a good complement to more comprehensive books。 Although the writing wasn't my favorite， the extremely practical suggestions and treatment of less common topics made this book a winner and one I underlined profusely。 I've read quite a few books on parenting， and this one is different。 It's a good complement to more comprehensive books。 Although the writing wasn't my favorite， the extremely practical suggestions and treatment of less common topics made this book a winner and one I underlined profusely。 。。。more
LeAnne Klopfenstein
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Parenting by Faith not Formula by Julie Lowe is a fantastic book。 Real life stories & examples of how to blend your family’s needs & individual personalities。 Truth is taken straight from the Bible and applied in tangible ways。 The ‘how-to’s， ‘why’s’ & additional reflection questions don’t intimidate you， but bring guidance， hope， and encouragement。 This may be one of my favorite parenting books！*I received a copy of this book from the publisher， but was under no obligation to write a review。 My Parenting by Faith not Formula by Julie Lowe is a fantastic book。 Real life stories & examples of how to blend your family’s needs & individual personalities。 Truth is taken straight from the Bible and applied in tangible ways。 The ‘how-to’s， ‘why’s’ & additional reflection questions don’t intimidate you， but bring guidance， hope， and encouragement。 This may be one of my favorite parenting books！*I received a copy of this book from the publisher， but was under no obligation to write a review。 My honest opinion has been provided without any requirement to write a positive review。 。。。more
JEM
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Loved this！ I would love to have a mini Julie Lowe to stick in my pocket and carry around with me for all those challenging parenting moments。 This isn't possible of course but this book is the next best thing！ Julie writes from the extensive experience of her work （a licensed professional counsellor and play therapist） and from her own home， as an adoptive and foster parent。 She has a very gracious approach even as she challenges parents to "do the hard work of parenting"。 Her biblical approach Loved this！ I would love to have a mini Julie Lowe to stick in my pocket and carry around with me for all those challenging parenting moments。 This isn't possible of course but this book is the next best thing！ Julie writes from the extensive experience of her work （a licensed professional counsellor and play therapist） and from her own home， as an adoptive and foster parent。 She has a very gracious approach even as she challenges parents to "do the hard work of parenting"。 Her biblical approach is uplifting and you never get the sense of being condemned or shamed， quite the opposite in fact。 I knew when I heard the author speak at a CCEF conference that I would be waiting for this book to be published。 What I loved most， is that she recognises the pitfalls of formulaic parenting and celebrates that each child， parent and family is unique。 Highly recommended。Thank you to NetGalley for the ARC 。。。more
Julia
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I loved this book！ The idea of applying principles to parenting and using wisdom instead of simple formulas is powerful。 I also enjoyed the practical applications in this book - when you have a child who is anxious， disobedient， etc。 It was great knowledge to tuck away and to share with others。 I highly recommend this book to people in any stage of parenting。
Andrea
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Best book on parenting that I have read！ Wish I had had it when my kids were younger。
Dalen
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A book with a lofty calling for parents。 It was less a book of what to do than it was a book about why we do things and how to think through things。 In sure I will revisit this book through the years as there were a number of things that seem like they would be helpful as NY child grows。 I do appreciate the emphasis on the hard work involved with building and maintaining a relationship with your children rather than a formula or set of actions。
Hanna Lee
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I enjoyed the practical nature of this book。 The author encourages you not to look to formulas or structures to parent well but instead to know your own children and to lean on biblical principals to influence your decisions。 It is rich with scripture reference for your own use and to share with your children。
Theron StJohn
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'Child Proof' is a relationship builder for parents to trust the Lord and to know their child。 This book is for the parent who knows they cannot raise children on their own but are dependent upon the Lord。 If you are （or know） a parent who wants to know your child better than the latest parenting technique， then get to know how to do so by getting your copy of 'Child Proof'。 As you replace parenting by formula with parenting by faith， you will grow as a parent， leaning on the Lord and learning h 'Child Proof' is a relationship builder for parents to trust the Lord and to know their child。 This book is for the parent who knows they cannot raise children on their own but are dependent upon the Lord。 If you are （or know） a parent who wants to know your child better than the latest parenting technique， then get to know how to do so by getting your copy of 'Child Proof'。 As you replace parenting by formula with parenting by faith， you will grow as a parent， leaning on the Lord and learning how to best parent your child。See full review at: http://www。entrustedbygod。org/2018/11。。。 。。。more
Wendy
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Many parents seek a one-size-fits-all solution。 We want simple answers to complicated problems and we want them to work every time。Yet each family is different， each child is different， each circumstance is different。 Our personalities vary， our temperaments differ。 Each parent has their own sins， gifts and tendencies， and each child has their own sins， gifts and tendencies。We fool ourselves into thinking there could be the same solution for every problem。 Thankfully Julie Lowe has come to the s Many parents seek a one-size-fits-all solution。 We want simple answers to complicated problems and we want them to work every time。Yet each family is different， each child is different， each circumstance is different。 Our personalities vary， our temperaments differ。 Each parent has their own sins， gifts and tendencies， and each child has their own sins， gifts and tendencies。We fool ourselves into thinking there could be the same solution for every problem。 Thankfully Julie Lowe has come to the same realization and shared it with us in her book Child Proof。 She starts by freeing parents from the trap of thinking there is only one right way to parent， and in fact what God calls us to is not a formula but faith。 We are called to love God and love our children and that will impact the way we parent more than any structure， routine， guideline or expectation。 We need to parent centering on Christ – cultivating his character and love in our family life， becoming an expert on our family and parenting according to their needs。 We need discerning discipline and to prioritise building bridges to our children， strengthening our relationship with them。 The final section: Parenting by Faith Applied， deals with particular situations， including parenting a difficult child， an anxious child， when you child says “I don’t know” and the importance of role playing and practicing situations with them。 The real benefit of this book will be seen in how you choose to apply it。 You could read it， think， “that’s great” and move on to the next book of wisdom that is released。 Or， you could stop， work through her instructive questions and suggestions at the end of each chapter， and in God’s grace and wisdom， consider how to parent your children by faith in God and his good plans， despite our sins and weaknesses。 （I received an eBook in exchange for an honest review） 。。。more
Vicky Sluiter
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There are many books available on the subject of parenting。 Author Julie Lowe’s book is not just another one。 If you want to parent by faith， this book is for you。 The use of Scripture combined with biblical wisdom makes it one of the better ones you’ll find。Child Proof is broken into two sections。 The first lays a good foundation for parenting by faith。 The second section discusses specific challenges in a child’s life。Lowe is a parent as well as a licensed professional counselor and play thera There are many books available on the subject of parenting。 Author Julie Lowe’s book is not just another one。 If you want to parent by faith， this book is for you。 The use of Scripture combined with biblical wisdom makes it one of the better ones you’ll find。Child Proof is broken into two sections。 The first lays a good foundation for parenting by faith。 The second section discusses specific challenges in a child’s life。Lowe is a parent as well as a licensed professional counselor and play therapist。 This book is full of great information that will help you love your child with Christ’s love。 A great read for parents， I recommend it。I received a complimentary copy of this book but was not required to leave a review。 。。。more
Jolene -
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