The Gap and the Gain: The High Achievers Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success
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- Create Date：2021-10-28 07:50:57
- Update Date：2025-09-06
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- Author：Benjamin Hardy
- ISBN：1401964362
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Summary
As he did in WHO NOT HOW， Dr。 Benjamin Hardy shares one of Dan Sullivan's simple yet profound teachings that until now has been known only to his Strategic Coach clients: unsuccessful people focus on "The Gap，" but successful people focus on "The Gain。"
Most people， especially highly ambitious people， are unhappy because of what they measure themselves against。 We all have an ideal， which is like a moving target always out of reach。 When we measure ourselves against our ideal， we're in "The Gap。" However， when we measure ourselves against our previous selves--the person we were when we set our goals and ideals--we will be in "The Gain。" In "The Gain" we can more clearly see the progress we've made， and therefore will experience the happiness， confidence， and satisfaction that come from achieving--positive， powerful emotions that will motivate us to pursue new goals and ultimately become increasingly successful。
Most people， especially highly ambitious people， are unhappy because of what they measure themselves against。 We all have an ideal， which is like a moving target always out of reach。 When we measure ourselves against our ideal， we're in "The Gap。" However， when we measure ourselves against our previous selves--the person we were when we set our goals and ideals--we will be in "The Gain。" In "The Gain" we can more clearly see the progress we've made， and therefore will experience the happiness， confidence， and satisfaction that come from achieving--positive， powerful emotions that will motivate us to pursue new goals and ultimately become increasingly successful。
Reviews
SamGH
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Amazing！I did not realize how important it is to see where you’ve been in relation to we’re you are。 The secret sauce to happiness！ Thanks for the inspiration！ Now I have to learn it and make it my own！
Karen Briscoe
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Inspiration & insights that transform businesses and lives。 Achieve a higher level of success by applying the principles outlined in The Gap and The Gain。 -- Karen Briscoe， author and podcast host 5 Minute Success
Lancelancedance
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Repetition is goodI liked that the concept is simple 。 The concept is made clear 。 The material is good。 The references to other writers is good。 Great book for the new entrepreneur or new reader on personal transformation and business 。 I wish the up and coming would read this。 You might give it a 5 star rating if the concept is new to you。
Isabella Terrazas
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This book is in one word groundbreaking。 The authors give you an insight into how to change your mindset from [creating a goal， achieving it， then moving on to the next one] to looking at what truly contributes to your happiness and your values and constantly follow that North star。 This book is short and sweet enough to let you hit the ground running with changing your life and the lives of those around you
B。J。 Fogg
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This book has helped me be happier。 I found it so important that I made this book required reading in my Stanford course。
Denise
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A very quick yet insightful read。1。 The Book in 3 sentences:People tend to be unhappy not because they have not achieved anything but because they're measuring incorrectly。 We need 4 key things: start， progress， goals， and ideals。 We need to learn how to set measurable goals （not ideas） and measure backwards （gains）。 2。 Impressions:a。 How I discovered it:I just came across one random YouTube video about how a shift in mindset made his life better。b。 Who should read it:- People who feel unaccompl A very quick yet insightful read。1。 The Book in 3 sentences:People tend to be unhappy not because they have not achieved anything but because they're measuring incorrectly。 We need 4 key things: start， progress， goals， and ideals。 We need to learn how to set measurable goals （not ideas） and measure backwards （gains）。 2。 Impressions:a。 How I discovered it:I just came across one random YouTube video about how a shift in mindset made his life better。b。 Who should read it:- People who feel unaccomplished （despite having a productive lifestyle or not）- People who are generally unhappy and unmotivated3。 How the book changed me:I definitely loved the book because it's simple yet it made sense。 I believe that I have a productive mindset and still feel like a slacker despite doing a bunch of this that day。 Of course， this would make me absolutely unhappy。 Through this book， I realized that I was measuring life the wrong way。 I was always after the ideal （general delusive goals） that I will never be able to measure and reach （the gap）。 But now， I learned that you should always measure from your starting point to where you are now （the gain）。 It is also important to understand that you should have SMART goals that would give you "wins" in life， even as small as drinking 2L of water。 The ideals on the other hand are good but should only be used as motivation not as justification of how your life is at the moment。 4。 Top quotes:- If you work in the world of generalities， it’s easy to get confused about what’s really going on， and your sense of your achievements will be vague and unclear。- The future isn’t a reality—it’s a projection。 And because it’s not reality， it can’t be part of any real measurement of your progress。 The only way to measure goals is backward， against the past。 Use the reality of where you currently are and measure backward from there to the reality of where you started- Set measurable goals and measure backward。 。。。more
Maartje Van Der Hulst
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Boodschap kon in 3 zinnen geschreven
Khadijah
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I love the positivity centered focus of the gain。
Chad King
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The book is short and simple， but the concept provided is insightful and important to apply if you find yourself struggling to see yourself making progress in your ventures。 It's easy to get caught up in an ideal， and setting unrealistic expectations， and then feeling as if you failed when you didn't reach those ideals。This book reminds you that any ideal is just make believe， and you'll never reach them as you imagined。 Instead， set realistic goals， measure backwards from where you started， and The book is short and simple， but the concept provided is insightful and important to apply if you find yourself struggling to see yourself making progress in your ventures。 It's easy to get caught up in an ideal， and setting unrealistic expectations， and then feeling as if you failed when you didn't reach those ideals。This book reminds you that any ideal is just make believe， and you'll never reach them as you imagined。 Instead， set realistic goals， measure backwards from where you started， and count your wins each day。 。。。more
Riley
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yay i'm an achiever i'm so successful yay i'm an achiever i'm so successful 。。。more
Maura
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A quick read which Dan makes freely available online。 While all of the content may not have been meaningful to me I like his concept of measuring progress based on your past rather than your ideal。 I absolutely love the accompanying App， WinStreak， which again， is free to download。 It's simple but brilliant and prompts you to look for your 'wins'， your progress， whether big or small， each day and to visualise tomorrow's wins also。 It's a great concept， takes only a few minutes and encourages sel A quick read which Dan makes freely available online。 While all of the content may not have been meaningful to me I like his concept of measuring progress based on your past rather than your ideal。 I absolutely love the accompanying App， WinStreak， which again， is free to download。 It's simple but brilliant and prompts you to look for your 'wins'， your progress， whether big or small， each day and to visualise tomorrow's wins also。 It's a great concept， takes only a few minutes and encourages self-reflection within the lens of positivity and incremental progression。 。。。more
Dana
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非常好的角度，能精炼一点就更好了。
Olabinjo Ebenezer
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Very Great book。。。 short and straight to the point
Asteria Hecate
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This book is short and is designed to be read within an hour。 The concept of the Gap and the Gain is very interesting and innovative - the switch of perspective is a simple thing， but I don't think people usually make that connection and actively change their perspective， that's why this book is so important。 At times， it felt as if the author is repeating the same thing over and over， but then again， maybe that is required to drive the point home。 I really loved this book， and I think everyone This book is short and is designed to be read within an hour。 The concept of the Gap and the Gain is very interesting and innovative - the switch of perspective is a simple thing， but I don't think people usually make that connection and actively change their perspective， that's why this book is so important。 At times， it felt as if the author is repeating the same thing over and over， but then again， maybe that is required to drive the point home。 I really loved this book， and I think everyone needs to read this。 。。。more
Charlie
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This short eBook has a good message， but could really have been about 15 pages long。 Repetitive chapters and messages abound。 But， I'm a fan of encouraging progress， and I think the hour it takes to absorb these messages is worthwhile for anyone looking to make improvement in their lives。 This short eBook has a good message， but could really have been about 15 pages long。 Repetitive chapters and messages abound。 But， I'm a fan of encouraging progress， and I think the hour it takes to absorb these messages is worthwhile for anyone looking to make improvement in their lives。 。。。more
Oumaïma （readwithmima）
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3。75 rounded up。The concept of the gap and the gain in very interesting。 The ebook is short and well written。 Nothing bad here， but nothing mind blowing either if you have been reading about goals and personal development for a while。
Dave McCracken
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A practical method for progress measurement， focusing on reality versus imaginative moving targets。
Jon Barr
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Designed to be read in around an hour， this free e-book was enjoyable and enlightening。 The foundational principle （measure your progress against your starting point， not against your unattainable ideal） is explained and explored through text and illustrations。You can get your free copy at http://www。strategiccoach。com/go/gapa。。。 Designed to be read in around an hour， this free e-book was enjoyable and enlightening。 The foundational principle （measure your progress against your starting point， not against your unattainable ideal） is explained and explored through text and illustrations。You can get your free copy at http://www。strategiccoach。com/go/gapa。。。 。。。more
Grey Fuellas
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A quick 1 hour read kind of book， you sure will get insights from it on how to recognize and be happier on your accomplishments。 Focusing on the gain rather than the gap。 Book could have been shorter， but still a good read。
Fanni Melles
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I understood so much about myself due to this book， and I hope to help my existing community and future environment to leave the gap behind and live based on the gain - this is hard even for me， but the positive consequences are way greater than the effort it takes to "flip the switch"。 I understood so much about myself due to this book， and I hope to help my existing community and future environment to leave the gap behind and live based on the gain - this is hard even for me， but the positive consequences are way greater than the effort it takes to "flip the switch"。 。。。more
Joseph Schoolland
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Another way of thinking about envy and ingratitude by comparing yourself with what you wish was true instead of being thankful for what is actually true。
Beth Gea
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