La inteligencia emocional
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Sherman
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A well written book。 Enjoyed reading it。
E
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Frankly， I am not even sure I want to spend timereviewing this book， but for the sake of my peace of mind and maybe to save you some time， I’ll do it。 The main thing: the book just wasn’t as good as everyone had told me。 I don’t know why I wasn’t impressed， maybe it has something to do with my christian upbringing and 20 years of listening to progressive pastors preaching about love， managing anger and being good to people; maybe it’s the fact that I’d read some books and articles on psychology Frankly， I am not even sure I want to spend timereviewing this book， but for the sake of my peace of mind and maybe to save you some time， I’ll do it。 The main thing: the book just wasn’t as good as everyone had told me。 I don’t know why I wasn’t impressed， maybe it has something to do with my christian upbringing and 20 years of listening to progressive pastors preaching about love， managing anger and being good to people; maybe it’s the fact that I’d read some books and articles on psychology before， maybe not。 But it seems that “Emotional intelligence”， like most highly praised modern western books is just a collection of some well or not-so-well known facts about how our brains works mixed with bits of biology， based on a couple of studies （which I haven’t checked out yet）， just complicated enough to sound “smart”。 The most interesting part for me was about how our brains reacts to danger， everything past that — just a bunch of poorly written whatnot in a style of “It's hard to stay angry when we're having a pleasant time” and just chapters of describing most popular human problems — ocd， bulimia， anger， social adaptation issues etc。 Nothing of this was in any way useful or thought provoking。 And I read it to the end just to make sure it is really that trivial。 Spoiler: it is。 Maybe I am just too educated for this book， although I do not think of myself in that way， especially in this field。 Still， I have a feeling that the TA of this book were people， who’d never heard ofpsychology， never read anything longer than Kim Kardashian’s instagram caption and never watched anything more informative than marvel movies。 Bottom line: don’t waste your time， it’s just another over advertised piece of crap。 。。。more
Adolfo
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A well written book。 Enjoyed reading it。
Sam Motes
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Read years ago but decided to re-read due to some Linkedin Learning courses on the topic。
Nick Rogers
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I initially thought this book was excellent and worth the hype and high regard it has in the popular psychology genre。 It goes into depth into how emotions are formed etc。 as well as explications of the consequences for people who can't control emotions etc。 However， the end of the book the goes into depth about emotional schools for kids and how emotions impact the behaviour of kids， and by then I felt it really is a book for parents and teachers or for careers that focus on kids and I lost int I initially thought this book was excellent and worth the hype and high regard it has in the popular psychology genre。 It goes into depth into how emotions are formed etc。 as well as explications of the consequences for people who can't control emotions etc。 However， the end of the book the goes into depth about emotional schools for kids and how emotions impact the behaviour of kids， and by then I felt it really is a book for parents and teachers or for careers that focus on kids and I lost interest。 Otherwise， it is an interesting look at emotions， but I was expecting something better。 。。。more
Jung
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Our emotions are important as they serve as indispensable sources of orientation and push us to take action。 However， they can also make us act irrationally。 That is why we need emotional intelligence。 Emotional Intelligence is a set of skills that enable you to recognize and manage emotions – both your own feelings and those of other people。Emotional intelligence is perhaps the most important factor in helping us lead fulfilled lives。 Compared to IQ， it is a better predictor of academic success Our emotions are important as they serve as indispensable sources of orientation and push us to take action。 However， they can also make us act irrationally。 That is why we need emotional intelligence。 Emotional Intelligence is a set of skills that enable you to recognize and manage emotions – both your own feelings and those of other people。Emotional intelligence is perhaps the most important factor in helping us lead fulfilled lives。 Compared to IQ， it is a better predictor of academic success， job performance and life success。 And， unlike IQ， we can increase our emotional intelligence throughout life。Actionable advice:Emotional intelligence is of paramount importance for a child’s welfare。 Thus， if you are a parent or a teacher， you might want to help children develop their emotional skills by using one of the following simple measures:Encourage them to talk about their feelings。 This will enhance their emotional self-awareness。 If they experience difficulties with this task， provide them with the necessary vocabulary to label their emotions。If they succeed in something， praise them for their efforts and for showing self-control。 This will teach them to trust in their ability to improve their lives through their own actions。Be specific and constructive。 If you have to criticize someone， pick a specific incident and point out exactly what should have been done differently and what was done well。 That way you'll make yourself clear without offending the recipient。When you are very upset during a dispute， try to take a break to calm down。 This may help you to circumvent a hurtful overreaction that could otherwise be triggered by rage。---OR SIMPLY HAVE NO EMOTIONS AT ALL。 。。。more
Nguyen Thi Van Anh
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Our emotions are important as they serve as indispensable sources of orientation and push us to action。 However， they can also make us act irrationally。 That is why we need emotional intelligence。 Emotional Intelligence is a set of skills that enable you to recognize and manage emotions - both your own feelings and those of other people。 Emotional intelligence is perhaps the most important factor in helping us lead fulfilled lives。 Compared to IQ， it is a better predictor of academic success， jo Our emotions are important as they serve as indispensable sources of orientation and push us to action。 However， they can also make us act irrationally。 That is why we need emotional intelligence。 Emotional Intelligence is a set of skills that enable you to recognize and manage emotions - both your own feelings and those of other people。 Emotional intelligence is perhaps the most important factor in helping us lead fulfilled lives。 Compared to IQ， it is a better predictor of academic success， job performance， and life achievements。 And， unlike IQ， we can increase our emotional intelligence throughout life。 。。。more
Angela Lam
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This is a really comprehensive book about emotional intelligence。 The only reason I'm not giving 5* is because it's slightly dated （being originally written in the 1990s）。 But， for a book that's more than 2 decades old， it's surprisingly relevant still。 In terms of coverage， it's pretty impressive:1。 Daniel Goleman does a really nice job explaining the neurology of emotions （I've read a LOT about the brain， but he really made it relatively easy to understand the brain's evolution， the link betwe This is a really comprehensive book about emotional intelligence。 The only reason I'm not giving 5* is because it's slightly dated （being originally written in the 1990s）。 But， for a book that's more than 2 decades old， it's surprisingly relevant still。 In terms of coverage， it's pretty impressive:1。 Daniel Goleman does a really nice job explaining the neurology of emotions （I've read a LOT about the brain， but he really made it relatively easy to understand the brain's evolution， the link between the parts of the brain and why emotional hijacking occurs）。 2。 Then he explained the 5 components of emotional intelligence: Goleman Self-Awareness， Self-Regulation， Self-Motivation， Empathy and Relationship-Management。 By the 2000s he had re-organized these into 4 categories: self-awareness， social-awareness， self-management and relationship-management。 I read his later books first， so I found this part a bit scanty and confusing （tho to be fair， those were early constructs that he refined later）。 3。 He then went into the implications of emotional intelligence in marriage， work， and health， followed by windows of opportunity to change （including the role of family， changing your temperaments and recovering from trauma）， followed by a section of the dangers of emotional illiteracy in children。 Again， the level of detail was impressive。。。。Goleman combined a host of info on biological background， real-world applications and some practical tips on what can be done。 I just found a tad too much overlap between the sections， especially the part about the huge impact of emotional development in kids。 All said and done， I still think this is a must-read if you want to really learn the ins and outs of E。I。 It's skewed more towards relationship， parenting and health （compared to leadership and management） though there's a wide-enough range of content to make it useful for all these contexts。Book summary at: https://readingraphics。com/book-summa。。。 。。。more
Mark Charney
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An updated version of “How to Win Friends and Influence People。” But whereas Carnegie researched his book by reading others and drawing from his own interviews and experiences， Goleman adds a modern scientific understanding of how the brain functions combined with findings in psych research。 The book touches on methods of short circuiting your reptilian biology in favor of a more measured way of living， but the steps for doing this personally， one-on-one， or in large groups， still leave a lot of An updated version of “How to Win Friends and Influence People。” But whereas Carnegie researched his book by reading others and drawing from his own interviews and experiences， Goleman adds a modern scientific understanding of how the brain functions combined with findings in psych research。 The book touches on methods of short circuiting your reptilian biology in favor of a more measured way of living， but the steps for doing this personally， one-on-one， or in large groups， still leave a lot of questions unanswered。 。。。more
Parkadhe Anibal
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An parenting guide for ourselves！！ if Charecter development is the foundation of democratic society， Emotional intelligence is buttresses for that foundationAs the cover it emphasise more on significance of self assessment of our own Emotion，acknowledging to them and why one needs to be more empathetic。。though half of the book was filled with statistical datas from USA， remaining parts were universal and comprehensible。。！have a try if you're keen to know 1）what sort of impact an traumatic event An parenting guide for ourselves！！ if Charecter development is the foundation of democratic society， Emotional intelligence is buttresses for that foundationAs the cover it emphasise more on significance of self assessment of our own Emotion，acknowledging to them and why one needs to be more empathetic。。though half of the book was filled with statistical datas from USA， remaining parts were universal and comprehensible。。！have a try if you're keen to know 1）what sort of impact an traumatic event would create/mold you even after decades2）how our brain access problems in our daily lives and why it access in such a way。。 3）what is emotional intelligence， why it is must and what it is capable of。。！4） What's the role of school in emotional literacy and how to scale it up 。。。more
Nida Urrohmah
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I read this book because my lecturer （Mr。 Slameto） recomend this book for his subject about Emotional Intelligence for lawyers。 This is addictive book for the people that wanna know their EQ， how to improve their EQ， and so on。。。 this is sooo interesting
Mustafa Nouman
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8/10
Kurtuluş Atıcı
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Yazar zaten bir psikolog。 Kitapta da özellikle duygusal zekaya sahip olan kişilerin kişisel hayatlarında veya iş hayatında nasıl daha başarılı/mutlu olduğunu sebepleriyle anlatıyor。 Hatta ek olarak duygusal zekayı geliştirmenin yollarını da belirtiyor。 Bana göre kitabın tek olumsuz yanı， bütün değerlendirmelerde 90'lı yılların esas alınması。 Temel fikri kavrayıp， kendi özdeğerlendirmelerinizi yaptığınız takdirde okuması çok keyifli。 Yazar zaten bir psikolog。 Kitapta da özellikle duygusal zekaya sahip olan kişilerin kişisel hayatlarında veya iş hayatında nasıl daha başarılı/mutlu olduğunu sebepleriyle anlatıyor。 Hatta ek olarak duygusal zekayı geliştirmenin yollarını da belirtiyor。 Bana göre kitabın tek olumsuz yanı， bütün değerlendirmelerde 90'lı yılların esas alınması。 Temel fikri kavrayıp， kendi özdeğerlendirmelerinizi yaptığınız takdirde okuması çok keyifli。 。。。more
Jayda
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I think this is a book you need to really sit down and READ。 I was getting confused listening to it。
Nhã Trương
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Cuốn sách viết về xúc cảm nhưng khá khô khan vì viết theo dạng tổng hợp các nghiên cứu và thí nghiệm。 Có lẽ đã làm khó cho dịch giả khi phải dịch nội dung có nhiều thuật ngữ chuyên sâu， đòi hỏi chuyên môn。。 nên nhiều đoạn đọc cảm giác như lúc đọc những bài về công nghệ được translate sang tiếng việt í， kiểu cứ bị giật giật không khớp sao í :v （mình nghĩ có thể do thuật ngữ khó dịch sang tiếng việt， do cách dịch khó hiểu hoặc do chính mình cũng không đủ kiến thức để hiểu， hoặc tất cả lí do trên）。 Cuốn sách viết về xúc cảm nhưng khá khô khan vì viết theo dạng tổng hợp các nghiên cứu và thí nghiệm。 Có lẽ đã làm khó cho dịch giả khi phải dịch nội dung có nhiều thuật ngữ chuyên sâu， đòi hỏi chuyên môn。。 nên nhiều đoạn đọc cảm giác như lúc đọc những bài về công nghệ được translate sang tiếng việt í， kiểu cứ bị giật giật không khớp sao í :v （mình nghĩ có thể do thuật ngữ khó dịch sang tiếng việt， do cách dịch khó hiểu hoặc do chính mình cũng không đủ kiến thức để hiểu， hoặc tất cả lí do trên）。 Mình luôn mong mỏi mỗi cuốn sách sẽ dạy mình một điều gì đó mới， và cuốn sách này đã dạy mình không chỉ một mà nhiều điều mình chưa từng biết。 Phần sau cuốn sách đi vào cuộc sống hôn nhân và nhiều hơn là nền tảng cảm xúc của trẻ nhỏ và sự phát triển về sau， nên sẽ rất phù hợp cho độc giả quan tâm đến vấn đề này。 Thật cần thiết để những bậc phụ huynh， thầy cô， những người trực tiếp uốn nắn những búp măng non， được biết về tầm quan trọng của xúc cảm， và có phương pháp đúng đắn。 Nhiều nơi （ở các nước phát triển） đã lồng các bài học xúc cảm vào chương trình giáo dục và mang đến nhiều kết quả tốt。 Mong rằng ở nước mình cảm xúc của các em cũng sớm được quan tâm đúng mực， bắt đầu từ các bậc phụ huynh。 Tóm lại， hữu ích （nếu chịu khó đọc hết） ！！ —Thu lượm: - Thành công không chỉ phụ thuộc vào năng lực， mà còn phụ thuộc hào cả năng lực chịu đựng thất bại nữa。- Có thể luyện tập trí tuệ xúc cảm cho trẻ bằng những biểu hiện đồng cảm， tương tác cảm xúc với trẻ （ngạc nhiên， vui mừng， khen ngợi， buồn lòng，。。。）。 Một đứa trẻ có trí tuệ xúc cảm cao thường thành thạo các kĩ năng mềm và thành công hơn trong cuộc sống。- Phụ nữ có xu hướng la ó lên khi không vừa lòng。 Đàn ông thường không thích xảy ra tranh cãi， họ sử dụng cách im lặng để tránh tác động tiêu cực。 Khi họ thu mình lại， nhịp tim giảm và họ cảm thấy nhẹ nhõm hơn。 Nghịch lý là khi người chồng tự thu mình lại thì nhịp tim của người vợ lại vọt lên -> sự chênh lệch cảm xúc của 2 giới。=> Khi xảy ra tranh cãi， người chồng nên cố gắng ngồi lại và lắng nghe vợ cho dù không đồng ý hoàn toàn， người vợ không miệt thị， chỉ trích con người của chồng， thay vào đó là hướng sự không hài lòng về hành động （chứ không phải cả con người）。 - Haim Ginott khẳng định XYZ là công thức tốt nhất cho sự ca thán:“Khi anh làm X， tôi cảm thấy Y， và tôi thích anh làm Z hơn”。 Ví dụ: khi anh đến trễ， tôi cảm thấy phát điên， tôi thích anh gọi điện cho tôi để báo trước thì hơn; nghe hay hơn là: anh thật đểu giả， anh cho tôi leo cây。。。- Lãnh đạo không phải là thống trị， mà là biết thuyết phục người khác để đạt tới mục đích chung。- Khi tranh cãi hoặc khi bị phê phán， không nên có thái độ phòng vệ mà hãy lắng nghe và coi như là cơ hội để cùng nhau giải quyết vấn đề， trở nên tốt hơn， nếu cảm thấy quá khó chịu thì hãy yêu cầu tạm hoãn， để có thời gian tiêu hoá và bình tĩnh lại。- Khi giận dữ， lượng máu bơm của tim mất 5-7% hiệu suất。 Người hay giận dữ， dễ gây hấn có tỉ lệ mắc bệnh và tỉ lệ tử vong khi đã mắc bệnh cao hơn số còn lại。- Các cảm xúc tiêu cực làm giảm hệ miễn dịch （khi các cảm xúc này đang diễn ra， đặc biệt là sợ hãi， lo lắng， giận dữ）。=> tự thoát ra những ý nghĩ tiêu cực bằng cách tự nhủ: “Thôi đi！”。- Sự cô lập， không có liên hệ xã hội， không có người thân để chia sẻ，。。 làm giảm tuổi thọ， tăng tỉ lệ mắc bệnh。+ PTSD: hội chứng stress sau chấn thương。- Để giảm PTSD: có khả năng phản ứng， tác động， chống cự。。 tới sự việc gây chấn thương; tập luyện lại xúc cảm。 - Quá trình tập luyện: tạo lập cảm giác an toàn （biết về PTSD， tạo cảm giác làm chủ tất cả những gì xảy đến）-> nhớ lại cụ thể chấn thương và giải quyết hậu quả （tái diễn chấn thương 1 cách cụ thể， tuỳ chỉnh nhịp độ phù hợp để không bị quá sốc， nghệ thuật là phương pháp hữu hiệu như vẽ tranh。。。）-> trở lại cuộc sống bình thường。 => Người bệnh sẽ có cảm giác chấn thương được tái diễn lại nhưng vẫn an toàn， không còn nguy hiểm， lâu dần sẽ không còn sợ hãi。- Trí tuệ xúc cảm phát triển mạnh nhất ở những năm đầu đời。 Một đứa trẻ nhút nhát nếu được ba mẹ dạy đúng cách tự lập từ nhỏ， có thể làm thuyên giảm tính nhút nhát （tự đứng dậy khi bị ngã。。。）。 - Thí nghiệm: để 1 rổ kẹo trước mặt và đưa ra luật chơi: nếu ăn liền cũng được， nhưng nếu 1h sau mới ăn thì số kẹo sẽ tăng gấp đôi。。 -> những đứa trẻ có khả năng chờ đợi， kìm hãm ham muốn được nghiên cứu là người thành công hơn trong tương lai。- Khi trẻ phân biệt sai biểu hiện cảm xúc của bạn thì dễ gây hấn （ví dụ một hành động bình thường bị hiểu nhầm thành mỉa mai。。。） -> cần giáo dục trẻ phân biệt các cảm xúc cơ bản như vui， buồn， giận dữ， thất vọng，。。。 ngay từ nhỏ。 。。。more
Mia Huynh
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This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 While the book was interesting， I feel like it was more about the importance of emotional intelligence and incorporating it into the education of children rather than how we as （young） adults can learn to incorporate it into our daily lives to grow from it。 Nonetheless， I'll give a brief summary of each part of the book and any points I found interesting （mostly for my own future reference）。1。 "You don't have to know exactly what something is to know that it may be dangerous。" New discoveries a While the book was interesting， I feel like it was more about the importance of emotional intelligence and incorporating it into the education of children rather than how we as （young） adults can learn to incorporate it into our daily lives to grow from it。 Nonetheless， I'll give a brief summary of each part of the book and any points I found interesting （mostly for my own future reference）。1。 "You don't have to know exactly what something is to know that it may be dangerous。" New discoveries about the brain's emotional architecture offer an explanation of those most baffling moments in our lives when feeling overwhelms all rationality。 In the moments where we are overwhelmed and controlled by emotion， they are called "neural hijackings"， which is controlled by the amygdala （the center of emotions）。 2。 "Without interpersonal intelligence， people will make poor decisions throughout their life on what job to take， who to marry， and so on。" Emotional intelligence can be broken into 5 more domains: knowing one's emotions， managing emotions， motivating oneself， recognizing emotions in others， and handling relationships。 People who are emotionally adept are at advantage in any domain in life and people tend to fall into 3 categories when dealing with emotions: self-aware， engulfed， and accepting。 Thus， while we may not be able to control how we feel or the intensity of it， we can control the duration。3。 "Anxiety— the distress evoked by life's pressures— is perhaps the emotion with the greatest weight of scientific evidence connecting it to the onset of sickness and course of recovery。" When applying emotional intelligence， we can see its impact on our most important relationships， in our interactions with morality and beliefs， in the work place， and in even， doctor's offices。 Not only does it affect our interaction with the world， but the way we handle emotions also affects our individual health。4。 "When similar moments are repeated countless times over the course of childhood they impart some of the most fundamental emotional messages of a lifetime— lessons that can determine a life course。" Childhood represents a special window in which people can learn emotional lessons。 The three most common emotionally inept parenting styles proved to be: ignoring feelings altogether， being to laissez-faire， and showing no respect for how the child feels。 If a parent prepares their child with these 7 traits then they'll be prepared as they move into school and with others: confidence， curiosity， intentionality， self-control， relatedness， capacity to communicate， and cooperativeness。5。 There are hazards that await those who fail to master the emotional realm， from health risks to substance abuse to eating disorders; to prevent that， educational programs must be incorporated into schools。 These programs must include an emotional， cognitive， and behavioral aspect。 。。。more
Ivaylo Durmonski
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I’m strangely fascinated by the content produced by Daniel Goleman。 The book tackles emotions。 Things we know。 Things we feel。 Things we experience daily。 Yet， all sensations we were never thought about how to cope with。I mean， who ever thought you about how to act when you’re angry？ Or sad？ Sure， probably you were asked not to hit back and to calm down when things are falling apart。 But how are these vague guides helping you feel better？Holding still when someone is angry on the other end is us I’m strangely fascinated by the content produced by Daniel Goleman。 The book tackles emotions。 Things we know。 Things we feel。 Things we experience daily。 Yet， all sensations we were never thought about how to cope with。I mean， who ever thought you about how to act when you’re angry？ Or sad？ Sure， probably you were asked not to hit back and to calm down when things are falling apart。 But how are these vague guides helping you feel better？Holding still when someone is angry on the other end is usually an act of courtesy。 But the growing emotion that is making you want to hurt others is not something you’re taught how to properly handle。Well， the author throws a ton of research papers and situations to help us understand our emotions better。 And， most importantly， teach us how to act when things seem depressing and unfixable。It’s surely a book you would want to read。 A book that will teach you empathy。 A book that will help you decipher your wrecking behavior and find alternatives ways to act。Key takeway:It’s OK to feel sad。 Depressed。 Angry。 Anxious。 All these things are normal。 We need these feelings to handle the situations we experience daily。 The better you become at spotting your feelings， and why they arise in you， the better you will become at dealing with them。Full review:https://durmonski。com/book-summaries/。。。 。。。more
Kathy Gentile
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This book is a culmination of theories， into one book。 It is not a new theory or concept。 It provides a good， basic introduction to philosophies， and references to pursue or investigate those other philosophies。
Scott Vandervort
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This was an all-encompassing deep dive into emotional intelligence （ EQ ）。 It covers the biology on up to how and why some people can have a low EQ。 As to to how to improve， I felt that whe the author spent a great deal of time on children， he could have spent more time educating curious adults looking to better themselves （ like me ）。
Suzanne
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This book was a buzz when it was furstly published in 1996。I bought it on Amazon。The self-coaching was not very popular and it was one of the first self-help books。I had dificuly reading it as it was too desciptive， heavy for me and not so action， advice oriented。
Graciela
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。。。Mis espectativas no fueron cubiertas， debo reconocer que eran muy altas， me pareció X， aunque he leído reseñas en donde indican que aportaron cosas positivas y me alegro por los demás， en lo personal， creo que entre este ejemplar y yo， no era el mejor momento
Karah Jones
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Overall I loved the main concept in this book about how EQ is undervalued and IQ is overvalued。 I think it's a great read for anyone to understand the difference and why it is so important。 Emotional intelligence: 1。 abilities such as being able to motivate oneself and persist through frustrations2。 to control impulse and delay gratification3。 to regulate your moods4。 keep bad stress from swamping your ability to think to empathize5。 to not let bad stress cause you not to hope and dream。 A great Overall I loved the main concept in this book about how EQ is undervalued and IQ is overvalued。 I think it's a great read for anyone to understand the difference and why it is so important。 Emotional intelligence: 1。 abilities such as being able to motivate oneself and persist through frustrations2。 to control impulse and delay gratification3。 to regulate your moods4。 keep bad stress from swamping your ability to think to empathize5。 to not let bad stress cause you not to hope and dream。 A great philosophical point this book brought up: Find your natural strengths and see how you can use them to create a life of meaning？It is used all over the world in everything from kids toys to business。 We are hired for IQ， but fired for EQ。 Thesis of book - EI will improve everyone’s live and our world。 The science of the human heart。What are emotions first？ - evolution to pass our genes。 Means “movement to act”。 We evolved for emotions to make us take action。 The emotional brain has been around millions of years prior to the thinking brain。 The emotional brain has been around way longer than the rational brain。 The science of spirituality。Favorite concepts1。 No one knows enough to be pessimistic。2。 Yoga - breath。 Take a deep breath into your belly hold as long as comfortable。 Exhale slowly。 Repeat 6-9 times。 Shift from sympathetic to parasympathetic。3。 Use distraction to distance yourself from your emotions - also a concept in the book， Chatter， that I really liked。4。 Use emotions to your advantage。 A concept in the book， the upside of stress。 Remember how important emotions are！ Do you think Yo Yo Ma became the best cellist because of his intelligence or was it that he could pursue an arduous practice routine for years and years？ That is emotional intelligence。 5。 I love when the author talked about one of my favorite concepts - FLOW！6。 Empathy - interesting to talk about serial killers because they have no empathy7。 Social - we need to remember that some emotions are from copying what adults do。 Example - getting a gift you don’t like。 We unconsciously mimic the emotions of others like smiling faces。 8。 Smile！ It will make others smile。 How cool is that？ Reciprocity on an emotional level。 Emotional entrainment is the heart of influence。9。 Test subjects that were stressed were way more risk for colds。10。 Depression makes recovery longer。 Do not identify with your depression。 Do not not let it define you。 It is the Nina。 You are Jojo。 Say， "It is depressed" versus "I am depressed"。 Or "Nina is depressed。"11。 Accept your emotions and choose more effective thoughts， behaviors， and habits to be more happy。 Remember that emotions will always be there。 12。 Passion will get you far！ 13。 Hope was a better predictor of first semester success of college freshman than ACT scores。 The science of hope - believe you have both the will and the way to accomplish your goals！ Quote from The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem I looked up that reminds me of this， "Self-esteem contemplates what needs to be done and says， ‘I can。’ Pride contemplates what has been accomplished and says， ‘I did。" POWERFUL！！！！ Go for your goals - believe YOU CAN！！！！！14。 Worrying is a cognitive task。 It will make you do worse on test。 Our worries become self-fulfilling prophecies， propelling us toward the very disaster they predict。 This is why the power of thought and positive energy is so STRONG！ Worry something is going to happen and this will impede your judgement and take away crucial brain cells that could assist you in the event not happening。 Let’s reduce our worry and apply that energy to the challenge at hand。 。。。more
Darban
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This is not just a self improvement book。 Goleman written this as a wakeup call for society to take action to today's social problems。 This is not just a self improvement book。 Goleman written this as a wakeup call for society to take action to today's social problems。 。。。more
May Mamdouh
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كتاب رائع ، و صديق رائع ، تفاجئت أنني قد بدأت في قراءته في شهر سبتمبر من العام الماضي ، و ها أنا أنهيه في شهر سبتمبر من ذلك العام！ أحببته من عنوانه ، و بعد قرائته أحببت ما يحتويه 。。 من الكتب التي لا يُتخلى عنها ، و من الرائع إعادة القراءة فيه بين الحين و الآخر。
Christy Peterson
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Lots of valuable information on how the brain works with emotions， but not much of a description on methods that can be used on how to manage emotions so that they don't get blown out of proportion。Lots of stories and studies of emotions that went out of control and what was going on in the brain at the time。 Some of the stories had me wondering about the maturity of the subjects。 That made me start thinking about what immaturity is and how one becomes mature。 I'm not convinced that learning a s Lots of valuable information on how the brain works with emotions， but not much of a description on methods that can be used on how to manage emotions so that they don't get blown out of proportion。Lots of stories and studies of emotions that went out of control and what was going on in the brain at the time。 Some of the stories had me wondering about the maturity of the subjects。 That made me start thinking about what immaturity is and how one becomes mature。 I'm not convinced that learning a skill to handle an immature attitude is the answer， but it surely helps。 I'm still pondering this。 This was more on an information book， than a self help book。 Basically emotional intelligence is vital。 That's it in a nutshell。 。。。more
Aleks
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Вода。
Faeze。nzi
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موضوعِ اهمیت سواد عاطفی بارها در کتاب تکرار شده، ولی راهکار های عملی مطلوبی در این زمینه ارائه نشده است؛ به علاوه بیشترِ تمرکز کتاب در خصوص اهمیت آموزش سواد عاطفی به کودکان است به همین جهت خوندنش رو فقط به افرادی که با کودکان سر و کار دارند توصیه میکنم。
Jhilliard
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From the time I was in high school I knew about IQ and the impact that it had on my schooling， place in the social structure and ability to absorb information。 That knowledge was incomplete because you need to be able to relate to others。 Emotional Intelligence was a very helpful book in making me aware that there are other aspects of life that might be even more important than IQ。 Our EQ can influence how we get along with others。 Goleman not only describes the various levels of EQ but provide From the time I was in high school I knew about IQ and the impact that it had on my schooling， place in the social structure and ability to absorb information。 That knowledge was incomplete because you need to be able to relate to others。 Emotional Intelligence was a very helpful book in making me aware that there are other aspects of life that might be even more important than IQ。 Our EQ can influence how we get along with others。 Goleman not only describes the various levels of EQ but provide practical implications to our understanding， how we can be aware of and change our ability to interact with others。 Without awareness of where we are we will continue to make the bad choices that damage relationships。 A excellent book for leaders 。。。more
Alejandro Maldonado
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IMMuy buen libro que nos enseña este concepto de IM que tanta falta nos ha hace para saber desarrollar nuestras actividades y para poder desarrollarnos con los demás en todos los ámbitos de la vida
Alex
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