The Man Who Mistook His Job for His Life
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- Author：Naomi Shragai
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Summary
A revolutionary approach to understanding the emotional dynamics within our working lives。
'Nobody understands the everyday madness of working life better than Naomi Shragai。 This book should be read by everyone who ventures anywhere near an office' - Lucy Kellaway
You probably don't realise this， but every working day you replay and re-enact conflicts， dynamics and relationships from your past。 Whether it's confusing an authority figure with a parent; avoiding conflict because of past squabbles with siblings; or suffering from imposter syndrome because of the way your family responded to success， when it comes to work we are all trapped in our own upbringings and the patterns of behaviour we learned while growing up。
Many of us spend eighteen formative years or more living with family and building our personality; but most of us also spend fifty years - or 90，000 hours - in the workplace。 With the pull of the familial so strong， we unconsciously re-enact our personal past in our professional present - even when it holds us back。
Through intimate stories， fascinating insights and provocative questions that tackle the issues that cause us most problems - from imposter syndrome and fear of conflict to perfectionism and anxiety - business psychotherapist Naomi Shragai will transform how you think about yourself and your working life。
Based on thirty years of expertise and practice， Shragai will show you that what is holding you back is within your gift to change - and the first step is to realise how you， like the rest of the people you work with， habitually confuse your professional present with your personal past。
'Nobody understands the everyday madness of working life better than Naomi Shragai。 This book should be read by everyone who ventures anywhere near an office' - Lucy Kellaway
You probably don't realise this， but every working day you replay and re-enact conflicts， dynamics and relationships from your past。 Whether it's confusing an authority figure with a parent; avoiding conflict because of past squabbles with siblings; or suffering from imposter syndrome because of the way your family responded to success， when it comes to work we are all trapped in our own upbringings and the patterns of behaviour we learned while growing up。
Many of us spend eighteen formative years or more living with family and building our personality; but most of us also spend fifty years - or 90，000 hours - in the workplace。 With the pull of the familial so strong， we unconsciously re-enact our personal past in our professional present - even when it holds us back。
Through intimate stories， fascinating insights and provocative questions that tackle the issues that cause us most problems - from imposter syndrome and fear of conflict to perfectionism and anxiety - business psychotherapist Naomi Shragai will transform how you think about yourself and your working life。
Based on thirty years of expertise and practice， Shragai will show you that what is holding you back is within your gift to change - and the first step is to realise how you， like the rest of the people you work with， habitually confuse your professional present with your personal past。
Reviews
Carole Tyrrell
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When you go to work it can often feel like being part of a family。 After all， teams supposedly foster this and your colleagues can soon come to resemble your actual family， warts and all。In this book， the author examines the sometimes thorny world of office relationships and they can mesh， often without people even realising it， with others from the past。 Family dynamics can come back to haunt you in later life。 There are several areas discussed which include defensiveness， imposter syndrome， pe When you go to work it can often feel like being part of a family。 After all， teams supposedly foster this and your colleagues can soon come to resemble your actual family， warts and all。In this book， the author examines the sometimes thorny world of office relationships and they can mesh， often without people even realising it， with others from the past。 Family dynamics can come back to haunt you in later life。 There are several areas discussed which include defensiveness， imposter syndrome， people pleasing， fear of rejection， overachievement， personality clashes （who hasn’t had one of those）， paranoia， fear of conflict and narcissism。 The author is a psychotherapist who uses real case histories from people undergoing counselling to illustrate how previous behaviours and experiences can be brought into the workplace unwittingly as the worker tries， often unknowingly， to replicate them。 However， I would have liked more detail on how the people quoted dealt with it。 I felt that the book really rattled along as it covered so many topics and perhaps if there had been less， they could have been covered in more detail。 Also， if your manager or co-worker reminds you of say， an overbearing parent， what do you do？ Leave， transfer to another department or live with it？ It is written from the experiences of people who have acknowledged their problems and are seeking to change but what about the rest？However， there were a lot of good insights in the book especially with imposter syndrome and overachievers。 It was an interesting read but I felt that more detail and practical solutions would have improved it greatly。My thanks to Ebury and penguin Random House and Netgalley for an ARC。 。。。more
Hsmoura
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Interesting。 Some food for though。
Louise
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This was an interesting read， which looks at how we deal with things in the workplace is affected and formed through our childhood experiences。 Naomi Shragai is a psychotherapist and uses （with consent） real life examples to illustrate and explain such things as why some want to people please， avoid difficult conversations or have imposter syndromeI think this book is good at raising awareness about the causes of our own behaviour and that of others。 However， it isn't big on solutions。 In part t This was an interesting read， which looks at how we deal with things in the workplace is affected and formed through our childhood experiences。 Naomi Shragai is a psychotherapist and uses （with consent） real life examples to illustrate and explain such things as why some want to people please， avoid difficult conversations or have imposter syndromeI think this book is good at raising awareness about the causes of our own behaviour and that of others。 However， it isn't big on solutions。 In part this is because it would be difficult to undo a lifetime of conditioning through some simple steps - although some books try to do this， of course。I did find the book slightly grating in a couple of places， such as when she described the mansion apartments her psychotherapy clients walk past to get to a session， which felt to me that she was trying to sell a picture of her privileged life， and when she referred to "political correctness" to dismiss a certain way of thinking。 But， overall， the book was good and will help us to understand ourselves and others better， so that we can be better managers， colleagues and employees。 。。。more
Helen
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