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The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

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  • Author：Gary Chapman
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Summary

Falling in love is easy。 Staying in love-that's the challenge！ How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands and conflicts and just plain boredom of everyday life？

In the #1 New York Times bestselling book The 5 Love Languages， you'll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide。 Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing， Dr。 Gary Chapman's proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner-starting today。

"If we learn to meet each other's deep emotional need to feel loved， and choose to do it， the love we share will be exciting beyond anything we've ever felt。"-Gary Chapman

The 5 Love Languages is as practical as it is insightful。 Updated to reflect the complexities of relationships in today's world， this new edition reveals intrinsic truths and applies relevant， actionable wisdom in ways that work。 Practice the simple steps outlined in each chapter and you'll be on your way to a healthier， mutually beneficial relationship。

Also includes an updated version of The 5 Love Languages® personal profile。

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Reviews

Nikki Lane ，

Nope。 Hetero-patriarchal garbage。

Kurdo Chali ，

Another book of self-help and personal improvement。 Certainly it worth reading and it worth to try to apply the knowledge to your life。 I highly recommend it。

Nour amr ，

كتاب رائع وقيم ولم امل من قراءته ، استفدت منه كثيرا وساعمل على تطبيق محتواه ومشاركة غيري بذلك 。أنصح بقراءته و يستحق أن يأخذ من وقتك

Alana Dixon ，

Anyone who cares about their relationship and wants to understand their partner （or perhaps friends in general） better should read this book。 It is definitely overly repetitive and obvious in some portions of outlining the problem （repeating and going back and forth over the fundamental issue of the example situations of ~Jane is sad because Jack doesn't spend quality time with her。 Jack is rude to Jane because Jane doesn't do acts of service for Jack。。。）。 The book is insightful though and does Anyone who cares about their relationship and wants to understand their partner （or perhaps friends in general） better should read this book。 It is definitely overly repetitive and obvious in some portions of outlining the problem （repeating and going back and forth over the fundamental issue of the example situations of ~Jane is sad because Jack doesn't spend quality time with her。 Jack is rude to Jane because Jane doesn't do acts of service for Jack。。。）。 The book is insightful though and does suggest reasonable courses of action to "fill love tanks" of those with different love languages。 So， there is a lot that can be skipped over， but I'd recommend it （and it would probably be best if both people read it。。） best of luck！ 。。。more

Anne Enberg ，

Finally read this one for myself after hearing friends explain it to me during my dating years。 The concept of love languages is eye-opening and will surely yield "a-ha" moments for many of us， but once you've got the jist， and if you're pretty happy in your relationship， I don't know that you need too much more detail。 I found myself fast forwarding through the book， and not learning too much that was new。 Still， it's a quick read， and worth it if you're not already familiar with the concept。 Finally read this one for myself after hearing friends explain it to me during my dating years。 The concept of love languages is eye-opening and will surely yield "a-ha" moments for many of us， but once you've got the jist， and if you're pretty happy in your relationship， I don't know that you need too much more detail。 I found myself fast forwarding through the book， and not learning too much that was new。 Still， it's a quick read， and worth it if you're not already familiar with the concept。 。。。more

Brandon ，

I wish I had read it 15 years ago。

Lisa Linzbach ，

The 5 love languages are a simple， yet great concept that I recommend everyone to read about。 Yet， I feel like this book is a bit outdated as it only focuses on the concept and its applicability for married couples。 The 5 love languages are relevant for any sort of relationship （also non-romantic） - so I did not feel like I fit the target group of this book。 Beyond that it is nevertheless a simple and informative read。

Hermann ，

If you can look past the conservative christian influences this book clearly has， the information in here are solid。 While I thought for the most part "Well obviously"， a few good points were made and I can't say that I didn't learn anything。 If you can look past the conservative christian influences this book clearly has， the information in here are solid。 While I thought for the most part "Well obviously"， a few good points were made and I can't say that I didn't learn anything。 。。。more

Abhilash PS ，

Such a simple book :）。I loved how the author has tried to explain the points through his experiences as a counselor。 Although it was good， at some places I felt that the author was being a bit preachy。 Also， I was not able to agree some things the author was saying。 I wanted to give 3。75 so I gave 4

Chaoya ，

I wish I had read it earlier

Caleb Kirby ，

Author’s voice is insufferable however some content is useful。

Elizabeth Berger ，

The chapters about each of the 5 love languages were interesting in the same way I find stuff about the enneagram or birth order interesting。 However， the last 50 pages or so just weren't it and I worry that someone in an abusive relationship could read them and blame themselves for not being "fluent enough" in their partner's language。 The chapters about each of the 5 love languages were interesting in the same way I find stuff about the enneagram or birth order interesting。 However， the last 50 pages or so just weren't it and I worry that someone in an abusive relationship could read them and blame themselves for not being "fluent enough" in their partner's language。 。。。more

Brittany ，

I had heard and understood the concepts of the 5 love languages before through different trainings and lessons however I had never read the book。 It's definitely worth going back to the source。 This is a easy read with loads of examples for all 5 languages。 The entire premise is that we receive and offer love in 5 different ways， so that two people can be in a relationship， both be offering love in the way that they want to be loved， and neither is feeling loved。 By learning our own love languag I had heard and understood the concepts of the 5 love languages before through different trainings and lessons however I had never read the book。 It's definitely worth going back to the source。 This is a easy read with loads of examples for all 5 languages。 The entire premise is that we receive and offer love in 5 different ways， so that two people can be in a relationship， both be offering love in the way that they want to be loved， and neither is feeling loved。 By learning our own love languages， and those of the people in our lives， included spouse， children， friends， and even co-workers， we can improve our relationships。 This is a great resource for a general and basic revamp of your all your relationships。 Obviously， there are situations/trauma/issues that are outside the norm。 These are situations that would require more assist than a book can give。 But for many people this book would definitely provide some insight and basic tasks to put into practice to have fill up the love tank of those around you。 。。。more

Randy ，

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 I loved this book！ It gave me tremendous insights into one of the primary factors that determine the success of human relationships！ I just regret that I did not read it years ago！ By completing the profile at the end of the book， I determined that my primary love language is Physical Touch and that my secondary love language is a tie between Words of Affirmation and Quality Time。 As pointed out by Gary Chapman， it would be important that my Significant Other speak to me in those languages。 The I loved this book！ It gave me tremendous insights into one of the primary factors that determine the success of human relationships！ I just regret that I did not read it years ago！ By completing the profile at the end of the book， I determined that my primary love language is Physical Touch and that my secondary love language is a tie between Words of Affirmation and Quality Time。 As pointed out by Gary Chapman， it would be important that my Significant Other speak to me in those languages。 The parts of the book that particularly resonated with me were the following statements: "Ignoring our partner’s love languages is like ignoring the needs of a garden: if we don’t weed， water， or fertilize， it will die a slow death。 But if we actually abuse our partner’s love languages— that is， use them for harmful purposes— it’s like taking a machete to that same garden and chopping everything up" （p。 122）。 "I have suggested three ways to discover your own primary love language: 1。 What does your spouse do or fail to do that hurts you most deeply？ The opposite of what hurts you most is probably your love language。 2。 What have you most often requested of your spouse？ The thing you have most often requested is likely the thing that would make you feel most loved。 3。 In what way do you regularly express love to your spouse？ Your method of expressing love may be an indication that that would also make you feel loved" （p。 125）。 "play the following game three times a week for three weeks。 The game is called “Tank Check，” and it is played like this。 When you come home， one of you says to the other， “On a scale of zero to ten， how is your love tank tonight？” （p。 126）。 "Love is not our only emotional need。 Psychologists have observed that among our basic needs are the need for security， self- worth， and significance。 Love， however， interfaces with all of those" （p。 141）。 "Can emotional love be reborn in a marriage？ You bet。 The key is to learn the primary love language of your spouse and choose to speak it" （p。 146）。 "We each come to marriage with a different personality and history。 We bring emotional baggage into our marriage relationship。 We come with different expectations， different ways of approaching things， and different opinions about what matters in life。 In a healthy marriage， that variety of perspectives must be processed。 We need not agree on everything， but we must find a way to handle our differences so that they do not become divisive。 With empty love tanks， couples tend to argue and withdraw， and some may tend to be violent verbally or physically in their arguments。 But when the love tank is full， we create a climate of friendliness， a climate that seeks to understand， that is willing to allow differences and to negotiate problems。 I am convinced that no single area of marriage affects the rest of marriage as much as meeting the emotional need for love" （p。 166）。 I highly recommend this book to couples and to singles who have a significant other in their life。 But it also speaks to how to improve all human relationships。 I am extremely grateful that a friend recommended it to me！ 。。。more

Arturas Vaicekauskas ，

A book that every couple should read。 Highly recommend！

Sarah Ingala ，

I really like the concept of the 5 Love Languages and I do think they are a useful tool in building a good relationship， however the book missed the mark。 First of all， it is hopelessly outdated。 They really need to release a new updated edition。 Secondly， it’s pretty basic。 I felt like the information was very surface level。 Another review stated the title should be “ Love Languages for Dummies” and that sums it up pretty well。 The five love languages are:1。 Quality Time2。 Physical Touch3。 Word I really like the concept of the 5 Love Languages and I do think they are a useful tool in building a good relationship， however the book missed the mark。 First of all， it is hopelessly outdated。 They really need to release a new updated edition。 Secondly， it’s pretty basic。 I felt like the information was very surface level。 Another review stated the title should be “ Love Languages for Dummies” and that sums it up pretty well。 The five love languages are:1。 Quality Time2。 Physical Touch3。 Words of Affirmation 4。 Acts of Service 5。 Giving of Gifts**For my future reference so I don’t ever have to reread this book！！！—My love language is acts of service， and my husband’s is physical touch。My daughter’s is quality time， and my son’s is acts of service and/or physical touch。 。。。more

Larissa ，

Ich kann es nur jeder Person in einer Partnerschaft ans Herz legen。 So unglaublich aufschlussreich und hilfreich。

Ghada Allababedi ，

لم يكن الكتاب المناسب لي فمن وجهة نظري المعلومات الواردة في هذا الكتاب هي معلومات بديهية وليست بحاجة إلى كل هذا الشرح، لربما يكون مفيد لشخص يشتكي من حوله من قلة معرفته بالتواصل عاطفياً معهم

Lauren ，

I really did like the concept of the 5 love languages but I wish it was brought into thr 21st century。 I was going to give this book a 3 but when he encouraged a woman to fight for her marriage when her husband was not trying at all just seemed plain wrong。 She had to be a "good wife" for 2 months before he started treating her better。 It blew my mind that he encouraged her to try for the both of them。 It seemed insanely toxic and it was hard to listen。 Hopefully someone else can pick up the top I really did like the concept of the 5 love languages but I wish it was brought into thr 21st century。 I was going to give this book a 3 but when he encouraged a woman to fight for her marriage when her husband was not trying at all just seemed plain wrong。 She had to be a "good wife" for 2 months before he started treating her better。 It blew my mind that he encouraged her to try for the both of them。 It seemed insanely toxic and it was hard to listen。 Hopefully someone else can pick up the topic and make sure it's always 2 sided when fighting for a relationship。 。。。more

Kira Stahly ，

Not rating because I truly don’t know how I feel。 The author gives off a superiority vibe that didn’t sit right with me。 The last example also seemed like she was in an abusive relationship and the author just suggested she do whatever his love language is （though I don’t exactly know the full story）。 However， I do love the idea of the importance love languages。 I wish it would’ve went outside of marriage because your spouse isn’t the only person you love in life。

Sohaila Shim ，

A book everyone should read。

Jessie Sickel☺️ ，

Very good！ I’ve heard about the five different love languages and have even discussed them with others; however， this book opened my eyes even more and gave me a new perspective on marriage ♥️

Sabrina ，

Me gustó mucho la explicación de cada lenguaje， pero creo que todos tenemos la capacidad de desarrollar todos los lenguajes y no solo dos o uno。 Es algo de la naturaleza humana。

furqan ，

مفيد جداً للتعرف على لغات الحب الخاصة بنا والخاصة بالاخرين، يساعدنا كثيراً على فهم الاخر واحتياجه للحب

Becca ，

What a simple yet insightful little book。 My husband and I both read it and really had some good discussion。 We have a healthy， happy marriage but new ideas and fresh perspectives are always welcome。 I thought the examples and encouragement the author provided were informative and useful。 I’d highly recommend it as a book to lend insight for all your relationships， not just marriage。 We are reading the one for children next！

Elisa Gonzalez ，

Mi lenguaje del amor es actos de servicio

Cydney Boyington ，

This book is some misogynistic bullshit。 The examples he uses where men should encourage women to lose weight and women should have sex that they don't want makes me so angry。 We need to find a better book for 21st century couples。 Holy crap。 This book is some misogynistic bullshit。 The examples he uses where men should encourage women to lose weight and women should have sex that they don't want makes me so angry。 We need to find a better book for 21st century couples。 Holy crap。 。。。more

Charlotte Spillerova ，

If you are in a relationship and argue with your SO like “you never do anything around the house！” or “why don’t you spend time with me / why are you always out playing football” then this book is for you。 Love languages are super interesting and it’s very likely you and your SO will expect different things。 I couldn’t really relate to the extremes in this book but it was good to see the different types。 A friend recommended this to me after we were discussing relationships and communication/hap If you are in a relationship and argue with your SO like “you never do anything around the house！” or “why don’t you spend time with me / why are you always out playing football” then this book is for you。 Love languages are super interesting and it’s very likely you and your SO will expect different things。 I couldn’t really relate to the extremes in this book but it was good to see the different types。 A friend recommended this to me after we were discussing relationships and communication/happiness。Only thing I didn’t like about this book was that it had a fairly few church/God points and references but I guess it’s not surprising coming from an American author， especially since USA has the largest Christian population。 。。。more

Amanda ，

This book is both helpful in figuring out in which way you most want to revieve love， as well as how others express love。A lot of the time we misinterpret someone's actions as them 'not caring' when they actually do， but they are just expressing their care in a different love language。 This book is both helpful in figuring out in which way you most want to revieve love， as well as how others express love。A lot of the time we misinterpret someone's actions as them 'not caring' when they actually do， but they are just expressing their care in a different love language。 。。。more

Molly Koeneman ，

Is there a Duolingo for these？

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