Comparisonitis: How to Stop Comparing Yourself To Others and Be Genuinely Happy
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Summary
Comparisonitis / com-par-isoni-tis/ （noun）
The compulsion to compare one's accomplishments to another's to determine relative importance。
Multiple bestselling author Melissa Ambrosini （Mastering Your Mean Girl， Open Wide， PurposeFULL） and host of the #1 podcast The Melissa Ambrosini Show puts the condition of Comparisonitis under the microscope， unpacking the symptoms， and offering practical tips you can start using immediately to break the cycle of comparison， free up mental bandwidth， and live life on your own terms。
When you cure Comparisonitis， you will:
Be free to live your life for you （no one else）
Feel peace from within
Experience genuine happiness
Truly appreciate your body and life
Free up SO much mental bandwidth for things you LOVE
Quit beating yourself up
Have more energy to go after the things that truly matter to you
Experience a radical shift towards authenticity
Be a better friend， partner， parent， family member， colleague， human
Free yourself from expectations
Unleash the courage to go after your dreams
Unstifle your creativity
Feel more liberated than you've ever felt in your life
And much more。。。
It creeps up on you without warning-perhaps while chatting with a friend， scrolling through social media， or even just while walking down the street。
All it takes is the hint of someone doing or having something you perceive as 'better' than you， and it hits。 A feeling takes over-intense， blinding， gutting。 Your brain starts spinning with toxic thoughts about yourself （or others）， and you're left feeling ashamed， guilty， and even worthless。
It's called comparisonitis。 And if you've suffered from it， you're NOT alone。
Comparisonitis is a contagious， socially transmitted condition that occurs when you compare yourself to others so frequently and fiercely that you're left paralyzed， with your confidence in tatters and your self-worth plummeting。 It may sound trivial， but this affliction can have serious adverse effects on our mental health， leading to depression， anxiety， overthinking， and regret。 To make matters worse， our comparison culture is only expanding。 Thanks to social media， we have more opportunities to compare ourselves than ever before， and even kids are falling into the trap。
Described as a 'self-help guru' by Elle magazine， Melissa has experienced the effects of comparisonitis first hand， having worked extensively in industries like acting， modeling and dancing where comparison culture is not only rampant but openly encouraged。 Melissa knows all too well how comparisonitis is infecting our minds and hurting our hearts， and in this book， she'll help you heal from this disease， liberate your headspace， and raise your self-worth so radically that you'll never let comparison rob you of your joy and happiness again。
The compulsion to compare one's accomplishments to another's to determine relative importance。
Multiple bestselling author Melissa Ambrosini （Mastering Your Mean Girl， Open Wide， PurposeFULL） and host of the #1 podcast The Melissa Ambrosini Show puts the condition of Comparisonitis under the microscope， unpacking the symptoms， and offering practical tips you can start using immediately to break the cycle of comparison， free up mental bandwidth， and live life on your own terms。
When you cure Comparisonitis， you will:
Be free to live your life for you （no one else）
Feel peace from within
Experience genuine happiness
Truly appreciate your body and life
Free up SO much mental bandwidth for things you LOVE
Quit beating yourself up
Have more energy to go after the things that truly matter to you
Experience a radical shift towards authenticity
Be a better friend， partner， parent， family member， colleague， human
Free yourself from expectations
Unleash the courage to go after your dreams
Unstifle your creativity
Feel more liberated than you've ever felt in your life
And much more。。。
It creeps up on you without warning-perhaps while chatting with a friend， scrolling through social media， or even just while walking down the street。
All it takes is the hint of someone doing or having something you perceive as 'better' than you， and it hits。 A feeling takes over-intense， blinding， gutting。 Your brain starts spinning with toxic thoughts about yourself （or others）， and you're left feeling ashamed， guilty， and even worthless。
It's called comparisonitis。 And if you've suffered from it， you're NOT alone。
Comparisonitis is a contagious， socially transmitted condition that occurs when you compare yourself to others so frequently and fiercely that you're left paralyzed， with your confidence in tatters and your self-worth plummeting。 It may sound trivial， but this affliction can have serious adverse effects on our mental health， leading to depression， anxiety， overthinking， and regret。 To make matters worse， our comparison culture is only expanding。 Thanks to social media， we have more opportunities to compare ourselves than ever before， and even kids are falling into the trap。
Described as a 'self-help guru' by Elle magazine， Melissa has experienced the effects of comparisonitis first hand， having worked extensively in industries like acting， modeling and dancing where comparison culture is not only rampant but openly encouraged。 Melissa knows all too well how comparisonitis is infecting our minds and hurting our hearts， and in this book， she'll help you heal from this disease， liberate your headspace， and raise your self-worth so radically that you'll never let comparison rob you of your joy and happiness again。
Reviews
Olivia Mihaljevich
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A raw and open exploration of the common cycle of comparisonitis。 Melissa articulates this common thread and explains in such a relatable way。 I recommend this book to everyone。 Its personal， its empowering and helps gives back the authenticity of self。 Absolutely loved it。 Clever and beautiful soul。 Its a must read。
Leah
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A readable book regarding the trap of comparisonitis。 Melissa Ambrosini addresses her privilege in the beginning of the book which was great and goes on to deliver advice on the above topic。 Unfortunately this advice can be boiled down to one sentence: stop doing whatever you have been doing。 Some more strategies and guides would have enhanced this book ten-fold and I definitely wanted to like it more then I did。 Another mediocre self-help book in a market flooded with self help books。
Rachel
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I really loved this book and the time spent reading it 😌 Melissa Ambrosini just feels like sunshine， so bright and positive and able to bring growth into your life。 I knew this book would be feel-good and motivational， but I'm happily surprised by the depth of inspiration I got out of it。 I loved the section about "candle consciousness" and was particularly encouraged by the sections about social media and relationships。 Absolutely going to reread and share copies of this beauty with others in m I really loved this book and the time spent reading it 😌 Melissa Ambrosini just feels like sunshine， so bright and positive and able to bring growth into your life。 I knew this book would be feel-good and motivational， but I'm happily surprised by the depth of inspiration I got out of it。 I loved the section about "candle consciousness" and was particularly encouraged by the sections about social media and relationships。 Absolutely going to reread and share copies of this beauty with others in my life 😊 。。。more
Sarah Buchanan
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4。5
Phoebe
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Comparisonitis is a needed self-help book in this digitised world of social media and increasing pace。 Melissa has a knack for simplifying concepts in a simple and digestible way。 Many Gen Z'ds and Millenials would find this a bubbly， fun， and non-confronting start to their inner-work journey。 However， I was concerned that Melissa appropriates well established concepts within psychology and psychotherapy without acknowledging these modalities。 Particularly， her strategies have been derived from Comparisonitis is a needed self-help book in this digitised world of social media and increasing pace。 Melissa has a knack for simplifying concepts in a simple and digestible way。 Many Gen Z'ds and Millenials would find this a bubbly， fun， and non-confronting start to their inner-work journey。 However， I was concerned that Melissa appropriates well established concepts within psychology and psychotherapy without acknowledging these modalities。 Particularly， her strategies have been derived from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy （CBT） and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy （ACT）。 It would have been much preferred if Melissa had acknowledged the basis of her strategies and the strength of well established psychological skills in combating negative thinking patterns。 It would have given her book more credibility to use her platform to discuss her perspective in context of these therapeutic approaches。 。。。more
Victoria
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Comparisonitis was a good read and interesting。 The only thing that I didn't like was that it did gave me a feeling of trying to compare myself to other people。 The author also has a privileged lifestyle and states you should eat organic foods but not everyone can afford only organic foods。 I also didn't agree with the way she wants people to deal with mental health which is to go to a holistic practitioner。 I did enjoy the book and everyone is entitled to their own opening of how you should tre Comparisonitis was a good read and interesting。 The only thing that I didn't like was that it did gave me a feeling of trying to compare myself to other people。 The author also has a privileged lifestyle and states you should eat organic foods but not everyone can afford only organic foods。 I also didn't agree with the way she wants people to deal with mental health which is to go to a holistic practitioner。 I did enjoy the book and everyone is entitled to their own opening of how you should treat your body and mental health。 It is an easy read and the interesting thing to read was the two views in life: the pie perspective and the candle consciousness。Thank you netgalley for this book。 。。。more
Rowena
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Not quite what I thought it would be but a very well written and researched book。
Christy
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If you， like me， are afflicted with “comparisonitis，” then this is a must-read！ Melissa Ambrosini shares her personal stories of comparing herself to others， as well as techniques for getting the comparing under control。 Some food for thought: “Comparison turns toxic when we attribute meaning to the differences we observe。” So glad to have happened upon this book， especially at a time when social media really fuels comparisonitis！
Kelsey Sorenson
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I really enjoyed this audiobook。 It is great for when I’m in one of those comparison moods （for me， that usually happens with business and sometimes parenting） The first half of the book was especially good！ A lot of it related to things I’ve learned in life coaching like abundance mindset （which she calls candle consciousness） but the way it was all related to comparison was a unique take。The one thing that got kind of old to me was the constant references to “gluten free”/“organic” and talks a I really enjoyed this audiobook。 It is great for when I’m in one of those comparison moods （for me， that usually happens with business and sometimes parenting） The first half of the book was especially good！ A lot of it related to things I’ve learned in life coaching like abundance mindset （which she calls candle consciousness） but the way it was all related to comparison was a unique take。The one thing that got kind of old to me was the constant references to “gluten free”/“organic” and talks about comparison while on the toilet/“porcelain throne”。 Either would be fine a little bit but they were old after the first time but didn’t take away from the message of the book。 I also think using the real terms （like abundance mindset instead of candle consciousness） would be better for readers to be able to dig more into the tools。All in all I enjoyed it and may listen to bits and pieces again when I’m in one of those moods！ 。。。more
SunBox
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Comparisonitis is surprisingly good！ The author balanced her own narrative with research studies， practical tips， and applicable exercises that encourage self-reflection and self-transformation。 Also， readers can download a separate， free workbook on her website， but proof of purchase is required。 Unfortunately， I only received the Advance Reader Copy from NetGalley so I don’t have a receipt to submit to get the workbook。 But then， the exercises in the book are still doable。Comparisonitis is a m Comparisonitis is surprisingly good！ The author balanced her own narrative with research studies， practical tips， and applicable exercises that encourage self-reflection and self-transformation。 Also， readers can download a separate， free workbook on her website， but proof of purchase is required。 Unfortunately， I only received the Advance Reader Copy from NetGalley so I don’t have a receipt to submit to get the workbook。 But then， the exercises in the book are still doable。Comparisonitis is a must-read for parents， students， young professionals， influencers， or anyone who is already fed up with the destructive habit of unhealthy comparison。Thank you， Melissa Ambrosini， BenBella Books， and NetGalley for the Advanced Reader Copy for the chance to review this book。 I understand that I would give Comparisonitis an honest review。 。。。more
Nikoline
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I wanted to like Comparisonitis by Melissa Ambrosini more than I did， and when she addresses her own privileges in her introduction， I was sure I would love it。 It felt sincere， but as the book progressed it felt more and more like it was added later as a way of addressing this beforehand。Melissa Ambrosini's advice can be summed up in one short sentence: Just stop doing whatever you have been doing so far。 To me it seems a little naïve to assume that the readers have not already tried to change I wanted to like Comparisonitis by Melissa Ambrosini more than I did， and when she addresses her own privileges in her introduction， I was sure I would love it。 It felt sincere， but as the book progressed it felt more and more like it was added later as a way of addressing this beforehand。Melissa Ambrosini's advice can be summed up in one short sentence: Just stop doing whatever you have been doing so far。 To me it seems a little naïve to assume that the readers have not already tried to change the way they compare themselves to others。 I know I have。I do think she has some great advice， and that she talks about some very important and complex topics， but my main issue is the way she talks about health。 Her whole take on healthy is very privileged。 For example， she suggests you should only consume organic， healthy foods， but fails to define what she means by healthy。 Not all people can afford organic food or have the time or energy to move their bodies or even rest， and the author fails to see this。 At one point she even calls the reader "one smart gluten-free cookie"。 I do not understand how she expect you to heal your relationship with your body by calling it a temple instead of a body。 A body is just a body。I felt the same way when she talks about the time we send on social media。 Instead of trying to set boundaries， unfollow the people that make you feel bad about yourself， and replace them with people that inspire you， she suggests you should just cut it out of your life in a sudden and abrupt manner。 Sure， it can be a way of dealing with comparing yourself to others， but it seems a little extreme， when there's actually a lot of things you could try before you decide to go down that road。 Having your phone on silent mode is in my opinion， one way of dealing with notifications and distraction which can ultimately lead to comparisons， but you could just turn off notifications for your social media apps， and only check in on new emails and comments on Instagram when you actively decides to use the apps。Photoshopped images online are difficult to talk about， because on one hand they can contribute to a false truth about how people look （making you feel bad about yourself if you do not look that way yourself）， but on the other hand I truly believe people are free do to with their bodies as they please， and Ambrosini fails to address this as well， and instead she insists on calling comparing influencers to influenza （another fun alliteration of hers）。 Another problem I have is how the author insist on creating smart made-up words and alliterations such as the Candle Consciousness when there is already a word for that: abundance thinking。I ultimately lost it when she （quite late in the book） suggest you should seek help from a professional if your struggle with your mental health is too much， but one of the professionals she mentions is a holistic practitioner。I want to make it clear that I did not hate this book。 What this book does so right is addressing the toxic culture of constant comparison and its many different levels。 As I previously mentioned I think she talks about some very important issues in our society， I just do not agree with how she discusses them。 Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for providing me with a digital copy of the book！ 。。。more
Shawna P。
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So I actually listened to the first part twice。 It hit that closely to me。 A lot of her struggles especially in the mental health area I can directly relate to。 Not to mention I want to name my imaginary baby （also infertily warrior） Leo。 Oh and my favorite movie ever is Moulin Rouge， and I have actually been to a show。 I compare myself in every aspect。 Every single aspect。 I honestly will need to listen to this book several times， because it's a very deep-rooted issue that is going to take work So I actually listened to the first part twice。 It hit that closely to me。 A lot of her struggles especially in the mental health area I can directly relate to。 Not to mention I want to name my imaginary baby （also infertily warrior） Leo。 Oh and my favorite movie ever is Moulin Rouge， and I have actually been to a show。 I compare myself in every aspect。 Every single aspect。 I honestly will need to listen to this book several times， because it's a very deep-rooted issue that is going to take work。 The only semi-complaint is that in the audio version she mentions her other books quite a bit。 I get it， but it distracts the book at hand。 。。。more
ReadnliftwithShar
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I appreciate the author for writing this book。 I had never heard of Comparisonitis， I found myself immensely intrigued with this read。 It is a quick read that has a lot of good tips and tricks to stop the habit of comparing oneself to another。 It’s really interesting that the author was writing some other novel and totally scrapped it and came up with this one。 I can tell there was a lot of passion and real life lessons that this birthed this book。 I will say there was a few times that I thought I appreciate the author for writing this book。 I had never heard of Comparisonitis， I found myself immensely intrigued with this read。 It is a quick read that has a lot of good tips and tricks to stop the habit of comparing oneself to another。 It’s really interesting that the author was writing some other novel and totally scrapped it and came up with this one。 I can tell there was a lot of passion and real life lessons that this birthed this book。 I will say there was a few times that I thought， “dang！ I do that！” Comparison is a terrible habit that we all are guilty of doing sometimes but it’s time to break the chains。 Very good read for me。 Highly recommend for a teen or young adult。 Thank you NetGalley for this ARC in exchange for an honest review。 。。。more
Yvette Le Blowitz
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I loved loved loved this Self Help Book by Melissa Ambrosini。 It was such a feel good book read， and super easy to read。 Melissa’s writing style is like she is one of your long lost best friends， when she writes it’s like she is speaking directly to you。I loved how she was so open vulnerable with sharing her own eating disorder struggles， along with many other things from wanting to become a Mum and the Challenges there， along with social media， being an Author and how she shares practical tips I loved loved loved this Self Help Book by Melissa Ambrosini。 It was such a feel good book read， and super easy to read。 Melissa’s writing style is like she is one of your long lost best friends， when she writes it’s like she is speaking directly to you。I loved how she was so open vulnerable with sharing her own eating disorder struggles， along with many other things from wanting to become a Mum and the Challenges there， along with social media， being an Author and how she shares practical tips on how to identify Comparisonitis and treat it also。With so many of us now using social media and having access to millions of photos and videos and people we honestly don’t know but think we do know this is an absolute Self LOVE - Self Help Book ReadI loved it so much I have even added it to my #spaitgirl book club as I think with social media not going anywhere and more apps yet to unfold this will be a very timeless book read for many generations to come。Congratulations to Melissa Ambrosini and Benbella and Harpers Collins Publishing House for shining a lot on a very much needed topic | Self Comparison which I think we can all be guilty of doing， but hopefully after you read this book you will learn ways to no longer compare yourself again。 。。。more
Bec
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Noun。 ComparisonitisThe compulsion to compare one's accomplishments to another's to determine relative importance， etc。“We've all felt it - that sinking feeling when you start comparing yourself to someone else。 Maybe it's a friend， maybe it's someone on social media， maybe it's just a random person on the street。 Whatever the situation， you're suddenly convinced that the other person is better than you and you're left feeling gutted， deflated， and completely worthless。”Were all guilty of compar Noun。 ComparisonitisThe compulsion to compare one's accomplishments to another's to determine relative importance， etc。“We've all felt it - that sinking feeling when you start comparing yourself to someone else。 Maybe it's a friend， maybe it's someone on social media， maybe it's just a random person on the street。 Whatever the situation， you're suddenly convinced that the other person is better than you and you're left feeling gutted， deflated， and completely worthless。”Were all guilty of comparing our lives to others particularly in the world of social media where your highlight reels are on full display。 This book teaches you to stop comparing and start being genuinely happy。@melissaambrosini covers the problem， and the signs and symptoms of comparisonitis， changing your mindset and building immunity， antidotes and remedies。 I thoroughly enjoyed this book and there were so many chapters that resonated with me。 Melissa has a bunch of online resources and work sheets available to get your started on your self reflection journey。 。。。more
Theodene
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The title alone: Comparisonitis by Melissa Ambrosini。 Reflecting on my own life， I will have to say， “Yes， I do compare myself to others quite a bit。” Comparisonitis is quite common in this day and age of social media。 How often are we looking at everyone else’s highlight reels and assuming that’s their every day？ How often do we wish we had or did something that influencers are doing？ Yes， this is a perfect book for me， and highly likely anyone else who finds themselves sucked into social media The title alone: Comparisonitis by Melissa Ambrosini。 Reflecting on my own life， I will have to say， “Yes， I do compare myself to others quite a bit。” Comparisonitis is quite common in this day and age of social media。 How often are we looking at everyone else’s highlight reels and assuming that’s their every day？ How often do we wish we had or did something that influencers are doing？ Yes， this is a perfect book for me， and highly likely anyone else who finds themselves sucked into social media。Every day my husband insists I’m addicted to social media。 And every day I disagree。 But is he right？ Can I ignore my phone and tablet and not go onto social media？ I’ve done social media weekend fasts and that was actually pretty liberating！ So much so that I’m considering making that a permanent thing！Anyways， let’s get into this book。 Ms Ambrosini goes into the various ways anyone who’s anything compares themselves to others on social media。 She also offers tips on how to overcome that。 She makes very good points and even has a chapter for our children！ There’s also a chapter about what influencers really go through just to get that perfect shot！ You know how many camera shots and angles you need to take before you get that ONE great photo you want to share？ Yes， influencers go through that， too！It’s important that we not allow what we see， or don’t see， on our social media affect us or those we love。 I mean， let’s face it; getting depressed and upset about your good friend’s well behaved kids or the neighbor’s recent trip to Greece。 We mustn’t let what other people do or post to control our behavior or attitude。 Let’s all work towards eliminating our comparisonitis！Special thanks to BenBella Books and NetGalley for this useful read！ I give Comparisonitis by Melissa Ambrosini 5 out of 5 tiaras because it’s very informative and relatable。 I appreciate all the suggestions on how to overcome comparisonitis！ 。。。more
Paige | ReadingPaigebyPage
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Self-help books aren't usually something I pick up to read。 Comparisonitis caught my attention because I think comparing myself to others is one thing I really do struggle with and know that it can get in my way。 I liked the way this book went through ways to acknowledge the different ways we were comparing ourselves and our lives negatively and then working through ways to change our mindset。 There are activities throughout the book that you that I found was really helpful。 There is even a webs Self-help books aren't usually something I pick up to read。 Comparisonitis caught my attention because I think comparing myself to others is one thing I really do struggle with and know that it can get in my way。 I liked the way this book went through ways to acknowledge the different ways we were comparing ourselves and our lives negatively and then working through ways to change our mindset。 There are activities throughout the book that you that I found was really helpful。 There is even a website mentioned in the book that you can go to to find a virtual workbook for these activities。 I found the terminology very redundant。 The point that comparing ourselves to others is like a disease is hammered over and over。 I caught myself skimming over sentences and paragraphs because it was the same message that I had read multiple times again。 The last section of the book breaks out specific areas where we tend to compare ourselves to others - our bodies， friendships， social media， and parenting。 I skipped over the parenting section since I am not a parent but I thought it was good to see anecdotes from others and different techniques we can do to fix ourselves from negatively comparing to others。Thank you #NetGalley for the e-book in exchange for an honest review。 。。。more
Nicki
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The lovely Melissa Ambrosini has done it again！Thank you NetGalley for the advance copy of "Comparisonitis"。 When I read that this was the title of Melissa's latest book， I have to be honest。 I wondered how she could really write a whole book about how we compare ourselves to one another。 It seemed like a subject that could be just a chapter and indeed has been just a chapter in many self-help books。Comparison really is the thief of joy， and in "Comparisonitis" we see how it is really embedded i The lovely Melissa Ambrosini has done it again！Thank you NetGalley for the advance copy of "Comparisonitis"。 When I read that this was the title of Melissa's latest book， I have to be honest。 I wondered how she could really write a whole book about how we compare ourselves to one another。 It seemed like a subject that could be just a chapter and indeed has been just a chapter in many self-help books。Comparison really is the thief of joy， and in "Comparisonitis" we see how it is really embedded in so many parts of our lives。 Melissa Ambrosini was in the best place in her life to write this book， as while she was writing she was struggling to fall pregnant while watching others fall pregnant around her。 It's a very real situation to many women。 It's an absolute joy to know that by the end of the book， she had fallen pregnant and upon the book's release， gave birth on that week。 This book is one which everyone should read。 You don't even realise how much comparison is going on in our life until you read and see so much of yourself in the words。 There are some unicorns out there who do not compare themselves to others， but 。。。yes。。unicorns they are。 Beyond reading this book， I found myself face-to-face with situations where I compared myself to others。 It was a great test， and "Comparisonitis" really did give me the tools to help fix this。Like her other books， Melissa writes from a place of love。 Her writing style is like a big cuddle。 Something some people may not gel with， but those who are open to it will adore。 Eye-opening and life-changing。 。。。more
Lisa
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Do you compare yourself with others all the time？ I know that I do。 Melissa Ambrosini got herself into such a state partly by doing this that she ended up in hospital！ Comparing yourself to others can be good if it is inspirational， but in most cases it is toxic， destructive and a waste of time。 Envy even leads to hostility for no reason， as we all know。 Regard it as an illness， and treat it with Melissa's techniques and suggestions， which I will certainly try！She worked in industries as a dance Do you compare yourself with others all the time？ I know that I do。 Melissa Ambrosini got herself into such a state partly by doing this that she ended up in hospital！ Comparing yourself to others can be good if it is inspirational， but in most cases it is toxic， destructive and a waste of time。 Envy even leads to hostility for no reason， as we all know。 Regard it as an illness， and treat it with Melissa's techniques and suggestions， which I will certainly try！She worked in industries as a dancer， actor and TV presenter， where comparison was actually encouraged， and for a long time she failed to see why her self-esteem was low。 When she finally did， she concluded that each one of us is a miracle， and worked out a technique called ACES which helps prevent 'comparisonitis'。 She provides suggestions for parents， using social media and looking at the posts of Influencers。 She includes helpful summaries at the end of each chapter。Learning how to focus on positive energy， shutting the door on your Inner Critic， keeping away from social media， finding your purpose in life - all these will help。 Melissa shows readers how to stay away from toxic comparisons， and use comparisons to inspire them in a positive way。I received this free ebook from NetGalley in return for an honest review。 。。。more
Cat
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Thank you to NetGalley and BenBella Books for the chance to read an early copy of this book！I knew as soon as I saw the title that I needed this book。 I had never heard of Melissa Ambrosini but comparison is something I've struggled with forever。 And this book made me feel so much better！ I even cried with how much some of the anecdotes hit close to home， and I'm so grateful to have this book's guidance。This book is very breezy and readable， with lots of clearly-defined sections -- the first sel Thank you to NetGalley and BenBella Books for the chance to read an early copy of this book！I knew as soon as I saw the title that I needed this book。 I had never heard of Melissa Ambrosini but comparison is something I've struggled with forever。 And this book made me feel so much better！ I even cried with how much some of the anecdotes hit close to home， and I'm so grateful to have this book's guidance。This book is very breezy and readable， with lots of clearly-defined sections -- the first self-help book I've ever read where I could skip the takeaways because I'd absorbed the material so easily！ The style really worked for me， even if repetitions of "comparisonitis" and "Inspo-action" （the action steps， I think it's supposed to be inspiration + action？） were grating at times， as were references to "making love" or "the dictionary defines ___ as。" A few other little things: The author pretty frequently recommends her other books， podcasts， workbooks， etc。 -- I can't blame her if her whole business is selling her brand， but I don't like being pitched in the middle of a book I'm already reading。 And while I thought her "behind the scenes of influencers" section was interesting， I gave some side-eye to the spiels of "I only recommend products I love and believe in" and "I never manipulate my body in photos， only lighting。" There's also woowoo stuff about manifesting， spirit babies （creepy！）， filtered water， and making your own toothpaste， but it fit with my stereotype of Instagram （which I don't use）， haha！I fully recognize that the above is nitpicky and cynical， but I wanted to include all my thoughts so that I can wholeheartedly say: I still loved this book and I pre-ordered a copy for myself。 It was so powerful for me to see these topics discussed -- the focuses on body image， friend envy （especially fertility）， social media were all things that touched so deeply。 I don't have children yet， but the parenting section seemed so powerful and I'm excited to improve my own approach to comparisons so I DON'T pass down toxic thoughts to my kids。 The book is full of mantras and mindset framings that I'm trying to use， and lots of useful action steps to take。 I am so happy that I found this book， and I'm looking forward to doing a better job of keeping my eyes on my own lane and appreciating my own journey。 。。。more
Diana
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At first I really felt like she was getting her point across and was glad about this book because it is a topic that needs to be addressed more often and not just in quick articles every so often telling us to unplug and that that happy couple isn't always like that。 But then， personally， it kind of made me feel bad by reminding me of all the the reasons I might compare myself to someone。 It also bugged me that she kept mentioning all the things she has in her life because for someone struggling At first I really felt like she was getting her point across and was glad about this book because it is a topic that needs to be addressed more often and not just in quick articles every so often telling us to unplug and that that happy couple isn't always like that。 But then， personally， it kind of made me feel bad by reminding me of all the the reasons I might compare myself to someone。 It also bugged me that she kept mentioning all the things she has in her life because for someone struggling with "comparisonitis" it was just another thing to measure up to。 。。。more
Mandy Hazen
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This book takes an empathetic approach and gives bite size approaches and allows you to have kindness and patience with yourself when dealing with life。 This is so necessary for everyone to read in life。 Highly recommend。 Especially loved the reflection to true life to humanize my feelings and relate。 I received an advance review copy for free， and I am leaving this review voluntarily。
Kiira | kikkereads
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I absolutely loved the cover when I saw it for the first time。 Beautiful colours， lovely picture and fun fonts。 It made me want to read what the author has to say。When it comes to the book itself， it was a good read。 Some sections were more for my liking than others。 The author had divided the topic to different parts - the problem， the prescription， and antidotes + remedies。 The latter was my favourite part of the book。 The examples were interesting even I couldn’t sometimes connect with the I absolutely loved the cover when I saw it for the first time。 Beautiful colours， lovely picture and fun fonts。 It made me want to read what the author has to say。When it comes to the book itself， it was a good read。 Some sections were more for my liking than others。 The author had divided the topic to different parts - the problem， the prescription， and antidotes + remedies。 The latter was my favourite part of the book。 The examples were interesting even I couldn’t sometimes connect with the author’s views and world。I really liked the key takeaways after each chapter。 They helped me to recall the information I just read。 If I want to reread the book， I will mostly just check those again。 3 stars⭐️⭐️⭐️𝘗𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘈𝘙𝘊 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘶𝘣𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘪𝘯 𝘦𝘹𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸。 。。。more
Corrie
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I was given an advance copy of this book to review for the publisher。 Despite the awful title， this book was enjoyable。 while much of the content is similar to what you can find elsewhere， I still found it enjoyable and a nice reminder。 Most of us strugly with envy and need reminders of how to overcome it and work on bettering ourselves and the world。 Some of this book is too superficial and simplistic， but it was an easy read。
Meghan
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This book was received as an ARC from BenBella books in exchange for an honest review。 Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own。There is no positive word in the English Dictionary that describes how fabulous this book was。 Melissa Ambrosini writes another brilliant book on the main problem that not only women struggle with but everybody in some way shape or form。 I have read Open Wide and Mastering Your Inner Mean Girl and was blown away on how much I related to all o This book was received as an ARC from BenBella books in exchange for an honest review。 Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own。There is no positive word in the English Dictionary that describes how fabulous this book was。 Melissa Ambrosini writes another brilliant book on the main problem that not only women struggle with but everybody in some way shape or form。 I have read Open Wide and Mastering Your Inner Mean Girl and was blown away on how much I related to all of the personal stories and content she included in the books。 With comparisonitis， I felt like Melissa was one of my good friends and she was calming me down and encouraging me after a meltdown and I have never got that personal connection from any author ever！ Not only will I add all of her books to our collection at our library but they will be worth the investment for my personal collection also。We will consider adding this title to our Self-Help collection at our library。 That is why we give this book 5 stars。 。。。more
Reading_ Tam_ Ishly
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