Nonfiction

Maneras de Amar

Maneras de Amar

  • Downloads：9276
  • Type：Epub+TxT+PDF+Mobi
  • Create Date：2021-07-30 01:52:04
  • Update Date：2025-09-07
  • Status：finish
  • Author：Amir Levine
  • ISBN：8415870868
  • Environment：PC/Android/iPhone/iPad/Kindle
  • Download

Summary

La nueva ciencia del apego adulto y cómo puede ayudarte a encontrar el amor y conservarlo。

Codependientes， fusionados simbióticos。。。 Hasta hace poco， los terapeutas consideraban la tendencia a aferrarse a una relación insatisfactoria como un trastorno de la personalidad。

En este título rompedor， el neurólogo y psiquiatra Amir Levin junto con la psicóloga social Rachel Heller desmontan el mito de las "mujeres que aman demasiado" y demuestran， con datos contrastados y reveladores ejemplos， que， lejos de ser una disfuncionalidad， la necesidad de sentirnos seguros junto a otra persona está grabada en nuestros genes。

Estamos biológicamente programados para depender de otras personas igual que un niño depende de su madre。 Basándose en las teorías del psicólogo John Bowlby， que fue el primero en definir la necesidad de apego para un correcto desarrollo en la infancia， definen tres clases de apego: seguro， ansioso y evitador。

Averiguar qué tipo de apego domina nuestras relaciones y transformarlo en uno seguro y estable nos permitirá entablar vínculos sanos y satisfactorios。

Download

Reviews

Lily Parkinson ，

Read this in a day- really good for understanding how people work， and why

Joy Harjanto ，

really great concept but i'm struggling to identify how attachment applies when you're in a toxic relationship？ are these principles of attachment a result of "normal" circumstances？ can a secure attachment "save" a relationship？ i ended the book with even more questions really great concept but i'm struggling to identify how attachment applies when you're in a toxic relationship？ are these principles of attachment a result of "normal" circumstances？ can a secure attachment "save" a relationship？ i ended the book with even more questions 。。。more

Libby Aiello ，

an interesting read！ definitely can help you better understand yourself and other people

Emily sagiv ，

Attached classifies people as having one of three attachment styles: Anxious， Avoidant & SecureIt's a pretty good introductory book on attachment styles and the effect they have on relationships。 The book was informative， and serves as a guide for figuring your attachment style。 The only reason that i've given this book 3 stars， is because i did not really learn much from it to help *myself*。 I enjoy the book， but the writing was very basic and left much to be desired。 Attached classifies people as having one of three attachment styles: Anxious， Avoidant & SecureIt's a pretty good introductory book on attachment styles and the effect they have on relationships。 The book was informative， and serves as a guide for figuring your attachment style。 The only reason that i've given this book 3 stars， is because i did not really learn much from it to help *myself*。 I enjoy the book， but the writing was very basic and left much to be desired。 。。。more

Greta ，

Revolutionized my understanding of relationships and communication

Stephanie Rodriguez ，

A great read！ I learned so much from this book！ It has so much information on a topic that I wish was discussed more！ It’s fascinating to know what type of attachment style we fall under and how to use the tools in the book to identify others and understand why people respond the way that they do in relationships。

Marina Alexandra ，

I feel the need to say that I read this not in a self help i'm trying to find love way but because my psych teacher recommended it I feel the need to say that I read this not in a self help i'm trying to find love way but because my psych teacher recommended it 。。。more

Linda ，

Regardless of resistance， this book will make you question everything！ It's rare that a book can inspire reflection to the same level of effectiveness as conversation。 Despite discovering some uncomfortable truths， I loved this book。 Regardless of resistance， this book will make you question everything！ It's rare that a book can inspire reflection to the same level of effectiveness as conversation。 Despite discovering some uncomfortable truths， I loved this book。 。。。more

Aqiva Karenina ，

I highly highly HIGHLY recommend this book。Attached is about how the attachment types can play out in relationships， and I have to say it's one of the most helpful books I've read。We love to glorify love languages but rarely talk about attachment styles and how that can make or break your dynamic/relationship with someone romantically。 The premise is that your childhood， but also any experience you had afterwards with intimate relationships， lead to certain attachment patterns。 Attachment styles I highly highly HIGHLY recommend this book。Attached is about how the attachment types can play out in relationships， and I have to say it's one of the most helpful books I've read。We love to glorify love languages but rarely talk about attachment styles and how that can make or break your dynamic/relationship with someone romantically。 The premise is that your childhood， but also any experience you had afterwards with intimate relationships， lead to certain attachment patterns。 Attachment styles also show why some people are perpetually looking for something that to others seems unattainable。This is also a good book to learn how to be a secure partner。 I mean it was really enlightening and has helped me understand my reactions to situations fit in a larger context of what my needs are and how I deal with conflict within my relationship。 It's so helpful to see patterns of our behavior grouped like--and the anecdotes have been extremely helpful examples。 But consoled by the fact that once we recognize our attachment， we can always identify what does make us most secure。I had a lot of a-ha moments and almost like a confirmation that I'm actually 'normal' and that there's nothing wrong with my 'natural' responses to situations。 It's not that there's something wrong with me， I just don't/didn't know any better。Reading this will let you figuring out what your attachment style is and then steering clear of opposing attachment style partners。 This knowledge will change your life and make it a *million times* easier and happier if you are with a partner who has a complimenting attachment style to yours。So much knowledge to gain from this read。 。。。more

Rola ，

من أجمل وأفيد الكتب التي قرأتها هذا العام， هذا الكتاب فتح عيني علي ماظننته تجربة حب طلع نظامي القلقان شغال-_-

April Holder ，

Very helpful book to help me attract who compliments me best。 A robust description of mental models that I feel we can all benefit from with many different types of relationships we have。 This book however was a extremely heteronormative as every couple as an example was a straight couple。 That got old quick， but certainly timeless principles that transcend the heteronormative dichotomy。

Asish Saraf ，

I feel the author could actually read my mind and reiterate everything that actually I did in the past。 I like how his recommendations and advice are all practically possible to do and not giving unrealistic goals。 I think everyone should read this book once in their life to get answers to what went wrong in their personal lives。

Jeffrey Johnson ，

I wish I would have discovered this lit。 years ago。 The information contained within these pages has been transformative for personal development。 Knowing not only where you are and where others are on the spectrum of attachment theory really has helped my relationships。

Camilla Betts ，

Wow， this was really eye-opening with many lightbulb moments， and I've read a fair amount on relationship science。 Having just read a book on how loving yourself and not taking things too seriously will transform your relationships， it was somewhat a relief to read that we're biologically programmed to be emotionally linked to the person closest to us。 The book explains how differing intimacy needs affect relationships and can make you miserable。 For a fulfilling relationship you would be wise t Wow， this was really eye-opening with many lightbulb moments， and I've read a fair amount on relationship science。 Having just read a book on how loving yourself and not taking things too seriously will transform your relationships， it was somewhat a relief to read that we're biologically programmed to be emotionally linked to the person closest to us。 The book explains how differing intimacy needs affect relationships and can make you miserable。 For a fulfilling relationship you would be wise to figure out what your own intimacy needs are and find someone who can meet these needs through effective communication。I would have liked a section on anxious-avoidants， that was a bit of a missing hole in the book。 I would have also preferred the research credits to have been in the footnotes rather than the body of the text。 Overall though， great insights which have helped me understand my past relationships better and know how to avoid certain pitfalls in the future。 。。。more

Jolie Higazi ，

This was going to be a 3-star until I got to the second half where it focused heavily on practical applications for effective communication。 In a way， it felt like more of a ‘communication in general’ book than a relationship book。 I appreciated the real life “bread and butter” examples to see how secure and insecure attachments play out in familiar communication patterns。

Matthew Torgersen ，

I talk about this book quite often。 I like it most for what it suggests you to think about。 Too common are love languages discussed。。。those aren’t hard to understand。 That’s surface level， and don’t explain why relationships work or don’t。 This book definitely brought a lot of clarity to the dating pool。

Sarah H ，

I loved learning about attachment theory and the accessible way it was presented， but I wish this book wasn’t so rigid in its categories and dealt with more of the complexity of falling in between different attachment styles！

Mary ，

Up

BookCupid ，

Everyone has an attachment style。 This book defines them as anxious， avoidant and secure。 Although， we'd all like to be part of the 3rd group， only 50% are actually in it。 I loved that the book was filled with examples and not just oxytocin theories。 Levine analyzes the story of a man who kept inviting friends to his dates， not to get too close。 Or partners withholding sex to avoid the intimacy from growing then accusing their significant other from being too needy。 The needy clan refers to the Everyone has an attachment style。 This book defines them as anxious， avoidant and secure。 Although， we'd all like to be part of the 3rd group， only 50% are actually in it。 I loved that the book was filled with examples and not just oxytocin theories。 Levine analyzes the story of a man who kept inviting friends to his dates， not to get too close。 Or partners withholding sex to avoid the intimacy from growing then accusing their significant other from being too needy。 The needy clan refers to the anxious。 The ones who refuse to express their emotions， afraid that they will set the avoidant off。 They often pass themselves as victims， when in reality they are also at fault by not expressing displeasure。 Sadly， these two might actually love each other， but their attachment style keeps getting in the way。 Why are they both afraid of getting hurt -- you'll need to read the book for that。 I， for one， appreciated all the info on how to become a secure attachment partner。 A must-read。 。。。more

Jenan Ahmed ，

This book is pretty insightful and interesting。 It definitely helped me understand myself differently or a bit clearer and see things from a different/scientific point of view， lets say， and the information can go beyond romantic relationships， It applies to friendships as well in some aspects。 One thing I didnt like is that this book made detecting attachment styles a pretty easy job while in real life its much more complicated than this and there are SOOOO many misleading factors that could ma This book is pretty insightful and interesting。 It definitely helped me understand myself differently or a bit clearer and see things from a different/scientific point of view， lets say， and the information can go beyond romantic relationships， It applies to friendships as well in some aspects。 One thing I didnt like is that this book made detecting attachment styles a pretty easy job while in real life its much more complicated than this and there are SOOOO many misleading factors that could make you think that the other person or even yourself something you’re not and it doesnt talk about how could you differentiate between what’s real ， what’s misleading and what’s naturally common（human behavior not saints）。 I was hoping to find the answer of is that can a person have more that one attachment style depending on the person they’re with？ I personally found myself being all 3 （ secure， anxious and avoidant） in different situations even when considering a relationship with the same person and lol I got lost but anyway this book was really helpful， informative and interesting and I personally enjoyed reading it :） 。。。more

Simone Robbennolt ，

Found this audiobook really helpful for me to rethink some thought patterns I have。 Very helpful if you are anxiously attached， might not be for others。 It’s like any other self-help book if you read with an open mind you can gain some beneficial tidbits。

Nicole ，

There were some instances where the example situations/reactions seemed a bit extreme to me and I found those parts less useful （they seemed to be really problematic people vs。 just incompatible attachment styles）。 Aside from that though， this is a very helpful overview with a lot of practical points for both processing the past and approaching the present。

Albert Moreno ，

It did more than it’s job！ It had a test to figure your attachment style and went in depth to the systems of the styles and how to improve to be a secure attachment and how to practice effective communication skills！ What to look for in a relationship and all that good stuff！

Neeshae Wain ，

It was really easy to read， but I think it focuses on anxious more than avoidant。 Definitely good advice， and everyone has something to learn from it！！！

Chris ，

Usually not a fan of the self-help genre， but for some reason I wanted to read this and actually learned some things。 While not wanting to type myself， it was pretty interesting to see the characteristics and how closely they resembled me。

Amanda ，

It was very enlightening to read about how our attachment styles influence our relationships。 The good news is that these aren’t fixed and can change over time， depending on the people and circumstances we are exposed to。

Amber Jankowski ，

This book provided a unique way of looking at what people are looking for， and how they react to those around them。 It offered some amazing insights。

Sara ，

My best friend is a therapist and had mentioned attachment theory in a recent conversation and said that this was the book that explains it most clearly。 Thing is， my friend did such a good （and honestly very succinct） job in talking about attachment that the book felt pretty redundant。 It was like many self-help books where the premise is laid out in clear bullet points at the beginning and then pads itself out with lots of examples and scenarios。 The book focuses on heterosexual romance， and d My best friend is a therapist and had mentioned attachment theory in a recent conversation and said that this was the book that explains it most clearly。 Thing is， my friend did such a good （and honestly very succinct） job in talking about attachment that the book felt pretty redundant。 It was like many self-help books where the premise is laid out in clear bullet points at the beginning and then pads itself out with lots of examples and scenarios。 The book focuses on heterosexual romance， and does not talk about other forms of love or relationship such as family， friends， and colleagues。 I agree with the advice of the book that if you are attempting a long-term romantic relationship with someone that you should state your needs and make sure the other person is willing to meet them， but how does that work with people who you are not trying to form a life partnership with？ 。。。more

Vaibhavi Hemasundar ，

only basic info here， you could get all this from online articles。 doesn’t go at all into the nuance of people with combination types and offers no helpful tips for avoidant types

Victoria Elizabeth ，

A few years ago， I would have turned my nose up to a book with of this genre & title 。。。I'm so grateful that I've gained enough self awareness & humility to not only read such a book--but to also reread， reflect upon， & apply the insights & strategies for success this book offered for my romantic （& platonic--though that isn't what is discussed in the book） relationship patterns & obstacles。 Though it is merely a brief dip into attachment theory， it does a great job of outlining the basics while A few years ago， I would have turned my nose up to a book with of this genre & title 。。。I'm so grateful that I've gained enough self awareness & humility to not only read such a book--but to also reread， reflect upon， & apply the insights & strategies for success this book offered for my romantic （& platonic--though that isn't what is discussed in the book） relationship patterns & obstacles。 Though it is merely a brief dip into attachment theory， it does a great job of outlining the basics while also helping readers identify their attachment type & historical dating patterns。 This information （& guidance） is presented through numerous informative & hopeful anecdotes with some research backing splashed throughout for us skeptics ;） 。。。more

Reference

google book https://www.google.com/search?tbm=bks&q=Maneras de Amar

hathitrust digital library https://babel.hathitrust.org/cgi/ls?q1=Maneras de Amar&field1=ocr&a=srchls&ft=ft&lmt=ft

The British Library https://bll01.primo.exlibrisgroup.com/discovery/search?query=any,contains,Maneras de Amar&tab=LibraryCatalog&search_scope=Not_BL_Suppress&vid=44BL_INST:BLL01&lang=en&offset=0