The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them
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- Author：Elaine N. Aron
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Summary
The bestselling author and psychologist whose books have topped 240，000 copies in print now addresses the trait of "high sensitivity" in children-and offers a breakthrough parenting guidebook for highly sensitive children and their caregivers。
With the publication of The Highly Sensitive Person， Elaine Aron became the first person to identify the inborn trait of "high sensitivity" and to show how it affects the lives of those who possess it。 Up to 20 percent of the population is born highly sensitive， and now in The Highly Sensitive Child， Aron shifts her focus to highly sensitive children， who share the same characteristics as highly sensitive adults and thus face unique challenges as they grow up。
Rooted in Aron's years of experience as a psychotherapist and her original research on child temperament， The Highly Sensitive Child shows how HSCs are born deeply reflective， sensitive to the subtle， and easily overwhelmed。 These qualities can make for smart， conscientious， creative children， but with the wrong parenting or schooling， they can become unusually shy or timid， or begin acting out。 Few parents and teachers understand where this behavior comes from-and as a result， HSCs are often mislabeled as overly inhibited， fearful， or "fussy，"or classified as "problem children" （and in some cases， misdiagnosed with disorders such as Attention Deficit Disorder）。 But raised with proper understanding and care， HSCs are no more prone to these problems than nonsensitive children and can grow up to be happy， healthy， well-adjusted adults。
In this pioneering work， parents will find helpful self-tests and case studies to help them understand their HSC， along with thorough advice on:
- The challenges of raising an highly sensitive child
- The four keys to successfully parenting an HSC
- How to soothe highly sensitive infants
- Helping sensitive children survive in a not-so-sensitive world
- Making school and friendships enjoyable
With chapters addressing the needs of specific age groups， from newborns through teens， The Highly Sensitive Child delivers warmhearted， timely information for parents， teachers， and the sensitive children in their lives。
With the publication of The Highly Sensitive Person， Elaine Aron became the first person to identify the inborn trait of "high sensitivity" and to show how it affects the lives of those who possess it。 Up to 20 percent of the population is born highly sensitive， and now in The Highly Sensitive Child， Aron shifts her focus to highly sensitive children， who share the same characteristics as highly sensitive adults and thus face unique challenges as they grow up。
Rooted in Aron's years of experience as a psychotherapist and her original research on child temperament， The Highly Sensitive Child shows how HSCs are born deeply reflective， sensitive to the subtle， and easily overwhelmed。 These qualities can make for smart， conscientious， creative children， but with the wrong parenting or schooling， they can become unusually shy or timid， or begin acting out。 Few parents and teachers understand where this behavior comes from-and as a result， HSCs are often mislabeled as overly inhibited， fearful， or "fussy，"or classified as "problem children" （and in some cases， misdiagnosed with disorders such as Attention Deficit Disorder）。 But raised with proper understanding and care， HSCs are no more prone to these problems than nonsensitive children and can grow up to be happy， healthy， well-adjusted adults。
In this pioneering work， parents will find helpful self-tests and case studies to help them understand their HSC， along with thorough advice on:
- The challenges of raising an highly sensitive child
- The four keys to successfully parenting an HSC
- How to soothe highly sensitive infants
- Helping sensitive children survive in a not-so-sensitive world
- Making school and friendships enjoyable
With chapters addressing the needs of specific age groups， from newborns through teens， The Highly Sensitive Child delivers warmhearted， timely information for parents， teachers， and the sensitive children in their lives。
Reviews
Juan
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It was really insightfull in the first few chapters， maybe until mid-book， providing us key pointers to recognize we have HSC kids and how to deal with a lot of things that come up with them。 My only downside is this is an extremely long book for my taste and a lot of things could have been said in less words。
Bethany Ward
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If you suspect you may have a sensitive kid （can be easily upset， doesn’t like loud/chaotic spaces， deeply perceptive）， give this book a chance。 Several reviewers have commented that you should take this advice with a grain of salt， and that is true。 Not everything in this book applies to my child。 However， I now have a new perspective of why it is a positive thing that my child is sensitive。 And that is everything！ I will gladly put in a bit of extra work for my exceptional kid to help him beco If you suspect you may have a sensitive kid （can be easily upset， doesn’t like loud/chaotic spaces， deeply perceptive）， give this book a chance。 Several reviewers have commented that you should take this advice with a grain of salt， and that is true。 Not everything in this book applies to my child。 However， I now have a new perspective of why it is a positive thing that my child is sensitive。 And that is everything！ I will gladly put in a bit of extra work for my exceptional kid to help him become just that。。。 exceptional。 。。。more
Jessica
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Great info as my child fits this exactly。 The organization of the book takes away from it for me。 I’m going to buy a copy so I can make notes in it， so it was worth the read！
Matt Miles
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This is a helpful addition for the reader of Highly Sensitive Person because more often than not， we’ll have children who are highly sensitive as well。 Even if that’s not the case， the highly sensitive reader can see themselves in this more in depth look at growing up as a Highly Sensitive Person。
Hannah Mercer
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What I liked: Comprehensive explanation of Aron's concept of an HSC。Some good suggestions on creating a supportive family environment to help children thrive。Readable and clear。What I really didn't like: the underlying concept， although not stated is that HSCs need to adapt to fit it。 It's more "Change the child" when it should be "Change the world"。For example， "encourage your child to practice making eye contact。 HSCs will often find it overstimulating and therefore uncomfortable。" No no no。 E What I liked: Comprehensive explanation of Aron's concept of an HSC。Some good suggestions on creating a supportive family environment to help children thrive。Readable and clear。What I really didn't like: the underlying concept， although not stated is that HSCs need to adapt to fit it。 It's more "Change the child" when it should be "Change the world"。For example， "encourage your child to practice making eye contact。 HSCs will often find it overstimulating and therefore uncomfortable。" No no no。 Encourage awareness that eye contact is not always a sign of paying attention， respect or focus。 Nurture the confidence in your child so they can say "actually I focus better when I don't look people in the eye。 Please be aware I am fully focusing by not looking at you。"So some red flags， and some updating needs to happen。 A shame， because there's some good stuff in here， but mixed in with the ableism it's a challenge to pick out the good stuff and leave the rest。 。。。more
Courtney
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Lots of good things to think through as a parent and teacher。
Stephanie
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very helpful for any parent。 I wish I would've read this when my children were young。 very helpful for any parent。 I wish I would've read this when my children were young。 。。。more
Jessica Perteet
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This book was ok。 I was recommended to read it by Micah’s counselor。 Some ways it was helpful but most of it was about surviving public school and tips for teachers。
Maria
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I liked how this one had informaation based on test results etc。It repeated itself a lot thought。I wanted to read this to understanding hsp children， if I meet them in my work。 It seems so different between kids and adults， this was interesting and I could reflect this in my own childhood too。
Janessa Miller
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If you have a child who reacts intensely to sudden senses， experiences， or emotions， read this book。 Some evolutionary perspectives， but overall lots of helpful material。
Anant
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My wife recommended I read this book， and I am glad I did。 It was validating to hear so many of the anecdotes and stories which resonated with our child。 It encouraged me to continue some of the things I was doing and also provided some good tips on coping with some of the challenges of parenting a highly sensitive child。 It was also interesting reading it， as at some point， I was not sure if the book was describing my child or my wife （who has so many similar experiences as mentioned in the boo My wife recommended I read this book， and I am glad I did。 It was validating to hear so many of the anecdotes and stories which resonated with our child。 It encouraged me to continue some of the things I was doing and also provided some good tips on coping with some of the challenges of parenting a highly sensitive child。 It was also interesting reading it， as at some point， I was not sure if the book was describing my child or my wife （who has so many similar experiences as mentioned in the book） 。 A little repetitive in parts， towards the tail end， I found the book to not offer any new points， but was driving the same core suggestions in different words。 。。。more
Dietra
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DNF - I found out my child is not HS but I am。 The reason for the low rating is not practical solutions for people who are not privileged。
Beth
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This book took me a long time to get through as I'd read a bit， then put it down and read another book， then come back to it。 The author （and she says this in the book） is obviously a highly sensitive person because every piece of the book gave explanations， advice， and then exceptions and that each child is different， so be sensitive to what yours needs， so sometimes the advice is vague。 Some of it was a bit too detailed or repetitive since I am also a highly sensitive person and so some things This book took me a long time to get through as I'd read a bit， then put it down and read another book， then come back to it。 The author （and she says this in the book） is obviously a highly sensitive person because every piece of the book gave explanations， advice， and then exceptions and that each child is different， so be sensitive to what yours needs， so sometimes the advice is vague。 Some of it was a bit too detailed or repetitive since I am also a highly sensitive person and so some things I do as part of my own parenting style: not overscheduling， letting kids jump in when ready， etc。 But it was also full of good reminders because having a HSC really forces patience！ The urge to say， "Get over it！" is high， but I am working on how to parent by knowing these feelings are real and big for the child， while that's it has taken me a lot of years to be able to see what deserves to be "gotten over" quickly and what is a problem that should be tackled and not pushed aside。 I like that she breaks down by age group different ways to parent HSCs。 Sometimes she does seem a little biased that HSC are way better than other children， but she does a good job helping parents see the benefits of sensitivity when that word doesn't always have a positive connotation， at least in the western culture。 In other parts it seemed that the author thinks parents should jump through excessive hoops to help their child through this world， （like when she suggests having other positive role models for your child， but of course coach them first to respond to your child in all the correct ways。 I'm not coaching other adults to have conversations with my kids）。 There's a lot of good to get out of this book， but don't feel like every sentence is necessary。I'll end with the motto of the book， which is a great reminder that I love， for all sorts of children: Remember that in order to have an exceptional child， you must be willing to have an exceptional child。 。。。more
Regina Petreikienė
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Knyga didelio įspūdžio nepaliko。 Skaitosi sunkiai （neaišku ar dėl vertimo ar dėl prasto rašymo stiliaus）， o patarimai paviršutiniški。 Pirmoji knyga "itin jautrus asmuo" išsamesnė ir daug kartojamos informacijos。 Apibendrinant knyga galėjo būti 2x trumpesnė。 Knyga didelio įspūdžio nepaliko。 Skaitosi sunkiai （neaišku ar dėl vertimo ar dėl prasto rašymo stiliaus）， o patarimai paviršutiniški。 Pirmoji knyga "itin jautrus asmuo" išsamesnė ir daug kartojamos informacijos。 Apibendrinant knyga galėjo būti 2x trumpesnė。 。。。more
Sam Martin
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Helpful and reassuring
Emily
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Insightful book。 I knew I was different growing up but it’s nice to know being sensitive is a thing。 I started reading this hoping to get insight on my sensitive son。 His quirks and eating sensitivities however this book didn’t cover it much。 It’s good it’s advice as far as approach but I do not like the disciplinary advice。 If you are a parent of a sensitive child I’d highly recommend looking up Dr Greene or Dr Siegle。 Great advice on working with your child ESPECIALLY sensitive kids or teens。
Angela Hedworth
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This book is really good despite the only 3 stars。 （I didn't care for her attitude re: meds and she doesn't cover learning disabilities。） Really very good and helpful。 I wish I would have read this earlier; it would have helped me better understand my daughter。 This book is really good despite the only 3 stars。 （I didn't care for her attitude re: meds and she doesn't cover learning disabilities。） Really very good and helpful。 I wish I would have read this earlier; it would have helped me better understand my daughter。 。。。more
Jenna Woodland
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A must-read for parents of children with highly sensitive personality type。 By far the most helpful and specific parenting book I’ve ever read。 It was amazing to realize that so much of my child’s behavior， strengths， weaknesses， fears etc。 are interrelated。 Highly recommend for teachers and other professionals to at least skim the beginning for the basics of how HSCs’ brains process the world differently and how to best support their learning and development。 There’s also a section specifically A must-read for parents of children with highly sensitive personality type。 By far the most helpful and specific parenting book I’ve ever read。 It was amazing to realize that so much of my child’s behavior， strengths， weaknesses， fears etc。 are interrelated。 Highly recommend for teachers and other professionals to at least skim the beginning for the basics of how HSCs’ brains process the world differently and how to best support their learning and development。 There’s also a section specifically for educators at the end。 I did find the book unnecessarily repetitive at times and the author’s suggestions a bit heavy handed。 I personally feel more emphasis on growth mindset would have been beneficial。 。。。more
Lane
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I loved the theory of the book。 It could have used more real life suggestions for how to actually handle various situations。
Heidi Pyper
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I enjoyed reading "The Highly Sensitive Person，" and I had high expectations for this book。 I did find much of the book to be helpful， but it is also intuitive to me also being an HSP and having learned the hard way how to take care of myself in such a chaotic world。 I would probably recommend to parents who are non-hsps who have a hsc， and probably others too， but it isn't at the top of my parenting book list。 I enjoyed reading "The Highly Sensitive Person，" and I had high expectations for this book。 I did find much of the book to be helpful， but it is also intuitive to me also being an HSP and having learned the hard way how to take care of myself in such a chaotic world。 I would probably recommend to parents who are non-hsps who have a hsc， and probably others too， but it isn't at the top of my parenting book list。 。。。more
Sigita Martin - Pa
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I really enjoyed understanding a highly sensitive childs perspective on surroundongs and everyday life。 However， at times the book seemed to be repeating itself in every chapter。 Some bullet points were so thorough in explanation， that you could forget the whole point。 I missed more real examples and approaches that were taken rather than “you should try”， “this could help” etc。
Jess
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This book had some good insights at times， but it could also be quite boring。 I love this topic， and I wish the author could’ve made the entire book more engaging。 I forged on in the book， and I found much of the advice to be exclusive and not practical for many。 Just one example would be she suggested you enroll your HSC in private colleges because public college can be overwhelming。 Other things- don’t let an HSC ride the bus， make sure their clothing/housing/cars fit in with others at their s This book had some good insights at times， but it could also be quite boring。 I love this topic， and I wish the author could’ve made the entire book more engaging。 I forged on in the book， and I found much of the advice to be exclusive and not practical for many。 Just one example would be she suggested you enroll your HSC in private colleges because public college can be overwhelming。 Other things- don’t let an HSC ride the bus， make sure their clothing/housing/cars fit in with others at their school （even down to having them buy lunch at school instead of pack so they fit in）。 It was all rich white lady stuff， and I couldn’t really handle it。 。。。more
Rachel
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Took a while to get into it but this definitely had some helpful parenting ideas for me。
James Keir
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This book is an essential read for teachers and parents - it could just unlock several mysteries about your children and make how you handle and interpret situations easier。
Natalie Tort
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DNF 20% realized it was not the right match for the issues I'm struggling with。 DNF 20% realized it was not the right match for the issues I'm struggling with。 。。。more
Emily
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Good tips and techniques， also some very weird and suffocating ideas。 A real mixed bag。
Molly
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I got this book to see if it applied to my son （it does） and along the way I learned that I am also highly sensitive！ It felt hard for a while to really pin down if this was us or not， because there are so many different ways this can look and neither of us look like the "classic" sort of person described in this book， but understanding some of the internal processes helped me to have a better understanding of how both of us view the world in this unique way。 We are both eager to understand ours I got this book to see if it applied to my son （it does） and along the way I learned that I am also highly sensitive！ It felt hard for a while to really pin down if this was us or not， because there are so many different ways this can look and neither of us look like the "classic" sort of person described in this book， but understanding some of the internal processes helped me to have a better understanding of how both of us view the world in this unique way。 We are both eager to understand ourselves better with new perspective and even terminology。 。。。more
Mely
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I picked up this book curious to find out if my child was classified as HSC。 I seem to think she has some mild traits， but I think this book is geared more towards parents of more moderately to severe HSC。 I learned a few things however that I will definitely put to use as my child matures and ages。 I'm proud to say I already practice a few of the tips the author suggests and I didn't even realize it。 A good starting point for parents who are looking for more information on HSCs。 I picked up this book curious to find out if my child was classified as HSC。 I seem to think she has some mild traits， but I think this book is geared more towards parents of more moderately to severe HSC。 I learned a few things however that I will definitely put to use as my child matures and ages。 I'm proud to say I already practice a few of the tips the author suggests and I didn't even realize it。 A good starting point for parents who are looking for more information on HSCs。 。。。more
Kristin Fritchman
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Highly applicable to me and at least one of my daughters。
Morgan
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