A coragem de ser imperfeito: como aceitar a própria vulnerabilidade, vencer a vergonha e ousar ser quem você é

A coragem de ser imperfeito: como aceitar a própria vulnerabilidade, vencer a vergonha e ousar ser quem você é

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  • Create Date:2021-03-17 09:15:17
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  • Author:Brené Brown
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Summary

Viver é experimentar incertezas, riscos e se expor emocionalmente。 Mas isso não precisa ser ruim。 Como mostra Brené Brown, a vulnerabilidade não é uma medida de fraqueza, mas a melhor definição de coragem。

Quando fugimos de emoções como medo, mágoa e decepção, também nos fechamos para o amor, a aceitação e a criatividade。 Por isso, as pessoas que se defendem a todo custo do erro e do fracasso acabam se frustrando e se distanciando das experiências marcantes que dão significado à vida。

Por outro lado, as que se expõem e se abrem para coisas novas são mais autênticas e realizadas, ainda que se tornem alvo de críticas e de inveja。 É preciso lidar com os dois lados da moeda para se ter uma vida plena。 Em sua pesquisa pioneira sobre vulnerabilidade, Brené Brown concluiu que fazemos uso de um verdadeiro arsenal contra a vergonha de nos expor e a sensação de não sermos bons o bastante, e que existem estratégias eficazes para serem usadas nesse “desarmamento”。

Neste livro, ela apresenta suas descobertas e estratégias bem-sucedidas, toca em feridas delicadas e provoca grandes insights, desafiando-nos a mudar a maneira como vivemos e nos relacionamos。

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Reviews

Ashlie

I work to not be this person, but I definitely have a touch of the "if everybody likes x maybe I don't want to like x" stubborn streak。 I've identified it as sort of a pointless attitude (I mean, I'm only hurting myself) and I strive to be more "let people live" but the overwhelming popularity of Brene Brown had me hesitate to pick up this book。 That, and the fact that I was certainthat her writing was going to make me confront some things about myself I'd been avoiding, so I reeeeeally dragged I work to not be this person, but I definitely have a touch of the "if everybody likes x maybe I don't want to like x" stubborn streak。 I've identified it as sort of a pointless attitude (I mean, I'm only hurting myself) and I strive to be more "let people live" but the overwhelming popularity of Brene Brown had me hesitate to pick up this book。 That, and the fact that I was certainthat her writing was going to make me confront some things about myself I'd been avoiding, so I reeeeeally dragged my feet about opening up this audiobook。 But when I finally did, I was annoyed and pleased to find that everyone, and most of all Brown, was right。Brown loves talking about "the arena" and citing the famed Teddy Roosevelt quote which I'll crib from, "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better。 The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly。。。" Being IN THE ARENA is something that I have staunchly avoided in my life。 In fact, I've jokingly said that my "plan" in life was not having a plan because if you DON'T have a plan, you can't fail!! Herego, I have avoided taking a stance and having goals。 Get it? It's a joke。 But true。 (It was a big hit with my therapist)。 So Brown's story of her TED Talk and vulnerability hangover really hit me where it hurts。 I could talk about this book all day, she jams in so much well-researched nuggets of wisdom it is almost dizzying。 But trust me when I say if you have a desire to be a little bit better as a person for yourself or for those you hold dear, there is something in this book for you。The most memorable takeaway for me wasn't even an observation from Brown herself, but rather a piece of parenting advice that she shared from the words of literary great Toni Morrison, as told to Oprah。 "Let your face speak what's in your heart。" Rather than launch into a litany of critical inputs when your children walk into the room, lead with the fact that you are happy to see them。 That really resonated with me as I'm famous in my own house for not "reading the room" before barreling in with something that needs doing or fixing, and I've really taken Morrison's approach to heart and am working to implement it in my own life。And therein lies the genius of Brown。 She has spent her life learning and researching and capturing the vulnerability and truth of others and then distilled it down for us, peppered with her own bits of vulnerability。 If I'm honest I really just want to be mad at her for making me confront things, and learn, and show me what is possible if you really care and really commit。 But instead, if given the opportunity I would (begrudgingly) thank her for going into the arena so that I could nudge myself even one step closer to the person I want to be。 。。。more

Kat

I read first the Gifts of imperfections which I loved。 I found this a bit of a repetition which is not necessarily bad considering that most of what she says must be heard more than once to really absorb them

Laurie Lokken Reese

A must-read for anyone who struggles with self confidence。 There are many eye-opening examples and inspiring truths in this book。

Ashley

I need to sit down with my hard copy, a highlighter, and a pen。 Listening to it was great, but I know I let plenty of great content slip me by。 Another great piece of research from Brené。 She knows how to talk about vulnerability, shame, and guilt without making you want to shrivel up in a corner。 I appreciate how open she is about her personal experiences (and she even explains how we can determine what experiences should or shouldn’t be shared) and how many other examples she includes as well。 I need to sit down with my hard copy, a highlighter, and a pen。 Listening to it was great, but I know I let plenty of great content slip me by。 Another great piece of research from Brené。 She knows how to talk about vulnerability, shame, and guilt without making you want to shrivel up in a corner。 I appreciate how open she is about her personal experiences (and she even explains how we can determine what experiences should or shouldn’t be shared) and how many other examples she includes as well。 If you’re looking for a book that will make you uncomfortable and challenge you, in the best ways, I highly recommend sitting down with this book。 。。。more

Chelle

I liked this。 I really like how Brown presents her information and how she makes the connections and shows how people can achieve the goals that she outlines。 It seems so attainable, but man is it super hard。 I think this is a great intro into Brown's research and books。 I discovered her through her talks and enjoyed them enough to pick up this book from the library。 There's some major overlap, which helped me when I was listening to this book, as it meant that when my mind wandered I could focu I liked this。 I really like how Brown presents her information and how she makes the connections and shows how people can achieve the goals that she outlines。 It seems so attainable, but man is it super hard。 I think this is a great intro into Brown's research and books。 I discovered her through her talks and enjoyed them enough to pick up this book from the library。 There's some major overlap, which helped me when I was listening to this book, as it meant that when my mind wandered I could focus back on the book without having missed a ton。 。。。more

Emma

I didn't find this as engaging as The Gifts of Imperfection, and skipped the last two chapters as they weren't relevant to me。 Still a helpful book, but I'll be turning to Gifts of Imperfection for more practical advice and insight in the future。 I didn't find this as engaging as The Gifts of Imperfection, and skipped the last two chapters as they weren't relevant to me。 Still a helpful book, but I'll be turning to Gifts of Imperfection for more practical advice and insight in the future。 。。。more

Tom Anderson

There were some parts of this book that I found helpful but mostly it answered unfelt questions。 Also, the language Brené used didn’t particularly resonate with me。

Alexandra

Ideile surprinse în carte sunt puternice, îți retrasează înțelegerea rușinii și îți propune o altă raportare la ea。 În ciuda dificultății de a urmări firul ideilor, cartea merită citită până la capăt。

Joseph

very good

Joy

Barf。 I got so tired of hearing the words shame and vulnerability and reading her defense of her scientific methodology (eye roll) that I had to put this down。 I picked this up at a time when I was interviewing for jobs after a 3-year maternity break, and although I was wary about reading a self-help book, everyone seems to love Brene Brown。 I might be able to tolerate a 5 minute TED talk but I can't sign on to this book。 Hard pass。 Barf。 I got so tired of hearing the words shame and vulnerability and reading her defense of her scientific methodology (eye roll) that I had to put this down。 I picked this up at a time when I was interviewing for jobs after a 3-year maternity break, and although I was wary about reading a self-help book, everyone seems to love Brene Brown。 I might be able to tolerate a 5 minute TED talk but I can't sign on to this book。 Hard pass。 。。。more

Bozahra

Good book, But some parts are deep and can’t connect。 Overall good book and it gave me a new perspective to think ! May need to re read to understand better。

Vertrees

Spectacular book- so many profound lessons。 Should be mandatory reading。

Katie Coolidge

Each Brene Brown book I read do better, be better, and feel better。 This one is no exception。

Nicole

Wow, this is a favorite。 I listened to the book but now I’m going to buy a hard copy so I can highlight the crap out of it。 Especially chapter 4。 That unlocked a whole new understanding in why I am the way I am。 Also, I just love the way she writes。 She is so insightful。

Jason Shaw

One of my most influential reads of 2016!

Sara

There is a lot of great, data-backed insights in this book。 Her voice is relatable and she tells a lot of personal stories。 I had watched the Netflix special she did about this topic before reading and felt that it kind of summed up what this book is about。 Of course there is more detail in the book but a lot of it is repeating some (rather long) stories from the special。 There were chapters that spoke to me more than others, of course, which made some parts feel a bit long。 By the end of the bo There is a lot of great, data-backed insights in this book。 Her voice is relatable and she tells a lot of personal stories。 I had watched the Netflix special she did about this topic before reading and felt that it kind of summed up what this book is about。 Of course there is more detail in the book but a lot of it is repeating some (rather long) stories from the special。 There were chapters that spoke to me more than others, of course, which made some parts feel a bit long。 By the end of the book I found myself rolling my eyes at all the metaphors and cutesy names she uses for every single topic she discusses。 I thought it seemed a bit too branded。 I liked that her ideas are all thoroughly backed by research and the book definitely made me think about instances in my life or my personal habits a bit differently。 。。。more

Carla

An interesting read。 I enjoyed the messages about courage, being enough and showing up and being yourself。 I also liked the parts where she talks about how to pause and reframe your words when speaking with others rather than imposing your own ideas of shame etc。 on them。 I think that stopping to think about how our ideas/words around issues is something we don't do enough of。 I don't think the lululemon as ideal corporate culture has aged well, and is a pretty privileged example to be making in An interesting read。 I enjoyed the messages about courage, being enough and showing up and being yourself。 I also liked the parts where she talks about how to pause and reframe your words when speaking with others rather than imposing your own ideas of shame etc。 on them。 I think that stopping to think about how our ideas/words around issues is something we don't do enough of。 I don't think the lululemon as ideal corporate culture has aged well, and is a pretty privileged example to be making in the first place。 。。。more

Zusmee Byambatseren

Becoming a true Brene Brown fan! Life saver!

roorooreads

This book doesn't give you all the answers instead it challenges you to figure them out on your own while providing you with advice and encouragement。 I think this book can be and is a very valuable tool。 I especially enjoyed the sections on shame, relationships, and children/parenting。 This book really got me thinking and analyzing my own life and how I'm living it。 Am I daring greatly? I highly encourage you to pick this up and think about your vulnerability, your view on shame versus guilt, a This book doesn't give you all the answers instead it challenges you to figure them out on your own while providing you with advice and encouragement。 I think this book can be and is a very valuable tool。 I especially enjoyed the sections on shame, relationships, and children/parenting。 This book really got me thinking and analyzing my own life and how I'm living it。 Am I daring greatly? I highly encourage you to pick this up and think about your vulnerability, your view on shame versus guilt, and how you can challenge your 'never enoughs'。 。。。more

Nirali Desai

A book which redefines courage and resilience, Brene Brown takes you in an eye splitting realisation that you are your strongest self when you are vulnerable。 A shame researcher for 20 years, she splendidly backs her data with empirical research and experiences of people who combat shame and emerge courageous。 Being vulnerable is not weakness - that's my biggest takeaway from this book。 To not try and not fail is the worst thing you can do to yourself。 Read this book and watch her TED Talk。 It w A book which redefines courage and resilience, Brene Brown takes you in an eye splitting realisation that you are your strongest self when you are vulnerable。 A shame researcher for 20 years, she splendidly backs her data with empirical research and experiences of people who combat shame and emerge courageous。 Being vulnerable is not weakness - that's my biggest takeaway from this book。 To not try and not fail is the worst thing you can do to yourself。 Read this book and watch her TED Talk。 It will surely move you and make you think about what vulnerability really is。 。。。more

Ryan Glaspell

What a versatile book! Between the social research and anecdotes, there are so many avenues with which to find some inspiration and peace。 At no point did the book read as hokey or faux-inspiring。 Rather, it addressed how to engage with vulnerability in a healthy way that liberates rather than shames。

Liz

My first foray into Brene Brown! I believe I listened to most of it, but I stopped partway through。 The first part of the book was。。。 so incredibly meaningful, could almost be。。。 life-changing? Ideas about taking care of oneself and trusting oneself that are really tuned to our particular modern American context。 I may actually buy it just to have those chapters on hand to return to。 Soooo。。。 given her keen understanding and relevance, it's truly baffling what happens later in the book (the part My first foray into Brene Brown! I believe I listened to most of it, but I stopped partway through。 The first part of the book was。。。 so incredibly meaningful, could almost be。。。 life-changing? Ideas about taking care of oneself and trusting oneself that are really tuned to our particular modern American context。 I may actually buy it just to have those chapters on hand to return to。 Soooo。。。 given her keen understanding and relevance, it's truly baffling what happens later in the book (the part where I stopped)。 So strange, she gets really deeply into discussing her work with corporate clients, and it's clear she is not able to be objective about the different business leaders she has worked with。 Frankly she's dazzled by them。 She really seems to believe that the corporate world is good for workers -- seriously, tech companies and startup culture and all that。 Apparently much of what she was doing at the time was going into corporate settings for workshops and such。 Her thing is to try to get workers to be vulnerable in their workplaces, open up about their personalities, share their feelings as an act of loyalty to their bosses。。。 look, that's just bad politics。 (I mean, I could have stopped the book earlier, when she revealed that she thinks TED talks are good。 Oops!) 。。。more

Krissy

Insightful and full of rich anecdotes。 I don’t usually go for the self help style of book, but BB is so great。 I not only enjoyed this, but actually want to suggest it to other people。 Before reading I’d only listened to one BB podcast, per rec from Lyns。 I’ll have to look up some of her books, podcasts, and videos to dig in further。

Sarah Brousseau

Book 21/75: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown。 A great read on vulnerability and the courage to be vulnerable。 I connected with a lot of the chapters in this book and I absolutely appreciated that she addressed men and women on an equal basis。 There are different struggles in each gender (whatever they may be) and the care to learn from various perspectives was great to read。 On a week that I needed to be most vulne Book 21/75: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown。 A great read on vulnerability and the courage to be vulnerable。 I connected with a lot of the chapters in this book and I absolutely appreciated that she addressed men and women on an equal basis。 There are different struggles in each gender (whatever they may be) and the care to learn from various perspectives was great to read。 On a week that I needed to be most vulnerable without realizing it, this book was read at the right time and became a great comfort in accepting our individuality when it comes to coping mechanisms, needs and values。 It's not easy being vulnerable, and I'm trying to create meaningful connections as best as I can in a positive way。 。。。more

Gowri Narayani S V

Again, a book I'll keep going back to whenever I doubt myself, feel insecure, feel like I'm falling short。 Again, a book I'll keep going back to whenever I doubt myself, feel insecure, feel like I'm falling short。 。。。more

Spencer Christiansen

Good book。 It seemed to be a bit repetitive, though。

Karin

It was really hard for me to get through。。。

Cristina Ermac

Viața noastră e o piesă de teatru, iar noi suntem în ea actori。Într-adevăr, majoritatea din noi poartă și își schimbă măștile în dependență de circumstanțe, astfel încât ori să fie pe placul cuiva, ori cu gândul de a nu crea cuiva un disconfort, ori pur și simplu de a nu eșua。 Ne pare că astfel alegem să ducem o viață mai sigură, cel puțin din punct de vedere emoțional。 Însă, de fapt, nu conștientizăm, că alegem să trăim doar în limita acelor măști, nepermițând vieții să se extindă la întregul s Viața noastră e o piesă de teatru, iar noi suntem în ea actori。Într-adevăr, majoritatea din noi poartă și își schimbă măștile în dependență de circumstanțe, astfel încât ori să fie pe placul cuiva, ori cu gândul de a nu crea cuiva un disconfort, ori pur și simplu de a nu eșua。 Ne pare că astfel alegem să ducem o viață mai sigură, cel puțin din punct de vedere emoțional。 Însă, de fapt, nu conștientizăm, că alegem să trăim doar în limita acelor măști, nepermițând vieții să se extindă la întregul său potențial。 Brene Brown încearcă prin această carte să ne convingă să “îndrăznim cu orice preț”。 Să nu ne mai fie atât de frică de propria vulnerabilitate, și să mai încercăm să mai ieșim cel puțin câteodată în afara acestor măști。 Recunosc că nu am rămas la fel de impresionată de carte precum mulți alții, din simplul motiv că pentru mine nu a fost destul de convingătoare, și nu mi-a generat prea multă motivație pentru careva schimbări în viață。 Deci, de aici și nota。 Probabil e o părere subiectivă, dar e a mea :D 。。。more

Eva

Er zitten zeker goede, mooie en handige concepten en lessen in dit boek, maar voor mij was het net iets te veel pseudowetenschap en van de hak op de tak om er alles uit te halen wat er inzit。

Brittany

Not my cup of tea but not knocking those for whom it is。