A Guardian 2021 Non-fiction Highlight
"I read it in one sitting， and will be pressing into the hands of everyone I know" Christie Watson
"This is a truly beautiful book， shot through with honesty， heartbreak and joy。 I loved it" Adam Kay
"A beautiful， emotional and timely read" Matt Haig
"A beacon of light: full of candour， sorrow， joy， hard-won wisdom， and luminous with love" Nicci Gerrard
As our population ages， more and more of us find ourselves caring for parents and loved ones - some 8。8 million people in the UK。 An invisible army of carers holding families together。

Here， Kate Mosse tells her own personal story of finding herself a carer in middle age: first， helping her heroic mother care for her beloved father through Parkinson's， then supporting her mother in widowhood， and finally as 'an extra pair of hands' for her 90-year-old mother-in-law。

This is a story about the gentle heroism of our carers， about small everyday acts of tenderness， and finding joy in times of crisis。 It's about juggling priorities， mind-numbing repetition， about guilt and powerlessness， about grief， and the solace of nature when we're exhausted or at a loss。 It is also about celebrating older people， about learning to live differently - and think differently about ageing。

But most of all， it's a story about love。