Seek You: A Journey Through American Loneliness

Seek You: A Journey Through American Loneliness

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  • Author:Kristen Radtke
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Summary

From the acclaimed author of Imagine Wanting Only This--a timely and moving meditation on isolation and longing, both as individuals and as a society。

There is a silent epidemic in America: loneliness。 Shameful to talk about and often misunderstood, loneliness is everywhere, from the most major of metropolises to the smallest of towns。

In Seek You, Kristen Radtke's wide-ranging exploration of our inner lives and public selves, Radtke digs into the ways in which we attempt to feel closer to one another, and the distance that remains。 Through the lenses of gender and violence, technology and art, Radtke ushers us through a history of loneliness and longing, and shares what feels impossible to share。

Ranging from the invention of the laugh-track to the rise of Instagram, the bootstrap-pulling cowboy to the brutal experiments of Harry Harlow, Radtke investigates why we engage with each other, and what we risk when we turn away。 With her distinctive, emotionally charged drawings and deeply empathetic prose, Kristen Radtke masterfully shines a light on some of our most vulnerable and sublime moments, and asks how we might keep the spaces between us from splitting entirely。

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Y。S。 Stephen

Seek You by Kristen Radtke breaks down the subject of loneliness in the United States。 The book looks at what causes it and the myriad of ways it manifests itself。 Seek You meditates on the nature of loneliness and how it has evolved over time even through cultural and technological changes。THINGS I LOVE ABOUT THE BOOKThis isn't a book that necessarily proffers solutions to the problem of loneliness。 But it does its job well by looking at how it arises。 The author concludes that loneliness itsel Seek You by Kristen Radtke breaks down the subject of loneliness in the United States。 The book looks at what causes it and the myriad of ways it manifests itself。 Seek You meditates on the nature of loneliness and how it has evolved over time even through cultural and technological changes。THINGS I LOVE ABOUT THE BOOKThis isn't a book that necessarily proffers solutions to the problem of loneliness。 But it does its job well by looking at how it arises。 The author concludes that loneliness itself is an unavoidable phenomenon。 As we age, we naturally lose the people closest to us and that loss does leave a hole, whether we admit it or not。DISLIKESNone。WHO IS IT FOR?Social science is all about understanding ourselves and the world we live in。 This work will be of benefit to those with similar goals。Many thanks to Random House for review copy。 。。。more

Vanessa (V。C。)

How freaking clever is this graphic non-fiction novel? It's essentially a deep dive into loneliness, where it asks itself, why are we lonely, and how does it serve us? Seek You is also an autobiography, a sort of love song to Kristen Radtke's father, to New York City, to CQ calls, to pop culture, to technology, to gender, to belonging, and to herself。 It's stunningly drawn and written, making it impossible to forget and easy to remember。 Seek You is truly a wonderful achievement, full of so much How freaking clever is this graphic non-fiction novel? It's essentially a deep dive into loneliness, where it asks itself, why are we lonely, and how does it serve us? Seek You is also an autobiography, a sort of love song to Kristen Radtke's father, to New York City, to CQ calls, to pop culture, to technology, to gender, to belonging, and to herself。 It's stunningly drawn and written, making it impossible to forget and easy to remember。 Seek You is truly a wonderful achievement, full of so much empathy, understanding, joy, and oh my goodness, it's bursting with heart。 。。。more

Diane Hernandez

Using ham radio, television laugh tracks, and pop culture as examples, Seek You attempts to explain how loneliness became so widespread in our society。“The laugh track of each show was a lesson in what I was supposed to feel and know, and a promise for something I could someday be。 The laugh track functions by coaxing a solitary viewer into a sense that she isn’t, in fact, alone。“Loneliness impacts people deeply。 The lonely are even at a higher risk of dying。 Science has made only tiny steps tow Using ham radio, television laugh tracks, and pop culture as examples, Seek You attempts to explain how loneliness became so widespread in our society。“The laugh track of each show was a lesson in what I was supposed to feel and know, and a promise for something I could someday be。 The laugh track functions by coaxing a solitary viewer into a sense that she isn’t, in fact, alone。“Loneliness impacts people deeply。 The lonely are even at a higher risk of dying。 Science has made only tiny steps toward understanding the biology underlying loneliness。 What makes some people more suceptible? While others, like me, like solitude at least sometimes?Seek You has many more questions than scientific answers。 The questions are important and need to be asked。 However, the book has a distinct and obvious bias against right wing issues, especially guns, and media like Fox。 This will turn off many readers。 There is no scientific evidence to support the opinions presented。 And, let’s face it, the whole book has a depressing feeling。 For this reason, 3 stars。Thanks to Pantheon Books and NetGalley for a copy in exchange for my honest review。 。。。more

Kate Grace

Insightful, informed by personal stories as well as research。 Also beautifully and carefully crafted。 This book expands what nonfiction can look like。 Thank you to Kristen Radtke, Pantheon Books, & Goodreads Giveaways for my copy。

D

An utterly unique exploration of loneliness filled with both studies on the subject and personal reflections。 All of this presented in graphic form。 I found it enlightening, alarming, and sad。 The end had an attempt at wished for hope but not enough to override the previous indictment that as Americans our isolation feeds upon itself and creates a continuum of the same。I received a galley from Pantheon and PRH publishing。 All opinions are mine。

Leigh Ann

This is a gorgeous graphic documentary/memoir full of interesting thoughts and facts。 It examines loneliness through the lens of various concepts such as technology and geography。 I liked the idea that we have selfhood and attachments to others, and loneliness is merely the gaps in between。 The book is accessible and well-organized, and the author is far more empathetic at some points than I can bring myself to be。

Taikyra

I received this book from the good reads giveaway。 It arrived yesterday and I devoured it。 The author expertly weaves facts/studies with her personal experiences to examine loneliness through the ages of America。 This was a thought provoking slightly heart breaking graphic novel that makes you examine your own loneliness。 I would absolutely recommend

Tori

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M Aghazarian

Pretty phenomenal--best nonfiction comic I've read in a while。 Thoughtful, personal, well-constructed Pretty phenomenal--best nonfiction comic I've read in a while。 Thoughtful, personal, well-constructed 。。。more

Kevin

In Radtke's amazing book, she examines loneliness from various angles--from her own personal stories to the psychological studies of monkeys by Harry Harlow, the early reactions of television laugh tracks, her father's CB radio obsession, social media, cuddlers for hire, and much more。 Radtke seamlessly splices interesting and stunning anecdotes about how humans live with solitude, sadness, and worse。 Her art is consistently engaging, with intimate close-ups and haunting long shots。 I'm blown aw In Radtke's amazing book, she examines loneliness from various angles--from her own personal stories to the psychological studies of monkeys by Harry Harlow, the early reactions of television laugh tracks, her father's CB radio obsession, social media, cuddlers for hire, and much more。 Radtke seamlessly splices interesting and stunning anecdotes about how humans live with solitude, sadness, and worse。 Her art is consistently engaging, with intimate close-ups and haunting long shots。 I'm blown away by this generous gift of a book。 It's my favorite read of the year so far。 。。。more

Heather Jennings

Seek You is a non-fictional graphic novel, part memoir, part scientific explanation on the topic of loneliness。 The book is subdivided into sections such as Listen, Watch, Click and Touch and delves into the socialization we all have regarding the topic of loneliness。 Everything is fair game, from radio to neuroscience to sitcoms to animal experimentation to mass shootings to laugh tracks。 While I found the transitional pages between each section to be a bit unnecessarily long in the e-ARC versi Seek You is a non-fictional graphic novel, part memoir, part scientific explanation on the topic of loneliness。 The book is subdivided into sections such as Listen, Watch, Click and Touch and delves into the socialization we all have regarding the topic of loneliness。 Everything is fair game, from radio to neuroscience to sitcoms to animal experimentation to mass shootings to laugh tracks。 While I found the transitional pages between each section to be a bit unnecessarily long in the e-ARC version, I appreciated that the artwork having a great variety in layout and perspective。This text is timely considering the discussions regarding mental health, but the text correctly shows that isolation and loneliness required discussion pre-pandemic too。 I would recommend sections of this text for high school aged-audiences and up, and in placements ranging from libraries to reading lists for psychology and general science courses。Thank you NetGalley and Knopf Doubleday for this ARC in exchange for my unbiased review。 。。。more

Andréa

Note: I accessed a digital review copy of this book through Edelweiss。

Jenny Lawson

Insightful, depressing, inspiring。

mad mags

(Full disclosure: I received a free e-ARC for review through Edelweiss。 Content warning for animal abuse and discussions of mental health。)-- 3。5 stars --I want us to use loneliness - yours, and mine - to find our way back to one another。Social distancing。 Quarantine。 Zoom calls。 Air hugs and masked faces。 Two million, six hundred and sixty thousand dead - and counting! - many buried without a proper funeral。 As we observe the one-year birthday of the coronavirus pandemic, few among us can say t (Full disclosure: I received a free e-ARC for review through Edelweiss。 Content warning for animal abuse and discussions of mental health。)-- 3。5 stars --I want us to use loneliness - yours, and mine - to find our way back to one another。Social distancing。 Quarantine。 Zoom calls。 Air hugs and masked faces。 Two million, six hundred and sixty thousand dead - and counting! - many buried without a proper funeral。 As we observe the one-year birthday of the coronavirus pandemic, few among us can say that we're strangers to loneliness。 Yet, when Radtke began this book waaay back in 2016, America was already in the grip of a loneliness epidemic。 Using her own history with loneliness as a backdrop, Radtke delves into the science, philosophy, and everyday experience of loneliness。 Her discussion is far-reaching and eclectic; she touches upon topics as varied as laugh tracks, attachment theory, romantic comedies, sexual harassment, traffic congestion, the cowboy archetype, Las Vegas, conspiracy theories and paranoia, robots, elder care, mass shootings, banishment, Mad Men, gossiping and storytelling, social engineering, touch therapy and cuddle parties, Casey Kasum, American gun culture, and - of course! - social media。 The section on Princess Diana is especially moving。 Naturally, a survey of isolation and loneliness wouldn't be complete without a look at psychologist Harry Harlow and his infamous studies of maternal attachment, social isolation, and dependency, conducted on rhesus monkeys in the 1950s and '60s。 Second only to the author, Harlow is the MC of SEEK YOU, as Radtke returns to his work time and again, for better or worse (spoiler alert: it's always worse)。 I've got to give props to psychologist and animal activist pattrice jones for eschewing animal research in her own writing, as difficult an exercise as it can be。 Harlow's research might have been seminal, but was also sadistic and depraved, even for the times。 Reading about it made my stomach churn (and my heart grow stabby)。 Thankfully, Radtke doesn't pull any punches, correctly identifying Harlow's studies as torture and quoting contemporaries who believed he went too far - but she also seems to give him a bit of a pass, attributing his heartlessness to his own personal tragedies (his second wife, Margaret Kuenne, died of cancer, and during this time Harlow sought treatment for depression) and ending with "one cannot study love without acknowledging its darkness。" Okay, sure, but does that really justify building rape racks and a pit of despair? Harlow's cruelty aside, SEEK YOU is a thoughtful and aching exploration of loneliness - one that's added yet another worry to my bottomless pile。 If loneliness is correlated with a shortened life span, what does this mean for a forty-something widow like me, who lives alone and has spent most of the past 365 days with two only somewhat social nonhumans for company? Of course, loneliness does not equal being alone; you can be in a room full of partygoers and still feel lonely。 I'm shy, and an introvert, and have social anxiety: humans generally trigger my fight or flight response, I don't know how to talk to most of them, and even when I do, I end up exhausted after a twenty-minute interaction。 In many ways, I'm well-suited for the pandemic; I don't mind being alone, can occupy myself endlessly, and mostly prefer being left to my own devices。 My social anxiety has even improved since I lost my husband, as he's no longer around to shield me from the social interactions I'd rather avoid。 Go figure。 All of which is just a long-winded way of saying that loneliness is in the eye of the beholder。 。。。more