Thanks for Waiting: The Joy (& Weirdness) of Being a Late Bloomer

Thanks for Waiting: The Joy (& Weirdness) of Being a Late Bloomer

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  • Author:Doree Shafrir
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Summary

An honest, witty, and insightful memoir about what happens when your coming-of-age comes later than expected

Thanks for Waiting is the loving, wise, cuttingly funny older sister we all need in book form。”—Tara Schuster, author of Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies

Doree Shafrir spent much of her twenties and thirties feeling out of sync with her peers。 She was an intern at twenty-nine and met her husband on Tinder in her late thirties, after many of her friends had already gotten married, started families, and entered couples’ counseling。 After a long fertility struggle, she became a first-time mom at forty-one, joining Mommy & Me classes where most of the other moms were at least ten years younger。 And while she was one of Gawker’s early hires and one of the first editors at BuzzFeed, she didn’t find professional fulfillment until she co-launched the successful self-care podcast Forever35—at forty。

Now, in her debut memoir, Shafrir explores the enormous pressures we feel, especially as women, to hit particular milestones at certain times and how we can redefine what it means to be a late bloomer。 She writes about everything from dating to infertility, to how friendships evolve as you get older, to why being pregnant at forty-one is unexpectedly freeing—all with the goal of appreciating the lives we’ve lived so far and the lives we still hope to live。

Thanks for Waiting is about how achieving the milestones you thought were so important don’t always happen on the time line you imagined。 In a world of 30 Under 30 lists, this book is a welcome reminder that it’s okay to live life at your own speed。

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Wrapped Up in Books

This is a memoir written by Doree Shafrir, a former journalist, current author and podcaster。 I vaguely knew about Doree from listening to a podcast several years ago that had her husband in it。 He had mentioned her first book, “Start Up”, which I bought but never read。 Well, I’ll read it now, because I love how Doree writes。The book is presented as Doree’s experience being a “late bloomer” in life。 She is amongst the last of her friends and family to hit certain milestones, including getting ma This is a memoir written by Doree Shafrir, a former journalist, current author and podcaster。 I vaguely knew about Doree from listening to a podcast several years ago that had her husband in it。 He had mentioned her first book, “Start Up”, which I bought but never read。 Well, I’ll read it now, because I love how Doree writes。The book is presented as Doree’s experience being a “late bloomer” in life。 She is amongst the last of her friends and family to hit certain milestones, including getting married。 Doree is brave to speak openly about guys she’s dated from work, as people in her wider circle will certainly be able to figure out who she is talking about, but isn’t part of growing up not caring about what others think?So much of her story is relatable。 For instance, this part about a hot guy that she tells herself she doesn’t have a crush on: “And, third, it wasn’t exactly a crush; I mean, I barely knew the guy。 It was more of an appreciation。 I could appreciate Luke’s attractiveness in the same way I could appreciate that Brad Pitt is attractive!” Or when she described her teenager style evolution as “between the phases of looking like I’d walked off the set of a John Hughes movie and onto the set of a Nirvana music video。” And as she turned 40, she was more interested in looking like a funky art teacher。 Same! Also, we are both part of that in-between generation of Gen X and Millennial。 Also, I’m a late bloomer too。 But that was one of the parts of the book that was the least relatable, and it was how the book was presented and marketed- a woman’s memoir of being a little behind the curve when it comes to life。 Reading about a person who has had a successful career at multiple media jobs, obtained advanced education and has lived in expensive and cool cities is hardly relatable to the common person, never mind one who has trouble keeping up with their peers。 But maybe that’s partly me trying to make her even more relatable to me, when clearly she has had a different path than her peers。Though I was disappointed by the examples of being a late bloomer, I enjoyed Doree’s writing and viewpoints。 Aside from adding her first novel further up my reading list, I will definitely be checking out her podcast, Forever35。 4。5 stars I was provided a copy of this book by Netgalley in exchange for my honest review 。。。more

Sacha

Most readers who come to this memoir will have a sense of who Doree Shafrir is because she has been so public and forthcoming about major aspects of her life for several years now, and I think this group will get what they are hoping for: a clear through line in a known voice。 Folks who are new to Shafrir have a lot to look forward to, as well。 While this was a slow start for me (I read Part One in small chunks over a couple of weeks), I read the remainder of the work in one sitting。 Some of the Most readers who come to this memoir will have a sense of who Doree Shafrir is because she has been so public and forthcoming about major aspects of her life for several years now, and I think this group will get what they are hoping for: a clear through line in a known voice。 Folks who are new to Shafrir have a lot to look forward to, as well。 While this was a slow start for me (I read Part One in small chunks over a couple of weeks), I read the remainder of the work in one sitting。 Some of the early chapters include memorable scenes and moments that certainly set up the essential flow of the work: the development of the "late bloomer。" Readers will find cultural touchpoints and rites of passage in these early chapters, and if they - like me - are close in age to Shafrir, these insights may provoke some fun nostalgia。 But what makes Shafrir's life and this work stand out are the events in the second half of the work, including her descriptions of meeting her future partner, going through IVF, and grappling with the details of new motherhood。 As a person who has NEVER seen the appeal of having my own children (quite the opposite over here), even I found the sections on fertility and new motherhood profound。 Folks who have had experiences similar to Shafrir's should come to this piece with self-care in mind。 While many readers - like the podcast listeners Shafrir references - may find these discussions healing, empowering, and uplifting, others may find this content extremely difficult to manage。 What most readers should experience is that Shafrir takes a forthright approach to her truths。 She does not shy away from disappointments or tough realities, even in the face of others' harsh judgements (including, potentially, readers of this work)。 This is a particularly powerful aspect of the memoir overall。 Shafrir's experiences may be relatable to many readers, but what resonated with me most is how she confronts critical moments and milestones in her life and presents them in ways that - assumedly - reflect her realities versus societal expectations。*Special thanks to NetGalley and Ballantine Books for this arc, which I received in exchange for the above honest review。 。。。more

Laura Dvorak

Great concept but repetitive。 I'm not a listener of Forever 35 and I imagine if you are, you'll love this。 I requested an eARC because I related to the idea of being a "late bloomer", as I didn't seriously date until after college。 Shafrir has a lot of insights about her early years, but the book felt too long and without a prior relationship to her work, the book didn't quite land for me。 Thank you NetGalley and the publisher for an eARC in exchange for this review。 Great concept but repetitive。 I'm not a listener of Forever 35 and I imagine if you are, you'll love this。 I requested an eARC because I related to the idea of being a "late bloomer", as I didn't seriously date until after college。 Shafrir has a lot of insights about her early years, but the book felt too long and without a prior relationship to her work, the book didn't quite land for me。 Thank you NetGalley and the publisher for an eARC in exchange for this review。 。。。more

Non

Doree's beautiful memoir, Thanks For Waiting, is a thoughtful, hilarious, and compassionate reflection on belonging, empathy for self, and honoring the parts of our real and valid experiences that often get lost (or intentionally excluded) within the soul-sucking systems of enough-ness, patriarchy, capitalism, and the all-powerful "shoulds。"I'm grateful to be a late bloomer。 And grateful for this book! Doree's beautiful memoir, Thanks For Waiting, is a thoughtful, hilarious, and compassionate reflection on belonging, empathy for self, and honoring the parts of our real and valid experiences that often get lost (or intentionally excluded) within the soul-sucking systems of enough-ness, patriarchy, capitalism, and the all-powerful "shoulds。"I'm grateful to be a late bloomer。 And grateful for this book! 。。。more

Stella

I was an early listener of Forever35 because I've been a fan of Kate for years and Doree, I knew of from her work at Gawker。 I've stopped listening after awhile, for a variety of reasons, but I still follow both women via social media。 Doree reminds me a lot of myself。 Her struggle to "adult" is so familiar to me。 Part of it might be the delayed adulthood that NYC allows, and the other part is just the oddness of being an adult。 Are we all on some timeline that I didn't get? Did I miss that day I was an early listener of Forever35 because I've been a fan of Kate for years and Doree, I knew of from her work at Gawker。 I've stopped listening after awhile, for a variety of reasons, but I still follow both women via social media。 Doree reminds me a lot of myself。 Her struggle to "adult" is so familiar to me。 Part of it might be the delayed adulthood that NYC allows, and the other part is just the oddness of being an adult。 Are we all on some timeline that I didn't get? Did I miss that day at school?The memoir is full of honest looks at relationship, marriage and infertility。 Doree's open about everything, and it's refreshing! It's nice to see someone in my age group doing things on her own terms and timeline。 Thank you to NetGalley and the publishers for the opportunity to read and review。 。。。more

Kristin Boysen

I have been a faithful listener of Forever35 since the beginning and was excited to read this book, but I have to be honest that Doree did not do it justice, it was great! She wove her personal story through the chapters magically。 It was gripping, relatable and a reassurance that we are all "normal" even if we think we are markedly different than other people on the outside。 This book was a breath of radical self-love fresh air, and I just know that I will think of her words often when I am fee I have been a faithful listener of Forever35 since the beginning and was excited to read this book, but I have to be honest that Doree did not do it justice, it was great! She wove her personal story through the chapters magically。 It was gripping, relatable and a reassurance that we are all "normal" even if we think we are markedly different than other people on the outside。 This book was a breath of radical self-love fresh air, and I just know that I will think of her words often when I am feeling down on myself, because we will get where we were meant to be and we will be the people we were meant to be even if the dream we set for ourselves looks different in hindsight。 Will recommend this book to all the women in my life, it is a must read! 。。。more

Erica

As a sometime listener of Forever35 and hearing her pop-up as guests on other podcasts, I was vaguely aware of who Doree was, but this delightful book opened a door into her life。 I related to many of Doree's stories and struggles, from surviving the 2008 financial crisis to figuring out her career as a woman in media, to finally having a family of her own。 As an also self-described "late bloomer" felt I found a kindred spirit! While it took a bit for me to get really get into the book, when it As a sometime listener of Forever35 and hearing her pop-up as guests on other podcasts, I was vaguely aware of who Doree was, but this delightful book opened a door into her life。 I related to many of Doree's stories and struggles, from surviving the 2008 financial crisis to figuring out her career as a woman in media, to finally having a family of her own。 As an also self-described "late bloomer" felt I found a kindred spirit! While it took a bit for me to get really get into the book, when it hit it's stride I didn't want to put it down。 While I received an ARC of Thanks for Waiting from NetGalley for free, this had no bearing on my rating and review。 。。。more

Kayo

Book started slow and I wasn't sure if I was going to keep with it。 SO glad I did。 I loved it。Liked hearing about authors adventures in dating and then marriage and baby。 Loved it。Thanks to author, publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book。 While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it。 Book started slow and I wasn't sure if I was going to keep with it。 SO glad I did。 I loved it。Liked hearing about authors adventures in dating and then marriage and baby。 Loved it。Thanks to author, publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book。 While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it。 。。。more

Ashley Christensen

*Re-uping this review for Publishing Day!****ARC Provided by NetGalley***I admire Doree so much。 I have known of her since she started dating her husband, and have followed her career basically since- I tune in every week to both of her podcasts, and follow her on social media。 So I was planning on buying her book or getting it from the library (or both!), and then, surprise, I got a galley!It's hard to review a galley because you know some things will change。 Overall, the book was wonderful, an *Re-uping this review for Publishing Day!****ARC Provided by NetGalley***I admire Doree so much。 I have known of her since she started dating her husband, and have followed her career basically since- I tune in every week to both of her podcasts, and follow her on social media。 So I was planning on buying her book or getting it from the library (or both!), and then, surprise, I got a galley!It's hard to review a galley because you know some things will change。 Overall, the book was wonderful, and gave me a glimpse of who Doree is to her core, and I also think this will be a great, relatable book to those that feel the way she does: that she is a late bloomer, that she floundered in her career a lot, took her time to get to life's "big events", and that, ultimately, ended up where she should at the time she should have。 I definitely have a few people in mind that I can't wait to recommend this to!However, there were some pacing problems that I'm hoping will be resolved in the final copy。 In some places, I felt like I was being rushed to the finish line, and in others, I found myself wondering how many times I need to re-read about her sister。 I get it, she's younger and had her life together early on, I don't need to be reminded no fewer than 4 times, and I'm hoping this issue gets resolved in the final printing (and because I love Doree so much and this is really the only thing that kept me from a 5 star review, I will be reading this when I get my hands on a final copy)。Overall, as stated above, I did enjoy this book。 I think it will be a great benefit to those that are similar to Doree。 I just wish the pacing had been different in places- but I will be getting the final copy to come back and update this review。 。。。more

Katelyn

I thoroughly enjoyed Shafrir's memoir of being a late bloomer。 She talks about working for various NYC media companies, like Gawker, BuzzFeed and Rolling Stone, which was interesting as I knew nothing about them, but also sound like fairly depressing and stressful places to work。 She discusses years of dating and finally meeting her husband in her late thirties, then experiencing infertility in her 40s。 Most importantly, Shafrir is open and honest。 Highly recommended for anyone who enjoys a good I thoroughly enjoyed Shafrir's memoir of being a late bloomer。 She talks about working for various NYC media companies, like Gawker, BuzzFeed and Rolling Stone, which was interesting as I knew nothing about them, but also sound like fairly depressing and stressful places to work。 She discusses years of dating and finally meeting her husband in her late thirties, then experiencing infertility in her 40s。 Most importantly, Shafrir is open and honest。 Highly recommended for anyone who enjoys a good memoir。 I devoured this book in just two days。 。。。more