Somebody's Daughter

Somebody's Daughter

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  • Author:Ashley C. Ford
  • ISBN:1250804094
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Summary

One of the most prominent voices of her generation debuts with an extraordinarily powerful memoir: the story of a childhood defined by the ever looming absence of her incarcerated father and the path we must take to both honor and overcome our origins。

For as long as she could remember, Ashley has put her father on a pedestal。 Despite having only vague memories of seeing him face-to-face, she believes he's the only person in the entire world who understands her。 She thinks she understands him too。 He's sensitive like her, an artist, and maybe even just as afraid of the dark。 She's certain that one day they'll be reunited again, and she'll finally feel complete。 There are just a few problems: he's in prison, and she doesn't know what he did to end up there。

Through poverty, puberty, and a fraught relationship with her mother, Ashley returns to her image of her father for hope and encouragement。 She doesn't know how to deal with the incessant worries that keep her up at night, or how to handle the changes in her body that draw unwanted attention from men。 In her search for unconditional love, Ashley begins dating a boy her mother hates; when the relationship turns sour, he assaults her。 Still reeling from the rape, which she keeps secret from her family, Ashley finally finds out why her father is in prison。 And that's where the story really begins。

Somebody’s Daughter steps into the world of growing up a poor Black girl, exploring how isolating and complex such a childhood can be。 As Ashley battles her body and her environment, she provides a poignant coming-of-age recollection that speaks to finding the threads between who you are and what you were born into, and the complicated familial love that often binds them。

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Reviews

Jennie Chantal

DNF at 20%Described as a book about her relationship with an incarcerated father but 20% in and it’s about her relationship with her mother。 Nothing wrong with that, I’m just needing a break from reading so many memoirs about mothers。

Trish

just read it today!!

Jaime

There was so much good about this book。 This woman is incredible and her journey is, too。 The book felt choppy and didn’t flow well。 Jumped around a lot。 Left things out or assumed。 And wrapped up abruptly。 I’d recommend this book for the window into another person’s shoes, but wish the memoir flowed a little better。

Courtney Paisley

A thought provoking read。 Really enjoyed this one!

Ruby

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it, click here。 "My emotions moved through me faster than I could name them。 Feeling any of it felt like the beginning of losing control, and losing control felt like certain death in my body, if not my mind。 If I didn't process the feeling, I wouldn't feel it, and if I didn't feel it, it couldn't kill me。""We were a small underfunded school full of poor underserved kids, and even when we fought, we knew we were in it together and that we were all we had。 We fought like family。 We didn't choose to be here, but "My emotions moved through me faster than I could name them。 Feeling any of it felt like the beginning of losing control, and losing control felt like certain death in my body, if not my mind。 If I didn't process the feeling, I wouldn't feel it, and if I didn't feel it, it couldn't kill me。""We were a small underfunded school full of poor underserved kids, and even when we fought, we knew we were in it together and that we were all we had。 We fought like family。 We didn't choose to be here, but now that we were, we were all curious about who we would become。 We wanted to be good, as all children do, but as young Black children learn sooner than others, we don't all get the chance to be seen that way。""I didn't bother to hide my strangest parts from anyone weirder than me。 At that point, hiding was only done out of insecurity, or a contextual sense of propriety。 It's hard to no know you're weird, when you are。 The world will either tell you directly, or isolate you into understanding that something about you rubs others the wrong way。 I believed you could learn to outsmart your personality, but I knew you couldn't hide from people who really saw you, and saw themselves in the part of you that tended to be just a little bit bent to the left。 No matter what you wanted to hide from yourself, you couldn't hide it from the people whose particular brand of bent matched yours。 The effort was moot。 Weird kids always find each other。""My mind was caught somewhere between extreme longing for love and tenderness, and the fear of being mishandled, or misused。 Even as I was drawn to connect with the people around me, I feared them。 Afraid of how much they might come to mean to me, and how terribly I would have to mourn when they inevitably left me behind。""I wondered what they'd had to say or do to find themselves there and how many of those steps they wished they could take back。 I was always wondering about somebody else's regrets。""I was hanging on, surviving by slipping in and out of the lives of those around me, tagging along, getting rides, hanging out, and being around without ever really sticking around。 There was no schedule to survival。""I could plainly see where I was already lagging behind others when it came to material wealth, and how th eimpact of my decisions would be tempered by that fact, but for the first time in my entire life, I didn't feel watched。 My mistakes, however big or small, to the people around me were just。。。mistakes。""IT doesn't take long for children to teach themselves not to want what they've already learned they won't have。 I cou;dn't find a good enough reason to torture myself by acknowledging my futile desires for more stuff。""When there was little left to motivate going through the motions of life, her fear of being judged, embarrased, or told something in irreparably, or fatally, wrong with her body or mind, pushed her forward。""When you don't grow up with a certain kind of affection, even if you know you're worthy of it, it can be hard to accept in adulthood。""I thought about how beautiful living things, cut off from their joy, eventually wither and die。" 。。。more

Amanda

What a gorgeous, startlingly honest memoir。 In her story about what it was like to grow up with her father in prison while living with an abusive mother and cruel stepfather, Ashley Ford does an amazing job depicting more universal themes of how an unstable childhood can result in an anxious adulthood。 The passages about growing up ashamed of her body during puberty as a result of the language authority figures used about sexual assault resonated deeply。 This is also one of the strongest account What a gorgeous, startlingly honest memoir。 In her story about what it was like to grow up with her father in prison while living with an abusive mother and cruel stepfather, Ashley Ford does an amazing job depicting more universal themes of how an unstable childhood can result in an anxious adulthood。 The passages about growing up ashamed of her body during puberty as a result of the language authority figures used about sexual assault resonated deeply。 This is also one of the strongest accounts I've read of what it's like to survive a sexual assault at a formative age。 This was painful to read, but I didn't want to put it down。 。。。more

Liz

I picked it up and couldn't put it down。 The author expressed so many thoughts I've had, and been in situations with the same fears and anxieties, even though our stories are only similar in that we are both female。 Her expressions are deep and meaningful throughout。 She puts the reader in the room and out in her darkest moments with her。 I felt my brain reacting as she would have in each situation。 As the book continues, I felt her emotions and confidence ebb and flow。 She writes in a way that I picked it up and couldn't put it down。 The author expressed so many thoughts I've had, and been in situations with the same fears and anxieties, even though our stories are only similar in that we are both female。 Her expressions are deep and meaningful throughout。 She puts the reader in the room and out in her darkest moments with her。 I felt my brain reacting as she would have in each situation。 As the book continues, I felt her emotions and confidence ebb and flow。 She writes in a way that shows her storytelling growth coinciding with her increased challenges in her relationships。 Speaks about finding comfort in her self and the places she learns to know she is her best。 The final chapters of the book are exquisite as she talks about the newfound connection with each of her parents, and a, not-unexpected, loss at the end left this usually stone-faced reader with a tear-stained face。 。。。more

Ragini

I've been adding more and more memoirs to my tbr this year that I'm very excited to read, but memoirs have never been my favorite genre in the past。 This book might be better suited for people who are particularly fond of memoirs, because although I thought it was quite good, it didn't really blow me away。 I would especially recommend it to people who are navigating complicated relationships with their parents (or especially not to you, I don't know your business) and I do think there's a lot to I've been adding more and more memoirs to my tbr this year that I'm very excited to read, but memoirs have never been my favorite genre in the past。 This book might be better suited for people who are particularly fond of memoirs, because although I thought it was quite good, it didn't really blow me away。 I would especially recommend it to people who are navigating complicated relationships with their parents (or especially not to you, I don't know your business) and I do think there's a lot to like about it, but I didn't absolutely love it。 Contrary to the marketing, this is really more about Ford's relationship with her mother rather than her father and I think the tension between Ford's experiences and her father's crimes are overemphasized in the blurb for how much they are actually focused on in the book。 Still, I definitely recommend this to anyone intrigued by the blurb or for fans of memoirs! Rounding up from a 3。5。 。。。more

Kirsty

Cried while running 10/10, would cry in public listening to this again。Audiobook is worth it for Ashley's wonderful narration。 Cried while running 10/10, would cry in public listening to this again。Audiobook is worth it for Ashley's wonderful narration。 。。。more

Hannah Grace

stop what you're doing and read this masterpiece stop what you're doing and read this masterpiece 。。。more

Carolyn

4。5- deeply moving

Kristina

Ashley Ford's memoir Somebody's Daughter is really moving and she writes in a way I haven't experiences in memoirs before。 She spends a lot of the book focused on her childhood and writes in a stark honest way about growing up in a family where one cannot always count on protection and love。 Complex family dynamics are portrayed and balanced with the absence of Ford's father who is in prison。 At times quite difficult to read because one wishes there was someone to protect her more, but it is gre Ashley Ford's memoir Somebody's Daughter is really moving and she writes in a way I haven't experiences in memoirs before。 She spends a lot of the book focused on her childhood and writes in a stark honest way about growing up in a family where one cannot always count on protection and love。 Complex family dynamics are portrayed and balanced with the absence of Ford's father who is in prison。 At times quite difficult to read because one wishes there was someone to protect her more, but it is great to see her find her way and passion for writing as she grows up and how her relationship with her family evolves over time。 Her relationship with her grandmother was particularly meaningful and she writes about her love for her with such emotion。 。。。more

Morgan Rohbock

4。5⭐It is so easy to get caught up in my own view of the world and see the world through how I have grown up in an upper middle class family in the Ohio suburbs。 Ashley C。 Ford grew up only 2 hours away from my hometown, yet her childhood was so different and this book as important one to gain insight on another person's life and the challenges of growing up in a low income household with an incarcerated parent。Ashley does not hold back in her story。 She is vulnerable and real about the times in 4。5⭐It is so easy to get caught up in my own view of the world and see the world through how I have grown up in an upper middle class family in the Ohio suburbs。 Ashley C。 Ford grew up only 2 hours away from my hometown, yet her childhood was so different and this book as important one to gain insight on another person's life and the challenges of growing up in a low income household with an incarcerated parent。Ashley does not hold back in her story。 She is vulnerable and real about the times in her life where she didn't make great choices and also where the choices of others made her label her middle school self as bad。。。 When really the bad people around her were the people who created that mindset。The audiobook for this was a breeze and I could have listened to Ashley's voice for days。 The only challenge of this book for me was that it took a while to get into it and figure out the direction the book wanted to go。 Some memories did not always lay a cohesive narrative for me。 But it was such a powerful story, that this was a small thing。 I loved how the book ended and the bonus interview made it even more special as the story behind the story! 。。。more

Lauren Milford

What a beautiful, crisply told memoir。 Ashley’s writing is spare and heart wrenching。 I only read a chapter at a time because I wanted to savor it。

Michelle

Its a raw, thoughtful and honest account of a complicated childhood。 Mother daughter relationship (and sometimes the contradiction in terms) is thematic throughout while the need to belong, accepted is the beat and strange counterintuitive faces of love is the syncopation。

Scott Perdue

I loved this book。 It lead me to a lot of self analysis of my own family life。 I can't recommend it enough。 I loved this book。 It lead me to a lot of self analysis of my own family life。 I can't recommend it enough。 。。。more

Catherine

This is a beautiful and moving book。 It took me a little while to really fall under its spell - a little while to sink into the story and move with the rhythms of each word。 It's also a complex story - the place it end is particularly complicated - and I don't yet know how I feel about it, except to say it's the author's story and she is deeply honest about it。Contains one of the best descriptions of dissociation I've ever read。 This is a beautiful and moving book。 It took me a little while to really fall under its spell - a little while to sink into the story and move with the rhythms of each word。 It's also a complex story - the place it end is particularly complicated - and I don't yet know how I feel about it, except to say it's the author's story and she is deeply honest about it。Contains one of the best descriptions of dissociation I've ever read。 。。。more

Rachel Docherty

Another interesting memoir read by the author。 Ashley C Ford made it easy to listen to her memoir with her melodic, soothing voice。 I thought this book would spend more time on her relationship with her father, who spent most of Ashley’s life in jail but it was actually more about her fraught relationship with her mother。 It’s hard to rate a memoir。 I’m always in awe of their honesty。

Vivian

Somebody’s Daughter is a beautifully written memoir that tells the coming of age story of the author, Ashley Ford。 I love it so much because I could see myself in it and experience her journey。 She is so unapologetically honest in describing her joys, upsets and triumphs as she figured out life。 I found myself cheering for her and eagerly anticipating what was to happen next。 I hope this is not her last memoir because I would love to see how her story continues from here。 I would highly recommen Somebody’s Daughter is a beautifully written memoir that tells the coming of age story of the author, Ashley Ford。 I love it so much because I could see myself in it and experience her journey。 She is so unapologetically honest in describing her joys, upsets and triumphs as she figured out life。 I found myself cheering for her and eagerly anticipating what was to happen next。 I hope this is not her last memoir because I would love to see how her story continues from here。 I would highly recommend this book。 。。。more

Terri

Very good。 A little heavy。 Definitely connected - not so much with the details but with the stories she learned to tell herself。 Wrap-up might have been a little rushed, but I imagine it's tough to end a story that's still happening。 Very good。 A little heavy。 Definitely connected - not so much with the details but with the stories she learned to tell herself。 Wrap-up might have been a little rushed, but I imagine it's tough to end a story that's still happening。 。。。more

Adrienne

I could not stop listening to Ashley read her authentic story to me! She articulated so many feelings I had growing up even though I was white, in Canada and outwardly privileged。 I leaned on books and loved libraries as she did growing up。 They gave me such company from loneliness when I couldn’t always find my people。 She described aspects of my relationship with my mom I’m still struggling to reckon with (and I’m a grandmother now)。 She described universal struggles with boys/men in a unique, I could not stop listening to Ashley read her authentic story to me! She articulated so many feelings I had growing up even though I was white, in Canada and outwardly privileged。 I leaned on books and loved libraries as she did growing up。 They gave me such company from loneliness when I couldn’t always find my people。 She described aspects of my relationship with my mom I’m still struggling to reckon with (and I’m a grandmother now)。 She described universal struggles with boys/men in a unique,real way that I haven’t read before。 Bravo Ashley and team on your first book! 。。。more

Melissa

No ratings for memoirs, but I do recommend。I went into this book thinking it was mainly about a girl/woman’s relationship with her father who is incarcerated。 It did discuss the topic, but it painted a much broader portrait of the author’s overall family relationships (especially with her mother)。 I would not recommend skipping the interview with the author because it helped bring more perspective and understanding to the narrative and its importance。

Camille

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Emma B。

An incredible story of complex family relationships and what it means to be somebody’s daughter。 Really moving and incredible writing。 Highly recommend。

Maru Soler

It is really more a 3 1/2 stars closer to 4 !!

Stacy

I’ve been eagerly anticipating this book’s release, as a fan and follower of Ashley’s work。 Ashley writes with a strong, warm voice and draws you into her memoir with her vivid recollections。 She describes a childhood that is filled with both warmth and struggle, exploring the relationships she had with myriad of family members and how they shaped her。 Her insights into what it means to be the daughter of someone who is incarcerated and someone who is emotionally distant are particularly salient I’ve been eagerly anticipating this book’s release, as a fan and follower of Ashley’s work。 Ashley writes with a strong, warm voice and draws you into her memoir with her vivid recollections。 She describes a childhood that is filled with both warmth and struggle, exploring the relationships she had with myriad of family members and how they shaped her。 Her insights into what it means to be the daughter of someone who is incarcerated and someone who is emotionally distant are particularly salient。 Following Ashley’s story from childhood to college to life after college - with periodic trips back to places she’s called home - is like learning your new best friend’s past over a cup of coffee。 The stories are touching, sometimes difficult, and edged with humor。 It’s a lovely read, and I hope the first of more books to come from Ashley。 。。。more

Lauren Simmons

A really lovely memoir that brings us inside Ford’s world with empathy and compassion。

Muslihah

"But when my mother told me my father was getting out of prison, I knew it was time to go home。 I knew now that moving forward required going back。" "But when my mother told me my father was getting out of prison, I knew it was time to go home。 I knew now that moving forward required going back。" 。。。more

Andrew

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it, click here。 Pulled in by the powerful themes (race, growing up with one parent, rape, acceptance, …)。 Left wanting a little more depth but overall solid read。

Michelle | musingsbymichelle

Incredible memoir。 Review to come。