This book presents a theory of heterosexual romantic love。 The book argues that heterosexuality enables romantic love in a way that integrates with all aspects of a man and woman， including masculine power and feminine beauty。 Author Ronald Pisaturo identifies differences between men and women while recognizing the utmost intellectual ability， rationality， and resultant moral virtue possible in equal measure to each sex。 He argues that sexual orientation is the result of volition in the same way that other values pertaining to romantic love are volitional: although we do not directly choose our sexual orientation， as we do not directly choose what personality traits will attract us， we do make more basic choices that cause our sexual orientation。

Pisaturo debunks the mainstream theories that “affirm” non-heterosexual orientations， and argues that objective cognition—in particular， the holding of concepts that clearly identify and emphasize sex-specific romantic values—requires that the concept of marriage refer only to man-woman relationships。

This book offers an objective alternative to the mysticism of religion and the subjectivism of much of modern philosophy， science， and culture。

An overarching theme of the book is that every individual should understand the personal， chosen values that are consistent with his own sexual orientation。 The author offers， in good will， this challenge to all readers: “I can explain my sexual orientation。 Can you explain yours？”