You're Invited: The Art and Science of Cultivating Influence
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- Author：Jon Levy
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Summary
Regardless of what you want to accomplish， from growing your business， creating a great company culture， championing a social cause， or affecting your habits， you can’t do it alone。 The people around you define your success （whatever that means for you） and they have the potential to change the course of your life。
That’s what You’re Invited is about: The most universal strategy for success is creating meaningful connections with those who can impact you， your life， and the things you care about。 But how do you make those connections and build trust quickly？ What do you do if you’re introverted or hate networking？
Behavioral scientist Jon Levy had no money， reputation or status， but was able to convince groups of Nobel Laureates， Olympians， celebrities， Fortune 500 executives， and even an occasional princess to not only give him advice， but cook him dinner， wash his dishes， sweep his floors， and then thank him for the experience。 The goal of his gatherings， much like this book， was not networking， but to build meaningful and lasting relationships。
This private community based around the dinner experience became known as “The Influencers”， named for the member’s success and industry influence。 Since its inception more than a decade ago， The Influencers has grown into the largest private group of its kind worldwide， with a thriving community both in person and through digital experiences。
In You’re Invited， Levy guides readers through the art and science of creating deep and meaningful connections with anyone， regardless of their stature or celebrity， and demonstrates how we develop influence， gain trust， and build community so that we can impact our communities and achieve what’s important to us。
That’s what You’re Invited is about: The most universal strategy for success is creating meaningful connections with those who can impact you， your life， and the things you care about。 But how do you make those connections and build trust quickly？ What do you do if you’re introverted or hate networking？
Behavioral scientist Jon Levy had no money， reputation or status， but was able to convince groups of Nobel Laureates， Olympians， celebrities， Fortune 500 executives， and even an occasional princess to not only give him advice， but cook him dinner， wash his dishes， sweep his floors， and then thank him for the experience。 The goal of his gatherings， much like this book， was not networking， but to build meaningful and lasting relationships。
This private community based around the dinner experience became known as “The Influencers”， named for the member’s success and industry influence。 Since its inception more than a decade ago， The Influencers has grown into the largest private group of its kind worldwide， with a thriving community both in person and through digital experiences。
In You’re Invited， Levy guides readers through the art and science of creating deep and meaningful connections with anyone， regardless of their stature or celebrity， and demonstrates how we develop influence， gain trust， and build community so that we can impact our communities and achieve what’s important to us。
Reviews
Irina Kozyrkov
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I loved this book。 It's an easy read， but that doesn't mean it's without substance。 Quite the contrary - this book is medicine for the loneliness epidemic and it's more urgently needed now than ever。 Many of us have lost close ties with supportive communities and we're far away from our friends。 "You're Invited" helps you *do* something about it。 It's about learning to grow your influence so you can build communities and friendships。I'm a professional behavioral scientist， so I kept an eye out f I loved this book。 It's an easy read， but that doesn't mean it's without substance。 Quite the contrary - this book is medicine for the loneliness epidemic and it's more urgently needed now than ever。 Many of us have lost close ties with supportive communities and we're far away from our friends。 "You're Invited" helps you *do* something about it。 It's about learning to grow your influence so you can build communities and friendships。I'm a professional behavioral scientist， so I kept an eye out for how the research references are handled and I have to say that I'm pleasantly surprised。 Of course， if you're here for a densely academic book， this one is not for you， since there is plenty of anecdotal storytelling。 This book is an easy and informative read for the non-scientist but it doesn't cause any science eye-rolls。 （A tough balance to strike。） The author does a good job balancing engaging stories， applied advice， highlighted core concepts， and supporting research。 It hits all the right notes。 But that's not the best part。The best part is that it really motivates the reader to make a positive change。 Before I read the book， I was wallowing in a pandemic social-life slump。 After the book， I was inspired to go out and build new friendships。 And I took the book's advice， which I can thank for a whole bouquet of fun new friends （digital and in-person）。 As a scientist in this field， I already was aware of much of the science described in the book， but that wasn't enough。 I wasn't motivated。 That's the magical difference here。 The author talks about the importance of using behavioral science for good and lives up to it since the tips in the book create friendships and communities。 Get the book。 Do what it says。 Be happier and more connected to the people around you。 You'll be glad you did。Highly recommended！ 。。。more
Nigel
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This is a useful book。 It's about increasing your influence to help you make friends。 What I like is that it's a lot more useful than Dale Carnegie's 'How to Make Friends and Influence People' which simply tells you that the secret is to be interested in the other person。 This book gives you a much bigger bag of tricks from science that you can use to put people at their ease and create contexts where friendship is more likely to develop。 What I especially appreciated as an introvert is that it' This is a useful book。 It's about increasing your influence to help you make friends。 What I like is that it's a lot more useful than Dale Carnegie's 'How to Make Friends and Influence People' which simply tells you that the secret is to be interested in the other person。 This book gives you a much bigger bag of tricks from science that you can use to put people at their ease and create contexts where friendship is more likely to develop。 What I especially appreciated as an introvert is that it's not just for flamboyant， extroverted people， but it appeals to a broad range of audiences with a broad range of social skills。 Kudos to the author for that。 I liked it a lot， especially the applied stuff。 。。。more
Nicholas Sonnenberg
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Best book of 2021
Jeffrey Madoff
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"You're Invited" is an interesting read for anyone trying to understand the psychology of relationships and influence。 It's not about "networking"， an activity the author does not like， it's about building a sense of community， where the building blocks are honesty， trust， competence and benevolence。 Trust is an essential building block。 What's interesting about the book and the studies that Levy writes about， it that much of the process of building relationships is fascinating and makes perfect "You're Invited" is an interesting read for anyone trying to understand the psychology of relationships and influence。 It's not about "networking"， an activity the author does not like， it's about building a sense of community， where the building blocks are honesty， trust， competence and benevolence。 Trust is an essential building block。 What's interesting about the book and the studies that Levy writes about， it that much of the process of building relationships is fascinating and makes perfect sense， once he uncovers the behaviors behind them。 Lot's of "Aha！" moments。 It is a well written， fascinating read with a generous helping of insights one can apply to their own life。 。。。more
Kelly
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"You're Invited" is way more aligned with my preferred action-fueled style than the academic， pedagogical books on influence by Robert Cialdini。 And definitely agree - human connection is both art and science - and both are deeply and complementarily covered here。 This feels both timeless and timely， with insights you'd find helpful anytime as well as guidance for navigating intimacy and community during the post-pandemic times。 P。S。 Read cover to cover for a fun hidden surprise :） "You're Invited" is way more aligned with my preferred action-fueled style than the academic， pedagogical books on influence by Robert Cialdini。 And definitely agree - human connection is both art and science - and both are deeply and complementarily covered here。 This feels both timeless and timely， with insights you'd find helpful anytime as well as guidance for navigating intimacy and community during the post-pandemic times。 P。S。 Read cover to cover for a fun hidden surprise :） 。。。more
Vic A。
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