An Ordinary Age: Finding Your Way in a World That Expects Exceptional

An Ordinary Age: Finding Your Way in a World That Expects Exceptional

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  • Author:Rainesford Stauffer
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Summary

In conversation with young adults and experts alike, journalist Rainesford Stauffer explores how the incessant pursuit of a “best life” has put extraordinary pressure on young adults today, across their personal and professional lives—and how ordinary, meaningful experiences may instead be the foundation of a fulfilled and contented life。

Young adulthood: the time of our lives when, theoretically, anything can happen, and the pressure is on to make sure everything does。 Social media has long been the scapegoat for a generation of unhappy young people, but perhaps the forces working beneath us—wage stagnation, student debt, perfectionism, and inflated costs of living—have a larger, more detrimental impact on the world we post to our feeds。 

An Ordinary Age puts young adults at the center as Rainesford Stauffer examines our obsessive need to live and post our #bestlife, and the culture that has defined that life on narrow, and often unattainable, terms。 From the now required slate of (often unpaid) internships, to the loneliness epidemic, to the stress of "finding yourself" through school, work, and hobbies—the world is demanding more of young people these days than ever before。 And worse, it’s leaving little room for young people to ask the big questions about who they want to be, and what makes a life feel meaningful。

Perhaps we’re losing sight of the things that fulfill us: strong relationships, real roots in a community, and the ability to question how we want our lives to look and feel, even when that’s different from what we see on the ‘Gram。 Stauffer makes the case that many of our most formative young adult moments are the ordinary ones: finding our people and sticking with them, learning to care for ourselves on our own terms, and figuring out who we are when the other stuff—the GPAs, job titles, the filters—fall away。

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Reviews

Erin Sokol

The average review has everything to do with the extreme niche this book fits best (and me not being the exact target audience)。 It’s well-researched, thoughtful and detailed。I wouldn’t say this books for everyone。 This is the perfect read for someone struggling in young adult, particularly through the pressure of “perfection” with social media, relationships, friendships and internally。 It’s a great gift for someone coming out of college who isn’t sure who they want to be。 Privilege, politics, The average review has everything to do with the extreme niche this book fits best (and me not being the exact target audience)。 It’s well-researched, thoughtful and detailed。I wouldn’t say this books for everyone。 This is the perfect read for someone struggling in young adult, particularly through the pressure of “perfection” with social media, relationships, friendships and internally。 It’s a great gift for someone coming out of college who isn’t sure who they want to be。 Privilege, politics, economics & other prevalent issues are discussed and researched throughout。 I do think depending on your political preference, that may deter or draw you in。 。。。more

Maria

How are you living your best life? An Ordinary Age ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️“If you’re constantly trying to change yourself or better yourself, it leaves little room to actually get to know yourself at all—to recognize that goodness and worthiness don’t find you after you’ve fixed yourself first。”Thank you @harperperennial for a #gifted copy #OliveInfluencer This STELLAR book examines our incessant pursuits of a “best life” and want the ordinary moments in between might have to offer instead。 It thoroughly div How are you living your best life? An Ordinary Age ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️“If you’re constantly trying to change yourself or better yourself, it leaves little room to actually get to know yourself at all—to recognize that goodness and worthiness don’t find you after you’ve fixed yourself first。”Thank you @harperperennial for a #gifted copy #OliveInfluencer This STELLAR book examines our incessant pursuits of a “best life” and want the ordinary moments in between might have to offer instead。 It thoroughly dives deep into issues every young adult faces, providing a unique perspective into each one。 I resonated with each chapter, and I loved that it was written through the lens of the pandemic as well, while including the new struggles a pandemic creates for young people。She focuses on the importance of loving who you are, instead of the best self we share on social media。 I took a lot of comfort in what she wrote about, including about work, self-care, and adult-hood。 I read this book at the perfect time in my own journey of navigating my way through being an adult。 If you’re between the ages of 16 and 40, you should read this。 You’ll definitely relate to parts of it, if not the whole thing。 。。。more

Homeworkhater

Fantastic read

R。J。 Sorrento

An Ordinary Age is a book of essays that centers on emerging and young adulthood and mostly applies to Gen Z, but as a Millennial in my late 30’s I found plenty of this relatable。 The chapters on perfectionism and self-care resonated with me the most。 Rainesford Stauffer examines a variety of topics that impact young adults, and she is very inclusive of race, religion/spirituality, ethnicity, and LGBTQ+ people。 Much of the book is also written through the lens of life during the current pandemic An Ordinary Age is a book of essays that centers on emerging and young adulthood and mostly applies to Gen Z, but as a Millennial in my late 30’s I found plenty of this relatable。 The chapters on perfectionism and self-care resonated with me the most。 Rainesford Stauffer examines a variety of topics that impact young adults, and she is very inclusive of race, religion/spirituality, ethnicity, and LGBTQ+ people。 Much of the book is also written through the lens of life during the current pandemic, and I truly appreciated how she incorporated the impact on young adults。 I highly recommend this book to adults especially Gen Z and Millenials。 In a society that pressures people to hustle, to push themselves to the point of breaking while simultaneously pressuring them also to take time (and spend money) for self-care, Stauffer’s essays are a different take。 Her book focuses on the importance of appreciating the ordinary and loving who we actually are - not the best or “perfect” self we share on social media。Thank you to Harper Perennial for the gifted paperback copy。 This is my honest review。 。。。more

Kayla

I received a free copy of this audiobook in return for an honest review。While some of this content is really well written, unfortunately due to it being centered around the COVID19 pandemic, I worry that this won't have the staying power of similar self help works。 Read it now, while the subject matter is fresh, but know if you read it five years from now you may not have the same connection to the work。 I received a free copy of this audiobook in return for an honest review。While some of this content is really well written, unfortunately due to it being centered around the COVID19 pandemic, I worry that this won't have the staying power of similar self help works。 Read it now, while the subject matter is fresh, but know if you read it five years from now you may not have the same connection to the work。 。。。more

Katie

The layers that make up life right now are complex and difficult, especially for young adults。 The idea that perfection is attainable lives in the forefront of most young people's lives, and easily overtakes every other thought and action。 This is exactly what An Ordinary Age is about: the intersection of how to live day to day while adhering to today's social norms。 I found myself nodding along in agreement through most of this book。 Even though I'm just outside the target demographic for this The layers that make up life right now are complex and difficult, especially for young adults。 The idea that perfection is attainable lives in the forefront of most young people's lives, and easily overtakes every other thought and action。 This is exactly what An Ordinary Age is about: the intersection of how to live day to day while adhering to today's social norms。 I found myself nodding along in agreement through most of this book。 Even though I'm just outside the target demographic for this book, a lot of the ideas in the writing are spot on。 This was a well thought out book and I think it would be of benefit for most young adults today to give it a read。 Thank you to Harper Perennial for the free review copy! 。。。more

Alex

My favorite chapters were on work, perfectionism, and social media。 I enjoyed the fact that the book interviewed real twenty-somethings and made me feel less alone as someone in my mid-twenties who feels a lot of pressure to have everything figured out。 Sometimes it felt like it was speaking to me personally。

Shelby

This book is an antithesis to the ~Girlboss~ manifestos that bombard blogs and Instagram。 It fills a niche in the market and on library shelves for young adults who have skipped or graduated from college and feel aimless, purposeless, and unsupported。 It felt redundant for me but I think for a reader in the thick of job searching, moving to a new city, and feeling social pressure on social media, the redundancy would normalize those feelings for them, resulting in a helpful book。 It would be a g This book is an antithesis to the ~Girlboss~ manifestos that bombard blogs and Instagram。 It fills a niche in the market and on library shelves for young adults who have skipped or graduated from college and feel aimless, purposeless, and unsupported。 It felt redundant for me but I think for a reader in the thick of job searching, moving to a new city, and feeling social pressure on social media, the redundancy would normalize those feelings for them, resulting in a helpful book。 It would be a great read (or gift) for any young/emerging adult who is having a difficult time finding a job, managing relationships, maintaining mental and physical health, dating, and finding purpose in their twenties。 。。。more

Pauline

Got this book from the Goodreads Giveaways and I just wanted to say。。 amazing。 I loved it。 As a recent college graduate and current nursing student, it was truly what I needed to read。 Still my early twenties with a life so far that has turned unexpected- I couldn't put it down。 Every young adult and honestly anyone in their twenties- early or late- needs to read this!! Got this book from the Goodreads Giveaways and I just wanted to say。。 amazing。 I loved it。 As a recent college graduate and current nursing student, it was truly what I needed to read。 Still my early twenties with a life so far that has turned unexpected- I couldn't put it down。 Every young adult and honestly anyone in their twenties- early or late- needs to read this!! 。。。more

Sarah

Thank you to Harper Collins for my review copy - this has been one of the best ones yet!!!! Seriously every 20- late 20s person needs to read this!!!! I feel so much more seen after reading this and happy with where I’m at in life ☺️

J

Rainesford Stauffer is one of the foremost journalists covering issues that matter to young people。 If you are not familiar with her work, I recommend you search for her past articles or follow her on Twitter。 "An Ordinary Age" takes her reporting to another level。 The book serves as a guide for emerging adults (and their parents) to the many systemic issues that impact young people as they try to find their place in the world。 It explores everything from college and work to dating and self-care Rainesford Stauffer is one of the foremost journalists covering issues that matter to young people。 If you are not familiar with her work, I recommend you search for her past articles or follow her on Twitter。 "An Ordinary Age" takes her reporting to another level。 The book serves as a guide for emerging adults (and their parents) to the many systemic issues that impact young people as they try to find their place in the world。 It explores everything from college and work to dating and self-care。 In reading this book, you will find that your struggles are not singular and take comfort in the community of voices that are gathered in the book。 This is the perfect read for anyone trying to navigate the many challenges of early adulthood。 。。。more

Lauryn Smith

Thank you to NetGalley and Harper Perennial and Paperbacks for giving me an eARC of this book in exchange for my honest review!As a current college student trying to navigate all the challenges of emerging adulthood, this book was honestly right up my alley。 It truly echoed so many thoughts and stressors that I am currently facing right now。 I found myself highlighting things on almost every single page just because I could identify with so much of what it was saying。 My favorite chapter was by Thank you to NetGalley and Harper Perennial and Paperbacks for giving me an eARC of this book in exchange for my honest review!As a current college student trying to navigate all the challenges of emerging adulthood, this book was honestly right up my alley。 It truly echoed so many thoughts and stressors that I am currently facing right now。 I found myself highlighting things on almost every single page just because I could identify with so much of what it was saying。 My favorite chapter was by far the college chapter as it really echoed a lot of the things that I am grappling with right now。 I also loved how it talked a lot about the COVID-19 pandemic as it was obviously the first piece of literature that I've read that addressed the subject and it did so in a way that was so relatable。 Where the book falls short for me is in terms of the going forward piece。 I completely understand and love the author's message about trying to normalize this "ordinary age" that we are all living through, but after reading the book I am still having a hard time figuring out exactly what it means。 As much as I felt so validated from reading the story, figuring out exactly what I am going to takeaway and utilize in the future from this book seems tough to figure out right now。 I am struggling to rate this book 3 or 4 stars, but decided to round up as I do appreciate Stauffer's opinion on a lot of the topics that she talked about in the book。 Overall though, I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who is around my age and feels like they need a little direction in understanding who they are。 I am also excited to continue to follow Stauffer as I really enjoy her perspective on life and am interested to learn more。 。。。more