All the Living and the Dead: From Embalmers to Executioners, an Exploration of the People Who Have Made Death Their Life's Work

All the Living and the Dead: From Embalmers to Executioners, an Exploration of the People Who Have Made Death Their Life's Work

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  • Author:Hayley Campbell
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Summary

A deeply compelling exploration of the death industry and the people—morticians, detectives, crime scene cleaners, embalmers, executioners—who work in it and what led them there。

We are surrounded by death。 It is in our news, our nursery rhymes, our true-crime podcasts。 Yet from a young age, we are told that death is something to be feared。 How are we supposed to know what we’re so afraid of, when we are never given the chance to look?

Fueled by a childhood fascination with death, journalist Hayley Campbell searches for answers in the people who make a living by working with the dead。 Along the way, she encounters mass fatality investigators, embalmers, and a former executioner who is responsible for ending sixty-two lives。 She meets gravediggers who have already dug their own graves, visits a cryonics facility in Michigan, goes for late-night Chinese with a homicide detective, and questions a man whose job it is to make crime scenes disappear。

Through Campbell’s incisive and candid interviews with these people who see death every day, she asks: Why would someone choose this kind of life? Does it change you as a person? And are we missing something vital by letting death remain hidden? A dazzling work of cultural criticism, All the Living and the Dead weaves together reportage with memoir, history, and philosophy, to offer readers a fascinating look into the psychology of Western death。

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Amber

Thank you NetGalley and MacMillan Audio for the audio ARC of this book。All the Living and the Dead is a beautifully written introspective narrative about death and the individuals who dedicate their lives and careers to death work。 I was blown away by this book and how emotionally impactful it was。 Some chapters are rather technical narratives about the embalming process, preparing bodies for funerals or viewings, while other chapters focus on midwives who specifically deliver stillbirths and gr Thank you NetGalley and MacMillan Audio for the audio ARC of this book。All the Living and the Dead is a beautifully written introspective narrative about death and the individuals who dedicate their lives and careers to death work。 I was blown away by this book and how emotionally impactful it was。 Some chapters are rather technical narratives about the embalming process, preparing bodies for funerals or viewings, while other chapters focus on midwives who specifically deliver stillbirths and grieve with the mothers。 I had just finished reading Caitlin Doughty's Here for Eternity when I requested this book, and I'm so glad to have discovered Hayley Campbell's All the Living and the Dead directly after。 I absolutely loved Campbell's journalistic storytelling and how the author brings these death workers' stories to life。 Anyone even remotely interested in the death positive movement and/or the death industry should definitely pick this up。 。。。more

Kathy Broyles

Extremely interesting and respectful。 She discusses and interviews people in professions and jobs I never knew existed or thought consciously。

Brenda

Writer and journalist Hayley Campbell grew up in a home unafraid of death。 She describes experiencing the first dead person, trying to comprehend someone who was there yet wasn't。 In All the Living and the Dead she insightfully and respectfully explores the physiology of death and how Westerners view it psychologically。 I have always had a fascination with anatomy and forensics so found this book to be incredibly insightful and informative。 The amount of information I learned is remarkable! In e Writer and journalist Hayley Campbell grew up in a home unafraid of death。 She describes experiencing the first dead person, trying to comprehend someone who was there yet wasn't。 In All the Living and the Dead she insightfully and respectfully explores the physiology of death and how Westerners view it psychologically。 I have always had a fascination with anatomy and forensics so found this book to be incredibly insightful and informative。 The amount of information I learned is remarkable! In each chapter Campbell matter-of-factly yet beautifully describes the role of specific people in a death-related occupation and records her interviews with them and observations。 She makes it clear that we grieve differently and reminds us that no one can tell those affected what they can or cannot do, such as viewing parts of a loved one's body, a dead child or a drowning victim。 Many descriptions are graphic and can be difficult to read (I shed tears) as these are real people, not fictional characters。 How do people work in these jobs and cope with what they see/smell/touch? This side is explored as well。Included in the occupations are some most of us are aware of but take for granted such as funeral directors, executioners and detectives。 But do we really know what is involved behind the scenes such as those who create natural-looking death masks, clean up gory scenes or work with grieving parents on bereavement wards? I had not really thought about the importance of making hospital evidence such as plasters or compression socks disappear。 Do we really know how a body is embalmed, how proteins are snapped or facial parts sewn together? "Seeing the body is a signpost, a mark on the trail of grief。" Though it can be grotesque, until one sees the remains there is always a sliver of hope。 It should be up to the loved one what he or she needs to see/not see。Amongst many, many things I learned includes Anatomage, how space is made in sockets for joints, what happens to donor pieces, how bodies and parts are prepared for optimal use by students, what happens after a disaster (what companies do so you don't have to such as dealing with media, crisis lines, personal effects,), how one can contact a company to have the gore quickly and thoroughly cleaned up, the horror of seeing the aftermath, machines which decide which is the killing button pressed at an execution, the role of an anatomical pathology technologist, working with cold versus warm dead bodies。 bereavement wards, what the last thing to burn is in cremation, cryonics and how a grave is dug。 The emotional burden on people in these crucial occupations is discussed, too。 I like that Campbell is so candid about her feelings and thoughts after she saw what she did。 Those fascinated by the logistics, physiology and emotional aspects of death ought to read this book。 However, it is very graphic and therefore not for everyone。 It may understandably be triggering for some。 My sincere thank you to St。 Martin's Press and NetGalley for the privilege of reading this challenging yet important book about a topic we must all face at some point。 Stellar in every way。 。。。more

Tina

So good!!Thank you to St。 Martin’s Press for my advance review copy!

Teresa

Thank you Netgalley for this audio edition of All the Living and the Dead by Hayley Campbell。If you enjoyed Stiff by Mary Roach, or Smoke Gets in Your Eyes by Caitlin Doughty, you will also love this one。 It's just as informative, enjoyable, and downright entertaining considering the content matter。 Even though death is one of those inevitable things that will happen to all of us someday, it's often tiptoed around, especially in our modern polite society。 Hayley Campbell, through many interviews Thank you Netgalley for this audio edition of All the Living and the Dead by Hayley Campbell。If you enjoyed Stiff by Mary Roach, or Smoke Gets in Your Eyes by Caitlin Doughty, you will also love this one。 It's just as informative, enjoyable, and downright entertaining considering the content matter。 Even though death is one of those inevitable things that will happen to all of us someday, it's often tiptoed around, especially in our modern polite society。 Hayley Campbell, through many interviews and hands on experiences, dive into multiple aspects of death。 From the reverent cultural practices, to the grimy ugly parts of it。 She covers things like tragic accidents and how the government handles them, the death penalty and the people who have to carry the weight of executioner, and body prep after a loved one has passed。 Listen, I made the mistake of listening to this while I was eating, and that was a mistake。 If you get queasy, approach with caution。 But, talk about a well written and vastly covered book that never once gets dry。 Campbell keeps this incredibly human, full of humor, personality, and stark naked (sometimes literally) truths about death and dying。 I learned a ton。 。。。more

Jennifer

How is our relationship to death? Mines not very good even though I’ve assisted in autopsies。 This was a look at death unfiltered。 Just as it is。 Nothing coloring it or explaining it away。 Nothing trying to hide the cold hard facts of it。 The author shares that there is a difference between shock of death and shock of grief。 Making things more difficult and uncomfortable。I learned about: t•tBody snatching and body donation t•tFuneral homes and clinical detachment t•tDeath masks, Mass casualties How is our relationship to death? Mines not very good even though I’ve assisted in autopsies。 This was a look at death unfiltered。 Just as it is。 Nothing coloring it or explaining it away。 Nothing trying to hide the cold hard facts of it。 The author shares that there is a difference between shock of death and shock of grief。 Making things more difficult and uncomfortable。I learned about: t•tBody snatching and body donation t•tFuneral homes and clinical detachment t•tDeath masks, Mass casualties and crime scene cleanerst•tExecutioners , embalming, autopsy and Cryonics I was especially moved about the authors experience with the baby in the bath。 It seems not matter how we try to deal with death it is still hard to see and feel。 It’s like getting shot, it’s unforgettable。 I chose to listen to this book on audio and the author narrated it。 I swear she could narrator professionally and did way above average with her voice。 I highly recommend listening to this and hope you enjoy it as much as I did。 Thanks Macmillan Audio via NetGalley。 。。。more

Dotti Enderle

In western cultures death is hidden。, taboo。 We don't talk about it or acknowledge it until we're forced to face it。 Hayley Campbell's exploration of death workers introduces us to the professions of those who deal with the dead and dying on a regular basis。 Some unthinkable, such as the bereavement midwife。 But it's a topic that I, like many, are opening up to and find fascinating。 Her research was impeccable, delivering us into this mysterious, foreign world。 Perfect for fans of Caitlin Dought In western cultures death is hidden。, taboo。 We don't talk about it or acknowledge it until we're forced to face it。 Hayley Campbell's exploration of death workers introduces us to the professions of those who deal with the dead and dying on a regular basis。 Some unthinkable, such as the bereavement midwife。 But it's a topic that I, like many, are opening up to and find fascinating。 Her research was impeccable, delivering us into this mysterious, foreign world。 Perfect for fans of Caitlin Doughty and Mary Roach。Thank you NetGalley and MacMillan Publishing for the advance copy。 。。。more

Terri

Are you a fan of "Bones", or "Dr。 G"? If so, this is definitely a book you should read。 This is a book about how different professions handle the dead。 From a Mass Fatality Investigator to an Embalmer, this is a fascinating look at Death。 Are you a fan of "Bones", or "Dr。 G"? If so, this is definitely a book you should read。 This is a book about how different professions handle the dead。 From a Mass Fatality Investigator to an Embalmer, this is a fascinating look at Death。 。。。more

Janalyn Prude

“All the living and the dead,“ is a book about different professions that touch death。 Most of the stories were truly intriguing and I found them quite interesting, but I have one problem with this book。 First of all let me to say I have a big pet peeve with people mocking peoples religion。 Everyone who wants to believe they’re a guy even though they’re born female should be respected and we should do the right pronouns but it’s OK to mock people who believe in God。 That totally seems like a dou “All the living and the dead,“ is a book about different professions that touch death。 Most of the stories were truly intriguing and I found them quite interesting, but I have one problem with this book。 First of all let me to say I have a big pet peeve with people mocking peoples religion。 Everyone who wants to believe they’re a guy even though they’re born female should be respected and we should do the right pronouns but it’s OK to mock people who believe in God。 That totally seems like a double standard to me。 We are supposed to respect those who totally look female but want to be referred to is he or they, but believing in God is just going to four and you just can’t play along? Throughout the book she made reference to Christianity in all religions Bing superstitions in fairytales。 When she went to Virginia to meet The executioner for that state after he greeted them so nicely and was so kind to them all she could do is continuously ask the same question and act exacerbated after he gave her 10 different reasons why he wasn’t murdering them。 She made reference to his superstitious beliefs, but had he met them and said he wanted to be referred to as a she she would’ve been all about that。 That really made me angry I’m sure you could tell。 Before this chapter I was totally enjoying the book despite her talk of superstitious beliefs and let me just say I love God I believe in God and if you think it’s superstitious will I feel sorry for you, but having said that I also respect those with other pronouns besides the obvious。 As I was saying after I listen to that chapter she just left a bad taste in my mouth and it almost ruined the rest of the book, but not quite I still love the part about the corner, and especially the last chapter。 I just wish if we’re going to respect some we should respect all。 Because even if God is a superstition me believing he’s real isn’t hurting you at all。 So I don’t know why you feel the need to disrespect my believes that I supposed to respect yours。 That just don’t seem fair。 I The narrator did a great job and I would’ve given her five stars had this been audible but it’s not。 I received this box from net Gally and the The publisher but I am leaving this review voluntarily please forgive any mistakes as I am blind and dictate my review but all opinions are definitely my own。 。。。more

Stephanie Cressman

Fantastic book。 It was written and organized perfectly。 I like that she talked about the history。 What was done before and what is being done now。 All I can rely say is just read it。 If you like any books on medical and history this is a fantastic book to read。

Becca Deverter

Thank you Netgalley and Macmillan Audio for a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review。I finished this yesterday but it took me some time to write this review because I had a lot of feelings。 I’ve been thinking about death a lot lately (I don’t know how else to say that) due to things going on and honestly this book came at a time when I needed it。 I was quite heartbroken by the quote about how the first time we see death shouldn’t be someone we love。 That is so true, but as a society Thank you Netgalley and Macmillan Audio for a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review。I finished this yesterday but it took me some time to write this review because I had a lot of feelings。 I’ve been thinking about death a lot lately (I don’t know how else to say that) due to things going on and honestly this book came at a time when I needed it。 I was quite heartbroken by the quote about how the first time we see death shouldn’t be someone we love。 That is so true, but as a society we don’t talk about death enough, and then when it inevitably happens, we are ill prepared。 This book was incredibly well written and it’s clear that Campbell put so much work into making it。 This book is blunt and talks about the topic we don’t talk about enough, in a way that is beautiful and respectful and so well thought out。 I think this should be required reading。 。。。more

Shelly Stanley

Brilliant!Wonderfully written。 An honest account for those that want answers to the questions few want to say out loud。 Very well written and matter of fact。 There are many people who cannot even discuss death - this book is not for you。 But for those who really do want to know how various services deal with the deceased then it's for you but be warned - there is no sugar-coating here。 Brilliant!Wonderfully written。 An honest account for those that want answers to the questions few want to say out loud。 Very well written and matter of fact。 There are many people who cannot even discuss death - this book is not for you。 But for those who really do want to know how various services deal with the deceased then it's for you but be warned - there is no sugar-coating here。 。。。more

Lizz (Beer, Books and Boos)

I have been dealing with a lot of death within my family in the past couple of years。 This book really helped me understand what everyone did for my family during the death。 This book was excellently written, and it was very easy to follow。 I really can't wait to read more for Hayley Campbell。Thank you Netgalley and St。 Martin's Press for letting give my honest review I have been dealing with a lot of death within my family in the past couple of years。 This book really helped me understand what everyone did for my family during the death。 This book was excellently written, and it was very easy to follow。 I really can't wait to read more for Hayley Campbell。Thank you Netgalley and St。 Martin's Press for letting give my honest review 。。。more

Victoria

All the Living and the Dead by Hayley Campbell is by far the best book I have read on this particular subject: Individuals who work with death for a living。 As someone who has always wanted to work with the dead for a living, this book was incredibly fascinating。 Not only is it well-researched, but I learned something new within each chapter。 I love the formatting of this book as it was easy to read。 Hayley Campbell's writing style is personal, descriptive, and just absolutely wonderful。 I nearl All the Living and the Dead by Hayley Campbell is by far the best book I have read on this particular subject: Individuals who work with death for a living。 As someone who has always wanted to work with the dead for a living, this book was incredibly fascinating。 Not only is it well-researched, but I learned something new within each chapter。 I love the formatting of this book as it was easy to read。 Hayley Campbell's writing style is personal, descriptive, and just absolutely wonderful。 I nearly cried with how beautiful some descriptions were。 She makes you feel comfortable, it feels as if you're listening to a friend or loved one talk about the topic of death, and not just the mundane clinical stuff, there is meaning and feeling in her words。 You can tell she has a passion for writing and the subject of death。I think if you have a fear of death or are generally interested in the subject, you will devour this book and it will give you a more meaningful and in-depth prespective on death。 This book will forever be a favorite and I will be purchasing a finished copy and reccomending it to everyone!Thank you NetGalley for the eARC and Hayley Campbell for this incredible work of art。 Absolutely beautiful! 。。。more

Jody Blanchette

Hayley Campbell not only wrote this book, but she narrated the audiobook。 Having an author read her own book gives it more authenticity and emotion。 Hayley’s voice matched the tone of the book, real, factual and sometimes raw。 If you’re looking for a unfiltered, clinical, sometimes uncomfortable and beautiful approach to all things death related, this the book for you。 Hayley interviewed morticians, doctors, embalmers, grave diggers, detectives, and even a death mask artist。 If it has to do wi Hayley Campbell not only wrote this book, but she narrated the audiobook。 Having an author read her own book gives it more authenticity and emotion。 Hayley’s voice matched the tone of the book, real, factual and sometimes raw。 If you’re looking for a unfiltered, clinical, sometimes uncomfortable and beautiful approach to all things death related, this the book for you。 Hayley interviewed morticians, doctors, embalmers, grave diggers, detectives, and even a death mask artist。 If it has to do with death, she covered it。 Her quest brought her all over the world, but ended within her heart。 The real point of the book was for her to curb her curiosity and look grief right in the eye。 You have to have a good stomach for a lot of the book。 Hayley is very detailed with what she sees in the morgue, and the process of embalming。 But, dealing with dead bodies isn’t a pretty thing so the reader shouldn’t be shocked。 The thing I took away from the book, which surprised me, was the empathy and feeling that most of the people in the industry feel for the dead。 The care that is taken in cleaning and dressing, and the respect for the body is amazing。 You will not walk away from this book disgusted。 It was all very nicely done。 。。。more

Bill

All the Living and the Dead, by journalist Hayley Campbell explores death via a dozen people who work in its often-unwitnessed nooks and crannies: morticians, executioners, crime scene cleaners, embalmers, and others, covering a range from the mundanely familiar (funeral homes) to the more far-flung (cryogenics)。 Though I’d argue its first half is stronger than its second, the collection of essays is well-written throughout and often moving。 It’s also, given its subject matter and the level of d All the Living and the Dead, by journalist Hayley Campbell explores death via a dozen people who work in its often-unwitnessed nooks and crannies: morticians, executioners, crime scene cleaners, embalmers, and others, covering a range from the mundanely familiar (funeral homes) to the more far-flung (cryogenics)。 Though I’d argue its first half is stronger than its second, the collection of essays is well-written throughout and often moving。 It’s also, given its subject matter and the level of detail Campbell goes into in describing elements of that subject, possibly not for everyone。 If detailed descriptions of corpses, crime scene residue, or dead babies, you probably want to think about picking this book up。 If this last sentence already disturbed you, you definitely want to think about it。 But for those for whom the details are not a deal-breaker, I highly recommend it。Campbell begins by offering a bit of personal history on how she has been fascinated with death and immune to its sometimes-gory details since she was a child and her dad, well known comic book artist Eddie Campbell, was working on From Hell, a graphic novel about Jack the Ripper written by Alan Moore。 Emphasis in this case on the graphic, as her dad had no qualms about Hayley (under ten), “standing on tiptoes to study the crime scenes that were pinned to my dad’s drawing board 。 。 。 there they were, the disemboweled women, the flesh torn from their faces and thighs …” When her dad bought a kidney from the local butcher, she sat beside him to draw it as well, “only mine was more honest: it included the gather cloud of flies。” “Captivated” by death, she was also frustrated by the ways she was taught it “was taboo and something to fear,” a frustration that continued on into adulthood。 She “wanted to know whether we are cheating ourselves out of some fundamental human knowledge by … living in this manufactured state of denial … I wanted to shrink the size of death to something I could hold, something I could handle … to the size the something human。” To do Campbell did what came naturally to her as a journalist — set out to do some reportage via interviews and on-site observation。 But she also tells us toward the end of the introduction that “there is a false security in believing that as a journalist you can stand there and report and be the interloper in all situations, unaffected, the detached observer。 I thought I was invulnerable; I was not。” A nice tease to set the reader up from wondering when that shoe would drop。From there it’s onto the separate essays on the jobs noted above, with Campbell often fully immersing herself in the job or at least the environment。 The details are, well, detailed, and so those who find the human body, particularly the human body in stages of decay, in pieces, or (you may want to skip this part) scattered about an area or across a wall, this book again may not be for you。 I should also note that these descriptions do sometimes involve children (it is in fact a baby prepared for autopsy that levels that emotional blow she mentions in the intro)。 None of the details are gratuitous or there for shock value; Campbell is never anything but clear-eyed and measured, nor does she reach for hyperbole or sensationalism。 Such details are simply Campbell’s keen-eyed observation of what she is witness to and given one of the points of the book is to not obscure death’s reality, glossing over the details would defeat at least some of the book’s purpose and premise。 Many of the essays are fascinating (again, not morbidly so) and informative。 If you ever wondered what was actually involved in the actualities, the mechanics, of death-centered actions — embalming, preparing a body for viewing, identifying a body and informing the family, what happens to donated bodies, etc。 — then Campbell mostly has you covered。 The people she interviews are equally interesting and often moving in their desire to “do the good and right thing,” as Campbell puts it。 This includes Mark Oliver, who works for Kenyon, a company that takes over for companies in the aftermath of a disaster (a plane or train crash, a bombed or fired building, etc。) and deals with everything that follows: press releases, scrubbing the website of unfortunate echoes of the disaster, attaching liaison officers to family members, flying them to the disaster site, organizing memorials, collecting, distributing, and storing personal effects, and lots, lots more。 Oliver, even before working at Kenyon, had spent years in crisis areas helping identify bodies (sometimes having to exhume them from mass graves) after war atrocities, the tsunami I Sri Lanka (and elsewhere), plane crashes, and more。 While again, the detail of the work itself are compelling, Campbell often goes beyond, asking larger questions such as “If closure is an unattainable point of reckoning, what does the presence of a body add?”Time and again Campbell finds the personal, the intimate, the moving moment, as with the funeral director who during the AIDs crisis, “while funeral homes across the country were refusing to take the bodies at all … would stay after hours and sneak in the people who had loved them。” Or in the detail that “parents of autopsied babies” refer to the incision as “’a scar’ — implying healing。” Perhaps the only interviewee who resists such humanizing is the cleaner, who posts before and after pictures of murder/suicide sites on his Instagram and who no longer meets much with clients because, as he says, “I’m not sympathetic to the customer any more … They just disgust me … I’m not here to be your friend, I’m not here to be your shrink … I’m your janitor, you know?”The writing is strong throughout, always clear, sometimes lyrical, shifting smoothly between reportage and a more memoiristic style, where Campbell opens up her interior thoughts and feelings, which span a wide spectrum depending on the situation。 She also leavens some of the grimness with some light but respectful humor (she’s not as out and out funny – nor does she appear to be trying to be – as Mary Roach, whose Stiff has some overlap and is also highly recommended)。As is often the case with collections, the strength varies from piece to piece。 I’d say the first half of the book holds the strongest essays。 It wasn’t until we got to the essay on executions that I felt I wanted more details than I was giving and several of the latter essays felt a bit thin。 But really, while noticeable, these were mild quibbles。 Overall, the collection is quite strong and is capped off by an excellent list of resources at the end (I can always tell a good non-fiction work by how much of the notes and bibliography I highlight in addition to the text)。 If you feel you can stomach — physically or emotionally — the precise, vivid descriptions, then All the Living and the Dead is an easy and enthusiastic recommendation。 。。。more

cross

A brave and fascinating book。 I recommend it with every kind of trigger warning you can think of。 Not only a detailed investigation whose daily work is dealing with death and the dead, but a deeply personal account of the author's own discovery and response to what she sees and hears。 A brave and fascinating book。 I recommend it with every kind of trigger warning you can think of。 Not only a detailed investigation whose daily work is dealing with death and the dead, but a deeply personal account of the author's own discovery and response to what she sees and hears。 。。。more

Claire Aka

This is the type of book you can only read one chapter at a time。 It is not meant for the faint of heart。 While I'm sure there are books out there that go incredibly deep into the practices around death and burial, it unnerved me how specific and detailed some aspects of this book really were。 This book is written by a journalist and each chapter features a different interview and/or tour with someone who works with dead bodies。 It covers gravediggers to bereavement nurses。 Overall, I think the This is the type of book you can only read one chapter at a time。 It is not meant for the faint of heart。 While I'm sure there are books out there that go incredibly deep into the practices around death and burial, it unnerved me how specific and detailed some aspects of this book really were。 This book is written by a journalist and each chapter features a different interview and/or tour with someone who works with dead bodies。 It covers gravediggers to bereavement nurses。 Overall, I think the book centered around the idea that there are people in this world who do everything they can to give the proper respect and care due to someone who has passed。 The people she interviewed went the extra mile, even if the only witness was someone who would never tattle if they skipped a step or half-did something。 。。。more

Meow558

All the Living and the Dead by Hayley Campbell is an intriguing read。In this book, Campbell meets with different death workers and interviews them。 Her main goal is to learn how they do these jobs, how they deal with the trauma。 This book fulfills its goal well。 With every person she meets, Campbell asks them how they deal with it。 She meets a wide amount of people, both the expected (like a funeral director) and the unexpected or less thought about (like a midwife)。 Campbell also teaches a litt All the Living and the Dead by Hayley Campbell is an intriguing read。In this book, Campbell meets with different death workers and interviews them。 Her main goal is to learn how they do these jobs, how they deal with the trauma。 This book fulfills its goal well。 With every person she meets, Campbell asks them how they deal with it。 She meets a wide amount of people, both the expected (like a funeral director) and the unexpected or less thought about (like a midwife)。 Campbell also teaches a little about the job, about what they do, often through watching。 I found this the most interesting parts of the book, what each person exactly does。 However, the book does not go as in detail about this as I would have liked。 I wish she had said more about the process of cremating, for example。 Campbell is also very fond of putting her opinions in, such as disbelieving someone's way of dealing with their job。 I wish she had been more unbiased。 I would recommend this book to someone who is curious about how death workers deal with their emotions and someone who is not concerned about a more personal book。Thank you to St。 Martin's Press for this ARC on NetGalley。 。。。more

Kamis Gardner

I received a copy of this book via NetGalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review。I was pleasantly surprised by this book。 I expected it to be about a few people in the death industry and their basic jobs, but it turned out to be so much more。 There were the jobs that usually come to mind when you think of the industry, such as embalmer and funeral director, but then there were jobs I either didn't know about or never would have thought of, such as the death mask maker and bereavem I received a copy of this book via NetGalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review。I was pleasantly surprised by this book。 I expected it to be about a few people in the death industry and their basic jobs, but it turned out to be so much more。 There were the jobs that usually come to mind when you think of the industry, such as embalmer and funeral director, but then there were jobs I either didn't know about or never would have thought of, such as the death mask maker and bereavement midwife。 There is so much more that goes into dying that people don't realize, and so many people that work in that field that you never hear about。 Many of these people never get thanks for their jobs or recognition for what they do, but they are still a vital and important part of the death process。 I was hoping for a chapter about mummification, as I live right by the only modern mummification center outside of Egypt, but it wasn't to be。 I was also quite touched by the author's reaction to part of what she saw。 She went it totally prepared to not have any emotional reaction to one thing, only to be deeply affected by something else。 It just shows that even though we think we are prepared for any inevitability, we're not。It's funny; I actually finished this on the day I drove to Idaho for my uncle's funeral。 While death is sad and impacts us in different ways, I still think it's important to talk about。 We like to pretend that it will never happen, that it's some dirty secret that can't be spoken of。 But death is the most natural thing in the world。 We'll all die someday。 Talking about it helps us come to terms with that fact, and being prepared for it helps us and those we'll leave behind。 。。。more

Mrs J

riveting This a compassionate, intriguing and hugely interesting book。 Full of empathy and a search for answers。 Death is part of us all yet we know so little about it。 There are some real heroes in this book。

Jennifer Prior

All The Living and the Dead, is a nonfiction book that dives into different jobs that deal with the dead。 It was beautifully written, gruesome, and fascinating。I received an ARC and ALC in exchange for an honest review。

Stacy Clayton

This is not the type of book or the subject matter that I would normally choose to read。 This book came to me because of a student of mine。 As I read the pages, I found myself fascinated by the stories retold here。 The stories of death are also stories of life, hope and compassion。 These workers in death are largely unknown, but their stories are worth reading as one considers one’s own journey in this world。 The author does an excellent job of transporting one along with herself on her journey, This is not the type of book or the subject matter that I would normally choose to read。 This book came to me because of a student of mine。 As I read the pages, I found myself fascinated by the stories retold here。 The stories of death are also stories of life, hope and compassion。 These workers in death are largely unknown, but their stories are worth reading as one considers one’s own journey in this world。 The author does an excellent job of transporting one along with herself on her journey, the sights, smells, emotions, and one is led to consider the workers who will care for oneself and one’s loved ones after death。 。。。more

Alicia

Thank you @macmillan。audio and @netgalley for my #arccopy of #allthelivingandthedead ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️/5 Pub date: Aug 16, 2022Don’t judge this book by it’s cover or you will be VERY mislead。 It caught my attention because it is nonfiction。 It is a brutally honest book about what happens after you die (autopsy, funeral prep etc)。 My son, who enjoys listening to true crime with me requested I listen to it without him as it is “so gross”。 She covers not just adults but babies too and I’ll admit that part Thank you @macmillan。audio and @netgalley for my #arccopy of #allthelivingandthedead ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️/5 Pub date: Aug 16, 2022Don’t judge this book by it’s cover or you will be VERY mislead。 It caught my attention because it is nonfiction。 It is a brutally honest book about what happens after you die (autopsy, funeral prep etc)。 My son, who enjoys listening to true crime with me requested I listen to it without him as it is “so gross”。 She covers not just adults but babies too and I’ll admit that part was rough。 I’ve always hoped an autopsy isn’t needed for me and I DO NOT want to be pumped full of chemicals, put on display then buried in a box。 I actually want to donate my body to The Body Farm or Science but the idea of that bothers my husband so… 🤷🏻‍♀️I do recommend this book as I found it VERY informative but I don’t think it will be for many people。 Great research source for authors。 。。。more

Jan

Fascinating! A study in our Western responses to death as well as all of the disciplines who value the cadaver as a tool to help the living and/or determine findings about the untimely dead。 There are a number of books dedicated to the corpse, but this is unique among them as it focuses on our reactions to death and its ancillary businesses as well as how their jobs have impacted those who work with the dead。I requested and received a free e-book copy from St。 Martin's Press via NetGalley。 Thank Fascinating! A study in our Western responses to death as well as all of the disciplines who value the cadaver as a tool to help the living and/or determine findings about the untimely dead。 There are a number of books dedicated to the corpse, but this is unique among them as it focuses on our reactions to death and its ancillary businesses as well as how their jobs have impacted those who work with the dead。I requested and received a free e-book copy from St。 Martin's Press via NetGalley。 Thank you! 。。。more

Lisa Konet

I found this book grotesque at times, but I was also absolutely fascinated。 My favorite part of this book was reading about the embalmers! What a tough job。 I enjoyed learning about what happens to our bodies at each stage of death。 Dying。 Just passed。 12 hours later。 1 month later。 Etc。I also enjoyed learning ab0out the different professions dealing with death。 Campbell does a fantastic job highlighting all of them。 Again, my favorite was the embalmers。 The training and skill it must take to do I found this book grotesque at times, but I was also absolutely fascinated。 My favorite part of this book was reading about the embalmers! What a tough job。 I enjoyed learning about what happens to our bodies at each stage of death。 Dying。 Just passed。 12 hours later。 1 month later。 Etc。I also enjoyed learning ab0out the different professions dealing with death。 Campbell does a fantastic job highlighting all of them。 Again, my favorite was the embalmers。 The training and skill it must take to do that job, wow! Not for the faint of heart。Highly recommended book。 A lot to learn and appreciate to make death less of a scary subject。Thanks to Netgalley, Hayley Campbell and St Martin's Press for an ARC in exchange for an honest review。Available: 8/16/22 。。。more

Madie Lively

YES。 YES。 YES。 Warning: If you have a queasy stomach and don't like reading about dead bodies, body fluids, bodies being taken apart, etc。。。。 DO NOT READ。 If you do, proceed。 As a forensic science student, I loved this book。 Hayley Campbell interviews several people who work in the death field including a former executioner at a prison and an owner of a crime scene clean-up company。 She interviews them with one major question "Why did you choose this career?" and the answers she received surpris YES。 YES。 YES。 Warning: If you have a queasy stomach and don't like reading about dead bodies, body fluids, bodies being taken apart, etc。。。。 DO NOT READ。 If you do, proceed。 As a forensic science student, I loved this book。 Hayley Campbell interviews several people who work in the death field including a former executioner at a prison and an owner of a crime scene clean-up company。 She interviews them with one major question "Why did you choose this career?" and the answers she received surprised me。 I loved this book and I absolutely loved her writing style。 There was never a dull moment and I was completely engrossed。 Thank you NetGalley and St。 Martin's Press for the opportunity for reading this book in exchange for an honest review。 。。。more

Aussie

Wow!!! This is a fascinating, moving, thoughtful and thought-provoking book。 Through a series of interviews with people involved in so many aspects associated with death and the subsequent care of the people who have died and the people they leave behind, @HayleyCampbell provides her readers with an insight into what is often kept "behind closed doors" or "out of sight, out of mind"。 Compelling reading 。。。 highly recommended。 Wow!!! This is a fascinating, moving, thoughtful and thought-provoking book。 Through a series of interviews with people involved in so many aspects associated with death and the subsequent care of the people who have died and the people they leave behind, @HayleyCampbell provides her readers with an insight into what is often kept "behind closed doors" or "out of sight, out of mind"。 Compelling reading 。。。 highly recommended。 。。。more

Dan

My thanks to NetGalley and the publisher St。 Martin's Press for an advance copy of this book on living, dying, what comes after and the people involved。 Living is hard, dying is easy。 Though as a reader of many fiction and nonfiction books I have read about many last moments that I wouldn't consider easy。 However I have never read a book that seems so for these times, a post- pandemic world where sticking heads in the sand like ostriches seems to be de rigueur。 And death no matter how we try to My thanks to NetGalley and the publisher St。 Martin's Press for an advance copy of this book on living, dying, what comes after and the people involved。 Living is hard, dying is easy。 Though as a reader of many fiction and nonfiction books I have read about many last moments that I wouldn't consider easy。 However I have never read a book that seems so for these times, a post- pandemic world where sticking heads in the sand like ostriches seems to be de rigueur。 And death no matter how we try to fight it, exercise and surgically fight it, will come for us all。 So understanding the world of death and what comes of it I think is something that we should start to learn。 I can't think of a better place to start then with writer and journalist Hayley Campbell's All the Living and the Dead: From Embalmers to Executioners, an Exploration of the People Who Have Made Death Their Life's Work。 I can't remember a book that stayed with me so much well after I finished it, nor one I want to recommend to highly。 The book begins with the author ruminating on death, from looking at sketches in her father's, the comic artist Eddie Campbell, of bodies and murder foul, to the death of a good friend at a young age, and being at a loss of what to feel and what was being shown。 From there each chapter focuses on different stages of the corpses we all leave behind after dying, from donating a body to science at the Mayo clinic, to crematoriums and morticians making the body look presentable。 Freezers with frozen heads, to maybe return to life, and an American executioner who is as detached, odd and yet very personable, something that I did not every think I would say。 The profiles are all different even though they focus on people who don't shy away from the inevitable, though they might have different emotional shields to keep their souls strong。 Many of the profiles, stand out in this informative and beautifully written book。 The chapter on the bereavement midwife is the one that got to me most, I couldn't read this chapter without tears and yet this woman does so much, handles so much, and has helped more people than I ever will。 Also the one on the funeral director who at the height of AIDS would let in the partners and loved ones of people who the families wouldn't want to acknowledge to see the person they loved one last time。 The grave digger who dug is mother's grave。 This is a book that tries to make the unfathomable clearer, to take out the sting of death and make it something well not natural or even mundane, but something that just is。 Death, it is sung, don't have no mercy, but many people working to take care of us after death do。 The subject might be grim, but this book really is a celebration of life, what it can be, and what we as a people have done to make it such a taboo, even among families facing end of life care。 When all you see on social media is the worst of humans it is reassuring to know that their are people, who still think that life, and the shell in which it once resided are worthy of respect, care and love。 I can't wait to read more by Ms。 Campbell。 A phenomenal piece of writing。 。。。more

Frida Zeinali

This book —its narrative, its imagery, its people— has left me in a total state of upheaval。 Death is strictly a taboo where I grew up and confronting all that learned ignorance felt liberating。 Hope it becomes a bestseller once it is out in the US because we need more people realistically facing the inevitable end that'll come for all of us one day。 This book —its narrative, its imagery, its people— has left me in a total state of upheaval。 Death is strictly a taboo where I grew up and confronting all that learned ignorance felt liberating。 Hope it becomes a bestseller once it is out in the US because we need more people realistically facing the inevitable end that'll come for all of us one day。 。。。more