The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict
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NEW EDITION， REVISED AND UPDATED
Like Leadership and Self-Deception， The Arbinger Institute's first book， The Anatomy of Peace has become a worldwide phenomenon--not because of a media blitz， movie tie-in， or celebrity endorsement， but because readers have enthusiastically recommended it to colleagues， relatives， and friends。
The Anatomy of Peace asks， What if conflicts at home， conflicts at work， and conflicts in the world stem from the same root cause？ What if we systematically misunderstand that cause？ And what if， as a result， we unwittingly perpetuate the very problems we think we are trying to solve？
Through an intriguing story we learn how and why we contribute to the divisions and problems we blame on others and the surprising way that these problems can be solved。 Yusuf al-Falah， an Arab， and Avi Rozen， a Jew， each lost his father at the hands of the other's ethnic cousins。 The Anatomy of Peace is the story of how they came together， how they help warring parents and children come together， and how we too can find our way out of the struggles that weigh us down。
This second edition includes new sections enabling readers to go deeper into the book's key concepts; access to free digital study and discussion guides; and information about The Reconciliation Project， a highly successful global peace initiative based on concepts in The Anatomy of Peace。
Like Leadership and Self-Deception， The Arbinger Institute's first book， The Anatomy of Peace has become a worldwide phenomenon--not because of a media blitz， movie tie-in， or celebrity endorsement， but because readers have enthusiastically recommended it to colleagues， relatives， and friends。
The Anatomy of Peace asks， What if conflicts at home， conflicts at work， and conflicts in the world stem from the same root cause？ What if we systematically misunderstand that cause？ And what if， as a result， we unwittingly perpetuate the very problems we think we are trying to solve？
Through an intriguing story we learn how and why we contribute to the divisions and problems we blame on others and the surprising way that these problems can be solved。 Yusuf al-Falah， an Arab， and Avi Rozen， a Jew， each lost his father at the hands of the other's ethnic cousins。 The Anatomy of Peace is the story of how they came together， how they help warring parents and children come together， and how we too can find our way out of the struggles that weigh us down。
This second edition includes new sections enabling readers to go deeper into the book's key concepts; access to free digital study and discussion guides; and information about The Reconciliation Project， a highly successful global peace initiative based on concepts in The Anatomy of Peace。
Reviews
Jason
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I loved this book， probably because it was what I needed。 I noticed I tend to spend a lot more time in the “fix the things that aren’t working” mindset rather than the “help things to keep going right” mindset。 The pyramid of change described in the book was a powerful concept that rang true for me。
Kira Thompson
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While it did have some repetitive moments and Avi and Yusuf were often unneccessarily cryptic in their teaching style， there's lots of really good lessons in here， provoking critical reflection for me。 I'm recommending this to everyone I know who is in any sort of leadership position。 While it did have some repetitive moments and Avi and Yusuf were often unneccessarily cryptic in their teaching style， there's lots of really good lessons in here， provoking critical reflection for me。 I'm recommending this to everyone I know who is in any sort of leadership position。 。。。more
Mahendra
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Wonderful read！Story took some time to attached。 But I got glued after first half。 Author did interesting analysis and make logical points on keeping heart at peace and simplifying complex conflicts among family， work， nations， communities by this process。 Must read for education person who wants to learn on making peace in life。 Reading is good and easy but applying the learning is not that easy。 One should keep ego and greed away to fight temptation and bring peace in life。
Nicole Carey
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I loved this book so much！ While I read it for my course work in mediation， I thoroughly enjoyed all of it。 Anytime there are powerful lessons built into fables， I'm in。 The characters were real and flawed， the storylines were difficult and human， and the lessons were great。 I will take what I've learned about a heart at peace with me for a very long time！ I loved this book so much！ While I read it for my course work in mediation， I thoroughly enjoyed all of it。 Anytime there are powerful lessons built into fables， I'm in。 The characters were real and flawed， the storylines were difficult and human， and the lessons were great。 I will take what I've learned about a heart at peace with me for a very long time！ 。。。more
Rhett
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Oh man， I HATED the main character in this book at the start。 But it ended up being kinda like a Scrooge story。 It also teaches vital lessons on our dealings with those around us and how we should have our hearts at peace rather than at war。 We need to view people as people and not as objects。 8。5/10
Jennifer Zink
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3。5 stars。 I thought the concepts in this book were excellent， but the writing style made it difficult to read。 I prefer a variety of real-world examples to illustrate concepts， but this book weaves every concept into one long fictional story。 I grew impatient with the characters about halfway through， they didn't feel "real" and that made me want to rush through to get to the main points。 That being said， there are some concepts of value in this book that made it worth getting through。 3。5 stars。 I thought the concepts in this book were excellent， but the writing style made it difficult to read。 I prefer a variety of real-world examples to illustrate concepts， but this book weaves every concept into one long fictional story。 I grew impatient with the characters about halfway through， they didn't feel "real" and that made me want to rush through to get to the main points。 That being said， there are some concepts of value in this book that made it worth getting through。 。。。more
David Foster
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I was really skeptical of this book when I saw it in the bookstores but it was free from Audible so I gave it a shot。 While it took some time to get into thanks to the parable structure， I was hooked by the end and found it dropped some helpful nuggets of wisdom。
Elizabeth Katheryn Sweet
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Great content but very repetitive
Justine
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This book really made me think but I found the long stories， analogies and experiences quite long winded， wordy and a little bit boring to read which unfortunately meant I zoned out a little。 I really tried to listen to the personal experiences and take interest in them but I found them too complex and complicated。 However， the ideas and strategies in this book were excellent and it’s definitely introduced me to a new way of thinking。
J。 Alston
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This year I wanted to read one self help book a month， and I'm glad I'm ending the year with this one。 I was truly blown away by this。 I don't want to be hyperbolic but I loved this， and plan to start utilizing the guidance given in this immediately。 I want to give a copy to all my friends and family。 You could argue that the teachings explained in this are common sense but the examples given are really profound and are a great way to drill home the message here。 Just， wow。 This year I wanted to read one self help book a month， and I'm glad I'm ending the year with this one。 I was truly blown away by this。 I don't want to be hyperbolic but I loved this， and plan to start utilizing the guidance given in this immediately。 I want to give a copy to all my friends and family。 You could argue that the teachings explained in this are common sense but the examples given are really profound and are a great way to drill home the message here。 Just， wow。 。。。more
Alisa Perez
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There was a lot of good advice and then other things I didn't really vibe with。 There were some parts where different people in the group brought up really valid points that weren't answered very well， at least not satisfyingly for me。 There was a lot of good advice and then other things I didn't really vibe with。 There were some parts where different people in the group brought up really valid points that weren't answered very well， at least not satisfyingly for me。 。。。more
Nellie Neves
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This book absolutely changed my life as a parent and a wife。 I read it as part of the curriculum for my Parenting 220 class， but wow I really needed it。 At the beginning of the semester， I was at odds iwth my daughter and we seemed to always be in an argument。 As we worked through the class curriculum， I saw huge changes in ME。 Not her。 Me。 Because， plot twist， I was causing most of the problems with out realizing it。 That was tought to swallow but recognizing when I was "in the box" and seeing This book absolutely changed my life as a parent and a wife。 I read it as part of the curriculum for my Parenting 220 class， but wow I really needed it。 At the beginning of the semester， I was at odds iwth my daughter and we seemed to always be in an argument。 As we worked through the class curriculum， I saw huge changes in ME。 Not her。 Me。 Because， plot twist， I was causing most of the problems with out realizing it。 That was tought to swallow but recognizing when I was "in the box" and seeing how to "make room for her" were both tools that changed us both。 Now as I"m treating her with more respect and not seeing her an an object or an obstacle（I didn't realize I was and felt sick when I realized it）but instead as a person with her own hopes and dreams that were independent from mine， our whole relationship changed。 I love what this book can do。 I just ordered it in hardback because I want to have it forever。 。。。more
Sayuri Murrain Carlbom
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The substance is fantastic， the delivery is abominable。 The best thing to come from this is that anyone can grasp the meaning， and hopefully those that need to hear the message will。
Joachim Weyl
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My new favorite book。 The story approach is so much easier me to absorb than plain explanation based books。 I would recommend this book to anybody who wants to have better relationships with those around them and that includes themselves。 I will be rereading this every year from now on。
Jerod Starkey
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This is one of those books that's a challenge to read because it stings。 In a narrative style， the book takes you through recognizing the kind of mentalities that are peace stoppers。 Great for understanding yourself and how to work through family situations and also work relationships。 This is one of those books that's a challenge to read because it stings。 In a narrative style， the book takes you through recognizing the kind of mentalities that are peace stoppers。 Great for understanding yourself and how to work through family situations and also work relationships。 。。。more
Mariah Goode
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Good book about conflict resolution。 Hopefully some of it will stick in my brain so I can actually use it; this is the sort of stuff I never seem to retain when I read it。。。
Ogden
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I read this before several years ago and it was very nice to refresh myself on its principles。 It helps me to reorient and ground myself。 I look forward to adopting its principles， or at least trying。
Megahn Schafer
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Clear， practical concepts tied into a story that reads easily。
Robert
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Fantastic。 Concise， relevant， focuses on principles before behaviors。Similar to Bonds That Make Us Free: Healing Our Relationships， Coming to Ourselves， but different emphasis on groups。Hearts at peace， hearts at war。 Brilliant。Seeing others as people or as objects。 Inviting others to change through changing our own heart and no longer colluding。 Change of heart can come from self-examination and sincerely asking "what if I'm wrong"？ or "what am I wrong about？" Fantastic。 Concise， relevant， focuses on principles before behaviors。Similar to Bonds That Make Us Free: Healing Our Relationships， Coming to Ourselves， but different emphasis on groups。Hearts at peace， hearts at war。 Brilliant。Seeing others as people or as objects。 Inviting others to change through changing our own heart and no longer colluding。 Change of heart can come from self-examination and sincerely asking "what if I'm wrong"？ or "what am I wrong about？" 。。。more
Sally
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"Issues" first: this book was written in the form of a group meeting each other and having conversations that were guided by the principles of this relationship-improving approach。 So there were some annoying phrases in the stilted attempt to make this seems 'real'—people "bust into" smiles or "smirk" while others are sinking deep into personal examination then suddenly "blurting out" their thoughts。However， this cheesy simulation did serve to present the principles in an understandable way。 How "Issues" first: this book was written in the form of a group meeting each other and having conversations that were guided by the principles of this relationship-improving approach。 So there were some annoying phrases in the stilted attempt to make this seems 'real'—people "bust into" smiles or "smirk" while others are sinking deep into personal examination then suddenly "blurting out" their thoughts。However， this cheesy simulation did serve to present the principles in an understandable way。 How am I regarding others， as objects or individuals like myself？ Do I have a need to be seen as better than or worse than others， a need to be seen a certain way or to get what I want？ Once one has considered these things， the idea is to figure out how to step out of that pattern of thinking and behavior and really care about the other person， working to have a heart at peace that isn't controlled by one's own desires and feelings。 Having some difficult relationships in my own life， I am sure that I'll be pondering these ideas in the future！ 。。。more
Caitlin Ball
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A perceptive story crafted with care， using gentle logic and reasoning to move the heart in order to sway the mind。 Many would benefit from the lessons it has to offer。 Much about it reminds me of a quote from Mahatma Gandhi who said， “In a gentle way you can shake the world。” This book， I believe， might very well be a manual as to how。
Haseeb Saeed
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Love this book。 I recommend this book for professional as well as personal life。
Becky
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There's a lot in this book that I like and that makes sense。 I think if more people took to heart the principles taught in the book， relationships could improve。 Unfortunately， I think the book lacks practical application--how to actually apply the principles。 And the fact that it's written by an "institute" and with fake scenarios and dialogue bugs me！ There's a lot in this book that I like and that makes sense。 I think if more people took to heart the principles taught in the book， relationships could improve。 Unfortunately， I think the book lacks practical application--how to actually apply the principles。 And the fact that it's written by an "institute" and with fake scenarios and dialogue bugs me！ 。。。more
Camille
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This is a very insightful book that makes you look at things from a different angle。
Linda Gatlin
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I loved the interaction between each of the characters and the two instructors。 The book took me sometime to get through because it made me stop a think about my own ideas and behaviors。 It was extremely helpful and a read I would recommend to anyone， especially parents and anyone who is or wants to be in a leadership role。
Millie
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We all need to learn this。
Noelle Singleton
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The words of this book are golden- filled to the brim with answers to any question one could conjure about how to deal with humans。 If you have ever been at war internally with yourself or with another， READ THIS BOOK- you will find that the peace this book encourages your heart to find is the real gold to be discovered。
Simone
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Very eye opening book！ Amazing concept， that will explain a lot why we act the way we do。
Derek Kreider
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One of the main reasons I loved this book is for the exact reason many who rated it low hated it。 I thought the style of the book being a dialogue was fantastic。 It's so much more comprehensible and it sticks longer when there is context to the information。 Granted， there are some moments where the conversation flows a little too conveniently to be realistic， but I mean， come on。 We read and watch all kinds of unrealistic fiction， and the point of the book is to convey information through a stor One of the main reasons I loved this book is for the exact reason many who rated it low hated it。 I thought the style of the book being a dialogue was fantastic。 It's so much more comprehensible and it sticks longer when there is context to the information。 Granted， there are some moments where the conversation flows a little too conveniently to be realistic， but I mean， come on。 We read and watch all kinds of unrealistic fiction， and the point of the book is to convey information through a story。 I think any detraction against the book because of its easy flowing dialogue completely misses the point and fails to acknowledge how most people learn best。 I also loved this book because it makes so much sense。 While the principles aren't explicitly religious， you could take the vast majority of what is said here and see Jesus， the Sermon on the Mount， and all the teaching about not objectifying in the Bible。 It's such an insightful book and corresponds well with the reality of hostility and violence in relationship。 。。。more
Brenna
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