Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage

Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage

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  • Create Date:2021-12-27 05:19:10
  • Update Date:2025-09-06
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  • Author:Heather Havrilesky
  • ISBN:0062984462
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Summary

An illuminating, poignant, and savagely funny examination of modern marriage from Ask Polly advice columnist Heather Havrilesky

If falling in love is the peak of human experience, then marriage is the slow descent down that mountain, on a trail built from conflict, compromise, and nagging doubts。 Considering the limited economic advantages to marriage, the deluge of other mate options a swipe away, and the fact that almost half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce anyway, why do so many of us still chain ourselves to one human being for life?

In Foreverland, Heather Havrilesky illustrates the delights, aggravations, and sublime calamities of her marriage over the span of fifteen years, charting an unpredictable course from meeting her one true love to slowly learning just how much energy is required to keep that love aflame。 This refreshingly honest portrait of a marriage reveals that our relationships are not simply "happy" or "unhappy," but something much murkier--at once unsavory, taxing, and deeply satisfying。 With tales of fumbled proposals, harrowing suburban migrations, external temptations, and the bewildering insults of growing older, Foreverland is a work of rare candor and insight。 Havrilesky traces a path from daydreaming about forever for the first time to understanding what a tedious, glorious drag forever can be。

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MookNana

Unfortunately, this did not land for me。 That's not to say that it's not competently written or that it has no insight to offer。 Long-married myself, some of the points the author made definitely resonated。 The problem, for me, was that the author was personally quite off-putting, and therefore I had limited interest in hearing about her life。 I couldn't get over the whining, the lack of consideration for others' feelings (her proposal-related rants and demands were。。。rough), the blithe privileg Unfortunately, this did not land for me。 That's not to say that it's not competently written or that it has no insight to offer。 Long-married myself, some of the points the author made definitely resonated。 The problem, for me, was that the author was personally quite off-putting, and therefore I had limited interest in hearing about her life。 I couldn't get over the whining, the lack of consideration for others' feelings (her proposal-related rants and demands were。。。rough), the blithe privilege, the snobbery, and the muuuuuuch hipper-than-thou disdain for *shudder* suburbia。 Others might feel differently, so I wouldn't discourage anyone from trying it out if they're interested, but, personally, it's a miss。Thanks to the publisher and NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review。 。。。more

Mary G。

Pub date: 2/8/22Genre: memoir, family/marriageIn one sentence: Ask Polly advice columnist Heather Havrilesky illustrates the delights, aggravations, and sublime calamities of her marriage over the span of fifteen years。I got married 18 months ago, and I'm always looking for advice and stories from those who have been married for much longer than I have。 Havrilesky does a great job showing the ups and downs of marriage - the myriad benefits you get from such a deep commitment, but also the wonder Pub date: 2/8/22Genre: memoir, family/marriageIn one sentence: Ask Polly advice columnist Heather Havrilesky illustrates the delights, aggravations, and sublime calamities of her marriage over the span of fifteen years。I got married 18 months ago, and I'm always looking for advice and stories from those who have been married for much longer than I have。 Havrilesky does a great job showing the ups and downs of marriage - the myriad benefits you get from such a deep commitment, but also the wondering about why you've linked yourself to a person who can be so annoying sometimes。 I loved her balance of lighthearted and deep content, and she showed me that the little bumps are just part of the ride。 I think it's perfect that this book will be released the week before Valentine's Day because it shows all the complexities and wonder of committed relationships。Thank you to Ecco for providing an ARC in exchange for an honest review。Review posted to Goodreads 12/19/21, to be posted to Instagram closer to pub date。 。。。more

Miranda Vaughters

Heather Havrilesky has single-handedly captured the entire spectrum of emotions that come with being married。 This book is a harshly insightful, and hilariously honest look in the mirror over the life of a “successful” marriage。MV rating: 9/10 should be required course reading to receive a marriage license。- Brutally honest, and thoroughly entertaining view of a real life relationship, warts and all。 - I highlighted something on almost every single page。 Each story HIT。 Especially the COVID-19 s Heather Havrilesky has single-handedly captured the entire spectrum of emotions that come with being married。 This book is a harshly insightful, and hilariously honest look in the mirror over the life of a “successful” marriage。MV rating: 9/10 should be required course reading to receive a marriage license。- Brutally honest, and thoroughly entertaining view of a real life relationship, warts and all。 - I highlighted something on almost every single page。 Each story HIT。 Especially the COVID-19 story。 Any home bound spouses with only one dog out there? I see you and feel you。-Being married is a plague upon your house might be my favorite new way to describe it。- We are all changing, growing and exploring。 When we accept that, we are on the way to a more peaceful way of life。Big thanks to Netgalley and Harper Collins for the advanced copy! Available in 2022 。。。more

Ruth

I've gotten so much sustenance and inspiration from Heather Havrilesky's Ask Polly columns for years。 In this book, she addresses the institution of marriage and long-term commitment, specifically her own。 There is so much goodness and awareness within these pages。 I highly recommend this to all who seek a healthy, constructive and ongoing relationship with a partner。 I've gotten so much sustenance and inspiration from Heather Havrilesky's Ask Polly columns for years。 In this book, she addresses the institution of marriage and long-term commitment, specifically her own。 There is so much goodness and awareness within these pages。 I highly recommend this to all who seek a healthy, constructive and ongoing relationship with a partner。 。。。more